#basically me ranting for sooo long sorry

[reminiscentreader]

I FEEL LIKE IT SBEEN SOOO LOMG SINCE I HAD A TIG RANT AND I HAVE TWO THINGS I WANNA TALK ABOUT SO IM JUST GONNA DUMP THEM INTO ONE POST 😽 ok firstly i feel like we did not get enough details about emilys death, like i had so many questions, did grayson call the ambulance? did he have to drag her back to hawthorne house? what was the funeral like? did grayson finish school properly? what was rebeccas reaction? the brothers (other than jameson and grayson)? why didnt jameson tell grayson he was there that night until almost two years later? why didnt the old cunt think it was ok to tell a teenage boy whos girlfriend JUST died that it was his fault for not putting family first?!? LIKE WHAT I HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS

next thing is kind of like two different things but theyre both about lyras parents so like they’re basically the same?? anway first, I NEED A WHOLE BOOK ON LYRAS MOM !! shes so mysterious, like she meets this rando guy who isnt from america dates him (because it wasnt like a one night thing its heavily implied that they had a whole relationship) gets pregnant super young (not confirmed but pretty obvious considering she has a four year old and i know damn well there aint no 50 year old popping out a baby, so id peg her at around 35-40, she kinda millennial vibes anyway) while she’s pregnant her boyfriend is running around tryna be some kind of businessman (“bro trust im an entrepreneur” vibes cant lie) AND THEN JUST LEAVES HIM 3 DAYS AFTER HER BABIES BORN?!? and then just gets married to daddy kane like what?!? (p.s i have a theory that the reason thomas called lyra lie-ra instead of ‘leer-a’ is because that WAS her name, but her mom changed how it was pronounced)

so that leads me nicely onto KEITH KANE 😩😩😩🙏🙏🙏 i just know this man is SOOOO FINE like call me crazy but i am that mans number one fan because he is actually just so perfect, LIKE WDYM HE TOOK IN A PROBABLY TEENAGER AND HER BABY AND RAISED THAT CHILD LIKE SHE WAS HIS 🤭🤭 and then adopted her??? like he gives such john kavanangh vibes if any of you have read boys of tommen

anyway sorry for the long post love you all 🥰🥰🥰😽

[lizbiandykely]

i know she is like fandom darling at this point but every time i see that video of ariana grande saying "glinda would be dead if she had gotten on the broom!!" it pisses me off so bad because a) no she actually would not and b) the idea that there was no logical world in which case glinda /could/ have chosen to go with elphaba oversimplifies one of the biggest complexities of their relationship.

for the sake of this little tumblr rant, i will focus on point a.

obviously there is no major falling-through-the-sky moment in the musical, rendering that argument basically pointless there, but in the movie, there is sooo much time between when elphaba first says to glinda, "get on!" and holds the broom out to her and when elphaba crashes through the window to draw the attention of the wizard's guards. there is no way of knowing if the same sequence would've happened if elphaba's exit hadn't been so hurried and rash, if she had been able to take the time to make a cautious lift off into the sky with both of them on the broom. clearly, they would've had time to take their time if glinda had been in sync with elphaba's plan, but instead, they had to take the time to say their goodbyes AND they are both actively stalling because they know they will not see each other for a *very long time* if they part ways in this moment. so concerning solely logistics, this argument falls pretty flat for me.

thinking about elphaba's emotional landscape in that moment, it seems even less likely that she would experience those few critical moments where she's falling because they represent her needing to gain (or possibly regain?) her trust in herself. arguably, glinda's total trust in her abilities (which she has had the whole musical! first in the form of jealousy, and then in the form of pride and love) would be enough reassurance to carry her through. to go even further, glinda's abandonment of her in this critical moment has to have shaken her confidence.

this is especially true considering the fact that glinda is the first person to make elphaba ever feel any sort of reprieve from her overwhelming loneliness, a loneliness she has carried since childhood. after ozdust, we see elphaba blossom into this person who is finally able to be open, a change that is even reflected in little details like her hair and her posture. and here, faced with glinda's rejection, elphaba is once again realizing that all she has is herself. she is alone again. it would be extremely difficult not to doubt yourself when faced with a return to a way of living that you now know better than.

tldr i'm sorry ms grande but it just isn't true that glinda would've probably fallen off the broom and died if she had gone with elphaba, and for all the talk in fan circles of glinda's abandonment issues after elphaba leaves oz, we never seem to discuss how deeply distressing *this* moment must be for elphaba

[chasedeys]

I need your thoughts bc i’m trying to write a story & obviously we ‘know’ how joemarr’s relationship is but do you think joe and ja’marr (separately or together lol) are closer to tee or justin?? AND how do you think their relationship is with both guys. because for me sometimes it’s like joe is tee’s big brother but idk… help. please.

hello!!! (so very sorry this took. so very long. but it's here! and i rambled way too much but at the same time nothing of substance on this sort of 😭)

in a completely non pushy very excited way what fic are you writing hehe any mention of a joemarr fic in progress and i perk up like a lemur. no pressure though keep it all to yourself I'm just nosy lol

and i feel like you are completely free to decide who's closer to who based on your own fic's direction?? like me personally it depends 😭 cannot be definitive for the life of me. i myself have totally sometimes Cartoonify friendships just for the Sake of the Bit you know? but like not too much or it just gets disrespectful and annoying and i try to stay true to their character or whatever really i don't actually know these people lol

the Vibes that i sense and also some i've made up completely in my head are kind of like this:

over the years, i feel like joemarr have grown wayyyy closer to tee and have grown apart from justin. and that's to be given really considering they're now teammates with tee and justin is in a whole other team making whole other moves than them! and that's okay! they aren't made to be forever linked together, they're their own people, making their own marks in the league! but they're always going to have that 2018-19-20 lsu insanity with them and i am always going to mention that in my fics! and nobody's going to forget that college run i fear 2019 lsu is kind of legendary lmao these three are always going to be asked about each other and their pasts linked to each other no matter what and that's honestly really beautiful if you think abt it.

