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Recently, someone I cared deeply about did something that can never really be amended. She's a severe alcoholic and has on more than one occasion done or said something that has caused a lot of chaos in our family. Normally, I'm pretty understanding about her mental problems. Most of our family makes excuses for her behavior. Unfortunately, this time, she took an angry alcohol fueled stab at me. I've got pretty thick skin on most things. This time, she went to a level that was so hurtful that even her brother (my partner) is enraged. It came at a really difficult time for us after a death and the loss of a move we've been working on for 8 months. I'd like to say I will get over it just like I always have. But the depth of the wounds her words caused has left me questioning myself and my worth. Even my partner is finding difficulty in finding a calm to address her actions. The longer it goes unaddressed, the worse the anger and sadness are getting. It was hard enough to be married for 16 years to a narcissistic alcoholic. I do not wish to allow another one to remain in my life.

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Having had to live with an alcoholic was hard. Getting away from one was the hardest part, but survival depended on it. Now, I'm in a relationship with someone who has a family member who is a severe alcoholic. They lie so often that I'm certain they believe their own crazy stories. It is triggering to be around them. Worst of all is that they say really awful things while in a drunken rage. Then, act as though no offenses occurred. It's been hard, but I've managed to keep my tongue as I know many secrets that would cause horrific pain to them. Mostly, I just really want to give their melon a good thump. Being an adult is very taxing when others behave like petulant children.

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I know you've been traumatized, but not everyone with NPD is an irredeemable monster... the term "narcissistic abuse" can be really harmful to such people, and terms like "emotional abuse" more accurately describe the behaviour. Again, I know you've been traumatized and calling abusers narcissists is a really common thing, but I hope that you will consider changing the words you use for the sake of those with disorders who try to overcome their more difficult symptoms. Cheers.

Here's the reality, there's a difference between being a narcissist and having narcissistic traits. Not all abusers are, in fact, narcissists. Some abusers are sociopaths or even psychopaths. Would you ask victoms of rape to change how they word their experience to accommodate a rapists feelings? Would you ask the survivors of any violent crime to change how they word their trauma so those who committed the crimes against them won't feel bad about what they did? No, what you are asking is for me to change my wording for your comfort. It's like telling someone you should change how you describe your trauma so predators won't seem so bad. Addicts can be in recovery, but it does not change the fact that they are still addicts. Anyone who comes to my page has the option of reading my posts or just moving on to someone else's page. Getting offended by something is a choice. Continuously exposing yourself to something that you know will trigger you is actually a form of self-harm. My suggestion is that if you avoid anyone's page that deals with having been a victim. Because survivors are not going to change how they word their horrific experiences for the comfort of abusers.

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The word ‘imperfect’ actually spells ‘I’m perfect’ because everyone is perfect in their own imperfect ways.

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Stop being ableist and go to a therapist. Also go eat vegetables and drink water you're probably such a dick because you feel like crap. ✌️ Sincerely, an Isopod.

The fact that you had to make this anonymous says volumes about you. I also know who you are because your sentence structure is like a fingerprint you pretentious twat. If anyone needs to seek help, it's you. As for myself, I'm good. BTW you came to my page, so you must enjoy reading what I post. I'd say that makes you the dick. Narcissist much.

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Society has become a "look at me," generation of people who are so desperate for attention. Critical thinking has been replaced by a follow button mentality of those who cannot see or wish to see the gravity of their actions. A "my feelings matter more than yours," society. They neglect to see that there are others who have likely been through much worse. Yet, the level of narcissism has only increased over the decades. Why is this? Is it due to a lack of proper parenting or a governmental interference that disguises itself as trying to help? Personally, I say both. Governmental programs that are disguised as "care" when in actuality are based on a profit margin. Even in the presence of factual information, social media perverts those facts for only the benefit of creating fear and confusion.

