#being antis and haters because of this is also a choice like facts are facts wolfstar is almost as old as me

[m00neroni]

To be honest with you, I don't think Wolfstar fandom is precisely Jily stans enemy, so the things I am reading in my dashboard right now are confusing. Like, obviously they are both "original" ships, but why so mad about Remus/Sirius having been there and with a very important fanbase since the beginning? And where's all this animosity against R/S stans coming from J/L ones? I'm looking at you in confusion.

[blackpilljesus]

i feel suicidal ever since i became black pilled and i have no idea how and if its possible to live knowing that there will never be women liberation and having to deal with males 24/7 and that things gets worse for women everyday and there is any moment for me to become another victim story posted on media and other males will either jerk it off or "womp womp" it. i cant even scroll anything literally anything without misogyny i just scrolled a post that an indian woman in canada got cooked alive and the comments by males just like i expected "rest in deodorant" "okay next" and making jokes and saying she deserve it for not only being a woman but indian too..like how am i supposed to live among these creatures how am i supposed to also live among women who will jump on me if i told them we should do something about males and their violence..i think women are biologically masochists and males are biologically raging violence who hates women and have 0 sympathy. its so unfair my safety and my life is dependent on all womens choices and that i cant get liberation and save myself if most women are enablers and make things worse for ourselves by thinking males can be rehabilitated or not all men or whatever their coping mechanism and masochist logic. i think im also turning into a misogynist and i don't care anymore when i see a woman harmed by male because i know if i said something about males she will be in front line too calling me "man hater dyke" or "feminazi terf" and equating me with incels. how one can cope with all that

Focus on yourself. That's it. See others for what they are but ultimately focus on yourself.

The last bit of your ask is so real because I feel the same way, your issue is that you're tying yourself to other women. You're meshing your fate with theirs. It is a depressing state of affairs but you need to learn to decouple yourself from these things. Ironically the blackpill saved me because it gave me answers that confirms my worldview. It saved me because I realised it's not my fault.

It's hard but constantly absorbing all this stuff will mess you up, the internet is a magnifier of peoples degeneracy. When I see this shit now I just apathetically look at it on a surface level like watching animals in the wild.

Damn maIe degeneracy, again. Women supporting them, again. Typical. Then move on tbh.

Constant outrage with no action only hurts yourself, as I always say anti natalism is your saving grace here. As long as you don't add another person to the system & keep the messed up cycle going you're golden. As for social media either work on finetuning your algorithm or reduce the amount of time you spend on it. Besides for most cases it's all a waste of time. Short term dopamine but long term (unless you're making money) it doesn't get you anywhere, you're making others money by consuming content that doesn't help you.

Also read this. Author's changed her views but it's still solid words and I think a lot of it applies in your case. This part in particular

You are showing signs of genuine trauma to me because nobody who is not severely affected by a problem would react this harshly to it. I interact with the same type of women you are describing daily and I guarantee you that I do not react to their words the way you do, you are experiencing some kind of trauma response. You need to understand that your body is not these women's bodies and vice versa no matter how much they try to tell you otherwise, and that the acts they are engaging in are not being done to you. What they are essentially doing in trying to convince you that their problems are your problems is blackmailing you out of prioritizing yourself with things like "all of us have the potential to go through X or Y at the hands of men" (nevermind the fact that not all of us will go through the adverse effects of voluntary involvement with men, like infidelity, disappointment with your health and body after a successful pregnancy or violation of boundaries during consensual sex) and "if we all opted out, men would take it by force" — there will be no "opting out" for every woman on Earth and I have literal proof of them wanting to risk sex or pregnancy voluntarily on my blog. Opting out is for the select few who want to do nothing with heterosexual nonsense even if the price of doing so is death because partaking in their drivel is death, physical and spiritual, and if they really did care about distancing themselves from it all that much they would know that death is the least you will be willing to put up with. The behavior they engage in is perfectly avoidable. Is it hard? It is, but "hard" is very different from the "impossible" they are trying to paint it as.

