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try guys hot take that didn’t make wapo

In 2014, the Try Guys were a band of friends making YouTube videos for Buzzfeed. In short order, the four attracted a following for being unapologetically themselves. There was Eugene Lee Yang, the queer Korean American guy known for his wit. There was Keith Habersberger, who was tallest and from Tennessee, and Zach Kornfeld, who was a Jewish New Yorker. And, of course, there was Ned Fulmer, a wholesome Florida man who graduated Yale. The foursome entertained viewers by testing out ladies’ underwear, doing drag and attempting UFC fighting.

As the Try Guys grew older, so did their brands. In 2018, they would go on to start their own YouTube channel that now has over seven million subscribers, leaving Buzzfeed behind. Keith launched his own hot sauce for chicken and Eugene came out as gay in a well-choreographed music video commanding 20 million views. Ned, in particular, built his brand around being the ultimate wife guy, going on sweet dates with his wife, Ariel. Videos from the past few years were titled names like “Couple Tries Home-Cooked vs. $120 Roast Chicken,” a series that Ned continued until earlier this year.

It was this perfectly distilled brand of “good husband and father" that Ned cultivated over eight years that came crashing down on Tuesday afternoon, after cheating allegations surfaced. Fulmer admitted on social media that he had “a consensual workplace relationship,” after fans theorized he had cheated with Alexandria Herring, a producer on the Try Guys channel.

On Tuesday, Try Guys announced via all social media channels that Ned was no longer working with them. “As a result of a thorough internal review, we do not see a path forward together,” the channel said in a statement.

The fallout did not go unnoticed by viewers — some of them who had been tuning into the channel since the Buzzfeed days — days before Try Guys made any announcement. Fans claimed online that it looked like Ned had been edited out of recent Try Guys videos, such as the camera cutting to footage of three of the guys, but there being a fourth chair visible in the background. Starting last week, Try Guys videos began with montage photos that were missing Ned. Their Instagram account hadn’t posted content with him since September 4.

The ongoing media fury and obsession would not have happened if Ned had not built his entire career on being the perfect wife guy. Wife guys are men who are known for being extremely into their wives, and just won’t stop talking about how they are so married.

Ned had this branding down to a science, with his wife Ariel Fulmer featured prominently across most of his videos. He spent years going on public dates with Ariel in YouTube videos, even turning pregnancy announcements for his two sons, Wesley and Finley, aged 1 and 4, into content. In a video from 2016 titled, “Couples Break Up For a Week,” Ned laments how sad it is to pretend to be single for a week, while showing us wedding photos of him and Ariel. Removing his wedding ring, Ned cringes at the camera.

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Fans on YouTube have compiled the number of times Ned has said the words “my wife,” often in a Borat voice. In a video called “Couple Gets Trapped with No Internet for 90 Hours,” Ned proclaims, “There’s no one I would rather spend 90 years with,” while Ariel looks on at him sweetly.

Try Guys videos capture a certain era of the internet. It was the mid 2010′s, millennial YouTubers who had crafted very specific personas were taking off, especially with the financial backing of Buzzfeed. They were also pumping out videos at a fast and, some would say, unsustainable rate.

Ned and Ariel found the branding that worked for them, which monetized very well. It was the kind of wholesome content the internet craved more of, as fans declared them to be the perfect couple and a good example of a working marriage with two supportive parents. It’s the same premise that then captured viewers’ fascination when it all came crumbling down. What’s a wife guy without his wife?

Adultery alone wouldn’t sustain headlines and Reddit speculation for days. It’s the fact that being a husband and father is what we mainly know Ned Fulmer for. He was an unlikely person for people to suspect would be at the heart of a scandal like this.

Tuesday’s news had people on the internet asking which men they could trust. Increasingly, the internet finds examples of wife guys who just can’t be trusted. John Mulaney, a comedian who had been very public about his loving marriage, shocked onlookers when he filed for divorce from his wife last year and announced he was having a baby with actress Olivia Munn. Adam Levine, who had sang songs about his wife of eight years, admitted in September to sending flirtatious texts to another woman, where he asked if he could name his child after her.

If another Try Guy, say one that had built a brand around being edgy and rebellious (Eugene) had been caught up in a similar scandal, it wouldn’t have captured our collective attention the way that Ned’s quick fall from grace did. Ned’s own admission of guilt and subsequent departure from the Try Guys became the source of an internet meltdown because we want to have good role-models for fathers and husbands. They’re just hard to find.

In the parasocial relationships we form with celebrities, where we feel like we know them, it can be especially bizarre and captivating to see the mask fall away in real time. YouTubers Myka and James Stauffer drew outrage when they announced in 2020 that they had rehomed a child they had adopted and filmed life with for more than three years. When people’s public personas are so inextricably tied to their marriages, to being a faithful spouse and good parent, only for that to be revealed as a façade, it can start to feel like everyone’s business.

Try Guys really invited us into their homes, their lives and their relationships. And fans ate that up. Now that things have gone downhill, they’re still eating it up.

