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things to update after a legal name change!

Social security card

Driver’s license

Passport

Birth certificate

Employer HR

Bank account

Credit card company

Car insurance

Health insurance

Utilities

Cell phone account

Voter registration

Your school

Professional organizations (for nursing, bar, teaching, etc.)

Doctor’s office & other health specialists

TV & internet

Paypal

*Please add to this list if you can think of anything else!!!

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I wash my binder in the shower so I don’t have to worry about family walking in on my washing it

How to have a binder without your parents knowing:

Open a private window on your browser and pick the binder you want online, add it to the website’s shopping cart and start to check out until you find how much it costs with shipping and tax. If you don’t have access to a computer at home, use one at the library. 

Save up enough money to buy the binder. Make sure you have a few dollars extra for the extra fee of buying a prepaid card, which can be around $4. If you have a debit card but don’t want your parents to see the purchase, withdraw money from your account and use the cash to buy a prepaid card. You can say you just wanted to have some cash in case you needed it.

Go into a store and buy a prepaid VISA gift card. They have them at lots of stores, even CVS. (You can also ask a friend to do this if you can’t walk/bike/get a ride to a store on your own)

Prepaid credit cards require you to be 18 to open an account, but you can purchase prepaid gift cards at a grocery or other store at any age and use them wherever Visa, MasterCard or AMEX are accepted. 

These gift cards, which aren’t reloadable, usually carry an activation fee along the lines of $4.95 for every $50 increment. You usually find them in denominations of $25, $50 or $100.

Buy the binder online. Put the name on the card as “Visa” in the payment section of the website. 

Clear your internet history if you’re at home and didn’t use a private browser window. Make sure the invoice is sent to an email that only you have access to, or a disposable email (just google “disposable email”)

Figure out where you’re going to get it shipped to.

Ship it to a consenting friend’s house or an accepting relative, if you have one. 

Ship it to your own house and try to get the mail yourself. If the parent gets there first, say you bought a present for someone. You may have to go to a store in person and buy a physical present to then gift to cover up that it wasn’t in the package. You could also ask a friend to lend you a shirt, tell your parents you won a shirt in a giveaway or bought it but decided to give it to a friend as a present, then give the shirt back to the friend. 

Get a PO box if you’re going to be getting things in the mail frequently. 

If you buy an Underworks binder on Amazon you can pick it up at an Amazon Locker at Whole Foods or a different location.

Hide it when you get it.

Handwash it when it gets dirty. Or start doing your laundry yourself. Wring it out and hang it to dry in the back of your closet.

Bring it in a bag with you to change into it when you’re out of the house.

(Or ask a friend with a debit/credit/gift card to buy you a binder if you give them the cash.)

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Packers, STPs, and Dildos: A List for Transmasculine Folks! 

This is an incomplete list, and there are more options for packers/STPs/dildos/etc out there! If the link doesn’t work, just google the product name because most of these are sold in multiple stores/websites and send me an ask so I can fix the link. The list comes from this post.