The government cries for gun control using tragedy as a way to remove the constitutional rights of others. The reality is that the very government that is pushing for this has been caught multiple times selling confiscated weapons to other countries. Leaving the critical thinkers wondering why the general public are not bringing this to light. Why? Situations like leaving our military weapons, vehicles, and supplies behind, only to discover those weapons, are now being sold and used against us. Think on that reality and then ask yourself why the news and social media aren't showing more interest?

Now, let's get into mental health care. Actual mental health care is meant to be based on evaluating, discovery, and treatment by means of changing how we see or react to traumatic events. That care is being either denied or replaced with surgeries and medications. Now, who actually benefits from surgery and meds? Hospitals and pharmaceutical companies, along with stockholders, do. This raises the price of supposed care for people while inflating cost, lowering the standard of care. Taxes then get raised to supposedly offset that cost under the guise of lowering out of pocket expenses. Pharmaceutical companies make a killing and keep people hurting by inflating the demand over supply.

Let's be real on something. It doesn't matter what political party you side with or who you vote for. Because the reality is that the government uses technology to push their profit agenda onto civilians. Instead of doing the job they were hired to do, they profit from suffering. Social media and news outlets abuse power by only showing the truths they were paid handsomely to leak. Leaving the actual truth to be burried until it digs its way to the surface. By then, the ones suffering the abuse are seen as crazy or unstable. Basically, our government is no different than an abusive parent trying to keep their victimization quiet when all the bruises start to show.

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Telling someone you act poorly because they are just so passionate about you is a lie. Insecurities can be hidden with the use of passion as motivation. In reality, arrogance drives them. Insecurities are just the reason they allow their illness to create the environment they've forced onto their target.

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I look back at my life and realize that my trauma may have sculpted the person I was, yet does not define the person I am. It's so easy to use what you went through as an excuse to let yourself fail. The truth is we may have survived hell, but it's nothing compared to the torture we put ourselves through daily.

Fear is a response to actions that we live through. If the actions are repeated enough times, we avoid them in the future. Such as being beaten or berated as a child for speaking up. This was something I experienced so often that I allowed the fear to prevent me from defending myself as an adult. My therapist told me it took me decades to learn the negative behavior. It's not unrealistic to think it will take a great deal of time to alter it. Logic doesn't always mean you can easily follow the advice.

Every day, take a moment to write down three things you wish to improve in your life. Then, focus on one, not all three. That one singular goal should be reasonable to accomplish. However, if you don't manage to complete it, write down why you feel as though you failed to do so. These are building blocks. Sometimes, the blocks don't fit, so we must adjust them in order to accomplish our goal.

Never stop reaching for tomorrow. You survived for a reason. Out there in the world, someone is looking to heal from your story.

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There is something truly heartwarming that occurs when a child looks up to you. The idea that this small person sees more in you than you see in yourself. A child is the most endearing an honest creature where emotions are concerned. Never have I gazed into the eyes of an infant and wondered if they hold any ill will twords me. As children grow, they begin to transform like a delicate caterpillar beginning its journey. As adults, we should not take advantage of that vulnerable stage of metamorphosis they are undergoing. We fail when we do not recognize that our own feelings and beliefs can alter the course that may not have been in the grand design for them. Allow them to wear a dress, play in the dirt, and be a tomboy. Too often, we are influenced by our own desires and social pressures. That is when we begin to fail them. They may not want to be the opposite of the gender they are. But parents want the best for them, so they make a choice to encourage a change that may have lasting consequences for them. Children need to learn to be just children before giving them a power that they do not know what the long-term impact will trigger. Children are the greatest gift we are bestowed, yet we create vulnerability in them for no other reason than our own lack of knowledge or understanding. We need to do better for the young generation. Stop allowing social pressures to influence them negatively. Encourage creative growth, let them explore the world, make amazing creations, and find themselves along the journey. Because more often, a child's decision to alter themselves has nothing to do with their own thoughts and more to do with those of outside forces.

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