#self reflection

[girlwithrituals]

LISTS TO MAKE WHEN FEELING DOWN

• list all the things you'd do if you weren't so afraid.

• the nicest thing anyone's ever done for you.

• the people you'd like to weed out of your life.

• all the reasons why you're so amazing!

• things that always makes you laugh.

• the major losses you've survived in your life.

• all the qualities you like the most about yourself.

• things you'd get rid of to make the world a better place.

• the best gifts you've ever been given.

• all the ways you've changed for the better.

• the things you must do before you die.

• how you'd like to change your life for the better.

• your favorite life quotes that inspire you.

• what values you need in your life to have a fulfilling life.

• the things you won't tolerate no matter what.

• any miracles you've seen happen.

[nenelonomh]

stop looking for inspiration and actually create what you want to see

[creatingnikki]

Have you eaten? Did you sleep well? Boring questions but when asked sincerely with a real desire to check in about your well being melt the heart.

People who don’t call you back? Blah. People who talk and talk but never walk the walk? Blah. People who guilt you into feeling a certain way? Blah. People who rush you? Blah.

The three meals you eat in a day, the seven hours of sleep you manage to get in the house you’re in, the fruits you eat, the coffee you drink, the books you read, the jhumkas you wear—it’s all bought by you, you provide for yourself. The gas bill, the electricity and Wi-Fi, the clothes, the groceries, even the overpriced shots at the club—you feed and finance yourself.

So, why should another get a chance to fuck with your mind? Or fuck you over? What right do they have in your life, what say do they get on you? Nada. They aren’t even fucking you. And you remember that Facebook quote you came across when you were 14? If they don’t feed you, finance you, or fuck you, their opinion doesn’t matter.

Whose does? Yours, love.

And what is your opinion? It’s okay to be unsure and to take your time. Don’t let anyone pressure you into declaring feelings. The best decisions you’ve made with regards to people have come from silence and distance.

Don’t be a dick to others but don’t let them be one to you either. Even if sugar-coated, even if window-dressed. That’s so 2011.

[selfhealingmoments]

[shamelesslyimpurrfect]

(X)

[thingswedontunbox]

[theambitiouswoman]

Green Flags in Communication 💚💬

"I want to know when I hurt your feelings."

This shows they are willing to understand and acknowledge the impact of their actions.

"I don't want you to feel alone in this."

This shows empathy and indicates that the person is supportive and does not want the person to deal with issues alone.

"I've been struggling with ___”

This demonstrates vulnerability and trust, as the person is open about their struggles.

"How have you been feeling about ___? I know it's been on your mind a lot."

This shows concern for the other person's issues or worries, showing that they are listening and care about what's important to the other person.

"I feel __ when you __; are you open to trying __ next time?"

This is an example of constructive communication.

"What do you need from me when this happens with your family?"

This shows awareness and sensitivity to the persons family dynamics and a willingness to provide support.

"I appreciate when you ___.”

Expressing appreciation is vital for positive reinforcement and acknowledging the efforts and qualities of the other person.

"I didn't handle that well."

This is a sign of self-awareness and accountability, recognizing one's own mistakes and being open to learning and growth.

"I'm sorry, I was wrong to say that. I'll try to be more mindful in the future."

Shows you are able to apologize genuinely and a commitment to improving behavior.

"Tell me more about that; I'm really interested in hearing your perspective."

Indicates a genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings.

"I noticed you seemed a bit off today. Is everything okay?"

It shows you are attentive to the other person's emotional state and a readiness to provide support.

"I'm here for you, no matter what you need."

Offers unconditional support, creating a sense of security in the relationship.

"I love how passionate you are about your hobbies. It's inspiring to see."

Expresses admiration for the other person's interests.

"Let's work on a solution together. What do you think would be fair?"

Focusing on collaboration rather than conflict.

"I trust your judgment on this."

Trust and respect for the other person's decision-making abilities.

"Your happiness is important to me. Let's make sure you're taking time for yourself."

Prioritizes the other person's happiness and emphasizes the importance of self care.

"It's okay to feel that way. Do you want to talk about it more?"

Validates the other person's feelings.

"I appreciate how you handled that situation. You're really good at ___."

Praises specific strengths or skills, boosting the other person's self-esteem.

"I know we disagree, but I respect your point of view."

Acknowledges differences in opinion while still maintaining respect and understanding.