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adhd brain is like buying single pump lotions because you know you'll never use the more complicated version, and never buying berries because you don't want to wash them

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It costs $0.00 for her to sit on your face 😏

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Artwork by Nettrice Gaskins

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My Top Ten Ships

7.) Samantha Jones & Smith Jerrod

Show/Film Affiliation:

Sex and the City

(June 6, 1998 - February 22, 2004)

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we’re gonna finally incorporate more face masks into fashion and i’m for it. public health y’all

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prompts you’d actually use

(4 through 26 of these are originally from here and 1-3, 27-32 I made myself. The ones I made are probably much weirder.)

1: - the bazaar is bursting - high pretension - rebirth - someone ripped out the last page

2: - the innocent - cloak of night - coin - versus - bluesy

3: - roads full of gravel - seafood allergy - mass machine - player - high perch - already invisible

4: - planets colliding - keep running - the things we kept silent - brand new - finale

5: - gambling - donor - insatiable thirst - a storm in my mind - unsent letters - stuck in reverse - plummeting

6: - the secrets in hotel rooms - laying in the road - burning - withering - going away - missing everyone

7: - the ghosts that haunt us - my other half - the worst disease - plummeting - drifting away

8: - supermodel - broken sidewalk - passing through - biggest nightmare - the hero and the thief

9: - our photographs - made of plastic - so much red - perturbed - like bullets

10: - too far ahead - beach days - the thought of you - under blankets - whispering - you gave me a balloon

11: - the laundry - cold outside - in a stained dress - too damaged - stopping - mom made me

12: - my favorite thing - you told me - why? - in the sea - buried alive

13: - you warned me - it laid broken - bridges - matches - the last time - screeching

14: - biggest liar - fingernails - obnoxious - down the drain - the smell of paint - i remember the crowd

15: - you make me hate you - in the cellar - floorboards - two months later - the worst night - hallucinate

16: - experiments - fail and fail - broke the jar - your collection - i hate goodbyes - waiting

17: - all of me - too late - anchors - your mailbox - late night meetings

18: - different shoes - car exhaust - always here - dead end - uphill from here

19: - open 24 hrs - supermarket - pruned fingers - chlorine - postcards

20: - it was your fault - flawless - camera phones - clown - radio static

21: - metaphor - going home - skinnier - she was half asleep - kids

22: - 10 years older - didn’t approve - shame - wire - restless and reckless

23: - maybe baby - wild child - blisters - playground - that kills me

24: - you floated - raining forever - euphoria - confess - one and two and three 25: - better days - chemical - white gown - waiting - second left

26: - wasteland - tomorrow - lethargy - pocket watch - white gloves and champagne

27: - dust on dust - shatter - dragon - altered ego - deep violet - finger wag

28: - false memories - abysmal - flattery - drifting - equity - nuance

29: - 9 to 5 - punishment - ambiguity - cast asunder - hello babies - mind the gap

30: - spunk - unfasten your seatbelt - ride or perish - ethereal mist - black nails

31: - galactic diplomacy - violently awake - purple and green - the little island - worst - powder - slim leather

32: - let’s lay siege - dangling precariously - summer is here - flash party - wanton behavior

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“I’m standing Staring into the darkness Not knowing where it leads Only this time It doesn’t scare me Although my anxiety is at an all time high Letting the void engulf me Not being able to see a thing It’s the most soothing feeling I’ve felt in a while”

- enlightenedreader ~ 06/05/17 (1) ~ (via enlightenedreader)

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She didn’t break up with him Because she fell out of love She broke up with him Because she decided She valued herself More than she valued Her love for him

enlightenedreader ~ 14/07/17 (2) ~ (via enlightenedreader)

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I need a life that isn’t just about needing to escape my life.

Robert Polito (via hplyrikz)

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from weheartit

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When you take a 10 minute writing break and it accidentally lasts six months

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Because we come from the heights. From the home of Beauty. We have come to raise a forest of pyres upon the earth to illuminate it during the night which precedes the great noon. Until the hour in which the fire of the sun bursts majestically over the sea. Because we want to celebrate the feast of the great human prodigy. We want our minds to vibrate in a new dream. We want this tragic social dusk to give our “I” some calm and thrilling tinder of universal light. Because we are the nihilists of social phantoms. Because we hear the voice of the blood that cries from underground. We prepare the paravanes and the torches, oh young miners. The abyss awaits us. We leap into it in the end: Toward the creative nothing.

Renzo Novatore, Towards the Creative Nothing

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LEARN A LANGUAGE CHALLENGE

Hello. I decided that I want to create a challenge for all the future polyglots here on tumblr. So choose a language and get read for it :)

1. Watch a youtube video in your language of choice 2. Read a book in your language of choice 3. Write a message to someone in your l.o.c 4. Make a list of 30 new words in l.o.c and learn the words. 5. Try to describe any image with your l.o.c 6. Watch a movie w/subtitles in your language of choice 7. Watch a movie in which your language of choice is used 8. Find a penpal from the country where your l.o.c is spoken and try not to use any other language. 9. Describe words - family, relationship, school, pet & dinner with your l.o.c 10. Write an essay (200w) in your l.o.c on the topic - Learning languages.

Feel free to tag people and make a post where you tag me so I can see your improvement :)

~ lena