#Stop Using The R-Slur

[prettyingreen4chris]

rant

hello followers, mutuals, & viewers

I am usually not one to post about this stuff OR involve myself in this drama (which I am not trying to do) but this needs to be spoken upon. Many people have written about this, now including me. I am not a huge tumblr creator and do not have many followers as I joined in March '25, bur I feel the need to speak about this.

The people involved include the following

@mattscoquette @cvnntagious @chrattho1

@sosasturns @snoopychris @whore4mattsturniolo

While all of these creators have publicly apologized many times, it shouldn't have been something posted to begin with. Throwing around the r-slur as if it meant nothing is not funny, nor is it cute in any way. This is not something you should joke about and post to be 'funny' and 'out of context'. The 'r-slur' is a derogatory term that has been used to insult and demean individuals, particularly those with intellectual and development disabilities.

It is extremely offensive and hurtful to people with these conditions, their family, caregivers, and advocates. Using the r-slur is not only disrespectful, but it also perpetuates harmful stereotypes and stigma about people with disabilities.

It is very frustrating to see stuff like this, and I do not get how someone can think it's okay to throw around the slur as if it's some casual joke. Just because it was posted as part of some group chat that thinks they're funny- it does not in any way mean that it is harmless. The fact that they were able to laugh about it and share it, as if it were no big deal, is very messed up.

I see that some people might be like, “Oh, it’s just a joke, lighten up.” But here’s the thing- words matter. They can have a bigger impact than most people realize. The r-slur isn’t just some word. It hurts. It's not some funny, edgy thing to laugh about. And by sharing screenshots of it, you're just continuing that cycle of harm.

People with disabilities, their families, and their communities deal with stigma, discrimination, and hate every single day. They don’t need some random group chat or 'meme' making light of the struggles they face. It’s honestly so disrespectful. Posting a screenshot of someone calling another person a racist slur or any other derogatory term and just be like, “lol, here’s a funny moment from the group chat”? is very hurtful and messed up. The r-slur is no different. It’s harmful, and it perpetuates this gross stereotype that people with disabilities are less than, that they don’t deserve respect, or that it’s okay to make them the butt of a joke.

And here’s another thing- just because you might not feel personally affected by using the word doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt others. We live in a world where not everything revolves around our personal comfort or what we find funny. That’s part of growing as a person, realizing how the words we use affect others. Sharing a screenshot of that slur, or any hurtful language, just spreads negativity. It’s not edgy, it’s not clever—it’s just plain inconsiderate. It’s not about being “too sensitive,” it’s about being respectful.

As a minor seeing grown adults throw it around as if it were some toy, it really messes with your head. If adults are okay with using language that dehumanizes people, what kind of example are they setting? It’s one thing to be ignorant when you're younger, but when you're an adult, you have the responsibility to know better, to understand the harm words can cause. For me, it feels like they’re just brushing off the very real impact those words have on actual people, people who might be watching or even involved in these conversations.

Seeing adults use the r-slur so casually, makes me question if they even care about the people they’re affecting. It's like they're just throwing around something that’s deeply harmful without thinking about the weight behind it, and that’s not the kind of environment I want to be in. If these adults are okay with perpetuating that kind of language, how are younger generations supposed to learn empathy, kindness, and respect for others?

So, it’s time to cut that shit out. If you want to have a group chat and share funny stuff, there are so many better ways to do it without involving harmful language or anything that could cause pain. You can be hilarious and inclusive at the same time. It’s not that hard. But tossing around words like the r-slur? That’s just low and unnecessary. Do better. Honestly, people deserve more than that. It's not funny and never will be.

Stop using that slur.

(more context at @bernardsbendystraws and @darksturnz)

With zero tolerance, signing off, Novah

[badolmen]

I am reminding you that h*rmaphrodite and variations thereof is a slur harmful to your intersex siblings. Stop using it.

[forsaken-sedai]

I have been seeing way too many people being comfortable with the r slur recently.

If I see you justifying the use of the r slur in 2025 it's on sight

It's not reclaimable, stop, just stop

[transgenderwaterrat]

what the hell is it with people defending usage of the r slur lately

[mabelsguidetolife]

having an invisible disability is annoying because when you don’t feel a hundred percent you’re still expected to perform a hundred percent like regularly abled people do because you look fiiiine, so you’ll be fiiiine

[equalperson]

I fucking hate being traumatized because why am I bawling the hardest I've bawled in god-knows-how-long because someone I didn't even like that much berated Me. gasping wailing trembling and snotting over this for several minutes.

[penumbralwoods]

"i wish i was one of the normal autistics but-" 1. using adjectives as nouns makes you sound like a nazi stop that 2. THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN "NORMAL AUTISTIC"

[kinnenvy]

the way my straight sister has consumed more queer media than me........ she got a divorce, stopped being homophobic and started fujoing out

[charleemoon]

OH MY GOD ADAM RAKI IS SO ME THEY WERENT LYING

[actual-changeling]

i really wish people would put some more thoughts into the words they use because i'm so fucking tired of just trying to exist and seeing people use slurs or misuse medical terms like it's nothing.

maybe just think for a single second before posting. just one second. that's all i ask.

[cyanide-sippy-cup]

For disability pride month, start amplifying disabled voices (you should be doing that anyway but especially this month)! There are a lot of people who try to be allies but end up speaking over us in quite harmful ways.

Like one of the things I've seen much of in the last couple days has been a lot of push for person-first language, that being language that centers the individual instead of the disability (ex: person who uses a wheelchair instead of wheelchair-bound). And I'm all for person-first language but keep in mind, that's an individual preference! Disability-focused language is actually preferable to a lot of people, myself included. The problem allies have with it is that it emphasizes the "problem" over the person, therefore it is "dehumanizing". However, for some, it is the opposite. Our disabilities are a big part of our lives, even to the point of practically controlling them. The focus on it helps push against the "it's not disabilities, it's different abilities!" mentality that is super harmful.

All in all, it's personal preference. If you want to use "person who uses a wheelchair" or "accessibility parking" instead of "handicap parking", that's up to you. Just be respectful of someone else's preferences, and if a disabled peer wants you to use certain language around them, do that. And remember to spread minority voices!

Oh and if I catch any of you spreading "it's not disabilities, it's different abilities!" I will tie you to a chair and force you to watch a sideshow until you learn the difference.

[takemetodragonstone]

there should be a button to instantly blow up any post that uses the r slur. i don’t just want that user blocked i want their post to explode and feel the pain of its atoms being ripped apart

[th3lightyougaveme]

shoutout to my dad who used to call me the r slur out in public whenever i used to flap my hands cause i was happy.

[hailsatanacab]

I just don't understand people who feel the need to leave negative comments on fics?? You don't like the characterisation? You don't like the way things are going? You're not a fan??

That's fine! That's absolutely fine!! We all have different tastes, I get that!!

But why post a comment about it though??

Why would you say this?????? What makes you think that's okay???????

[slyandthefamilybook]

obnoxious retard

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[ltacryptid]

god help me the hyperfixation is hyperfixating again.