ja'marr and tee -> god these two. i think ja'marr is just. so obsessed with tee. just. incredibly fond of tee. unwilling to let him go. incapable of being chill about him (like he is about anybody who has somehow hit certain standards that only he knows). and i went on a spiel here where i suggest you read bc it's weirdly more well written than what i wrote here 😭. basically, i think he looks up so much to tee because tee is someone who he gets to let his guard down and be just a team player with. does that make sense. it really honestly boils back down to comparing it to justin and that sounds bad but i don't know how to explain it better?? that sounds kind of wrong tbh arhgrhgrh. it's like with tee he doesn't have to keep clawing for his spot or compete as much or whatever. like tee is clearly such an amazing wr, clearly a wr1 caliber player like ja'marr, yet he doesn't fight with ja'marr over his looks or plays or spot like justin does with him, which has to be like a breath of fresh air for ja'marr and he's said it himself all 'tee is the most unselfish player'. like that means something to him. ja'marr cares so much for tee's opinions, tee constantly singing ja'marr praises and ja'marr being so sooo silent whenever tee goes on a rant abt him like he doesn't know what to say he just hugs tee with one arm and says appreciate you so quietly (HE DOES THIS A LOT WHEN HE GETS COMPLIMENTED BTW. DO YOU NOTICE THIS. and there's so many fucking clips of them just wrapped around each other after a tuddy just!!! so cute.), and ja'marr known outrageous mother hen ja'marr chase making (speculationnnn) tee change agents and taking him to his massage therapist (in his fucking houseeee i went on a rant here god this is still so crazy to me) and nagging at tee in his mic'ed up moments so many times that feel good play good thing like. he tries to big brother tee so much when tee's the one big brothering him you know 😭 it's so funny god their dynamic is so fucking funny to me. (ja'marr tries so hard to be mature and captain-like whatever and he is good at it you know but 😭 with tee and joe and like all the bengals vets like mike h and sam and even with yoshi whos the same age as him yk it's so very clear he's the baby lmao.) he's trying so hard to take care of tee, keep him safe and well and healthy and with him, doesn't want him to leave. OH AND they went to this showroom thing where they shopped for stuff and ja'marr went with tee (!!!!!!!) and asked tee's opinion for a belt or something and tee was all dude just choose whatever you want it's soooo cute god they're so cute to me (there was also that fucking loverboy beanie im obsessed with that ja'marr didn't even glance at im so pissed. im so fucking pissed what do i have to do to get him to wear a cat beanie this shit is serious to me) like ja'marr wants to know what tee thinks!! he values his opinions!!!! even for fucking clothes!!!! god. and he knows he plays better with tee with him on that field okay, he says that with tee he doesn't get double teamed as much, and he while he's proven that he plays just as well without tee, that piece of comfort having another wr1 with him (his best friend!!!) has got to be something he wants to keep for eternity (ahahaha, verbatim ofc).

joe and tee -> joe dotes over tee lmao you can't deny that man is besotted (ja'marr is too actually 😭 they both are it's completely understandable but at the same time you just have to close your eyes and wince bc that's embarrassing. please chill the fuck out you do not need to laugh that loud over a single sentence from tee. but again: completely understandable because tee is tee. like that batman hard knocks ep. tee said one fucking sentence and joemarr just. rolled over showed their belly panting it's embarrassingggg) he's soooooooo starry eyed over him, so shamelessly coddling (?) that game hug nuzzle the first time, the broncos game where it looked like he bit his neck, this pre season's training camp (?) laughing sooo freely with tee, every sentence out of him these past few weeks on tee staying in cincy 'tee is a NEED', etc etc like i know you said he's acting like tee's big brother which i agree with completely 100% but it's also like he can be such a little brother with tee!! it's like he can let go and not be a responsible person with tee idk does that make sense. joe totally acting like tees older brother but the thing is tee is doing it right back he's just chiller about it like he doesn't have to think too hard on it unlike joe who thinks he has to be this guy 24/7. it's like joe is unused to having such a down-to-earth sane (still hilariously unhinged but sane you know) guy who makes good choices when he's been stuck with guys like ja'marr and justin who are kind of. well. so he can let up and have tee take care of him for a change! well this isn't like this 100% of the time obviously but you get where i'm going with this right (god I'm so sorry this is a mess) also tee's like. really fucking funny and sweet and joyous to be around is there really any surprise that joemarr are smitten with him lmao. i think joe tweeted something abt playing with tee for a long time when they got drafted together?? kill me. no really kill me.

who do you think brought up that tee should just change agents to ja'marr's lmaooo do you think tee brought up his agent being so fucking argumentative that ja'marr tells him to tell him to fuck off and just switch to his. and then they all go dead silent about this including ja'marr because it was one of those things that he said without thinking. like literal light bulbs going off above their heads at the same time before they start scheming shit calling lawyers and ja'marr's agents at like 2 a.m trying to figure shit out 'playing chess'. or did ja'marr and tee discover this first like 'oh??? we can?? do it probably??' and call joe frantically like can we do it and joe hangs up on them without saying anything and the got so fucking offended only for joe to turn up in their place (either one idk) one minute later probably breaking the speed of light and boom. ja'marr has his claws on tee and he's not letting go ever.

joe and justin -> while yes i said that joemarr grew apart from justin i feel like joe is like the type of person to just. be shameless in reconnecting with people he's grown apart from. while ja'marr is. very petty. lmao. i think joe is just very shameless when he reaches out to people. he, like ja'marr, is insanely loyal and values friendship to a concerning degree. he keeps contact with practically any person he grows attached to and texts them regularly and by that i mean that even if he gets ghosted or there's a ridiculously long period of dead silence between them he still texts first like 'hey bro long time no talk u in town do you wanna watch the new spongebob movie tomorrow' and bulldozes through the awkwardness like he doesn't even see it. which works with justin!! who i think kind of sucks at keeping in touch with people (like ja'marr, see below sooo sorry this is so shittily structured) and he hangs out with a lot of people during the offseason no? (its sooooo fascinating to me how he's sooo introverted and technically a hermit but he's also suchhhhh an outgoing little busybody you know and constantly reaches out to people first? like to gronk????? who does that.) including justin who has the same agent! having the same agent works wonders in keeping the connection no doubt too lmao. the paris fashion week thing etc. i think i've said it before but joe falls in love with every teammate he's ever gotten close to and that very much includes justin jefferson who helped him achieve his Insane Ambition of getting the natty so he's not letting him go even the slightest bit really. also qb-wr connection is practically something otherworldly really so really something to keep in mind when writing quarterbacks with former teammates they've thrown to lol. especially joe, who's kind of crazy 😭. i mean look at all his wristbands and sweatshirts and moving to lsu and hanging on to the playoffs by the skin of his teeth and all that jazz. he does Not let go easily. truly an interesting man to write.

