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Thanks, Jaida, I wanted an excuse to talk about trans women in sports again

Ok, when I said that I was using this as an excuse to talk about things. I mean it. Because it should be known I am transgender but I have looked over the posts made by Jaida multiple times and I don't even know what point she'd trying to make and what she meant or whatever.

But I do want to talk about trans people in sports. I want to talk about Iman Khelif. And I'm a little bit late, but oh well. Because hers isn't the only case where this happens. In fact there is a rookie that recently debuted on nxt who has already been accused of...being a man (goodness me I hate the world I live in). And this explicitly harms female athletes. While in most case the people saying this abhorrent stuff online and spreading weird rumours about athletes. Their fine. Nothing happens to them. They can do this without any consequence. But women like Iman certainly lose in this situation. You know who else loses. Actual trans women do.

Because there are two likely major possible responses to a cis athlete being 'accused' of being trans. Response one is a transphobic 'ew that's awful we need to keep dangerous freaks like this away' which is dehumanising, demoralising and a destructive mindset to hold. Response two is a supportive response to the athlete, saying 'actually she was born a woman wtf'. And while yes, please debunk these weirdos. But the response has the adverse effect of also carrying the ability to be perceived as 'oh, no, it's ok she's not trans' as if being trans is the issue but it's fine because this person isn't.

Now please don't get me wrong I am not trying to make situations like this about me. It's not about me, it's about how often I see trans women negatively effected by situations that if kind of have nothing to do with them.

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Let's talk about being trans at a wrestling show

Hey all, Alice here. Now, I went to NJPW Royal Quest last week and it was an amazing show. I had an absolute blast, I met one of my favourite wrestlers of all time. But the show, for me brought up some interesting things about going to wrestling shows as a trans person. I am a trans woman if you didn't know and I don't exactly go all out in terms of outfit when I go to shows. I do at least try to dress cool and I'll usually wear makeup. But this show felt more important, I was meeting Zack Sabre Jr let's not forget, so at Royal Quest I'd say I dressed a bit more fem. Long skirt, eyeshadow, lip gloss. I'm not going to say that I passed, but I was referred to as a woman at least once while at the show so...

Now I was fine I was not in danger no one was awful to me at that show, which is great because I do get scared because of past experiences at shows. Now the main issue occurred after the meet and greet, I realised that I wanted to go to the toilet (I'm sorry this feels awkward to talk about but I have a point.) And when I got to the venue's toilets I realised, 'oh I am dressed more fem right now and while I would usually just use the men's one. I didn't feel comfortable or safe doing that at the time. But also, I'm only 6 months on HRT, I don't really pass, I have only used a female bathroom once before and I really don't know what as a trans woman I am supposed to do bathroom wise.

And so the day goes on. And as the show goes on I end up sitting in greater and greater discomfort not knowing what to do, having no way to relieve myself. I ended up sitting through the entire show like this and ,forgive me for being crass dear reader, trying not to piss myself. Then I got the overground to a train station, had to wait twenty five minutes for a train home and finally got to use the loo on the train. A situation that overall could've been better. (Although apparently at the show some guy peed in the showers of the men's toilet so maybe I didn't want to go there.) I'll admit this didn't have a great deal actually to do with wrestling but I wanted to talk about it. Because quite frankly, it sucks. People get so uppity about the 'trans bathroom debate' but, my reality is that I am forced into a situation that I can't win. Either decision could lead to conflict and a negative outcome. And sometimes that leads to me not making a decision because I feel safer that way, but then I need to try and not piss myself. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

This has been Undisputed Queer-a. And I don't think this is the kind of post to do my typical sign off so I will just say. Goodbye. -Alice

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The Logan Paul Problem

Because there has always been a 'Logan Paul problem' since long before he was in WWE, before Japan even.

And I have sat through years of WWE fans half-heartedly caring about the 'Logan Paul problem'. People would say "I mean he's like, not a good person or whatever. But he's such a great wrestler." And my opinion though all of it was that I don't care if he can a Buckshot Lariat, I don't want him in my wrestling.

Even the 'he's good at wrestling' point isn't watertight. Because as detailed in this article he rehearses for months with Shawn Michaels for these matches. It's been said before I'm sure but I could probably have a pretty good wrestling match against Seth Rollins if Shawn Michaels trained me for three months.

There are so many people who deserve the TV time more than Logan Paul. There are so many people who deserve the US Title more than Logan Paul. Give me Akira Tozawa on TV. Have him take Logan's spot WWE. Give me Killer Tozawa I beg of you.

My point is that what Logan Paul said today was awful. But we shouldn't have to be having this conversation because he should have never have been anywhere near wrestling in the first place. Wrestling fans have been letting this man off the hook and letting him slide for far too long.

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do not forget the patron saint of these weeks that we celebrate ourselves proudly and openly in the streets

her name was Marsha P Johnson, and we have her to thank for so much.

remember, the first Pride was a riot, and she was one of the brave souls who endured it to help carve the path which so many of us walk today. she helped found several activist groups regarding LGBT safety and wellbeing. and she was absolutely radiant, too.

thank you, Marsha. we remember you.

