#Conversationalists

[evandorkin]

The Tear Them Apart Podcast returns to talk about a movie where conversation means death. Join Evan Dorkin and Paul Yellovich for a very deep dive into PONTYPOOL (2008).

Listen wherever you get your podcasts or at tearthemapart.com

[wickedzeevyln]

Walk Ahead

I’ll be long gone when you chance upon this letter, far from earshot enough not to hear the groans of a disgruntled world, maybe a little less distressed for I no longer swim in the pool of living filled up with the viscous goo of the daily grind. Should you find days where moments used to sit, scarce of our conversation and orphaned of the talks we have, falter not, for the world you live in is…

[agirlwithglam]

Ok guys so I no longer preach being only interestED in conversations. Hear me out because if you find that you’re still not able to hold a conversation, like me- this is what was most likely holding you back.

THE TRUTH ABOUT BEING ABLE TO HOLD A CONVERSATION

(and it’s not asking questions!!!!)

Okay so listen up. I know many people tell you that all you need to do is keep asking questions about the other person and keep them talking the entire time. Once upon a time, I thought this too. Then I tried it out. I kept asking others questions and being interested in them but I just couldn’t understand why they still didn’t seem so eager. But then I looked at other people and the way they had conversations and I realised… they tell stories too.

And that’s what keeps a conversation going. Tell stories about your own life. Talk about yourself as well! I say ‘as well’ because you need the right amount of talking and listening as well.

People want to listen to you too, they want to listen about your interesting life! When talk to them about something you’re passionate about or something that happened to you that relates to the conversation, they’re actually interested guys!!

Stop thinking that you have nothing interesting to say because people do find you interesting. A lot of them DO want to listen to you talk.

When you tell others about something in your life, they will want to learn more, they will be curious. Sometimes because they’re actually interested, or because they’re like you and they want to make you happy and keep the conversation going.

But what I’m NOT saying is to talk about yourself all the time. If you yap about yourself the entire time, others will start to get bored. Listen, people do want to learn more about you, but they also love to talk about themselves.

Make it a conversation where you’re both chipping in and also giving others space, time and your attention while they talk.

Remember: you are interesting, you are worthy of attention and being listened to. Once you understand this, conversations will come easily to you!!

[see-arcane]

Jonathan shouting from his window: How are we feeling out there tonight? 😀

The wolves: ?

Jonathan: Hahaha, yeeeeah! 😁

Jonathan: I am not feeling good!!! 😊

Jonathan: "I don't know, I just feel like maybe going into my second month of Castle Dracula Captivity is having a negative effect on my mental state. What do you think?"

The moth that flew in the window to bonk against the lamps: ?

Jonathan: "You're right, you're so right"

[honeytonedhottie]

the art of conversation (from a professional yapper)⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍉

just wanted to preface this by saying that NOT everyone is extremely sociable and thats totally okay. this post is to help improve ur conversational skills and charisma ✨

WHY LEARNING TO BE SOCIAL IS IMPORTANT ;

social skills are literally the FOUNDATION of effective communication. its important bcuz it allows u to build meaningful relationships, express urself, collaborate with others etc.

when ur learn how to be an effective communicator u can connect more deeply with the people around u. being more social can also provide u with opportunities, and in general make ur life SO much easier. not to mention u have a lot more fun.

SUPERIORITY/INFERIORITY COMPLEX ;

an inferiority complex is the feeling of inadequacy, an insecurity that ur not on the same level as someone else. a superiority complex is the opposite, u can come off as smug or condescending. both are bad in their own right.

the way that u can combat this is by adopting the mindset that you are neither below or above anyone else, and no one else is above or below you.

doing so can kind of even the playing field of conversation in ur mind and make sure that ur not feeling some kind of way before going into a conversation bcuz when u let ur superiority/inferiority complex go by un-fixed it can sabotage communication and not give ppl the change to get to know u.

UNLEARN SHAME ;

first u gotta start off with thinking about ways that shame has influenced ur thoughts or actions. an example that im sure a lot of us could relate to is the whole cringe concept.

to help unlearn shame i recommend journalling, therapy, and mindfulness so that then u can let urself ENJOY things again, without having the looming fear of the judgement of others.

also no genuinely happy person is going to take time out of their day to shame u, only a loser would do that. and if ur the one shaming others for liking something bcuz of ur own insecurity, get that fixed and get a life.

PREPPING FOR CONVERSATION ;

when approaching someone or starting conversation with someone for the first time, a rly good way to start it is with a compliment. dont start it by saying hi cuz i think thats so awkward 😭

compliment them for something, their response can also tell u a lot about them also bcuz some ppl will take the compliment well and some ppl will serve u a dirty look and that alone can tell u if u rly wanna be conversing with that person.