ja'marr and justin -> those type of near aged siblings who fight over the weirdest shit and get stupidly competitive over everything and disgustingly annoyingly overly smug over a win that they get into stupid fights one minute only to slam open the other's bedroom door the next hour saying excitedly 'bitch i got free coupons for ice cream' and the other immediately goes 'DAMN RIGHT let me drive' completely forgetting that they were fighting and then the cycle repeats all over again. you can see just how disgustingly close they were together during lsu and that's not really something that just goes away even through time you know? but i do believe they've both grown individually as people and maybe they wouldn't get along as well now as they do then because again, they've been pitted against each other over and over and over and fucking over oh my god but the love they have for each other is clear as they really when you take in account all they've been through together. and i've said up above how their entire thing has been drenched with Competition and that's different with ja'marr's thing with tee and that's not to say that he doesn't enjoy the competition with justin he clearly loves it lmao he wouldn't be such a good player in the league if he hates it lol. more said down below because again, very shittily structured :)

justin and tee -> they should date idk (i think i had a fic idea for them somewhere in my writing tag ehehe)

on the lsu trio specifically lol didn't know how to insert it up above so:

i think justin and ja’marr are both the type to be shit at replying to texts 😔 like sure they'd text you and stuff but. they ignore so many texts whether intentionally or not. they've both said they don't talk with each other etc etc haHAhaaHHAa pain. if i may Speculate: they both probably tried texting on the regular but suck sooooooo bad at it it just peters off (is that the right fucking word oh my god why is the english language so fucking difficult that is literally a NAME) pathetically like ja'marr texted tuesday 8 p.m and justin replies on saturday 11.59 pm to which ja'marr replies to that at wednesday 1.25 a.m do you get me. and they can't standddd this type of shit 😭 kind of low attention span kind of deal and also losing interest on the text convo and having so much shit going on irl that they just don't really text anymore??

joe is like the opposite of this he replies to texts late max 2 days tops but he’s just shit at text talk. absolutely 0 flair to his words. desperately needs to learn tone indicators but people he texts have grown completely used to this and either accepts they will never understand him or, like ja’marr and justin and tee, somehow understands him 98% and bulldozes through his awkward texting and also shits on him liberally. but even if people reply to him late he'd just continue with the convo completely dead serious abt it uncaring how long you text and never the one to end convos and that's weirdly how he keeps such close contact with people he hasn't seen in years??

that's not to say that justin and ja'marr don't vibe with each other anymore lol it's kind of difficult to let go of what two years of practically living in each other's pockets being the Best at what they do. it's just they've also grown so much apart and bloom into way different people than who they knew each other to be. the random ass rarri truck comment is still so confusing to me though like. are you two okay. what was that. did your agents tell you to do something. could you two please interact irl again so i can obsessively analyze whatever the fuck you got going on actually. maybe make out on camera too idk.

also they have such the shittiest friendship humor that only people in their circle would get you know 😭 constantly shitting on each other (ja'marr does it in front of cameras while justin knows pr talk and actually exercises it well. hence the amount of people shitting on ja'marr for saying shit they themselves have said and joke about their friends. pisses me off.) and outrageously competitive people who are undeniably the best at what they do getting compared to each other constantly and their history of ja'marr technically having beaten justin during college and coming into the league with justin breaking several type of records while ja'marr breaks a whole different set of records etc etc just 😭 do you get me. i am so Sensitive about these two pls nobody touch me about them im sorry..........

joe and justin having the same agents and then tee and ja'marr having the same agents is kind of crazy tbh. tee and justin should date just for this quartet to go straight into Messy.

disclaimer this is all pure Speculation and just me making shit up tbh using my Noticer Glasses that gets cloudy from my own delusions so take this with a grain of salt!

ALSO during college i think it's like. justin was really close to joe bc they're the same year (?) right seniors or whatever closer in age and they're clearly best friends. but justin and ja'marr were like twin flames, same position, and they're kind of insane abt each other during college lmao that one clip post natty win of justin leaning back to ja'marr is like burned into my head. and ja'marr was sooo unsure abt joe at first and joe was kind of way too intense without saying a single thing to ja'marr but just staring at him while justin was like the bridge between these two!! that's like a whole other thing about joemarr and justin that's sooo fun to write about truly i love Speculating lsu days crushes and justin being a little shit about them. (lsu ask i swear i'll finish answering you one day auguauguhsuhg)

[hiemaldesirae]

Ok this is my second attempt at this prompt so the writing is probably not that good but what if Vox and Alastor had their first real fight because of Alastor’s treatment of husk bare with me

Vox goes to the hotel to check it out but when gets there he doesn’t see anyone so he just looks around and as he’s looking around he sees a bar and he sees Husk running the bar. Vox gets really excited about this it’s been so long since he last heard from his old mentor not since his deal with Alastor. Vox goes up to bar to finally talk to Husk but something stops him in his track now that Vox is close enough to get good look at him he notices how different he looked his clothes are scuffed and his hair is a mess not to mention his movement are sloppy like he’s constantly tired. Something’s up with husk and Vox will get to the bottom of it if it’s last thing he’ll do. By the time Vox got to the bar Husk had already prepared him his drink the fact that he still remembered what he liked after all these years filled Vox with a warm feeling. The conversation went on for hours both of them telling stories about the time they spent apart as well as the reminiscing about the moments they shared together it felt good it has been sometime since they had last spoken and it felt like no time passed at all it felt so good that husk forgot to filter what he was saying and he ended making an off hand comment about how Alastor’s been treating him now luckily all of the other hotel residents were already asleep because that would’ve been a disaster if they weren’t but still that doesn’t make this any better Vox has always been one of the last things keeping Alastor together so if he left who knows what would happen. Vox hasn’t said a word everything just went quiet it stayed like that for what felt like hours the silence only breaking when someone arrived right on cue Alastor walks in but before he can even say a word Vox is already dragging him into a random room as Husk watches nervously. Vox is smart he knows not to anger the radio demon he’ll be fine right? That hopeful thinking was immediately trashed when he started hearing yelling growing louder and louder so loud infact that the others were waking up even Lucifer came down to check if anything was wrong they all went to Husk asking if he knew what was going on but Husk was too worried really give them a answer the only thing he’s willing to say is Alastor sparking Lucifer to go on a rant . The fighting lasted for a while before Vox opened the door and storming out followed by Alastor who’s missing his iconic smile instead it being replaced by a scowl. Alastor without his smile is unnatural as creepy as his always smiling face is it’s at least somewhat normal once you get used to it but this was just wrong. No one would dare say word all either too scared are unnerved to say a thing “sooo” all except Lucifer of course “trouble in paradise?”

ough. ruh roh.......... trouble in paradise indeed

this is so good nonny. really. Guys. you have to consider writing these out. or at least detail them more to me... please.... i am but a starving victorian child and this is the last thing i will see before my tragic death at the age of 7 (but you can save me by feeding me more radiostatic morsels)

anyway. ahem. sorry i dont know what just happened i think i got possessed by sir pentious- the idea of vox and al's first real fight after they make up being over his treatment of husk is just. you know what thats so real to me. because like radiostatics general (Canon because if its ME writing ill make sure to make them sappy as shit) dynamic is like, ill treat you like shit and youll treat me like shit but in the end you're mine and im yours and thatll never change- but that only applies to THEM. if vox catches al treating his previous mentor (cough father figure cough) like that it is On Sight because first of all, thats HUSK. thats the guy who taught him like basically everything he knows, almost raised him in hell and on the path to being an overlord- and also, does this mean al would pay more attention to torturing husk than he would to vox? because thats just- unacceptable. honestly. so its just so funny if vox like storms out in a fury and whisks husk away to the vees tower or something and profusely ignores alastor and their dynamic gets reversed all because vox learns about the way al treats his thralls (DESERVED)

