#Internalisation

[hwangyeddeongie]

I bring a “rumi’s patterns are a metaphor for internalised homophobia” vibe to the function that some people don’t like

[aw-tysm]

In case you didn't know, the term some of you are probably looking for is "lateral ableism". When a disabled person is prejudice against another disabled person.

It's not "internalised ableism" when it's against another disabled person.

It's lateral ableism.

[wiriu]

eat up, you animals. whats some playfighting among friends am i right? finished my big exam so this is my reward to myself.

[opeoism]

oh barney

[notagayman]

Your friend is dead haha loser

Anyways as much as I despise Jax I feel very bad for him and he is one of my favourite characters

[s0fter-sin]

ghost who works with abused dogs because he can relate to their fear and anger and soap who's terrified of dogs but needs a service animal after he gets shot

ghost who's covered in just as many bite scars and scratches as he is scars from his childhood and the military, but he never holds it against a single dog

he knows what it's like to feel trapped and think you only have one way out

he sits through the barking and the lunges, steadily gets closer as he gently talks with each dog, apologises when he moves too quick and gets bitten because it's always his fault, never the dog's. no one bites for no reason

the pride he feels when he gets to share their blanket for the first time is only matched by the day of their adoption

it’s soap's friend’s idea to bring him to check out a dog to foster while his service dog goes through training. he knows he's uncomfortable around dogs - he never made a production out of it but you can only duck around someone so they’re in between you and a dog so many times before they pick something up - but he just thinks he's not used to them and being around one will be enough to calm him down

soap knows he needs a service animal; both for medical reasons and help with every day tasks but also for emotional regulation. he pings from depression to apathy to white hot rage so quick it exhausts him; he's so tired of blowing up at people just because he can't keep his head on straight

he needs a service dog

but just hearing the barking from outside has him so on edge, he's almost sick from it

a volunteer shows them all the dogs available to foster. his friend gushes over every single one; cooing about how cute and sweet they look, just darling things, encouraging them to jump up on their barrier and play tug with their toys, and “come on soap, say hello”

soap keeps his distance, smiling thinly as the volunteer introduces each dog

but ghost happens to be in one of the kennels working with his latest trouble case

and he can plainly see how terrified soap is, no matter how well he thinks he’s hiding it

he flinches at every bark, his hands fisted at his sides, but his friend just doesn't notice; too occupied with the lab mix he’s playing with. ghost can see just how tight he's winding up, the tension creeping up his spine, his “smile” twitching uncontrollably, and it doesn't surprise him in the slightest when he finally snaps at his friend to “just fuck off, alright!” after he keeps pushing him to get closer to the dogs

the abrupt silence is tight and judgmental; the friend giving him a wild look. soap gives a short apology, still angry even though if anyone just took the time to look, it’d be clear he doesn't want to be, and storms out while his friend apologises to the volunteer; dripping with shame and embarrassment that sets ghost's teeth on edge

he could've stopped a dozen times before soap blew up, should've seen the warning signs that he was getting overwhelmed and afraid long before he got to that point

he spreads out a few treats for his dog, both a reward for his patience and an apology for prematurely ending their time together, slowly getting to his feet. he heads outside to find soap in the alley beside the shelter, swearing at himself under his breath and looking seconds away from punching the brick

and when soap snaps, “enjoying the show?”, squaring up with his teeth bared, ghost just leans back against the wall; open and non-threatening and waits for soap to come to him

just ghost who knows what it's like to be angry and afraid and has the patience to help soap feel more in control of himself, never flinching from his bark or his involuntary bite, as well as help him through his fear in time for his service dog

[boushards]

one day i will write a tma au where there's no supernatural stuff and jon is just visually impaired and records his statements on days when his sight is better so that on days when his sight is worse he can just listen to them instead of having to read them. martin starts recording the ones where the handwriting is a nightmare for jon to read to help out. eventually martin starts leaving cute messages at the end of them for jon to make him feel better because he knows that jon hates having to rely on an accessibility aid. neither of them ever acknowledge the messages ever.

[catihere]

Considering his upbringing as a Greek demigod with a relatively present godly parent and an apparently open-minded mortal mother, with only a brief part of his childhood spent in fascist Italy, Nico is not very likely to have what we call “religious trauma” or “catholic guilt”.

Will, born and raised in the south of the USA in the early 2000s, on the other hand…

[sick-sad-world-revolution-now]

The thing is the girls and women who identify as non-binary while gender non conforming have the potential to be so fucking cool. I know them, they’re like me, at core they’re like all of us who refuse to give in that bullshit idea that there’s a feminine essence to womanhood. Said like that they would agree, but since gender activism disguises its rancid sexist views in postmodernist language they don’t see it for what it is. So many only allowed themselves to look more masculine and have an alternative style once they decided they were not women, as if women couldn’t look androgynous, couldn’t wear black all day, couldn’t have the finest punk jacket or simply couldn’t cut their hair short, couldn’t be make-up free, couldn’t be hairy and wear baggy shirts and jeans.

They can look just like us who are gnc and radical feminists, except they believe they’re giving a big fat middle finger to the system when the reality is they have the same idea as the system : women must be feminine, men must be masculine. Again, said like that they would disagree, but their beliefs show otherwise. I want to shake them by the shoulders and ask them “why the fuck are you calling yourself basically non-woman the minute you look different from the heteronormative patriarchal norm (gender) ?” They have the potential to be so cool, yet the minute they say that they’re not women this goes down the drain and there’s no spirit of rebellion, anti-system, anti status-quo left. It’s counter intuitive, counter productive, and most importantly it lets down all girls and women who never fitted gender norms and never will. I can look like a post-punk dude while being a masc woman, fuck your sexist expectations, fuck your little boxes, that’s gender abolition.

[tumbleringismycopingmechanism]

Something to help with some self-reflection regarding fatphobic ideas:

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[102ki]

funniest line you can give a character who has decided he is a feminist now

[valtsv]

pros of keeping records of your old writing: whenever you refer back to it you will experience the unparalleled gratification of being able to see just how much progress you've made. you may even find yourself revisiting ideas you had that you didn't have the skills to fully realise at the time, but have since developed enough to renew your efforts.

cons of keeping records of your old writing: you will find yourself constantly mortified and tormented by the words of the stupidest most ignorant shit idiot currently drawing breath on earth, and that person is you

[dawnssummers]

willow knows she acts strange and tries hard to act "normal"; anya knows she acts strange and refuses to act "normal"; tara knows she acts strange and is just okay with it; faith has internalised the idea that there is something wrong with her; buffy needs to believe she is the most normal girl ever

[aimasup]

"Mira and Zoey would've accepted Rumi" see that's the trouble, how would Rumi feel comfortable coming out to them if her friends didn't provide an environment where she feels safe to do so, and how can all three of them provide that for each other when they've been raised to hide imperfections and kill patterned creatures without mercy on sight :D

[tgcg]

wdym “internalised” this dude is solidly external, this inner shell is vacuous

[blueboyluca]

I am so sick of gender essentialism for dogs. I don't care if you think it's funny or cute, every single time it is just reinforcing gender roles for people. I HATE IT. EVERY TIME.