LEARN TO LAUGH ;

since we've already talked about why learning to not feel embarrassed about every little thing is important, here's what to do when something like that comes up. literally laugh.

for example the other day someone whom i've never spoken to before came up to me and started talking to me so familiarly, like with their arm around me and everything and i just went with it 💀 until he noticed that he had mistaked me for someone else, but its okay cuz now i have a new friend. LAUGH ABOUT IT.

dont take everything so seriously, being able to enjoy and take a joke is what makes conversation so much fun. note, do NOT mistake taking a joke as taking disrespect bcuz u should not take that, there is a distinct difference.

the biggest advice i can give as a yapper is to be more lighthearted and not take everything seriously. bcuz i feel like when we take everything so seriously we become rigid and thats not hot, be a breath of fresh air instead ✨

[ifishouldvanish]

Shipping Alurox is great not just because they're hot or because of The Themes™ (of which there are many) but also because I like to imagine Richter Belmont in a situation where not just one but two of the men around him are down SO bad for the guy who killed his mom—including the morally unimpeachable, literal Living Legend who has been fighting beside his family for generations.

Like Richter watching Mizrak act strange around Olrox is one thing, but him having to endure watching Alucard chat and laugh and old-man-flirt with Olrox is at least a hundred times funnier to me.

[districtunrest]

"Haymitch is such a yapper/over-sharer!!"

or, SC couldn't restrain herself with all the exposition & lore this time around

[sistercara]

i wish for a moment trannies would burst as shamelessly into my inbox as chasers and terfs do daily

[austinslounge]

This woman gets it!! 😄 Hands down agree.

Austin's ability to be totally and fully present with you and the people/fans he meets and interacts with is such an attractive trait. 🫠

Everyone who meets him says the same thing. He's so attentive.

The comments in the comments section were spot on too.

Credit: @ tfay_10 via TikTok

[crosshairslongasslegs]

nice pabu local: “thanks for the help crosshair!”

crosshair: eeeeuuGghhhrrmmh

[sketchbot9000]

"The default mode is meek, shy, and avoidant. This can of course be switched off to activate the "Aggressive" behavior. We highly recommend only activating this toggle when the Drone is well away from personal of value."

-Guidebook for the I.V.D. (Indiscriminate Violence Drone)

[agirlwithglam]

conversation tips + how to be funny

talk about the other person. i know, this is said basically everywhere so im not gonna go too deep into it. everybody likes talking about themselves, where they've been, experiences they've had, etc. so just keep asking questions about themselves!

another thing id like to mention is don't just let them talk the whole time, thats not how a conversation works. instead add in your own opinions, and experiences! make them laugh!

literally just find out things about the other person- linking back to the first point- be genuinely curious about the other person. be curious about them! how they think, how they are, find out stuff about them that you can use later- ex: if they mention they like star neckless, maybe one day you can buy a star neckless for them to show that you care!

absurd analogies.

share funny & embarrassing stories from your past! this makes you look more confident and people feel more comfortable around you bc you're able to laugh about a cringe moment in your past. but its best to do this when the laugh is at your expense, and not at others.

make people feel good about themselves. make them feel special.

watch how other people do it. take inspo from others! you can even look at celebrities interviews and see how they've made people laugh and have an interesting conversation. some rly good interviews that i'd recommend are: ryan gosling / the tv show percy jackson / Zendaya & Tom Holland /

finish other people's sentences with something funny and ridiculous. when someone's trying to remember what they were about to say, you can fill in with a ridiculously funny idea to end their sentence! dont overuse this tho, otherwise it can get pretty annoying.

EXPRESSIONNNN!!!! laugh at their jokes, nod along, be sympathetic. just express and overreact in a way that makes them feel heard and special!!

playful teasing.

[fullcolorfright]

Can’t stop thinking about the hat this guy I chatted with in a dream recently was wearing. I think he was advocating for it

[honeytonedhottie]

magnetism⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🫧

IDENTIFY THE CURRENT VIBE ;

people can sense confidence and love in a person and this ultimately brings a good vibe. but on the flip side people can also sense shame and anger in a person and that brings a bad vibe so to be magnetic u must be conscious of the vibes ur giving off. for example...💬🎀

when saying ur self concept affirmations -> leads to feeling more confident -> leads to ur MAGNETISM ✨

OBSERVE DONT ABSORB ;

to keep ur vibe bright and magnetic u need to protect ur mind and not absorb the negativity that might be around you. at the end of the day ur mind is something that u CAN control and u decide and accept what u feed to ur mind as truth. this means being UNBOTHERED if whats going on around u is hectic and protecting ur peace because u can!

