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Image: A funeral boat, set on fire and adrift in a river. The tumblr logo is the burning corpse set atop it.

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tatterdemalionamberite

  wait are you really leaving permanently??? nooo...

Are you taking these blogs down or leaving the archive up?

Everything will be left up until tumblr feels like tearing them down.

I’ve backed everything up offsite, but anyone who would also like to back them up is welcome to do so.

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wait are you really leaving permanently??? nooo we’ll miss you!!! :’( anyplace else we can find you?

Pillowfort: Xenolalia

Dreamwidth: Zenolalia

Ao3: Zenolalia

Twitter: Zenolalia

Sharesome: Zenolalia

Discord: Xenolalia#0940

FurAffinity: Zenolalia

Fanlore: Xenolalia

I’m still trying to find a federated platform that I like.

I want both the whole viral microblogging thing (retweets/reblogs), and also allows for tagged organization, which is apparently hard to fucking do or something. So if you know something, feel free to share with me.

Pixelfed is supposed to be launching with a tumblr clone in January, so maybe there?

Anyway, I’ll be keeping my fanlore account up to date for the foreseeable future, so I guess you can always check back there as well.

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So uh, I think you know some stuff about coding? I've been using the python script to back up certain tags from my blog, and I CAN NOT get it to grab posts from tags with spaces. (Example: "writing tips") It goes through my whole blog then tells me that it backed up 0 posts. I've tried it with both spaces and underscores between the words. Am I just going to have to let it back my entire blog up or is there something else I can do? >.<;

Try using “writing%20tips”

The %20 is the URL/HTML code for “a space.”

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Tumblr’s TOS Changes, AO3, and You

OTW Legal talks about the new Tumblr Terms of Service and what they mean for fans (and AO3): https://goo.gl/EZWH62

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(SH anon) I'm safe now. My partner got a friend to pick me and keep me safe. While I waited for my friend i got a plush and kept distracted until he could get there. Then he watched pokemon with me until I calmed down enough to be safe.

I’m glad you’re okay.

Thank you for getting back in touch.

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Since I only sorta brought it up in my reblog from you - I am outright fucking laughing because by saying Brainy can't date Kara because he's autistic coded, the supercorp shippers have literally made their OWN SHIP problematic since Kara is plenty autistic coded as well. Ooops.

askjhfakdjh U right u right

Kara is definitely as autistic as a perky blonde girl gets to be on TV, and to be frank, Morgana Lena isn’t exactly radiating “neurotypical.”

The closest I think anyone gets to NT on that show is Maggie. That poor woman puts up with so much from her GF and co.

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Construction illegally started here last year without the proper paper work. And implied threats.

This wasn’t even eminent domain, because they never seized the land they just started showing up with it still privately owned.

So, I live nowhere near here, but if anyone wants to try to do something I felt I should spread the word.

This should be something supporters of private land ownership and enviornmentalists both agree on.

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having to be “mature” at a young age sucks bc you aren’t really “mature-mature” you’re a child playing at a maturity bc you don’t have the foundation to be the bigger person when conflict arrives so what you do is ignore it bc ignoring a problem and being happy about a resolution look the same to your inexperienced eyes. Then you get adults praising you for a development above your peers but you aren’t really developing. You’re stagnant. Your peers will grow up and experience things and make mistakes and grow from them but you will keep yourself in this box, ignoring things ignoring ignoring ignoring until one day you have to face the fact… it wasn’t maturity you had. It was fear. And now you’re an adult too and you make all of your choices based on an emotional risk/costs analysis bc you don’t know any emotion other than fear & you have to start healing from your own childhood by making peace that you weren’t really a mature child. You were just a child who was given too much to carry & didn’t know how to say “no”.

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what does febfem mean?

@bai-xue-lives and @prismatic-bell both asked me the same question, so here goes nuffink

Febfem: On Bisexual Radfems, Facts Don’t Care About Feelings, and Lesbians Essentialism

Radical feminists describe ‘febfem’ as a bisexual female* who, by choice. exclusively dates females. It arose out of a specific subset of radfem tumblr, which holds some ideas about gender, sexuality, and identity to be self-evident. these facts include:

lesbian refers exclusively to homosexual females. words like bisexual and lesbian are not identities but statements of fact. any person who self-identifies as a lesbian must be a female homosexual. if you’re not a female homosexual for any reason (you’ve dated men in the past, you were assigned male at birth, you’re bisexual but only date women) then you cannot be a lesbian. you need other words.

females who are exclusively attracted to females are the most oppressed group. everybody else needs to protect them; their terminology, and their spaces. they are inviolate. an attack upon them is the greatest crime. bisexual women are their oppressors because bi women benefit from heterosexuality (what these benefits are is unclear)

lesbians are allowed to call bisexual women anything they want, including slurs like cockslut, bihet, handmaiden, etc. a lesbian referring to bi women using these slurs is venting about her trauma at the hands of her bisexual oppressors and is above question or reproach. bisexual women are not allowed to vent about their trauma at the hands of lesbians because they have privilege over lesbians and it would be lesbophobic.

bisexual women are untrustworthy rapists who want to invade lesbian only spaces and abuse lesbians. [please note that in this case, “bisexual women” also refers to trans-inclusive lesbians.] all bisexual women are untrustworthy, cheating cocksluts until proven otherwise.