[ejudollz]

hi bunny!! just gonna do a little rant session here cause idk what to do and i'm BAWLLING MY EYES OUT so basically i feel like i'm slipping out cause i did not enroll to my supposed program for college and i'm at a different college program and i feel like i'm wasting time here cause idk what to do and everyone around me is pursuing their programs while i'm stuck in town and wanna kms for it cause this doesn't give me any opportunity to grow mentally and physically and i'm just being drained because this makes me feel that i don't have any plans for my future even though i have but because i'm not enrolled to the program that i want which is supposedly the first thing on how i should build my future just makes my situation worse :((

hi bby :(( i feel this so bad because ive had sooo many horrible situations like this. my best friend just got her degree and im still barely solidified on if i even want to stick with my current program. i have switched colleges about 3 times now and am gonna switch again in the fall and have done soooo many different programs/degrees so trust me i really really understand. what i can say is make the best of the situation you're in, sure it's not the program you wanted but let it do something for you. learn as much as you can, apply whatever you learn to SOMETHING, we're both very very VERY fortunate to be going to school and to learn. i don't wanna be that person that's like "you should be grateful blah blah blah" cuz that changes and helps nothing, however it's better to look at what your current position CAN do for you and not what it isn't.

your future and your progress and your path is exactly that, it's YOURS!! you make it what you want it to be and make things work how you want it to work. sure life throws it's curve balls but again, allow it to work for you in some way. even if you learn one piece of information, it's expanding your knowledge and growing you as a person. your path and your progress and how you make it/how long it takes is your own thing. we live with so many expectations about what we should do and when and we have all these predetermined expectations of what should happen at what age but guess what? that's all man-made,, our path and our timing is all so different and we should allow that to be the case.

you have your plan and it didn't work out, i personally know what i want to do but have no way of achieving that currently so im making the most of what i have. i would LOVE to be in esthetician or massage school but can't possibly make that work for me so im getting a psychology degree and while it's not what i absolutely want, i have this whole plan of what i would love to have but sadly it's not realistic for me. the key is to grow in other ways, advance in other ways. sure i don't necessarily "want" this psychology degree but i know it will benefit me, no matter how much i want to be doing something else. find smaller ways to make things perfect for you, it will be okay i promise <3. you're doing amazing, it's a hugeeeee success that you even know what program you do want! im so sorry it didn't work out for you but im proud of you anyways!! i hope something i said here resonates with you and i hope things work out and that things turn out better than you could ever expect :(( im here for you if you need anything else or wanna chat/rant!!

[jinxificada]

HOW do u write sooo good?? I’m trying to get into writing my own stuff, and I’m like terrible at it. I need to know ur ways. (Low-key what I’m struggling with is how to word things and make it sound good…like rn)

old inbox sorry for taking so long :[

if anyone notice the long ass breaks i take between fics.. its not easy 😭 if english isn't your first language, even worse!!

tbh i don't think my writing is deserving of so much praise but it does encourage me to try over and over so don't give up! and read a lot!! i understand what you're struggling with cause it happens a lot, overall i'd say write the basics of your story and edit it as many times as you want to be satisfied (though u might never be fully satisfied) and have funnn

what's the point if you're not having fun?!!

using this to rant because i've been struggling with this fuckin ass stupid mf language man i'm so tired of it why don't we choose a new worldwide language to communicate 🙏🙏🙏

yesterday i was checking my old wattpad and BRO i do miss writing in spanish 💔 tho i think it's more..romantic, so it wouldn't work for my silly little smuts but ughhgg

[lightprkdraws]

ooh okay now I'm curious: what don't you like about v3's ending?

Hhh I hope you won't regret asking this, because I am going to rant a looot about it XDD

SPOILERS for ALL danganronpa main games (also, long rant ahead)

The first thing that I want to say is that it makes me cringe. It makes me cringe so hard when the in-universe characters talk about the previous games and literally say danganronpa. It's too meta for my liking.

Additionally, it feels mean spirited to the player. Sorry, I can't get to the moral high ground here, I just don't like getting lectured for the things I like by the things I like. It's a bit hypocritical too, no? You were the one who made the murder mystery game, not me!

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Having gotten those two points out of the way, it feels really silly as a reveal in comparison to the previous two games' reveals. The first one basically said that the world as the characters knew it had ended, and the second one not only said that, but it also revealed that they were the ones responsible.

In comparison, DRV3 has a very bizarre (also overused, also juvenile) "we live in a society" kind of reveal. "Ooooh look how uncaring all these people are!"

(also, seriously? who could watch 53 of these killing games without getting bored? that number is ridiculous)

It certainly tries to give it more of a punch with the inclusion of the characters' audition tapes (seeing that they signed up to be psychologically tortured and literally murdered on live TV) in an attempt to make it more like DR2 instead of just DR1, however that aspect is brushed aside in favour of dealing with the bigger issue (the actual murder show). It's so incredibly cartoony and weird, and not in a good way. Maybe if it were some kind of underground, dark web type of deal there would be a better flavour to it.

Also, there were sooo many red herrings in the previous chapters, instead of a slow buildup of the reveal. For comparison's sake:

In 2-2 the characters learn that they've lost their school memories, and, after that, Monokuma starts talking about the world ending on multiple occasions. In 2-3 we read a document about a reserve course that exists at hope's peak. We also learn about protests that were carried out by said reserve course. Then in 2-4 we get the payoff that Hajime is in the reserve course. Finally, in 2-6 we learn that all the people of this game were the instigators of the apocalipse. Hajime's personal struggle is only a small part of the bigger reveal, but it also supports the bigger narrative: the fact that Hope's Peak is an incredibly corrupt organisation that treats people as expendable labrats, and how that led to the protests, and how that helped Junko escalate the situation in a massive way.

Meanwhile, in V3 we get some flashbacks of Suichi talking with a random young kid, him talking with some classmates, him being chased by a mob of people. Then there's a whole thing about getting to the exit through the tunnel and hope's peak building a sanctuary for the last remains of humanity?? And let's not forget Kaede's sister, for whatever reason. I'll admit that I don't remember all the details of V3 because it's been a while since I played it, but all these events are so disjointed and random. There's just so many things shown that in the end don't have anything to do with the reveal (apart from showing how stupid the whole organisation running these killing games is).

Another thing to mention, is the existence of the nanokumas. The creators must have really liked the fact that Monokuma could see everything all the time in DR2, because they had to somehow make that work outside of a digital context in V3. I hate the nanokumas. They are so incredibly dumb as a concept.