[winniefrezcomics]

Why does dev hate ved so much?

Also did ved have his own versions of dev’s au-pairs

No to the second part, actually! Ved lived a surprisingly quiet, humble life with his father Elad (who I’ll post some more info about in a different ask :3c)- he’s actually not even the prince of the anti fairies, Due to the fact that Elad simply isn’t that ambitious lol. (Unlike his dork-ass son, who is absolutely HELLBENT on taking over fairyworld, but keeps that on the dl uwu )

(Rough Elad concept, will finish later)

…The ruler of the anti faires in this au is actually still completely undecided tbfh, lemme know if yall have suggestions for who would make the most sense! :3c (it may have been Vicky at one point but her ass is for SURE in abracatraz atm)

As for the first part- Trust me, it is EARNED. The reason Dev’s hatred for his anti seems so blown out of proportion to everyone else is because Ved has INTENTIONALLY made it look like Dev hates him just for being an anti-fairy, to discredit anything Dev says to try and make Ved answer for the chaos he so loves causing.

(Longer explanation below)

(Dale is a WELL-KNOWN hater of anti-fairies, due to a certain experience with one named Vicky, so everyone just assumes that hatred was passed down, making Dev’s opinion very biased)

However, Because Dev is well aware he himself only PRETENDS to be mean as a defense mechanism , and actually cares very deeply for his friends and family, Dev can only assume that means Ved’s niceness is similarly fake, and he doesn’t really care about the wellbeing of others at ALL. Ved proves this to be true CONSTANTLY by harming and traumatizing bystanders of wishes- (always Indirectly enough to not break da rules) inevitably making Dev clean up his messes every single time. Aaaand As much as he hates it, Dev always does so, because if DEV messes up, he’s done with fairy godparenting for GOOD, and will have no choice but to crawl back to his dad (Perry is his “last chance” godkid, because he’s failed to help -or even just get along with- SO MANY in the short few years he’s been godparenting coughincludingIriscough)

Anyway, due to Dev and Ved’s mutual understanding of one another’s personalities (mostly through process of elimination tbfh) Dev is the ONLY fairy who has EVER seen Ved without his “mask”- something Ved has meticulously constructed to earn the trust of both faires and anti faires alike- saying and doing whatever he needs to in order to creep closer to his eventual goal.

But underneath all the fake niceness, all the goofy mannerisms, Ved has made it no secret to Dev specifically that he’s a MONSTER, and actively delights in the fact that no one will ever believe him.

Ty for the question! Lemme know if yall have anything else you wanna know about Ved lol- he specifically has been giving me TERRIBLE brainrot as of late ☠️☠️ (ngI Might eff around and rewrite set two and three so I can bring this freakass in early bc I’m honestly love him even tho he’s the WORST 😂 idk I like irredeemable villains I guess 🤓)

Sidenote: The first time they ever meet, Ved literally HUGS HIM as a power-move, looking to outsiders like a genuine gesture, but he was actually just getting close enough to whisper a taunt/ threat directly into Devs ear ☠️☠️ (will RB w that comic if I get around to finishing it lmao)

[smoshsfavoritepizzaplace]

i think people who dislike damien tend to claim that it was for his interaction w a palestinian fan are quite transparent on the fact that its implicit bias against autistic adults who do not mask as much lol. because, the thing is, what he did was shitty. how he acted towards that fan was not cool.

these people were WAITING on him to do something bad because they do not like autistic people who don't mask. maybe i'm reading into it too much but when someone is "annoying" online, people hold their breaths hoping they do somethingto fuck up so that they have a moral high ground to hate on them from. but the truth is they just dislike his autistic traits.

after his interaction w the palestinian fan, i honestly liked him a little bit less. he used to be one of my faves but i thought how he reacted was immature. autism or not, i've learned to interact with people who confront me with respect and care and i have autism and i don't mask, either. i know the shame spirals that lead to how he acted, i still thought it was uncool even when i understood it. but oh my god, i don't even hate n*ah the way some damangela antis hate damien.