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Why the thought of going to All In this year scares me

Hello, I am known in this space as Alice Cole and I am going to AEW All In next month. And this really scares me. I currently have two tickets to All In and this was because I planned to go with a friend of mine. The problem is that person is no longer a person who I want to spend time with. So it appears like I will be going to the show alone. That going alone scares me. Don't get me wrong, I've been to wrestling shows on my own before. But when I do it reminds me of a very bad experience that I had at a wrestling show last year. This is my post about that experience. And so the thought of going to a show as big as Wembley makes it all even worse. Especially as I should be really excited, Bryan Danielson will be there for goodness sake. But I can't get excited because I'm too worried of something bad happening again.

What's worse is that the man who I encountered before, he's probably fine. He's probably been to wrestling shows since. He's probably forgotten. He probably doesn't remember me. But can't forget him. And now, ever since, I find it harder to enjoy live wrestling shows because of the awful actions of someone else.

So that's why I am scared of going to All In again. I will probably still go (I promised to go to all in dressed as Lulu Pencil on my main blog) but it's hard. It's not nice to think about but I'm glad that I've partly got it out of my head by writing this.

Thank you for reading,

-Alice

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Trans Rights are Human Rights, or why I struggle to boo CM Punk

Ok the title is sort of a lie. I certainly didn't struggle booing him on Sunday live in Wembley. But in all fairness he was facing Samoa Joe who is one of those wrestler that I just care about always have for damn longer time than I have liked Punk. I, like most of the British crowd, was chanting my lungs out for Joe and yes might've booed Punker but my attitude slightly changed during the post of of this amazing if slightly predictable match. After the match, as pictured, CM Punk posed with a fan holding a sign that said "Oi Rishi! TRANS RIGHTS ARE HUMAN RIGHTS" this is the latest in a string of support Phil has made towards the trans community including but not limited to a cool charity t shirt that I own but do not have in my possession.

I was at All In with a friend and when that happened he turned to me and said "THAT'S US!" as we both screamed and cheered CM Punk. I supported CM Punk in this moment even though he has given me so many reasons to think he is a twat. I cheered him because if I'm honest being a trans wrestling fan is hard.

These events are pretty recent and are still upsetting to me so I will try to make this section brief. Unfortunately I couldn't find a date for this particular event since none of the articles mentioned one so, at Wrestlecon Giselle Shaw, a trans woman currently wrestling in IMPACT was accosted by wrestling legend Rick Steiner. Brother to Scott Steiner and father to Bron Breakker. Steiner hurled lots of insults towards Shaw including slurs. I’m not going to read it out but Shaw’s tweets I will link below so you can hear the story from her. This is possibly the most extreme example I have of LGBT+ issues still being prevalent in wrestling today and the worst thing Rick Steiner has done since the Chucky segment. It makes me sadder than I can express that Giselle shaw can’t go to a convention without people being shitty.

There was a second after me and my friend had that exchange at All In where I thought "Am I okay saying that? It's London it's not like I'm in London that often. Is it safe to say I'm trans?". Obviously I am okay, I got safe and was not shanked up at any point but I was scared. And I think this fear is heightened by the fact that I have seen a wrestler, a wrestler I look up to, experience harassment due to their gender identity.

I felt safe at All In, it was incredible and I loved being a wrestling fan surrounded by wrestling fans. But there have been times where I have felt uncomfortable or unsafe in this fandom. I think that there are worse ones and that I feel generally more accepted in the wrestling fandom that I perhaps might expect but I shouldn't have to feel like this, ever.

So that's why I struggle to boo CM Punk, and why that moment was one of my favourite of the night, because CM Punk made me feel like I could be a part of the wrestling fandom. That I wasn't out of place. That I was accepted and I will forever be grateful for that.

In conclusion, on Sunday CM Punk has helped me and I hope that you can do one thing for me, just one. Go watch a match with a trans or non binary person in it. Please, it shouldn't take long. It could be Gisele Shaw, it could be Nyla Rose, Kidd Bandit, VENY, Max The Impaler, Jessica Love, Sheik Khan Abdi, Abadon, you could watch an old Kagetsu match if you want. I would love to see trans or non binary wrestlers get recognition and appreciation. So go off, watch that match. and if you do retweet this and say what match you watched and what you thought of it.

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Fuck The Oklahoma Athletic Commission, or why Nyla Rose deserves the world

It has been half a year, but I'm back. I told myself I wouldn't write another piece until the right topic came up, and it has.

For those not in the know according to this source: https://okcfox.com/news/local/oklahoma-commission-issues-warning-against-all-elite-wrestling-after-transgender-match7

The Oklahoma Athletic commission have warned AEW "not to do this again or there will be punitive action made against them" in reference to Nyla Rose wrestling a Ciswoman on AEW.

AEW should absolutely never run Oklahoma again (or just run it again and have Nyla on the card) because this is outrageous.