Packers

Free crochet packer

Cloth Packers $5

Mr. Limpy $9.50

EZ Bulge $10.95

Mr. Limpy Hand Painted Packer $12-$15

Packer Gear Packers $14

SiliPack $19

Crocheted Packer $20

Pack It Packers $20

Sailor Soft Pack $20

Masho Packer $21

Economy Packer $24.07-$36.10

Bella Packy $28–$65

Copperhead $29

Reelmagik Packers $29-$59

Gecko & Mini Gecko $29.95

Python Packer $39.95

Huck Packer $39.95

Archer $45-$55

Pierre Packer $45-$55

Mr. Right $49

Pack Man $52

FreeToM Packers $55-$67

Juan Silicone Soft Packer $59

Sebastian Soft Packer $119

Meta extensor $120.33

The Rod $185

Phallo extender $204.56

Super Soft GenderMender Packers $228

Emisil Flaccid Penis Prosthesis $298-$569

Like Real $299-$499

Camouflage Prosthetics Flaccid

STPs

P-Ez Travel Urinal $3.99

Whiz $8-$11

Lady J $10

pStyle $12

She Pee $12-$21

Go Girl $13-18

Pee-Zee $16

Fenis $16

Freshette $24

Mr Fenis $25

STP Packers

Mr. Limpy STP $25-$30

Prince: STP or Packer $35.95

STP Fitz $38

Basic Silicone STP $42.95-$47.95

Basic Bro STP- 2 in 1 $49.95

Number One STP: Powder Finish $50

Model E StP $55

Moccasin UnCircumcised STP $59

Python STP 2 in 1 $59

Mango STP $69.95

Sport StP $70

Sam the STP $75

Model D STP $78

Freetom STP $79-$163

Model A StP $80

Emisil S.T.P Penis Prosthesis $98-$361

Pymander David $155.32-$286.74

Jimmy STP $181.35

The EZP $195

The EZP Junior $195

Reelmagik STP $519

Pack n’ plays and dildos

PacknPLay X5 bro $14.95

X5…7 inch PacknPlay $15.95

Carlito $18

Derrick flexible PacknPlay $19.95

PacknPlay FlexBo $19.99

Otto Dildo $20

Suave Dildo $22

Admiral $29.95

CyberSkin Dual Density Dildo $29.95

Bendy Buddy $39

Ridgeline Packnplay $45

Anaconda $45.95

Moccasin UnCircumcised 2 in 1 $49

Zullo $50

Maven $59

Silky $65

Captain $69

GenderExtender $69

Johnny $70

BJ-Designed to Suck- 3 in 1 $72

Yummy cum rod $72.20

Tantus Pack and Play #2 $79

Vixen Spur $80

Realdoe $87-$123

Lonestar Vixen $95

Bandit $96

Luke O2 $97.06

Mark O2 $107.10

FreeToM Pack n Plays $139-$269

Outlaw $115

Goodfella $126

Vixen Royale $127

Gendercat Packer $138-$178

Pop dildo $139

Shilo $145.95

Mason Pack and Play $154.99

Carter Pack and Play $164.99

The Bono $295 (+cum lube $7)

Solid Standard Play $300.83-$685.89

The One $336.93-$734.03

Emisil Erect Penis Prosthesis $361-$569

Reelmagik Pack n Play $379-$529

Hard or Semi-Hard GenderMender Prosthetics for Play $395

RealDoll 2 $499

t2 Phase4 prosthesis $1516.06

Camouflage Prosthetics Dual Use

Pack, play, and STP

Erotic Creations Prosthetics $78.97-$189.91

Hugo 3-in-1 $127

Freetom 4 in 1s $143-$283

Sinthetics $149

Peecock $169-$199

Tomas 3-in-1 $185

Pymander 3 in 1 $300.83-$685.89

Make sure you read multiple reviews before you buy a packer, because some companies are scams or just shitty. Three companies to avoid are below:

Don’t shop at packer locker (It’s a scam and I personally lost $15 dollars from them that I never got back and others have lost more)

Don’t shop at The Ultimate Prosthetic (This is also a scam and people have lost hundreds of dollars and never recieved products)

Don’t shop at FtmConnect (the owner is racist and the packers aren’t even that great anyway)

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Queen of Asexuality December 20, 2017 Art by me

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This is the Dysphoria Demon. My boyfriend drew this to give a face to his dysphoria and how it makes him feel in hopes that others may relate. He is also selling prints of this, and will be doing other similar drawings (possibly commissions too, just ask) as we are both on social assistance and can always use extra grocery money/etc. Thanks everyone! Message here asking for Jonah or Facebook message me at Jonah Jase Greening (the icon is currently black and white sketch style of my face)

-jonah

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I don’t feel real.

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Teenage trans boys know their gender and aren't “too young” or “going through a phase”

You know your gender better than anyone else does.

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1. Demisexual 2. Demi trans dude 3. It clicked in 8th grade 4. I like more feminine or androgynous people 5. My SOs mom has been very kind and supportive of me, and accepted everything instantly and went out of her own way to educate herself about trans issues and rights and such 6. Love it!!!! I wish I could participate more 7. Last year I skated in the local pride parade with my roller derby team, and I hope to do it again 8. They are either inaccurate or the characters die :/ 9. Sometimes 10. My closest friends, my SO, my SO's family, and most recently a family friend who has decided they're my drag mom ^-^ 11. Gay 12. Find a safe space. Do it. You need to have somewhere are where you can be you whether it's a club at school or your best friends room. 13. Friends: yes, family: I tried and they have vehemently denied everything 14. I don't mind it. It makes sense to me in this heteronormative gender roles filled world 15. Sometimes, depends on the person and their own beliefs 16. Only do it if you feel like you need to do it. If you know it will be unsafe have a plan ready to leave immediately. 17. Stereotypes for everything, treating lgbtqa+ characters like they're a fuckkng novelty, queerbaiting 18. Lgbtqa+ actors being vocal about issues 19. That we're rare, basically non existent, or just never brought up anything altogether 20. I would if my partner had the same genitals and if I were interested in sex but I'm also an ace trans person so this question is kinda uncomfy 21. Being a hateful person, trump supporter 22. Being someone I trust, being a good person 23. They're great, esp. for youth who may not have any other safe space 24. I personally don't mind it (but don't us ID with it), and I respect anyone who is very uncomfortable or triggered by it 25. I'm in the US so it's hit or miss on "YAY GAY PEOPLE" or "FUCK THE FAGS AND ALSO YOU CANT PEE IN MY RESTROOM" 26. Laverne Cox 27. Be an ally, don't pretend you know everything just because you have one ~~gay friend(tm)~~ 28. "But how can you be a boy when you have those ungodly tits and that tight pussy?" 29. Depends on the question. I hate questions that should be none of anyone's business. 30. Aromantic I guess...? I hate going on dates and ding romancey shit but sign me the fuck up for cuddling on the couch lmao

pride month questionnaire.