And after all is said and done, the game has the gall to say "but who knows what the actual truth is"

Neither of the previous games had such an unecessary open-endedness to them. But ig I have to admit that, specifically with DR1's ending, there is a bias of certainty because we got multiple sequels that confirm what the truth is (although I still believe that it didn't really leave much room for debate).

Both games had a feeling of "and the story continues" but not a "wait, what was the truth after all?", if that makes sense.

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Now, about Tsumugi specifically. It's really really dumb that she was made out out to be a big bad evil mastermind, when she's just a showrunner. She's got 0 actual power. Nothing like Junko or even Izuru. They were the instigators. Tsumugi is a small cog in a machine.

Idk if I've said this before, but I'd like her a lot better as a mastermind if she'd been some rich spoiled girl who's obsessed with the danganronpa franchise and ends up kidnapping a bunch of her classmates and brainwashes them in order to make her own real-life killing game. That to me, specifically for Tsumugi's character, would be 1000x or even 1000000x more compelling than her canon motivations and role. This way, you can even keep the meta-narrative of the previous games being fictional in the V3 universe, but can completely remove the entire world being in on the joke. AND it would make her more interesting because she'd be so passionate about this game that she's literally willing to die for it!

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In conclusion: there's probably things I can't remember right now, but these are the main points that come to mind off the top of my head.

Don't get me wrong, I had a lot of fun playing it until the trial of chapter 5. It became too confusing and convoluted for me after that point. But before that, I liked seeing most of the character interactions.

I do feel bitter that Kaede was killed in the first chapter (it'd be a lot more interesting if Suichi had died and Kaede had then had to learn how to take on his role, there could even be a lesson that one does not need to keep themselves within the confines of their assigned ultimate talent), but it's not like the whole game suffers from this one decision.

I especially liked the interactions between Suichi, Maki, and Kaito during their nightly meetups. Such small moments of bonding time is something that was missing from the previous two games.

[jeahreading]

Fine listen

(Long rant upcoming about my love life....more like failed love life)

DJ yesterday was bullshit up until like the last 15 mins of my time there. The guy was an amazing singer but GODDAMIT PEOPLE ARE HERE TO DANCE ON MERA NAAM MERY HAIN AND SHEILA KI JAWANI, not some roadside mellow english song T_T.

sooo, I was very confident yesterday I looked fabulous for the first time in forever, i had a red lip and fishnets and a pretty short dress(WHICH KEPT RIDING UP OMG I THINK I WAS BUSY PULLING DOWN MY DRESS MORE THAN I WAS DANCING).

So was like *deeeeeeeeeeeeep brethes* i'm gonna ask out a girl today(I had asked her out earlier and she'd said yes for a date but for reasons we couldn't meet up and it kinda just fizzled out after that), so I took her aside when the music wasn't too loud or important, and I basically rambled "My father, ever the wingman, gave me courage, and btw you don't have to answer me or anything, and if you say no this changes nothing we are still best friend and ily platonically<3, but you maybe wanna go on a date on me, ik im asking for the second time haha lmao, oh wait, i forgot to ask, are you even single, you're probably not haha"

And she looked so sympathetic, she was like "The guy who has been standing beside me the entire time is actually my boyfriend, I'm so sorry, I swear this Changes nothing I still luv you bestie mwah"(kissed my cheek).

And qe were hugging like for sure dw bout it, just shooting my shot, if you even break up, call me up jk haha lmao.

Okay, but to be fair, I had a GINORMOUS crush on her in 2023, and then throughout 24, it kind of just died down a little. I still really like her, but she's not occupying my every thought like before. I'm still disappointed, and I would absolutely jump at the opportunity if she's single again, but it's fine. I'm not crying over it; I'm just a little sad.

but BRO her bf is like a fucking tank, I noticed later that guy was standing and looking us over the entire time, Not in a creepy way he wasn't listening in, and she prob won't tell him but more of, i swear if something happens to my gf i will rip you to shreds kinda guy.

Damn man.

[lipglossanon]

omg i agree with you about those things, like internet culture has changed so much and sooo quickly. im fairly young so i grew up with internet. ive been on tumblr since 2012 and its basically been my only social media so im used to how early-mid 2010s tumblr era was when everyone would reblog and add comments and just find their own place on this site. and its just so odd that in the past few years really, that theres been such a massive shift in maintaining this pure and perfect online presence. it doesn't just affect celebrities anymore with cancel culture, its everyday human beings that are just living their own lives and sometimes they make mistakes and sometimes those "mistakes" or "offences" are totally normal things lmao

i think people (especially tumblr as a website) need to reassess why theyre so obsessed with this concept of moral purity. and why they feel the need to attack others.

sorry for the rant lol 😅 didnt mean for it to get so long but sometimes i get heated when it comes to things like this

(also! enjoy your break away from here! i'll miss you but i hope to see your name on my dash again soon!! 🩷)

It really has changed so quickly! I get that there’s always going to be trolls or just shit stirrers 😆 but lately it’s literally like the Westboro Baptist Church has sent out little cronies into the world to just be puritanical assholes lmao

And yes! Like what is the underlying issue driving these people to be the Pope of the fandom? Lol. Like I seriously miss the days of people being normal online (well normal as in hey I don’t like this let me just leave it alone 🙄). What drives me crazy is the people who ‘take in on themselves’ to be the ‘voice of reason’ cause we don’t want others to think poorly if they’re not leading the righteous charge, right? 😒

Hey no apologies for ranting! This is a definite pet peeve of mine so rant away 🤣

And thank you! 🥰 I’ll be outta here by the new year 😌 lol. But I’m looking forward to it and coming back 💜 I won’t be gone forever 😉

[dykephan]

brandi im sooo scared... this is going to sound so long and convoluted im deeply sorry for this rant but. i was just on fall break and staying with my mom for the past week. im going back to my apartment today BUT her boyfriend is driving us up and we're meeting a coworker of his that is supposedly my age that he thinks I'll hit it off with simply because "we both like anime". not only is it petrifying to realize that this man's entire perception of me is "anime enjoyer", but he's basically setting me up with a teenage boy from WISCONSIN that likes, not only anime, but ONE PIECE was one of the only things i recognized from the information that was funneled between three people to get to me. no, they didnt even have us exchange contact info to talk a little bit first. we're all going to meet at dave and busters at 5, we're on the way now. ive sucked up a lot of my nerves about it but THEYRE RUINING THING DAY!!! WHAT IF DAN AND PHIL POST SOMETHING AND IM AT DAVE AND BUSTERS WITH ANIME BOY ILL BE SO FUCKING PISSED

i know my phone will probably explode if they post smth but im still so deeply scared of missing it :(((((

noooooo it should be illegal to force a phannie to leave the house on the thing day 😭 however i do think it would be incredibly funny if you did hit it off with anime boy and thus share an anniversary with dan and phil. something to think about..

don't worry about missing anything, i'm home now so i'll message you asap if anything happens 🫶🏻

[ocs-and-hyperfixations]

Hiii! Welcome to my blog! I'm Novastarr, but you can call me Nova for short, and I also go by Acorn!

