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I'm sorry, but can someone PLEASE explain why Flubber is on this list?

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I made this post exactly 250 days ago by the time this reblog posts and seeing as it is still getting attention to this day (which I absolutely love that people are still relating to my silly little words btw), I wanted to reiterate something.

Relating to this post doesn't necessarily mean you are asexual. It just means you are as human as the rest of us. I always like to make the point that we are all different and have different needs.

Not wanting sex as much as society tells you you should doesn't mean you are asexual, just like wanting sex doesn't make you not asexual. Asexuality isn't related to whether you have a high or low libido. It's whether or not you feel sexual attraction.

This being said, if you do thing you might be asexual, then I highly recommend talking with other asexual people about their experiences or even just reading stories of how they found out they were asexual.

I'm coming to hate the weight society puts on sex more and more the more I talk with people. Sex is not something you can't live without. It's might be one of the pleasures of life, but it's not a pleasure that everyone wants to participate in. And that's fine. Everyone gets the choice of how they live their life, and everyone's mind works differently. So instead of shunning those differences, maybe we should celebrate them instead and just accept that everyone's a little different, and that includes whether or not they wish to have sex.

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Petition to give every aroace person a free ticket to a rage room every month as gratitude for keeping their shit together and not pulling everyone's hair off in the face of society's amatonormative bullshit

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Often, I think about this dream I had months ago. It's been so long since I had it that the fragment of what is left is blurred like raindrops burying whatever image the water was reflecting. But I will never forget how I felt in the dream. I had a wife and a child. I loved them both so much, kissing my beloved on her forehead every chance I got, and holding her in my arms as often as possible. It all felt so real and so warm. For once I was truly home, not at the house I call home. People chastised our love, but I was so happy I couldn’t care less. I wanted to show her off to the whole world and then give the whole world to her.

And then I woke up, hazy and heavy. How I wanted to go back to something that never existed. It broke my heart. But it made me think. Why do people say my happiness from that dream is bad? Nothing felt more pure and void of hate than it, so why is it bad for me to feel pure admiration for a woman compared to a man? Why must I be chastised for loving my wife while no one blinks an eye at a man hating his? Two people can love each other simply because they do; it doesn't have to align with your beliefs about what love should look like. Love does not follow anyone’s rules; nor does happiness So, if love and happiness get me sent to Hell, so be it. Millions of years of torment would be worth it if only I could live that dream in real life. And when the end comes when me and my wife are old and withered by our days and our child a happy and successful person, then I'll know I did good by myself. And I’ll welcome Hell with a smile.

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One of the hardest things for me about being asexual as well as a recovering people pleaser and neurodivergent is the fact that I have to set boundaries about how I'm treated and what makes me feel uncomfortable.

And because of the fact I was raised to basically bury any negative emotion I had that might inconvenience someone, I'm also really bad at communicating my boundaries and when I feel that they have been crossed because I simply don't want to inconvenience them with my problems . So much so, my inability to communicate my frustrations about my boundaries being crossed eventually boiled over to me unintentionally breaking off a friendship entirely because they kept unknowingly started making me uncomfortable and I dreaded being around them after awhile.

So, until I'm okay enough to say it out loud, I'm going to say it here.

- I'm not okay with being called hot or sexy as a compliment, even if it's a joke or we've known each other for years and I know you don't mean it. It makes me feel sexualized and uncomfortable.

- I don't want to have sex or be sexual in relationships.

- I hate when people treat me like I'm allo in conversation and treat me like I actually want to fuck thinks and make jokes about it.

- And I hate when people who I've come out to conveniently forget to fit their narrative of how they see me.

And maybe in the end, this has less to do with me being asexual and more to do with the kinda messed up 'old fashion' way I was raised where my emotions got punished or ignored and if I ever spoke up, I was talking back. And it all amounted to irreversible damage to my mind. So setting boundaries and expressing my emotions for once in my life feels wrong to me.

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bucky and yelena my beloveds 💜 happy pride month, friends

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✨Pride Knight Din✨

a couple of people asked for more flags, and i was more than happy to do so. now we have a rainbow ✌🏽☺️

*click for better quality bc tumblr is like that™*

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This is a reminder for my ace men out there:

you are loved

you are valid

you are an important part of our community

anyone who tells you that you’re odd for existing as an ace man is a dick and should not be listened to or spoken with

i hope you have a happy pride

your asexuality is incredible

your asexuality is masculine (if you want it to be)

your asexuality is cool

i’m proud of you

i am so glad to know you are part of this community with me

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Featuring Asexual Pride today on day 15 of Pride Month! We’re representing Asexual Pride with a White-breasted Nuthatch on a ring of Dahlias 🖤🩶🤍💜

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Happy pride! 🌈

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Porn bots love to find my blog and just… it’s giving aphobia.

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“Oh, you’re cold. Let me warm you up.”

- My autistic, ace self to my cat, not realising it sounds like I’m propositioning her with something other than cuddles.

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It still bothers me that mainstream society is like 'if you don't have sex with your partner they have a right to leave/cheat on you.'

It's like if you're ace you don't deserve love or a relationship because there's some kind of imagined barrier to sex.

Not every ace is sex repulsed.

But by the act of not wanting sex they want to deny us love, emotional intimacy, non-sexual physical intimacy, and everything that goes along with a relationship besides sex.

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I'm not lonely because I'm aromantic I'm lonely because I'm akward as hell and not very approachable

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I’m so proud to be Aroace. I’m proud that I am able to truly be myself in my own body and to express myself in a way that is the most comfortable. I’m proud that I know that you don’t need to have intercourse to have a healthy relationship, but instead just being there for your partner. I’m proud that there are other people who are Aroace and share the same struggles as me. I’m proud that we are becoming more seen and heard by others, and I am so grateful for that.

For my other Aroace siblings, keep on being yourself, and have a wonderful day. Don’t let anyone force you to do things that you don’t want to do. 🧡🤍🩵 And for those who are strictly in the Asexual or Aromantic spectrum, I care for you a bunch, and I love you.