#anger problems

[ghostykie]

[classycookiexo]

[shiutsu]

People who say "revenge is for the weak" are the same type of people who defend horrible people, blame victims for their abuse & throw a tantrum whenever someone doesn't wanna be near others anymore.

[positivelypositive]

🍄

a small reminder that...

...not every problem can be solved instantly.

...not every problem is real.

...not every problem is a roadblock.

some problems can be temporary. others can be based on our assumptions, while some can be a blessing in disguise.

take a deep breath. you've got this ✨

[thegalvanizedstaff]

the body's mom seems to know us sooo well (as a singletsona at least idk), but when it comes to knowing our favorite food, suddenly she has no idea! Even though the system has lowkey similar tastes... Or not the fav food exactly, but just actually fucking listening for once.

"I'm going to the store! Do you need anyhing?"

"Cool, what can I get?? I don't know what to ask for."

"Anything you want? C'mon, think fast."

This is not fucking helpful. Our mind is a collection of dust and spider webs and fog. I could not fucking think of anything even in a few hours, because my mind has no idea what to start off. GIVE ME SOME FUCKING SUGGESTIONS??? THAT'S WHY I'M ASKING, YOU LITERALLY USED TO BUY OUR FIXATION FOOD/DRINKS FOR US, MAYBE START OFF THAT???? fucking bitch.

[scaredoflovexo]

Boys always be crying about how girls did them wrong and then literally do demonic shit when their fragile egos get hurt.

like wdym you become a different person when you're angry? just get therapy bitch.

[dancingaroundforthegods]

ares offering based of my anger issues

I like to thank ares for helping me becoming aware of my exploding anger and that I have to control it more so I would like to give him this digital offering

(all imainge on Pinterest also this is made by me)

[illusory-torrent]

just a freezerburn meme about board games, nothing special!!

[maybe-an-aspd-angel]

[trellia]

I think this post is a long time coming. But also, maybe 1 - someone has pointers to help and 2 - maybe someone else is struggling similarly and would like to know said pointers too.

I have been quite the recluse the past few months. From everyone, really. Why that is why I’m making this post. If you feel like I’ve been drawing away, you’re not wrong. I have. I’ve not been doing too good since… I’d say October. A lot of events have turned my world around for one, realizing what I am living in and not what I thought I was living in. That was something on its own…. At the same time, I was going through the steps to figure out if I have ADHD. I found out a couple months ago that yes, indeed, I do have ADHD.

The diagnosis was first a relief: finally, I now know there’s nothing wrong with me, I’m just wired different. However, relief soon turned into contempt. I became very, very angry. I am very angry. I just reached my 40’s. For at least 35+ years, I’ve been degraded and hurt by the people who should have protected me, understood me, especially in my childhood. Teachers, principals and parents of other children took part in this bullying campaign their children had going, only because I wasn’t following the ‘norms’. I endured trauma so great that I can barely function today.

I mean, I look at the videos of my childhood and I see it immediately: I’m not like the other kids. I’m more hyper, excited, and I just want everyone to take part in the fun, but I’m too much for it. It’s right there. I was called names by adults, and scolded for not doing things the way neurotypical people would. I was called lazy. I was told I don’t care for anyone but myself when, in fact, I have always put everyone ahead of me because I would rather see them happy than be happy myself. So you can imagine how difficult it was to hear that I am selfish and don’t care for anyone else…

I’m also angry at the current people in my life. Some of which have told me to ‘fix’ myself because I was an inconvenience they didn’t want to deal with. So I tried EVERY way to do so, and of course that didn’t work because I was trying to put bandaids on symptoms rather than help with what was the actual problem, but then when I asked for help, I was shunned away like I didn’t deserve it. I lost an entire decade (my late 20’s and my 30’s) asking myself what the hell is wrong with me, why am I such a terrible person, and why can’t I do anything right, and spending my 30’s walking on eggshells everywhere AND in the rpc because I was connection deprived and needed everyone to love me, which led to nefarious people taking advantage and hurt me further. (that’s a post for another day.)