@novastaar is my octonauts side blog (can you tell whic one came first? Lol), but this will be where I post about some of my other ocs, hyperfixations, and other random stuff.

Not specifying age, but I'm a minor (in my teens), so please don't be creepy or anything. I'm okay with adults interacting as long as you're not being weird or interacting from a NSFW-centric blog! (As long as the blog isn't based on NSFW content and I can filter it out)

If I'm uncomfortable with you, I will block you!

If I interact with your blog and you're uncomfortable, please feel free to block me or let me know! I do check DNI, but sometimes I miss things or don't always pick up on them, sorry in advance!

DNI: racists, homophobes, NSFW/kink blogs, therian/furry haters, or if you're just an asshole

Some tags to keep myself organized

#Nova's ramblings - random thoughts or rambles about stuff (usually fandom related)

#Nova's lgbtq rants - rants about things regarding the lgbtq+ community

#uh oh Nova's shit posting again - shit posts

#Nova's galaxy - stuff about my personal life

#Nova's stars - oc introduction posts

#Acorn's art - stuff that I draw

#Acorn's crafts - stuff besides drawings that I make

#oc (oc name) - posts about my ocs

Feel free to ask about me, any of my OCs, or the fandoms I'm in! I'm friendly and love yapping about my hyperfixations, though most of the time, I won't really have anything smart to say, lol

Current fandoms I'm in (and the characters that got me into said fandoms/my favorite characters) :

Octonauts (Paani and Shellington) the hyperfixation is fading slightly, but I still love the show!

Hilda (alfur) what can I say? I like fantasy shows and tiny characters

Animal Crossing (Blathers/brewster) haven't picked up this game in months. Also, I totally ship them

Total Drama (Mike+alters) I know basically nothing about the other seasons, though, and Netflix deleted all except for the first 2 or 3

Epic the Musical (technically Polites, ig?) Basically only listen to the concept album, but I do it nonstop. I don't know many of the animstics

Last kids on earth (Skelka) haven't watched this show in forever either, don't remember much

Empires smp (LDshadowlady) used to be my strongest hyperfixation. It's fizzled out a lot, but I still enjoy it. I have way too many OCS for this SMP, including my main one and a few for s3 (which DOESN'T EVEN EXIST)

Wild Kratts (Chris and Martin, obviously) again, haven't watched this one in a while, but it used to be my childhood so I still remember a lot

Dead boy detectives (Edwin Payne) one of the more recent shows I've watched. I'm sad it was apparently canceled. I would've loved to see where they went with it

Night at the museum (movies) (Jed and Octavius) my current strongest fixation, I adore the gay little tinies and have watched each movie several times over (yes, including the animated one. I don't like it much, but it still has Hedtavius, sooo)

and probably more that I can't remember

Enjoy!

[celestie0]

I’m sure medicine can put you through hell but at least in time your gonna be a good doctor Ellie I wish I could consult you 😭😭 personally I’ve had the most disappointing experiences with doctors of late like just a whole lot of dismissal and condescending attitude one doctor interrupted me and basically told me stop self diagnosing and reminded me that she’s the doctor when all I was trying to do was explain my experiences with my own body like I know I don’t have a fucking degree in the field but I’m still an educated adult trying to discuss what MY body has struggled with for so long and then she proceeded to tell me it’s psychological, anyway after being shut down and unsuccessful one too many times I’ve kinda given up on seeking help, funny thing is I walked out of the consultation room and saw a poster about women’s health that said to not “suffer in silence” like bitch please

Anywho I’m sorry for the rant, as an online entity I perceive you as a lovely person andddd your also very smart, as much of a pain this career choice may be at times I’m positive that you will make a good impact whatever you specialise in, keep up the good work! I sound like a teacher lol

Take care 💗💗💗

aw yeah unfortunately there is sooo much dismissal in healthcare it’s so sad. as someone who’s been on the other side though, it really is shocking the working conditions that healthcare professionals have to deal with/had to deal with to get to where they are, only to continuously still be mistreated…but that doesn’t really give them any excuse to act that way to patients haha. medicine has always been an inherently selfless field and it’s sad to see how many inconsiderate people join the field for prestige, power, or money, or also how many people first joined with hopeful altruistic intentions but then became jaded overtime

in any case! i hope to be a doctor someday that listens with full care and compassion. i have also been a patient that has been dismissed, discarded and distrusted and it’s such a sad feeling. i’m so very sorry you went through all of that! hopefully you have better experiences going forward :( there are definitely wonderful doctors out there that care about their patients so much, even behind the scenes, i have seen it

your words are so sweet thanks bb <3 much love

[bigtreefest]

Ok, Essie. We've seen your absolute delicious-looking rigatoni alla vodka, so what are some of your other favorite things to cook?? And do you enjoy baking too? If so, what?

Kris!! Thank you for reminding me I’m a person😅

I’m so proud of that rigatoni, one of my most recent shining achievements, for sure. Genuinely, thank you for this ask, because I know a lot about cooking. And I don’t really share it much anymore!! Plus, it’s been awhile since I’ve cooked/baked anything worthwhile. I legit used to have an instagram page dedicated to my cooking and baking.

Now to finally answer your question, haha. When I comes to cooking, I love making little smashed potatoes. They’re those little baby Yukon gold potatoes that you boil until soft, then smash between two baking trays, season with a buncha herbs, and then bake at a high heat so they get crispy. Def one of my favorites and pretty much the only way I’ll eat Yukon gold potatoes bc I’m not a fan of them otherwise. (I’m not a fan of waxy potatoes. I’m a starch potato family gal for sure.😬) a go-to protein used to be lamb chops for a special dinner, but now I’m really cooking whatever mom says lol. In recent years, I’ve been tasked with thanksgiving and Christmas dinner, which is…a lot. Especially when I’m not the one who suggests it, and I kinda get forced into making what everyone else wants, then getting complaints when the 40 dishes they asked for aren’t perfect (like, then you make it. This wasn’t my vision.) can you tell I have a problem with authority?😅 but also, call me basic and Asian, bc one of my comfort foods used to be spam and egg over rice with a little soy sauce. I just love everything good. I’ve always loved cooking, and love to try new things. Firm believer that everyone should know a little about a lot of things #wifemeup #jkimworthsomuchmorethanthefoodimake #andimalsoaverytiredbean

Beyond cooking, I love trying new food places! Every time I visit a place, or have a special occasion, I literally take weeks to research good places to eat!!