i get why people dislike him for his "woke" persona esp cause so many men of his status and complexion (hehehe sorry white men) have positioned themselves as feminists but are just using it as a shield to protect from being critiqued on their actual misogyny. and i also dislike it when white people "activist" so hard that they speak over poc- i especially hate when whits people tryto tell me why white people behavior is bad. i think damien can fall into a bit of a sanitized, millenial internet activist archetype and it does frustrate me sometimes.

but i think, as an autistic person, you can kinda pick up on when people hate someone because of the reasons they claim or if it's just implicit bias. and in the case of damien, the WAY some people hate him make it clear to me that it's just because of his autism. ESPECIALLY after his vocalness about his diagnosis. people want shame out of everybody and hate self acceptance. the same way that when people hate on courtney it's blatantly obvious that it's misogyny when they pretend it's for "valid" reasons.

also sorry i'm so critical of damien on here. i also dislike when people chalk up any bad behavior to "it's his autism" when it isn't. i'm sorry if this whole message is a little messy but i hope u get what i'm trying to say 😔😔

tl;dr: there are valid reasons to criticize and dislike damien but the way some damien haters act make it obvious to me that they're lying and they just hate him cause of his autism.

Tbh I’ll never really understand why people hate Damien the way they do. He of course has made some questionable choices or whatever but some people act like he’s the straight up worst sometimes. It’s totally okay to hold him accountable if he does something bad, absolutely, but I think some people have just disliked him for a while and like you said, waited for him to mess up. As I stated before, everyone who doesn’t like doesn’t have to and it’s okay that they don’t. But I just wish they were a bit more “fair” to him if that makes sense

[papirouge]

Listen, I'm a Candace Owens hater like the next sane person, but seeing mixed women write down post making fun of her where their only angle is "this BLACK WOMAN is too ugly to have a White man" is not only very transparent of the typical non Black/mixed women obsession humbling Black woman attractiveness (notably from non Black men) but also the irony of feminists, complaining about the misogyny of anti feminist like Candace, to resort to typical misogynist arguments like "you're ugly/look like a man" "you'll never look White"

I'd have so many things to say about how, regardless what they preach, mixed women have a resentment against Black women dating out (it's very ironic to see mixed people seethe about "race traitors" Blacks breeding with White people when their very existence is the result of such relationship - and many mixed ppl have racist/anti Black parent themselves so this whole bitterness screams like projection). Also I will never accept a mixed person calling a monoracial Black woman "race traitor" for dating out lmao Mixed people literally have that "treachery" in their genes but wanna call us traitors for what we do with our 🐱??? ILLEGAL.

Also taking the "white supremacism" angle to call out the misogyny of gossip blogger covering the Blake Lively/Baldoni case is hysterical considering that Blake herself has a history of being obsessed with the antebellum era, marrying on a slave plantation, and doing Black face is CRAZY.... Like, so many feminists out there think they doing something labelling as "misogynist" the people invested in that drama but had nothing to say about that awful article calling them "mommy sleuths" and didn't clock the ironically misogynistly condescending tone of that name choice 👀

And I HATE to admit I know this, but Candace has stated she (only) dated non Black men before her shooting to fame (notably Asian men) so OP argument that "White racists bullied/never wanted her" screams like a typical colorist projection. Candace visibly never struggled getting the romantic attention of non Black men. Alsolet's not act like whenever a Black woman suffered from the abuse of colorist black men and decided to stop dating them, she was accused of being a bed wench and a race traitor, so you can NEVER win with those people.... In the end of the day, they want to bully Black women into remaining in Blackistan misery at any cost.