[honeytonedhottie]

long list of self care practices⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍈

brush ur hair

make urself a warm drink (tea, hot chocolate etc)

light a candle

go outside and get some fresh air

dance to a song that u rly love (look at me/heart-shaker by twice)

put on a face mask

stretch ur body

do a guided meditation

journalling (shadow work/writing in ur diary)

have a bubble bath (or use a bath bomb or bath milk)

say ur affirmations

binge watch a comfort show

take a break from social media/ur phone

read a rly rly juicy book

paint ur nails

use ur gua sha

oil ur hair or do a hair mask

eat one of ur favorite meals

take a long nap

give urself a pedicure

take care of ur lips (exfoliate, lip plumper, whatever u like to do)

hydrate

do guided yoga

listen to ur playlists

lymphatic drainage massage

[sl8tersstuff]

I live my life in a constant state of grief of what I did, what I didn’t do, and what I can never do.

[days-may]

[maxiglow]

JZ

[agirlunfilteredsblog]

KIND REMINDERS 🤍

1. You are someone’s dream girl exactly the way you are right now.

We put so much emphasis on growth and getting to that “next best place”, which is fine, but we always forget that we deserve self-love as we are right now. It does not mean that you aren’t at your “best” physically and/or mentally that you aren’t deserving of love, kindness, and respect.

2. Perspective is everything

Stop stressing over that one bad grade you received at school. In ten years, you won’t even remember what teacher gave it to you. Focus your energy on things that’ll have lasting impacts. When you look back on your life, you want to see the beauty of it, not the anguish.

3. Growth isn’t linear

Don’t blame yourself for messing up. We aren’t perfect and we are bound to mess up every once in a while. Learn from your mistakes, and try to not repeat them. And if you do, that’s okay, there’s always another time. Growth has no time limit.

4. You are not a bad person

If you are sitting here constantly asking yourself if you are a bad person or underserving of love, I’m here to tell you one thing: bad people don’t worry about whether they are perceived as “good” or “bad”. Give yourself grace, and stop letting your overthinking consume you.

So much love,

A girl unfiltered 💋

[nenelonomh]

the role of kindness in self-development

kindness plays a vital role in self-development for several reasons. first, it enhances mental well-being by reducing stress and anxiety, and increasing happiness and self-esteem. when you practice kindness, you foster positive relationships and build trust, which can lead to a stronger support network and a sense of belonging.

additionally, kindness encourages empathy and understanding, helping you to see things from others’ perspectives and resolve conflicts more effectively. this not only improves your social interactions but also contributes to personal growth by making you more compassionate and resilient.

building relationships

building relationships is a powerful self-development strategy because it opens doors to new experiences, perspectives, and opportunities for personal growth. interacting with different individuals challenges you to grow, learn, and expand your horizons. through new connections, you can discover hidden talents, passions, and strengths that you might not have been aware of before.

relationships also provide a support network that can offer encouragement, advice, and assistance during challenging times. having a strong network of friends, mentors, and colleagues can boost your confidence and resilience, helping you navigate life’s ups and downs more effectively.

furthermore, building relationships enhances your communication and interpersonal skills. engaging with others requires active listening, empathy, and the ability to express yourself clearly. these skills are invaluable in both personal and professional settings.

❤️ nene

[prettieinpink]

BEING MAGNETIC THROUGH SOFTNESS

BEING OPTIMISTIC, regardless of the circumstances. People love positivity and will gravitate to people who make them feel good regardless of their circumstances.

SMILE. Even if you’re just walking around, having a nice friendly smile appeals to people and deems you approachable.

HELP WHENEVER YOU CAN, hold the door for someone, or lift a small burden for them. However, if you’re helping someone and it is out of your capabilities, it’s people-pleasing.

BE PRESENT, don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. Just focus on what you’re doing, and with who at that moment.

BE AN ACTIVE LISTENER, engage in conversations with people and genuinely take in the information they tell you + make an effort to remember these facts about them.

AVOID JUDGING AND GOSSIPING, no matter how nice you are, as soon as you display these traits, you create a distance between your friends/family. While honesty is valued, if people don’t feel like they can be their authentic selves around you, they’ll close themselves up.

GIVE COMPLIMENTS OFTEN. Only if you mean it. It doesn’t have to be someone who you’re close to, but even just passers-by.

BE VULNERABLE. People won’t open up to people who are closed up. Share your deepest fears, challenges and emotions to create a deeper connection and trust.

PRACTICE BEING HUMBLE, while it is okay to celebrate our successes, we must be mindful of the manner we do so. Acknowledge other’s efforts and be willing to learn from others.

REPLACE SORRY WITH THANK YOU. If you’re a serial say-sorry person, replace them with thank you. E.g. sorry I’m late -> thank you for patiently waiting.

BE OPEN-MINDED, surround yourself with a diverse environment, and be willing to learn from other’s perspectives.

TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY. Apologise when necessary and own up to your own mistakes, but be sure to not repeat them.

[selfhealingmoments]

[shamelesslyimpurrfect]

(X)