Bisexual radfems who want to have access to spaces that keep them safe and people who don’t treat them like cocksluts who are only waiting to cheat on the nearest lesbian, must find some way to signal their virtuosity. “Look at us!” They say. “We’re good bisexuals, unlike these other bihet handmaidens. Please allow us into your safe spaces, and make room for us in your rhetoric. We promise to hate ourselves for being attracted to men, constantly apologise for oppressing lesbians, and allow lesbians to target and bully us whenever they like. Look, to make it easy for lesbian radfems to tell when a bisexual is one of the Good Ones, we’ll put this handy word that we just made up - Febfem - in our bios, so you know precisely how to find us.”

It’s almost enough to make me feel sorry for them. If you go through the febfem tag on tumblr, a lot of posts talk about the importance of not talking over lesbians, not infringing on lesbian-only spaces, and not appropriating lesbian terminology, and reiterating constantly that lesbians don’t owe bi women anything (Just be grateful they didn’t call you an abusive slut today!). Of course, all this ground is won at the cost of bisexual women who aren’t female-exclusive, trans-inclusive lesbians, and trans lesbians. So I don’t really feel sorry for them. Except when I do, cause hyperempathy is a bitch that way.

also, they hate mogai tumblr even though they’re literally the radfem version of mogais

*Note: I use female when talking about AFABs (as radfems use female) and women when talking about people who identify as women regardless of AGAB.

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Sex positivity

Casual reminder that sex positivity is the political position towards sex, which says that sex is not inherently more shameful, sinful or worse that other parts of life (and actually not better or exempt from political analysis either). As such, it has no relation to how easy sex is for you.

If you never have sex, or rarely have sex, or struggle to get undressed in front of someone, you haven’t failed at sex positivity. If you’re not comfortable in sex-focused spaces or just don’t enjoy them, you haven’t failed at sex positivity. Just like you are no less a feminist if you worry about how you look, and no less a queer activist if you are not ‘out’ everywhere, you are no less sex-positive if sex is a complicated thing in your life.

Your political position towards sex is seen in how you respond to attempts by respectability activists to de-sexualize LGBT identities, it is seen in whether you defend sex-focused queer spaces when their existence is threatened, it is seen in how you respond to sexual violence, it is seen in how you respond to people who pretend that there is no sexism, racism or rape in kinky spaces, it is seen in how you treat sex workers, it is seen in what you do to de-stigmatize STDs in your community.

Sex positivity is seen in a lot of your political actions but it can never be measured by how much you fuck or how public you are about it.

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Canaries in the Coal Mine: If you cheered on censorship of weird art, you’re part of this problem

Unpopular fact that needs to be said now: if you ignored or worse cheered on the constant encroaching censorship of artists and didn’t speak up because it wasn’t the ‘right’ kind of art (your ~pure eroti ca~ art) that was under fire, you’re 100% part of the problem.

The weird ero artists, the hardcore ero artists, the distasteful ero artists, those gross artists have been your canary in the coal mine and y'all decided it was canary season and now… well we may all be in the grave YOU dug but guess what, you’re here too!

Maybe y'all will learn a lesson. Maybe y'all will stop flinging around false accusations for peak woke points and stop censoring art you find icky and artists that don’t peddle only the purest and unproblematicest of smut. Probably not. But a boy can dream can’t he?

The solution always is to speak out against censorship. “But I’m afraid to speak out–” The rest of us who put our necks out and got burned, how do you think we feel? But we speak out against censorship. We defend ‘icky’ art. Because we know the price otherwise.

And if you won’t listen to me because I’m just some queermo who makes weird comics, then maybe you’ll listen to a professional. 

 "[I]f you don’t stand up for the stuff you don’t like, when they come for the stuff you do like, you’ve already lost.“ - Neil Gaiman, WHY DEFEND FREEDOM OF ICKY SPEECH?, Dec. 1, 2008

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I figure that this will probably be a more controversial contention than some of my previous posts on this whole subject but like I actually think that there is something being lost even by just the deletion of the p*rnographic content of this website (and perhaps more importantly, the communities surrounding it).in terms of just a historical perspective.