OP defends herself saying she's doing what Candace herself does to other women (=pushing for tradional white feminity/that woman worth is their appearance/fuckability, or insinuating she's trans) but I can't help but see the pattern of mixed women being oddly comfortable questioning unambiguous Black women feminity & attractiveness....it was just a good opportunity for OP to express her deep seated disdain for Black woman by attacking a "bad" one who actually deserves it.

Oh and no comment to that person drawing a parallel between the Tate bro and Blake/Baldoni gossipers... The allegations against Bladoni are SH (not rape) and the Baldoni stans are defending him precisely because they don't believe he sexually harassed her - they're not defending him *despite* him (allegedly) sexually harassing her. Tbh this outrageous parallel tells me everything I need to know about the "feminists" brushing this case like a misogynist op - they can't even get those simple facts straight.

[theloganator101]

Just read a fic praised by the MHA fandom as being 'anti Bakugou' and 'anti Endeavor' it is don't get me wrong but there is a part where the messaging becomes awful and the story goes downhill hard.

Aizawa confronts Shoto and Izu on some concerning behaviour they have shown because of their trauma. Then Izu tells him essentially 'Our situations are shit. You can't change mine or risk Bakugou becoming a villain. You can't change Todoroki's unless you want the HPSC after you for ruining Endeavor and having the public question heroes.'

In this fic, Aizawa hears this. Then literally just nods, agrees and decides to do nothing...

Like ignore the fact that the messaging to the reader is pure ass for a moment, what the fuck kind of teacher would react like that?!

Bakugou becoming a villain due to facing consequences of being an abusive shit? Let him. Being a villain would be HIS choice and for him to face the consequences of down the line. Besides he's not an AFO level threat, most heroes could K.O this fucker (especially Izuku which would be cathartic to read) if Hori weren't playing favorites.

The HPSC going after Aizawa for exposing Endeavor as a child abusing shit and the public questioning all heroes because of it? Well, if the HPSC are going to react like that instead of rightfully condemning Endeavor then they SHOULD be questioned. All heroes should be scrutinised because how many other heroes would have similarly got away with being child abusing shits with that logic? How is that a bad thing? In fact, if they did this it would take the wind out of Dabi because he wouldn't have SO MUCH of a valid point about Endeav not facing consequences for being a abuser.

God, the way Izuku and Todoroki in this are content sacrificing their childhoods on a pyre in this to protect these two abusive shits is so, SO sad. It's even sadder that the writer paints this as a noble choice instead of recognising it being a flawed one made by two traumatised children.

Then there is the fact that Aizawa LETS them instead of telling them, 'no you both deserve a happy childhood too' or 'no I will fight for you.' This paints him as an lazy and AWFUL teacher but also a AWFUL person point blank. The fic I don't believe did this intentionally because it isn't tagged Aizawa bashing which makes it worse...

Todoroki and Izuku's other friends and the other adults in their life also all try their best to cheer them up and fail because they don't have a clue what is going on. They also become noticeably sadder as a result which is just depressing.

Sorry for the rant, I'm just so depressed and angry now having read that and needed to vent somewhere.

I'm not the type to be a hater on someones work and I wanted to know your thoughts.

I... don't think I ever read this fic.

But from what you explained... yikes.

Why do these writers want to portray Bakugou becoming a villain as the worst possible outcome? Like I get and I'm all about giving people a chance to change for the better, but you also have take into context what that person has done and if they're WILLING to take that chance and actually WANT to change!

But from what we've seen of him, he never shows any signs of wanting to change for the better and just started holding back his brash behavior. In fact I'm even more convinced that once he's an adult, he'll just start putting a front for the public to make himself look good while concealing his true personality behind closed doors.

I think the only way to make Izuku saying this phrase work is if the story acknowledges what he's saying is wrong, have some of the characters point that out to him, and have one of the adults say something like this to him.

"If he ends up becoming a villain after this, then that's his decision. We'll be there to apprehend him and keep him from hurting anymore people."

