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[yourlocalnpd]

hey systems I would advise you to keep a certain number of things out of your bio because OSDDID inherently says a lot about your past and triggers so there are certain details only your close friends should know, and not just anyone perusing the internet

your age - predators are more than happy to fake their age to match yours. Being young and plural are unfortunately traits prone to manipulation

your headcount - aside from assholes fakeclaiming you, people can take it and use it against you.

who your trauma holders are, and, more generally, the roles of your alters. it's basically telling abusers who to target and who to avoid

any information about your littles whatsoever. For all the world knows, you have none. same with who age regresses.

any system descriptors beyond DID/OSDD1/PDID/etc. the internet does not need to know if you have complex DID or something like that; it's your trauma.

what your triggers are. people will try to trigger you on purpose. this includes front triggers

all your other disorders, particularly personality disorders - abusers can try to make you dependent, "favorite" them, avoid others, etc.

These aren't rules, and there are obviously different situations that call for different levels of privacy. Just use your judgment: who can see this? anyone who came across my blog or people I friended on simply plural? trusted friends on simply plural? Systems are very vulnerable to further abuse because of their fragmentation and trauma mindsets. Don't let anyone take advantage of that.

[yourlocalnpd]

@springtrapbackroom THIS thank you for this addition

I've seen,, a scary amount of people put who their hypersexual alters are in their carrd or something, and then also say they're 16. That's. Not safe. The last thing you want predators to know is if you're hypersexual/were a victim of CSA.

With the Discord sys intros as well, I've had my intro screenshotted and shared without my permission or knowledge. Even if you're just sharing with friends, be careful with what you put there. Things can turn into blackmail real quick with that.

hey systems I would advise you to keep a certain number of things out of your bio because OSDDID inherently says a lot about your past and triggers so there are certain details only your close friends should know, and not just anyone perusing the internet

your age - predators are more than happy to fake their age to match yours. Being young and plural are unfortunately traits prone to manipulation

your headcount - aside from assholes fakeclaiming you, people can take it and use it against you.

who your trauma holders are, and, more generally, the roles of your alters. it's basically telling abusers who to target and who to avoid

any information about your littles whatsoever. For all the world knows, you have none. same with who age regresses.

any system descriptors beyond DID/OSDD1/PDID/etc. the internet does not need to know if you have complex DID or something like that; it's your trauma.

what your triggers are. people will try to trigger you on purpose. this includes front triggers

all your other disorders, particularly personality disorders - abusers can try to make you dependent, "favorite" them, avoid others, etc.

These aren't rules, and there are obviously different situations that call for different levels of privacy. Just use your judgment: who can see this? anyone who came across my blog or people I friended on simply plural? trusted friends on simply plural? Systems are very vulnerable to further abuse because of their fragmentation and trauma mindsets. Don't let anyone take advantage of that.

[yourlocalnpd]

people have got to get normaler about systems

[yourlocalnpd]

hey systems I would advise you to keep a certain number of things out of your bio because OSDDID inherently says a lot about your past and triggers so there are certain details only your close friends should know, and not just anyone perusing the internet

your age - predators are more than happy to fake their age to match yours. Being young and plural are unfortunately traits prone to manipulation

your headcount - aside from assholes fakeclaiming you, people can take it and use it against you.

who your trauma holders are, and, more generally, the roles of your alters. it's basically telling abusers who to target and who to avoid

any information about your littles whatsoever. For all the world knows, you have none. same with who age regresses.

any system descriptors beyond DID/OSDD1/PDID/etc. the internet does not need to know if you have complex DID or something like that; it's your trauma.

what your triggers are. people will try to trigger you on purpose. this includes front triggers

all your other disorders, particularly personality disorders - abusers can try to make you dependent, "favorite" them, avoid others, etc.

These aren't rules, and there are obviously different situations that call for different levels of privacy. Just use your judgment: who can see this? anyone who came across my blog or people I friended on simply plural? trusted friends on simply plural? Systems are very vulnerable to further abuse because of their fragmentation and trauma mindsets. Don't let anyone take advantage of that.

[yourlocalnpd]

I really think we need to be having conversations more often about how to figure out if you're being abusive, and how to address it if you are.

Abuse isn't just done by one demographic, or in one specific way. Most abusers justify their actions to themselves and do not think of what is happening as abuse.

It's dangerous to just assume that you don't have the ability to abuse someone due to your Pureness of Heart or oppressed status. Thinking this way can make you more likely to harm someone.

I have known people who talk a lot about abuse, have read a lot about it, and have been abused themselves, who become abusers and don't notice because they see their victim status as overriding any concern they should have about how they treat others. It seems impossible to them that abuse could come FROM them rather than always automatically only happening TO them.

You can abuse people. I can abuse people. Abusers are human beings who choose to exert control over others. Not storybook monsters you have nothing in common with.

Let's talk about how to make sure we keep our friends, loved ones, and other community members safe from harmful behavior, not just from Total Irredeemable Obvious Monsters.

[yourlocalnpd]

you know sometimes people ask me why I'm pro self diagnosis and there's a couple reasons

Knowing that I had anxiety and depression as a child protected me from gaslighting because I knew I wasn't "just overreacting." I got diagnosed a few years later and was told I should've received treatment much sooner.