P*rnography, which is seen as without any intellectual or artistic merit, is one of those things that is mass produced but v infrequently preserved at the time of its creation because it is seen as not worth studying or preserving, and in fact there is a tendency towards its destruction. But at the same time, there is a lot to be gained in understanding societies and their socio-cultural mores by looking at just that (along w other forms of “low culture”, i’m reminded of trash tabloid TV or cheap films on weird subjects or even just tabloids in general).

This is to a certain extent what is going to happen as more and more social interactions happen over the internet, or what is talked about sometimes as being a part of Digital Dark Age. These things have to be stored somewhere, on websites that might go down or in this case, they might be expunged from continuing websites. Unlike pulp novels or magazines, these sorts of things just disappear (w the potential exception be if they are saved on computers… that might themselves become unusable in the near future!)

I guess maybe this is because p*rnography is just an academic interest of mine, but I think Tumblr’s model already had a way of creating structural gaps (in the form of blog deletion), but there really is something that could the the site of study that could just disappear soon! Like, that’s not to say that these things are like good or not skeezy or systemically in a weird way wrt ethics (and I think there are limitations to this sort of logic) but they are socially relevant in some way, and I think there’s something being lost in the record by getting rid of all of it. Just because it has v little “social utility” doesn’t mean that there isn’t at least some historical interest, I guess, esp. when the libidinal imaginary features so prominently in many different political spheres and conversations.

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Welp. Okay then. It's actually worse than I thought.

“tall/small couples are problematic because there’s a power imbalance” is NOT one of the cold takes i expected to see at the end of 2018, and YET,

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TUMBLR NOW BLOCKING THE WAYBACK MACHINE

I just… I don’t know how to respond to this with anything other than an infuriated fucking howl, honestly? I’ve checked this and @essayofthoughts has checked this and there’s confirmation that Tumblr is actively banning archival efforts so it looks like this is not a bug.

If you were planning on archiving anything from this website, you’re too late. It is all going to fucking burn. Not only is Tumblr committed to destroying the platform, they are committed to absolutely fucking anyone who is trying to conserve any part of it.

Fuck you @staff. Fuck you.

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Policy on Explicit Artwork & Underage Characters

This post is to clarify Pillowfort’s position on sexually explicit visual art, particularly art containing minors. We apologize for not clarifying our position on this earlier; we have been working on revising the ToS to address these issues, but an incident arose today that necessitated us taking action on this matter, so it seems necessary to put things in plain terms now.

As of this statement, Pillowfort will not allow explicit visual art of characters that appear to be underage. Now, due to the inherently subjective nature of trying to determine the age of a fictional character in a stylized medium, the “gray area” cases will be up to the discretion of the moderator reviewing the content. Broadly, if your characters are close to 18 and could plausibly or arguably be of age based on appearance, that will be allowed. We are not going to comb through the wiki of a particular fandom to try and find the canonical age of a fictional character and then try to figure out if the character in the art piece is supposed to be represented at their canonical age or not. Similarly, many works of art contain sexual activity as a theme of adolescence and coming-of-age– I’m sure you yourself can think of many movies, shows, etc. you’ve seen that featured underage characters in a sexual relationship, some even explicitly– and even if you wanted to argue that art that explored adolescent sexuality was fine and it’s ‘just pornography’ that should be censured, we aren’t going to be the arbiters of what is art vs. ‘merely’ pornography. Therefore, sexual depictions of characters in later stages of adolescence may broadly be considered ‘safe.’

However, any explicit or sexual art of a character that appears to be physically pre-pubescent or barely pubescent (i.e. not plausibly or arguably of age, or even close to it) will be prohibited. We realize this decision may anger some people, but we have devoted a considerable amount of thought to this decision and we feel this is the best approach for our community.

Importantly, we don’t want people to worry that this heralds a broader ban on ‘problematic’ content. When it comes to fictional depictions or descriptions of divisive subjects such as incest, rape, abuse, etc., we do not intend to restrict that content, for largely the same reasons as discussed above with regards to ‘gray-area’ underage content. We understand these subjects can be distressing for many, and we do request that people posting content that is potentially upsetting tag such posts with the relevant terms so that it can be avoided by those who don’t wish to view such content. The only situation we foresee penalizing the posting of this content would be a case already covered in our ToS, where a bad-faith user appears to be intentionally spamming completely unrelated tags or communities with violent or sexual content with the intent or result of disrupting the usual functioning of that tag or community.

We will update the ToS to reflect these new guidelines soon. As always, if these new guidelines are unsatisfactory to you and you want a refund for your PayPal payment to us, you can email us at info@pillowfort.io and we will process your refund as soon as we can.

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