Or you can make it into more like it's been ingrained in Izuku's mind that Bakugou is a strong fighter and that if he becomes a villain, than it's all over and no one can stop him. Only to be proven wrong when the news cover Bakugou's capture and how easy it was to take him down.

And as for the second part with Endeavor, god that logic is so fucking flawed...

Did the writer of that story NOT read through that or thought twice how that probably wouldn't make sense if the reader put two seconds into thinking about it? It wasn't like the HPSC was helping him conceal his abuse or anything, that was ENTIRELY on him!

And if he does end up being exposed? So what? They got plenty of heroes to spare and I'm sure they would want to save face to keep people from bashing on them for allowing such a person to be in a position of power.

Both Izuku and Shoto shouldn't have to sacrifice their childhoods to prop up and protect these horrible people in their lives, they both need to learn that people like that needs to be cut out from their lives. And even if they're changing, they aren't obligated to forgive them and keep them close... it won't make you a horrible person for choosing not to.

That's one of the problems I keep finding in this fandom, they have a black and white view on things that they think forgive and forget is the only best option and that choosing not to will make them into a horrible person for holding grudges.

[kellodrawsalot]

One more thing about Vivziepops or speaking of Vivziepops I've been hearing a lot of people saying that their writing sucks? And you know certain fans have been leaving the fan base Especially this one guy Somebody named sarcastic chorus hell a boss Fanbase

I mean, their opinions are valid I do agree with some things and some things I don't agree with I'm just like I'm not really that of a hardcore fan with these two series I'm just a casual watcher I mean if the show is not picking your interest anymore and then man just leave find something better if someone doesn't care to your needs or what you want then just leave no point of wasting your energy on it sometimes Maybe you might find something way more better out there.

I don't know who that person is, but I won't be the first hazbin/helluva fan who will say we know the writing isn't perfect and that both series have flaws, but I also think the series good points make the flaws not a down point. Everyone is allowed to think differently and everyone's critism and praise is valid, trough I do think a lot of the people who hate it when helluva boss got more serious and emotional (drama) are just too used to american animated series where caring is seen as cringe, (see South Park and Family Guy.) personally, I love the drama, I love it when characters aren't just one-note and not everything is cynical. But a lot of people don't want that, and I can understand that too since Helluva started off that way, having the series change it's tone might be off-putting for people who prefered the first tone.

And while I know not all haters/critics think this, but a lot of heat that I have seen Vivizepop getting reminds me when I was active in the Steven Universe fanbase and people called that the worst cartoon of all time and accused Rebecca Sugar of being the most problematic evil artist that there is. Now that seems to be switched because all the hate and anti-su videos have declined and people started watching the actual series itself, and find out ''wait, this isn't so bad'

and now the series got more fans from people who have been avoiding it, because of the hate it got. I think something like that, is going to happen to Helluva and Hazbin in the future too. When hate becomes popular you have people who join that. (fun fact both vivzie and Sugar, got hate for writing choices that were made by men in certain episodes, same-said men don't get the critism despite being in the credits!)

Can't help but see a constant trend of queer stories, (Steven Universe, Boyfriends, Hazbin) getting over-the-top hate, like Sarah Z's video, queer content and creators tend to be pulled into impossible high standards, where straight/cis/male creators don't. I mean there is creators like Thomas Astruc, a bad writer and an openly bigoted -way more problematic, 50-year old man, who has his critics, but it's not like people are talking shit about him on every Miraculous Ladybug post or video, yet if a big account on twitter, post something about Hazbin, you always find a comment saying vivzie sucks, can't help but notice that.

and like you said, if the series isn't picking your interest , maybe then just drop it and focus on something you like instead! but consider Sonic fans who hate the idw comic books talk about it ever single day (and funny thing is, sonic idw-critics will write fanfictions to claim and show they are better then those writers, as anti hazbin hotel artist will drew redesings to ''fix' the characters) because these critics get attention from their malice, and not from their regular work, because they might know their own original work can't stand on it's own without putting someone else down, that in itself just makes me think they don't have faith in their own art.