When it comes to baking, I often don’t do anything major because I don’t have the time, or anyone to feed it to since I live so far from my friends and family! I do love a good chocolate chip cookie, and I’ve got a few recipes, but I’m still trying to find a way to perfect them with browned butter since that messes up the ratios!! I’d love an excuse to make a cake. Like a real layer cake. I think the closest I’ve come in recent years is making an ice cream cake that was between two giant macaron shells for my sister’s bday. It was great and sooo good!

Again, thank you so much for asking! Sorry for the rant-ish, long-winded answer. I love being able to share, you’re the sweetest! Enjoy these photos I screenshotted from my google storage and was too lazy to crop

[calkale]

As someone who relatively enjoyed MI7 (bc I go no thoughts mode and just watch Tom run around), im sooo curious about your thoughts

im putting this under the cut cause I need to rant about it again and its gonna be LONG, thank you for asking tho

a lot of this is gonna be a repeat of what I said when I watched the movie (I have not seen it since it was in theatres), idk where those posts are but they should be under #mi7 spoilers if you wanna find them.

okay first off im not gonna talk about the overall plot, I couldn't care less about it and I knew that going into the movie. its the stunts and the overall feel of that movie that piss me off. I watch mi movies because I wanna have a good time and watch tom cruise do cool stuff and thats not what I got out of this movie.

im starting with the cliff jump stunt cause I was just thinking about it. the buildup was Ass with a capital A. they cut away from ethan riding up the mountain too many times and for too long at a time. I was comparing it to the scene when ethans chasing walker in fallout because to me that was cut perfectly. Cutting from ethan to benji and sometimes walker for a few seconds so I knew where ethan was and where he was trying to get to but I still felt the build up, I knew he was gonna catch walker but I was still thinking "omg is he gonna make it?". and the cuts to benji and luthor worked well because they were still a part of what was going on and the map on benjis ipad helped visualize what was going on. in mi7 when Ethans riding up the mountain the cuts between him and benji where really good but I hate that they kept cutting back to the train. They could've easily had more obstacles for ethan on the way up the mountain if they needed! its a long ride but showing the mountain and a few shots of Ethan at different parts would've been good enough, we could've had Benji asking him "are you there yet?" like every minute so we get that a lot of time is passing but not enough that the tension stops building and a funny little joke between the two of them. I understand why it cuts back to grace/alanna on the train during that time but those are two very different things going on that are building tension in very different ways. call me crazy but ethan jumping off a cliff is different than grace dressed as someone she's not sitting down to talk to someone. it was just really hard to get invested in either of the two things going on. then the actual jumping off the cliff was such a letdown, I did not feel a fucking thing when he jumps off then it cuts away immediately after like that wasn't The Stunt of the movie?? you dont put a stunt like that on posters and post a 20 minute behind the scenes video about it for it to feel like that and show basically none of it!! show ethan flying through the sky!! show him landing on the train!!! I thought he was gonna land on the train but no that gets taken away in favour of a fucking joke when he crashes through the window. yes mi movies are supposed to be funny im fine with that I love that but come on!! let tom cruise land on the train!!! he can still slip and fall on top of the train but let that old man get his enrichment time!!

now for the train. Im sorry but it looked horrendous, the cgi was Not Good and I can't get past it. with other movies I try my best to not care but this is Mission Impossible. I know they did crash a train I love that but all the cgi added in around it and when Ethan and Grace are climbing through the train looks So Bad. it takes away from everything going on because you know its not real. I get it yeah yeah they can't dangle actors from wires while a train is slipping off a cliff but theres gotta be some way to make it look better. like I said about the bike stunt there was no tension there to me and I felt so disconnected from the movie and the characters, I like putting myself in situations and its hard when im like hm thats not real.

the fiat car chase. this was when I was like "fuck, I hate this movie", im sure we all know by now I am not a hayley atwell fan, so what sue me im allowed to not like people. I didn't like this car chase because it was mostly her driving. BABE THIS IS MISSION IMPOSSIBLE IM HERE TO SEE TOM CRUISE DRIVE NOT HER!!! if she was good then whatever but shes not for the bit. I feel like a lot of things that could've been really cool were pushed aside in favour of humour in this movie and I hate it. you can have both!! they literally did it in rogue nation and you're allowed to have callbacks in this movie so you can have a car chase like the one in rogue nation again!!! just let tom drive so it looks cool or even let hayley drive I dont care I just want it to look cool and have the humour stay inside the car. doing bits like this made the movie feel more generic and like they were trying to appeal to, dare I say, mcu fans. i like mission impossible because they get the ratio of humour to action perfect every time, and they're always so good at timing it too but in this movie especially during this chase it did not work for me and I didn't even find it funny if im being honest.

obviously I also have to talk about ilsa and im gonna shit on mcqs writing so apologies. there are two ways to look at this, one shes dead and two shes not dead, both are bad writing IN MY OPINION. if she is dead that was an awful way to send off such a loved character, she was hardly in the movie. im all for more women in movies but she definitely could've replaced grace and I think it would've given her and ethan a much better dynamic. ilsa barely has any lines??? I wouldn't even call her a side character in this movie like my friend didn't even know her name thats how insignificant she was. the sword fight was cool as fuck, rebecca slayed, but she really should've won that fight? maybe if she was outnumbered id be like okay thats a little more likely but it just feels really out of character for me. now if she DIDNT die then im also pissed because fake killing a character twice in the same movie is a little much for me, if it happened at the start of the movie and the end of the movie then okay I can deal with it but she died twice in like the first part of the movie? im sorry to say it but im sure most casual viewers forgot about her by the end of the movie and if they go back for part two and she comes back it's not gonna mean a whole lot to them. and ethans reaction to her death didn't sit right with me, this guy was a theatre kid he can at least somewhat act sad when the girl he loves fake dies and he should be allowed to, for like 5 minutes at least, I know theres a lot of stuff going on but he loved her!! let him cry a little!! and if we're supposed to believe shes dead then ethan not reacting is not helping.

one last thing I wanna add and I know im probably the only one who feels this because I know most people liked the movie, but when you make a part one and part two that release at different times you want people to like part one. it needs to be able to stand well on its own so people want to watch part two and are excited for it. am I gonna watch part two? probably yeah I wanna see that plane stunt but im not excited for it and I really feel like im just gonna be let down in the same ways again. I dont want to go see a movie for the stunts when I know I hated the stunts in the first part and I didn't come out of it caring about the plot or the characters (other than benji <3) so what am I going for? i have no reason to see that movie or be excited for it

I would also like to add I know this is not the movie tom and mcq wanted to put out since the original cut was like what 4 hours? and the movie was extremely over budget because of covid but I can still be mad about the finished product

[gay-david-tennant]

No don't apologize for the Stucky stuff! I only watched Endgame once in the cinema because it pissed me off so much.