WHAT IT MEANS TO BE MAGNETIC ;

to be a magnetic person means that you are passionate and charismatic, and that passion + charisma attracts others...💬🎀

pursue what ur passionate about continuously. dont be afraid to put urself out there (i wrote about it in the it girls magazine) because putting urself out there often FREES you which in turn makes you even more magnetic. dont feel bad about expressing urself. when something is magnetic it has energy, some things to maybe pay attention to...💬🎀

body language

the words that u use

steering clear of excessive gossip

steering clear of negativity

listening instead of just hearing (this is huge btw)

BEING A GOOD LISTENER ;

make an effort to be engaged with whomever ur having a conversation with. focus on listening rather then just hearing and remember the little things about people because its not that hard and it makes them feel so seen and u can literally make someones day by simply remembering something about them.

make sure that when ur having a conversation with someone u give them a chance to speak and dont keep urself as the topic of conversation all the time because ppl love to talk about themselves too so u gotta give them a chance. thats how u become a good conversationalist.

BE KIND ;

people will be more attracted to u if ur warm and sweet and kind so make sure to be nice and that goes without saying! be mindful of others because magnetism is all about how u make people feel. say please and thank you, say good morning to people BE POLITE. let ur positivity radiate from your 💗 heart 💗

[deliciouskeys]

Holy fuck. @xieyaohuan and I are yappers. This is very much unplanned freestyle stream of consciousness conversation about Homelander and Homelander-adjacent things. No promises on the quality, but I thought the conversational flow was pretty good. Topics are timestamped (do not look at the total time, please).

And apologies for the laptop microphone (sounds like at least one of us is speaking out of a jar and no in silico dialogue enhancement could rescue it). I only have one good microphone and that would not work for a 2 way conversation -_-

00:00:00:00 We are recording a podcast, apparently

00:00:57:07 How we discovered The Boys

00:05:40:01 How we became obsessed with Homelander

00:13:28:20 Madelyn Stillwell

00:16:01:14 Nerfing of powers

00:16:57:03 How Xieyaohuan started writing fic

00:20:06:06 How Deliciouskeys started writing fic

00:27:48:15 Deliciouskeys’ previous fandoms compared to The Boys fandom

00:29:52:17 Xieyaohuan’s previous fandoms compared to the boys fandom

00:37:33:02 Reading incoming questions live

00:40:13:00 When did Butchlander click for us

00:47:47:12 Xieyaohuan’s ao3 name: Frenchcroatiansquid

00:50:36:00 “Fears” about season 5

00:56:46:01 Kripke’s idea for an ending (and puritanism)

01:00:14:24 Morality of The Boys as revealed by Termite scenes (yeah...)

01:03:40:02 Homelander getting depowered ending, supe culture wars

01:08:24:20 Homelander & Ryan

01:16:36:14 Billy Butcher’s ending

01:20:31:13 Mothers

01:23:46:27 How fandom has affected our real life

01:28:04:01 Sticking around until the end of a franchise

01:30:06:06 What's stalling Xieyaohuan's fic All God’s Children Took Their Toll

01:36:05:11 What's stalling Deliciouskeys' fic The Selfish Gene

01:43:16:17 Homelander’s behavior in the B6 lab

01:47:46:17 Maevelander

01:50:22:20 Homelander’s various parents

02:00:37:06 Back to Maeve

02:05:27:16 Starlander

02:07:48:07 Viclander

02:09:24:21 Sagelander

02:18:57:17 Soldier Boy x homelander

02:20:38:14 NOTP’s (if there are any)

02:26:16:18 Hughlander

02:27:27:12 Firelander

02:32:35:27 We attempt to come up with underutilized tropes in HL fics

02:36:52:27 Beccalander

02:41:20:06 Homelander x Todd

02:42:49:02 Would we be fans of Homelander within-universe?

02:44:49:14 Homelander-is-a-nerd fanon theory

02:47:34:18 Public vs private display in Homelander’s apartment

02:50:22:14 Kripke’s heavy hand with themes

02:51:29:13 Favorite scene of season 3 and 4

02:53:08:14 In conclusion, we are yappers about The Boys

[trashy-greyjoy]

maybe i'm just not used to actors actually having chemistry these days, but something about carmy's conversations with sydney just feel more genuine and (to quote ayo) more intimate than the conversations they have with other people. they both just seem so open and ready to know more about each other. carmy consistently prompts her keep talking and asks questions and neither of them really seem to have reservations about sharing their vulnerabilities and worries. like they can just talk to each other with full honesty and openness and just a natural desire to know more about the other person and i really love that.