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BAEDDELS, TRANSMISANDRISTS, TRANSMISOGYNISTS, EXORSEXISTS FUCK OFF MY BLOG

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Image Description: The "I bring a sort of X vibe to X that X don't really like" edited to say "I bring a sort of all these rules are made up vibe to sexuality and gender that exclusionists don't really like"

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ur one of two transmascs i follow named andrea & it’s very gender. definitely one of my favorite names

Thank you! It's quite literally a gender name since it means man, lol.

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i make a lot of posts to the tune of "you're allowed to be horny btw" because it's becoming increasingly clear that adults being sexual in (clearly marked and blockable!) spaces is being stamped out and made out to be evil both legislatively and in the moral zeitgeist, especially among younger folks. not even in the "wait to be a horny adult online when you're An Adult" way, just an ingrained puritanical outrage response to *anything* that isn't chaste wholesome perfect all-ages allowed. it's unnerving and scary.

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psst i dont wanna be rude but did you mean to rb the erikar post to this blog? ^^;

Lol no, but you can have it for free

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It always shocks me when I bring up trans men’s issues - specially issues common in the south/more conservative/rural areas - to someone who makes their whole thing being a ‘trans advocate’ and they just don’t know what I’m talking about .

I mentioned how common it is - especially in more conservative Christian places - for trans men to be set up with a husband by their family and then be forcibly impregnated as a way to make them detransition to someone who runs a whole blog about ‘spreading awareness about trans issues’ and she looked at me like I was crazy and said “woah I never knew that happened to trans men.”

She knew about and understood that that stuff happens to cis women, but she never thought it happened to trans men… like come on.

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Came back after a year or so, and I'm baffled to see people still arguing about the word transandrophobia and if it's valid or not. It is, quite literally, just a term to archive things under. Almost nothing more than a Tumblr tag.

Is it chronically online? Yes, because the real community is out there and "Tumblr activism" is nothing. Is it also the only way for some of us to have a place to share specific struggles with other trans men and transmascs? Also yes. I thought we all agreed being queer in small towns is hell.

Everybody calm the fuck down, it's not a hate movement, it's not saying x or y or z, it's not "a responde to the word transmisogyny", it's not attacking anyone. It's literally just a Tumblr tag. Seriously get a grip.

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people keep going on about the good old days when trans people were treated normally on the basis of some newspaper headline like "barman becomes barwoman" or something and i need y'all to remember that was class privilege in action. trans healthcare used to be the kind of incredibly niche thing only a few people could access. the pushback we're facing now is in no small part because being trans started to become accessible to more people, the kind of people who would have had to stay in the closet their whole lives a few decades ago. The kind of people who would've been killed for being openly trans a few decades ago. As horrifying as things are right now, this is part of making progress.

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The media saying Nex died from a “fight,” rather than an attack, and the school saying they died from “underlying health conditions,” is just proof that we can get murdered and then blamed for dying.

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old sparkledogs and cat ocs in the files of old computers. wings extended forever in flight, tears frozen on their face from an event in a backstory long forgotten

the drawings made of others characters, in folders on a forgotten friend's computer, forever visiting, immortalized in drawings of silly inside jokes and gift-giving between amateurly-drawn colorful animals

a colorful cast, lined up in a row in a half-finished microsoft paint bitmap–smiling faces filled only most-of-the-way with the fill bucket tool. the comic text says "happy birthday!!!" the drawing was never finished, the gift was never sent. its they've been their birthday for 13 years in their eyes and they've never stopped smiling

colors paint-bucket-filled into downloaded free bases–folders of which still sit unused, waiting to spark new ideas, in a long-forgotten folder. most of them the well-known default colors until their artist realized how to use the custom color button

forever in a looping animation, only a third of the way finished–the artist wanted to animate like they saw online, those four frames probably took them weeks of frustration before the project was dropped–but their character is still running, for the rest of time, at 3 frames per second

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"No guys I swear this time it's reasonable to deny language to marginalized people! It's not at all like those other times when we excluded and downplayed the oppression of a certain group of people! This time it's definitely justified to tell people their oppression isn't real! And that they need to shut up and listen to the real oppressed people. We are definitely in the right on this one."

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I would like to bring this post back in the light of the murder of Nex Benedict. In the hope that maybe it will move something in people.