Now here’s the main problem: I’m so angry I want to hurt someone. Not physically, but in every other way. It doesn’t matter who you are, I just want to lash out, whoever you are, friend or otherwise. An example: a friend made a new original character that is actually perfectly fine and pretty good, it’s a great OC! — but inside all I want to do is destroy that break their love for the OC and ruin it for them. Just… because. And that’s NOT okay. The good news is that I see it, I realize it. Which is why I have isolated myself. None of my friends deserve this. But I am angry. I am enraged, because I feel I’ve lost most of my life ‘fixing’ myself until I masked so hard I didn’t even realize until it slipped at 28. I know exactly when it slipped too.

Also, considering the kind of world we live in, I feel like I’ve lived past the mid-mark of my life. I’m not sure I’ll live up to 50 at this point. And it’s not fair. It’s not fair at all that I had to go through all this and still suffer. So yes, I’m very angry. But I also don’t WANT to hurt anyone. Especially not the people I care for… This is why I have not been on disco.rd. I have removed FB (because I wanted to for a long time tho lol ), tiktok… And have mostly removed myself from public spaces.

If you have pointers or ideas on how to get past that anger, please, please share. I don’t really know what to do with it. I don’t know how to tame it. And it scares me tbh. I don’t want to be like this. This isn’t me… but it’s so hard not to be angry…

So… yah: if I don’t respond on disco or otherwise, or not right away, it’s not you, I’m the one stepping away so I won’t say something I really don’t mean just for the sake of harming someone because I can’t accept what has been done to me.

If you read this far, thank you. Otherwise, here’s the jinx of it:

tldr; I was officially diagnosed with ADHD and realized I’ve been treated terribly by my peers because of it and shunned away when I asked for help, so now I’m extremely angry at everything and want to hurt someone (anyone) though I don’t really want to. How do I get over this?

[shiutsu]

"Your stances on humanity are sick!! You should tell a psychologist about them!!!"

-someone who disapproves being shitty towards own abusers, not defending oneself when attacked by an asshole & has "be nice & kind uwu" in their bio

Yeah sure, I'm the weird one.

[positivelypositive]

🌓

black and white...

...is impractical.

inside of us, we're all grey. you can't always be completely right or entirely wrong.

sometimes it's a grey zone. it can be a murky grey or a cool one. depends.

it doesn't say anything about you except that you're human. relax ✨

[wanderingmind867]

Werewolf by Night is probably my favourite of Marvel's monster comics, if we exclude man-thing. And I am gonna do that, because man-thing is so psychologically traumatic that his beauty is impossible for me to conceivably read again anytime soon. Werewolf by Night doesn't seem nearly so damaging to my psyche, but it still makes for a beautiful concept. Jack Russell is like the precursor to Teen Wolf, in my mind. And I know those are very different things, but whatever! Jack Russell is an 18 year old who's inheriting his father's lycanthropy. On nights of the full moon, he prowls the streets of LA as a Werewolf. But he doesn't have full awareness in his werewolf form, so it all seems like haunting dreams at first. Until he learns the truth, upon which the story really begins.

Why do I find this beautiful as a concept? Well, part of it is that I view the werewolf as a metaphor for anger issues and other repressed desires. Trapped in the soul and hidden from view, the violence has no choice but to manifest as the wolf. It kind of reminds me of The Hulk, because that story uses the same messaging. It also reminds me of Two-Face, for similar reasons. Honestly, the lycanthropy thing reminds me of mental illness as a whole. Perhaps that's why a part of me finds it so relatable. Vampirism doesn't do much for me. It's not really as interesting to me as these stories of people with two sides or personas. Hulk, Two-Face, Werewolf by Night, etc. There's something compelling about all of them to me. Not Moon Knight, though. He's not anything like these others to me. He starts as an enemy to the Werewolf, which makes me almost automatically despise him.

[skeleton-bat]

Man there's such a stigma towards anger and people with anger in general like it's a real emotion that affects people and so many people just say shit like 'it's scary so you're bad because of it' or 'lol you can't control your emotions'

Like it's tiring I'm tired people with anger issues are real and struggle just like any other person. No their anger problem is not an excuse but you also need to get over yourself and stop equating anger to evil

[thebekashow]

when you have anger problems, and someone tells you to calm down.

(or tells you to count down.)

[mirasventhole2536]

I HATE HAVING ANGER ISSUES I HATE THAT I CAN'T FIX IT I HATE HOW NO ONE CAN UNDERSTAND ME I HATE TAKING MY ANGER ON TO PPL I JUST WANT TO BE CALM AND NORMAL FOR ONCE