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Can I offer some Perry’s in these trying times

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a comic about my experience with asexuality

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Btw it's okay to be sad about being aromantic, sometimes it really does feel like a bummer. I promise it feels a lot better after a while but it really is okay to be sad about it

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Oh, this red string you see wrapped around my finger? You're asking if it connects me to my one true love? An understandable mistake, but I'm aromantic. This is for my conspiracy board.

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The best way I can describe to an allo person how you feel about sex as a topic as a sex-repulsed or averse asexual is that it feels like a hype that never ends. As though Despicable Me came out and everyone around you was sending minion facebook memes to each other for years to come. The stores are full of minion themed products; they're in ads and your friends talk about them all the time. And deep in your heart you're like "I'm glad that they're able to enjoy something I personally don't like and am not interested in :3". But there is always this little voice in the back of your head that's like "If I have to see ONE MORE of these little yellow FUCKERS today then God help us all." You make an active choice to communicate only the former.

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Sorry for the TRUE lesbians here, but this is very current in the life of every aroace girl.

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tbh it doesn't rly hurt teenagers to incorrectly id as ace like... what's the worst than could happen? they don't have sex till they're older?? lol

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btw the a+ in lgbtqia+ stands for a+ as in a really good grade so remember to do your homowork and get good gays.

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As an aroace person, friend crushes are INSANE. And I don’t mean this like “oh I want my friend romantically” I mean like “I need to be this person’s friend so bad they are so cool!!!!” Like there’s this mutual I have on tiktok who I have been sending cat stickers to back and forth all day. The day we have an actual conversation about something will be the day I’ve won. Like is this how allos feel when they have romantic crushes on people???

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being aroace and also a picky eater is just a constant stream of "well how do you know you won't like it if you never try it"

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first try at making comics since this feeling won't die down

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Aromantic who yearns the feel of what romance feels like because it’s so praised by those around them as well as on media Romance is a norm but what if you just aren’t part of that norm? Because you’re just unable to feel that “romantic” love that’s talked about everywhere around you

Aromantic hopeless romantic who daydreams about relationships but laughs it off and feels confused when someone actually likes them

Aromantic who feels like said person doesn’t love them but just for the “image” of what they are

Aromantic hopeless romantic who gets into a relationship to see if they could fall in love and maybe experience “romance” only to be disappointed that they didn’t feel “love”

Aromantic who wants to feel highschool love or the romance they consume through stories because IT made it feel like it was magical, it was normal as if it was suppose to happen to them !!!

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I think people who consider aromanticism as "basically straight" underestimate how noticeable absence can be to those around you.

Whether you're a kid in school with classmates who won't take "no one" as an answer to who you have a crush on or an adult whose coworkers have picked up on the fact that you've never mentioned a romantic partner; after enough time, a lack or insufficient amount of romantic interest will raise the antennae of friends, family, coworkers, etc... They will notice and they will speculate and they will ask.

It is impossible to meet the societal bar for straightness through inaction.

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Oriented aroace + space for the anon!

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You know what I like so much about the aromantic community?

We have so many concepts that the average alloromantic person has never heard of. Concepts that make it so much easier to explain our experiences, desires and struggles to other people. They make it so much easier to exist as an aromantic person in this world. Of course, every aromantic person can decide whether they find these concepts helpful and applicable to their experiences. But I find it amazing how many cool concepts the aromantic community either came up with or took pre-existing concepts and made them our aromantic 101. I don't think the allos really get how being aromantic can fundamentally change your worldview. And to be honest, I think they're missing out because I think everyone would benefit from at least being familiar with those concepts.

Being aromantic is basically like this:

Aromantic shrimp colours are real.

Anyways, aromantic community, y'all mean a lot to me and I'm so happy I found y'all and now share your "secret" knowledge!

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hiiii can we talk about the impact being aromantic has on your gender i'd like to talk about the impact being aromantic has on your gender. how much romantic attraction and relationships are essential in establishing yourself as a Real & Proper Wo/Man. like literally throughout my gender journey i would keep mentally updating the hypothetical narrative of my future marriage and it took YEARS until I realized I didn't even want to get married. but sexuality is so fundamental to gender and romance is so fundamental to sexuality. i cannot separate many of my struggles with gender from my inability to make mine coherent through my pursuit of socially acceptable romances