“forcing people to use the restroom of the sex they were assigned at birth is stupid because it’s going to force trans men into women’s restrooms where they’ll make cis women feel unsafe because they look like men” fucking shut up.

i don’t care. i don’t care about cis women feeling uncomfortable with trans men in “women’s spaces.” i could not care less about cis women’s feelings on the matter.

i care about the transmascs at risk of abuse and assault because of being forced into women’s restrooms. i care about the transmascs and butches and intersex people being put in danger because of these bills. i care about the fact that people who supposedly care about me and my transmasc and butch and intersex siblings are glossing over that cis women are just as capable of violence as anyone else, that we can, and have been, and will be assaulted by them because we’re “stepping out of line.”

i don’t want to hear about us being “safer.” i don’t want to hear about the poor cis women’s feelings, and i especially don’t want to hear it from other transmascs.

you don’t know what you’re talking about. do us both a favor and shut. up.

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(1/2) I want to say fwiw - I'm 28, came out as a teenager, never had a transmed phase. But there was also just… low awareness of trans issues in my online spaces in like, 2009. My starting point for many things/first person I ever talked about maybe being trans with was one nonbinary trans guy, who was a wonderful supportive friend, which is invaluable. I wasn't thrown headlong into a heated cross-platform discourse, you know? (cont.)

(2/2) I don’t fault anyone for not starting from the same place I did, especially when trans politics are SO volatile right now. I just want people to learn, and I think “why did this happen” etc. is a great question to be asking about transmedicalism.

Yeah, exactly. It's important to remember that until 2015-ish, there was little to no content and information about being transgender, and not much community outside of the big cities.

I will never say transmedicalism was good, it was just a product of the lack of identity the community had, the "edgy" attitude of the 2010's, and building trans identity from a cis (and binary) understanding of gender. And the fact that it was such an easy pipeline for trans kids to fall into right-wing ideology.

I think it's much less likely for someone to fall for it now that there's more trans content and creators, thankfully. And it will only get better as long as the trans community becomes more visible :)

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there is an odd poetry to the way people speak about trans men. the way conversation about them is made entirely in their absence, if not outright exclusion. strangely fitting, that a group of people killed and buried in secresy by their own families, would have their words and experiences overwritten by their supposed allies. Allyship is a comforting narrative spoken over a grave.

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For the love of G-d, HP fans, we are begging, please read a different series.

The money you're giving her, that you're pretending is harmless and okay, is being used to fund movements to strip trans people of their legal rights. Period.

There is no more excuse.

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hi hi hi i started watching rose of versailles because of your post and i am really enjoying it so far :D

also it kind of reminds me of a relatively recent manga ( there's an anime adaptation as well but they were i guess low on budget so it's. not great ) that was essentially a retelling of the play richard iii with richard being intersex and being raised as a man on his father's wish. again i wouldn't say it's great for intersex or transmasc representation for that matter since as always despite richard insisting many times that he's a man people keep on going "well yes maybe ( dismissive ) BUT you're a WOMAN too ( more focus on this part )" but overall it's. interesting. i would however advice to look out for a lot of things since there's several instances of sa for the sole purpose of Othering richard as intersex and that trait is just weirdly fetishized throughout the manga

Thanks for the recommendation!

And yeah, what bothers me about old media about "girl pretending to be guy" is that they always go back to being women by the end, or they're always being reminded that they're "really women", it's really annoying. Makes it feel more like a drag performance, which isn't awful, it's just...not necessarily trans.

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in terms of being mlm… idk if saying this will go over well but it reminds me that I keep seeing people say wlw are represented less than mlm in media. and all of us deserve representation but I don’t know what they are talking about. I looked it up and had it confirmed that, as I have observed, it is the opposite. In which, usually the representation is wlw. Which is likely because wlw are fetishized or people find mlm threatening heteronormativity and what people think masculinity should be like, so this doesn’t mean it is always good representation, just that it is more common. And like I said with how mlm representation may get viewed.

I feel like they are making representation into a competition, and it always gets uncomfortable when people say a group is too represented instead of saying all should be represented. or anything like that. and acting as though all our representation is good off of this, when both wlw and mlm representation isn’t always the best.

I also think this might be coming from the lens on being in online spaces where fandoms tend to ship mlm more than wlw, even though sometimes (not always) this is because of mlm being fetishized in these spaces a lot (speaking as a mlm in fandom who had some ships too). and so I wonder this influences the assumption of who gets represented more in overall media. this might get me called terminally online but this is important for kids: most of the first representation of queer couples for youth were wlw also. so, again. I have been confused by people saying this. I feel like it’s because mlm representation is viewed as being viewed as less valuable when both are equally important

To be honest, I get that feeling too sometimes. I'll look at the bleak state of transmasc representation in media and go "Trans women have so much more..."

But then I look at it more critically for a second, because while yes, number-wise it might be true, most of it really sucks. And it's still such a small number.

I think it's what happens when someone's feeling of "It's so unfair I'm never represented" turns into "It's because THEY always get it instead!"

When, like, there wasn't much there to begin with.