I am a transgender professional wrestling fan. I am a transgender professional wrestling fan who had been having a good day. This has unmade my day. Nyla Rose has uplifted and inspired me so many times and I will never be able to thank her enough for it. AEW made a promise when they made her the second ever AEW women's champion. They may not have known it but to me that made a promise that AEW was a safe place for Trans fans and Trans wrestlers. I hope they maintain that and uphold this promise.

We love you Nyla.

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I know these posts are kinda stupid but alas it is my turn.

If this post gets 100 notes, you have my word I will go to AEW All In 2024 dressed as Lulu Pencil.

Photo for reference:

Oh, and to go 'All In' with this idea. If this gets 500 notes I will, no word of a lie, get a Pencil Army tattoo. Why not? It probably won't happen.

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From Kenny's Instagram 🥹💛 11.15.23

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The time I felt unsafe at a wrestling show (tw: sexual harassment)

Hi, my name isn't Alice Cole but I find using it funny and by the light of Kota Ibushi this post will probably be lacking in whimsy. I'm scared to write this, but I want to. I am scared to write this because I spoke about it on a different site and someone told me that I was wrong, that what happened to me was completely fine. And that made everything feel so much worse. But I'm going to push forward.

After I went to All In in August I told myself I wanted to go to more live wrestling shows. And a couple of weeks ago when I saw an advertisement for RevPro's 16th of December London Uprising show, I was like "Sick, I am definitely going to that." But I don't want to now, I can't and it's because of a wrestling show I went to recently which is (so far) the only time I have felt unsafe at a wrestling show.

I went to this show with my dad as an early birthday present. Ten years ago in 2013 we started watching wrestling together and even though he doesn't watch week to week with me anymore it was great to spend that time with him. We had a blast at the show but there was something that almost ruined it for me. Before the matches had started my dad had gone off to the bar to get a drink and I was left sitting waiting for the show to start. Someone sitting near us starts talking to me. I've talked to strangers at wrestling events before, so it should be fine. It should be fine however, whether it's the way he's talking or his body language something just feels off.

He asked me who I was excited to see and what matched I was looking forward to. But then it felt like the questions took a turn, he asked where I was from so I told him the county and then he asked what my hobbies were and I stuttered not knowing what to say. I ended up just saying "um...TV, games, movies. Normal stuff." Then he asked what my plans were for after the show. I was feeling really uncomfortable at this point but felt trapped like I had to answer. So I said I didn't really have any, just going back to my hotel. I tried to look away but he started talking again.

He put his hand on my shoulder and said "You look nervous." I infact did. He was touching me, surely he shouldn't be touching me. I told him it's just because there's so many here. And then he...he lifted his hand up and stroked my face, he said "There's no need to be nervous." But I felt beyond nervous. I wanted to scream. I wanted to push him away but I didn't and I just looked away and looked at my phone. Luckily my dad came back.

I thought that now my dad was between me and this guy, I'd be fine but a bit later the guy was standing up and he reached past my dad and put his hand on my thigh, specifically touching the bit of my skin exposed by the rip in my jeans (like as in they're ripped jeans). He asked if I wanted a drink, I said no. He asked if I wanted a water or coke or something, I said no.

I didn't have any other interactions with him, the rest of the night. But I can't stop thinking about it. What would have happened if my dad hadn't been there? It's just horrible. In my head I kept telling myself that it wasn't not sexual harassment, that I was being over dramatic. But it fits the definition I found on google, and I definitely didn't feel ok so I'm not sure. I ignored it during the show but since, I've been, I just haven't been right since it happened. I don't know there’s still part of me saying that he was just being nice. But it really didn't feel like it.

Other important details I want to mention. I am a few weeks shy of being 18. This man was in 30s at least. Idk, felt relevant.

I mentioned in a previous post that I felt safe at All In but I had a friend with me then. Hell, I had my dad with me at this show but was still unsafe at times.

So that's why I'm not going to London Uprising because I don't feel comfortable going. I don't feel safe going to wrestling events anymore. I don't want to go alone but don't want to explain to someone why I want company

In conclusion, I hope that someone reading this is going to the RevPro show and I hope that that person has a great time.

This has been Undisputed Queer-a. And I don't think this is the kind of post to do my typical sign off so I will just say. Goodbye. -Alice

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I'll probably make a longer piece on it at some point but Max Squared's on screen interactions have left me disappointed if I'm honest.

It's a reminder that we're never going to get anything on Kenny and Kota's level again. But I don't even need it to be as good as that. I just want representation that portrays the gay character or romance as a normal thing and not bad, creepy or lesser.

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Hey!(GIFs) - Hangman Adam Page

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The Elite is as 'ok' as The Bullet Club was 'fine' in 2018.

I left Twitter for Tumblr because you wrestling Tumblr folk actually appreciate long-term storytelling. I love you all. ❤️

Should we bring back the question?

“Is The Elite okay?”

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Um...yeah I've been meaning to post more but at a loss what to post. I was going to post about Max Caster and MJF but AEW seems to be trying to turn it around. So maybe we will find something to write about. I miss this blog so I need to come back. I'm trying, we'll see what happens.

-Alice

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