And I just did it again expecting to maybe be a little more forgiving. But NO I am still pissed off mainly because of this part...

same for me! watched endgame once and it pissed me off sooo much. im not sure whether i watched it ever again but im sure that in the future i definitely wont! and y'know for me its not even about shipping them (tho i do somewhat in the sense of i love their dynamic and want to see more of it no matter whether platonic, queerplatonic (or romantic)). but in the movies it is shown that there is no one more important to steve than bucky (man didnt want to fight against him although he was brainwashed and ready to kill him) and bucky literally broke 70 years of mind control for steve (and you dont just establish such a beautiful line as 'til the end of the line' in one movie and then betray that sentiment). they literally love each other! but for some reason people cant fathom platonic love (which it is in canon) greater than romantic love so they think if given the choice steve would go back to peggy. which is the direct opposite of what the three captain america movies showed us! he moves on! he learns she had a happy life, he goes to her funeral for fs sake! he kisses her niece (also dumb ass move of the directors guess they thought it would make people stop shipping stucky or whatever, hate that they basically just included sharon for love interest reasons). and in endgame hes been in the present for about 11 years! thats double the time he knew peggy in the 40s. and he. moves. on. (sorry it annoys me that they just ignored the whole character development). also the same goes for peggy. while she still was pretty one-dimensional love interest like in the movies, the series about her finally did something with her besides being the woman captain america likes. and she also. moved. on! and then they just erased all that, booted the series out of canon and just made her a cardboard-cut love interest again! ugh. also someone please tell me how it makes sense that Steve Rogers, the man that searched 2 years for Bucky without knowing whether hed find him and who fought out a civil war (at least partially) for him, would just sit around in the 50s while knowing that bucky was being tortured by hydra right now. he just wouldnt. thats so completely out of character i wanna scream! oh god this is long. anyway once again:

STEVE AND BUCKY'S LOVE FOR EACH OTHER IS CANON! AND JUST BECAUSE STEVE LOVED (yes ill say loved see 'he moved on') PEGGY ROMANTICALLY THAT DOESNT MEAN ITS MORE IMPORTANT OR GREATER THAN HIS LOVE FOR BUCKY. SAME GOES FOR IF HE STILL LOVED HER! THIS IS TRUE IN REAL LIFE TOO! PLATONIC LOVE IS NOT AUTOMATICALLY LESSER THAN ROMANTIC LOVE! THIS ALSO MEANS THAT 'THERES NO OTHER EXPLANATION THAN ROMANCE FOR STUCKY IS ALSO WRONG'. YES YOU CAN HEADCANON THEM AS ROMANTIC BUT IT IS NOT THE ONLY EXPLANATION.

and yes im aware that even with steve staying in the present, steve and bucky's relationship would still have been sidelined in favour of a romantic, straight (its marvel what are we expecting) one. i guess thats what i mean when i say im shipping them. they are made for each other ('its difficult to find someone with shared life experience' -> bucky shows up, god i love this) and their relationship is one of the most important in their lifes (if not the most) and relationships with other people (romantic, platonic, queerplatonic or other) would not change anything about that. but marvel (and lets be real the people watching) dont see this. so i have something to rant about for days :)

[fairycosmos]

Can you and your followers let me know if I'm be dramatic by being upset about this? Sorry for how long this is and for it being worded like a reddit AITA post.

A very close friend (as in I've known her for 5 years, we lived together during uni, etc etc) and I made plans back in like January to see a musical in August and we already bought tickets (which are expensive) and I've been openly very excited about it because it's a musical I've wanted to see for a while. Then, in May, she met this guy (now her boyfriend) and after a few weeks of knowing/casually hanging out with him, he asked her to go with him on a trip the same weekend we were planning to see the musical. And she agreed. Now, despite the fact that I've easily been her closest friend throughout uni (and I literally would always cook for her and clean after her without reciprocation) she has deliberately avoided telling me about any details regarding her relationship and also didn't tell me about the fact that she's bailing on our plans. She told another Mutual Friend and told her to not tell me because she wanted to break the news herself. But that Mutual Friend did end up telling me because one day I was ranting about how she's been keeping me out of the loop of her new relationship and barely speaking to me. So I knew for a month now that she's bailing on these plans and was just waiting for her to openly tell me. Then yesterday she accidentally revealed it without realizing in a group chat, and when I asked her privately she didn't even say sorry she just said that she completely forgot and got the dates mixed up. Which I know isn't true.

On top of that, two weeks ago was my birthday, and around like 7pm, I told Mutual Friend that this friend hadn't wished me yet. And she got really upset about it but I didn't want to make it into a big deal. And then that friend ended up wishing me at 11:30pm and said she was at training all day at work, which I knew was bs because who trains for 12 straight hours and because I literally saw on Twitter that she had tweeted multiple times earlier that day so she had access to her phone. But I let it slide. And yesterday, Mutual Friend revealed to me that she actually had to remind this friend that it was my birthday because she was afraid the day would pass by without her wishing me and didn't want my feelings getting hurt. Am I crazy for letting all this upset me? I'm happy that she's found a boyfriend but she's literally been icing me out since then. It's normally very difficult for me to get my feelings hurt and I feel so dramatic being this upset about a birthday wish and a cancelled plan but idk. I want to confront her about it but I've been told that I should just keep my distance for a while.

hey i don't think you're an asshole for this - something that did cross my mind is that maybe ur friend is in a sort of controlling or unhealthy relationship with this person? just based on how shes been isolated from you, someone who is rly close to her, and how distant she's been since getting with the guy. ofc that's a very worrying and nuanced situation to have to confront and that's a big assumption on my part -it truly may not be the case, and even if it is, obviously as an outsider looking in obviously there's only so much you can do to try to get through to her. butttt if right now it just seems like she's gotten into a new relationship and put your friendship with her entirely on the backburner with no explanation, then i think your feelings of anger and hurt are entirely understandable. i've honestly been there myself so many times like when girlfriends get boyfriends and suddenly you're basically invisible to them. it's sooo discouraging and hurtful and you feel like a freak for being sad about it but still you're sad about it. and while obviously people's priorities change when they get into a relationship, it's not ok to neglect all of your friendships just bc you're seeing someone, you know? i completely see why you're upset and i don't think you need to feel like you've done something wrong for simply questioning her recent behaviour. especially when it comes to that expensive gig!!! she should've had the respect to come to you herself about that if she was cancelling, point blank. i would be pretty pissed myself in ur shoes. it's obviously entirely up to you where you go from here, and i guess i can't answer that part for you as i don't know the ins and outs of your circumstances + dynamic with her -- but whatever you need to do to ensure you have your own best interests at heart here is alright. whether it's taking time or talking to her or a mixture of both. and btw this is just my singular perspective ofc so maybe im wrong or missing something. sending so um grain of salt and all that, but yeah that's how i see it. sending a huge hug your way. x