the following questions can be used both in character and out of character, depending on what you want to answer. these questions are meant to make people familiar with the various shades of love, attraction and identity, feel free to add your own. happy pride 🌈

what is your sexuality?

what do you identify as?

how long have you been aware of your sexuality/identity?

do you have any preferences?

share a positive memory about coming out!

how do you feel about pride month?

do you participate in pride related events? any other events?

how do you feel about lgbtqa roles in media?

do you feel pride in who you are?

who has been your supportive idols in your self discovery?

tell us about your first crush?

what sort of advice to have you lgbtqa teens? 

have you come out to friends and family?

how do you feel about the term “coming out” ?

do you believe there is a “closet” to come out of?

any tips on coming out?

what’s your biggest pet peeve when it comes to lgbtqa characterization in media?

what’s your favorite parts of lgbtqa characterization in media?

what did your teachers say about the lgbtqa community in school?

do you practice safe sex with the same sex?

what’s an absolute turn off for you in people?

what’s an absolute turn on for you in people?

how do you feel about lgbtqa clubs/apps/websites?

how do you feel about the term “queer” ?

how does you country view the lgbtqa community?

favorite lgbtqa actor/actress?

any tips for heterosexual people on how to handle lgbtqa events/news?

what’s the most annoying question you have ever gotten?

how do you feel about receiving questions about your sexuality/idenity?

what is your romantic affiliation?

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i absolutely love atheists who:

realize that indoctrination from childhood is wrong

have themselves escaped that indoctrination

use the revelation that faith is not necessary to be a good person to be that good person exactly

have found peace of mind in atheism

i do not!!! like atheists who:

insist that all religions are evil and terrible

immediately discredit all religious people as stupid or ignorant

prove themselves just as single- and close-minded as religious extremists

actively advocate for the abolition of religion

like… theres limits yall, chill

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Hey anon me too! I don't know about your dysfunction but personally mine gets really easily triggered by any exertion so I only bind when I'm around the house (my school is too big to bind there unfortunately). I will typically wear a tight sports bra and shirts that are baggy in my tummy to kinda conceal the whole chesticles thing but I don't know your physique or if that would work. I just wanted to throw in my 2 cents as another person with vocal chord dysfunction.

Also if you can/if your dr hasn't told you about this there is speech therapy you can do that teaches you to almost control and breathe your way out of attacks which is very helpful especially when binding or exercising and the such.

You can feel free to message (either via anon ask or through the IM system) me and ill see if I can help out at all too!

So I was recently diagnosed with vocal cord dysfunction,and so basically what that is is like the opposite of asthma, instead of not being able to get air out, I can't get air in (at random times) because my vocal cords won't move out the way sometimes. I don't know if I should wear a binder, like my spasms aren't really bad, sometimes I want to wear my binder idk what to do. I think my dysphoria won't be too bad if I don't wear it. I'm just conflicted.

Have you talked to your doctor (if you’re out to them) about the binder conflict? Maybe try the binder on and see how it affects the spams or makes it worse at all? I wouldn’t over do it, I wouldn’t wear the binder for more than a few hours at a time just for a safety trial. If anything, if your chest allows it, you could try KT tape, if you don’t wrap it around your whole torso completely, it’s less restricting than a binder that encloses the whole chest and back. Tell us how it goes and if there’s anything else we can do!

- Jonas Brother

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ok so we've seen reptiles on skateboards and it was amazing but has anyone thought about *bam bam bam* amphibians in rollerblades?

yeah !!!

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This is such a great message for trans kids??????

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trans women couples from the 1960’s.

-photographed by Christer Strömholm

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So I just heard about “Primed: The Back Pocket Guide for Trans Men and the Men Who Dig Them.” It’s the first sexual health resource written by and for gay, bi and queer trans men/ transmasculine people, put out by Rainbow Health Ontario, and it’s a very frank guide that answers basically any questions you might have about safer sex. They’ve released it for free download here.

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yeah so this is one of my cats

her name is Marlena and she’s FLAWLESS

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Shout out to my “”“”“non-passing”“”“” trans brothers and sisters that get misgendered every day. S/o to the trans people that can’t present how they want because of safety reasons. I love you all, and this shit sucks so much but your gender is COMPLETELY valid, no one can take that away from you. Hang in there and shine beautifully.