The first psychologist I saw told me that I didn't have ADHD, just really intense anxiety. I disagreed and followed up with a psychiatrist. He diagnosed me, my sister, and my dad with ADHD, and all of us got medication that made life far more manageable. None of us would have that aid if I hadn't done research and pressed doctors for actual help

Having a name for what I was experiencing let me research resources for self help, and my mother has done the same thing to treat her anxiety when seeing a doctor wasn't viable. Since then she's attended mental health sessions at public community centers and has been able to work on her anxiety

Psychologists and psychiatrists see a lot of people every day for relatively brief sessions, and they don't know everything about your brain after talking for an hour once a month. Of course, trust experts, but your lived experiences are also very important sources and it's important to seek second opinions if you feel you need help.

[yourlocalnpd]

i am human and i am flawed because of it but there is an innate capability to connect in the human brain and i think maybe it's okay to start out by connecting to yourself however that may look

[yourlocalnpd]

guys i dont stop being paranoid because of your low self esteem. i cant turn off the paranoia just because you cant take the fact my paranoia extends to you like dude i also wish it didnt

"i know you have paranoid delusions and trauma but why didn't you-" not the greatest start mi amigo

[yourlocalnpd]

"i know you have paranoid delusions and trauma but why didn't you-" not the greatest start mi amigo

[yourlocalnpd]

So many of my NPD traits come from being told the exact opposite of what the disorder is all about. I spent years and years being constantly told both through actions and words that I was inferior. That I didn’t matter. And I will be damned if I let anyone make me feel inferior again.

That’s really what it boils down to. It’s not about being more than. It's about the intense dread of being less than.

[yourlocalnpd]

A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.

Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.

What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.

Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.

What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.

Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.

What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.

Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.

It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

-Xanthe

[yourlocalnpd]

the preteens of the internet are not ready for my take on system responsibility

[yourlocalnpd]

I recall seeing something that was like BPD or HPD subsets on Instagram aaaages ago, and I was thinking about it and it would be pretty fun to make some silly NPD versions. I don't have many ideas except for "gifted kid who was praised solely for intelligence and then grew up and they're just Normal now" so if anyone would like to send me some ideas that would literally be amazing?? Also pls show interest if you like this idea because otherwise I might lose motivation

[yourlocalnpd]

a delusion does not mean a person should ever be dismissed, brushed off or disregarded.

delusions are beliefs that are extremely hard to shake regardless of how self aware we are.

a delusional person is not quirky, not rambling nothingness for the sake of attention, they are serious.

from believing youre dead or dying (cotard's) to believing your halucinations were real, these things are terifying for us. theyre real for us.

just because you know its not true doesnt mean we're making it up. we deserve to be heard, listened to and helped just like you and your issues.

delusional is not and should never be nor should it ever have been an insult. its a serious issue. take it seriously.

[yourlocalnpd]

shout out to my fellow npd blogs love yall you guys are the coolest <3

npd scentered/safe blogs

[npd scentered/safe blogs]

active

@ndcultureis

@narcissisticpdcultureis

@enigma-in-reality

@loverofmirage

@npdemu

@npd--bakugou

@selfdxculture (last posted sept.)

@yourlocalnpd (last posted sept.)

@fixingantinpdableism (last posted aug.)

@narcissist-hoarding (our term hoard blog)

@npdfavs

@prideisforeveryonebutcops

@a-sip-of-milo

@narc0path

@nicepersondisorder

@edrecovery-space (we have not posted in a while but are still active)

@fantasy-store

@cpunkwitch

@your-fave-is-crippled

@vineyard-edits

@archival-arrival

@ego-est-ignis

@objectumluv

@butchcoining

@shards-0f-glasss

@narcissism-awareness (last posted may)

@mischiefmanifold

@npders (last posted aug.)

@queersrus

@apparentlysubhuman

@sapphic-horror

@your-npd-meme-plug (last posted july)

@puffl3m0n / @acetrappolaswife

@pyrocultureis

@hauntedselves

@empath-abuse-awareness

@citrine-rabbit

@narcissists-true-crime (last posted nov)

@kodiescove

@foolishnpd

archives

@npdarchive

@npddoll

inactive

@npd-headcanons (as of 2022)

@npd-aspd-house-blog (as of 2017)

@npd-feelings (as of 2017)

@npd-characteroftheday-blog (as of 2016)

@npdcutie (as of 2015)

@mentally-ill-and-nd-culture-is (as of 2022)

if any blogs would like to be added or removed please let us know! same goes for any blogs you may have/know that arent on the list and you think should be added.

does not have to be a blog specifically for npd content but at least safe for those with npd.

i would also prefer to include blogs that are screen reader and dyslexic friendly. ie no non-sans serif fonts or coloured text and/or at least includes plane text. as well as blogs that are pro-(researched) selfdx.

[aspd, bpd and hpd bloglists coming soon]

id's in alt text.

[yourlocalnpd]

ID: Two drawn images. The first image is of a pill bottle labeled as "Hard To Swallow Pills" and has the NPD flag on the label. The second image shows the pills being held in a hand, which are labled as "other people exist outside of your perception of them and you exist outside of the perception of other people". End of ID

[yourlocalnpd]

fuck it. I'm a good person BECAUSE I'm a narcissist. I'm fiercely loyal to my best friends because I value them as much as I do myself, I'd protect them to the ends of the earth because they are some of the best people in the world. I'll tell people to fuck off when they insult my little sister because I'm a narcissist and that's *my* blood you're picking a bone with. I do kind things because I know they're kind and it will make me feel better about everything. Maybe my reasoning isnt what youd like it to be. But goddamn I am going to be good because I have NPD