[skaruresonic]

The idw discourse is so bad, I feel caught in the middle because each time I express how bad the storytelling is, in a new issue or how off model the characters are drawn, idw fans gang up on me. But on the other hand I don't want to be associated with the people who think think it's funny to tweet how Flynn should die or make weird assumptions about Stanley being a bad person ? Like that's weird and cruel. Hate their work not them as people.

I just decided to pretend the comic doesn't exist and it helps lol.

I'm sorry that happened to you. Idk if anyone else will tell you that, but I will, because I know how much it sucks.

One time, I saw a guy on Twitter blame us for his inability to criticize the book in what he believed was a much more "balanced" manner without getting harassed by people.

Digest that for a moment. It's our fault for other people's reaction to us. And instead of rubbing his brain cells together for a moment and questioning the reasons why this knee-jerk reaction occurs, or even reflecting on the fact that it occurs at all and perhaps realizing that the call is coming from inside the house, he fell back on old biases and decided it was the haters who were wrong.

The mental gymnastics on display here are unreal.

In this case, I think people are stumbling into the usual fallacious trap of assuming both sides carry equal weight, and thus believe that defaulting to a position of "neutrality" makes them morally superior somehow.

That's kind of what I hate about this fandom - the utter superciliousness. The rotten shit we as a fandom get up to (and no, being a little snarky in a reblog does not count as harassment) while proclaiming love and light uwu. Be nice to everyone, except those freaks over there.

"Neutrality" is in scare quotes here because it's not true neutrality, but a way of posturing to the in-group that you're not Like Us. As demonstrated by my Twitter-user anecdote, people around here don't want to say anything hater-flavored because it risks intense ostracization. That's why you have people jumping down your throat for presenting even mild criticisms. It'd be pathetic if it weren't so annoying.

I'm not talking about people who let well enough alone. I'm talking about centrists who sneer "both sides are bad," as if by distancing themselves from the situation in a smug manner, they're declaring themselves more enlightened than the rest of us.

Honestly, the other side should be just as insulted, but they're not, because this attitude only helps them in the long run.

In reality, this is more like the fishhook situation centrists have with antis vs. proshippers. Saying "this whole thing is stupid" really only benefits antis because they now have grounds to reply, "Yes, this IS stupid, don't you think proshippers are crazy for being upset at something so trivial?" while conveniently omitting the part where antis routinely send proshippers death threats and other heinous material.

Look at it from this angle: the most concrete harm I have seen their side say they've suffered is a deep discomfort and estrangement from the book. Which, yeah. That sucks. But it's also kinda on you to just click away if it makes you uncomfortable.

On the other hand, I have had legitimate crying fits because of horrible messages I received and have told people multiple times about the anon who mocked my recently-deceased mom. Which, unlike clicking away from a blog, I had no choice but to see sometimes because I was still naive enough to believe people would behave themselves in my inbox. In fact, a mutual were recently discussing our anxieties over retaliation should IDW be cancelled. There's stuff about this that you just don't want to think about because dwelling on it will freak you out.

"Both sides are bad" stings, especially in light of knowing the measures I have taken to walk on eggshells and draw proper boundaries. I literally cannot know if someone in this fandom will consider my explanations harassment and dogpiling, so I try not to reblog with commentary. On the reblogging site.

Reflect on how fucked-up that is, to feel uncomfortable adding a tag to someone's fanart because you're worried they might realize you're One of Them(tm) and shun you on that basis alone.

I won't sit here and say I've always been perfect in my conduct, but at the same time, it's just the infuriating experience of double standards all the way down. Somehow it never occurs to them that if I held them to the same standard they hold me, I could call them all out on intellectual dishonesty for refusing to engage with any of our points no matter how calmly or clearly stated because "lol ur just a hater," and tar them with the same brush as those who sent me death threats.

But ofc, things don't work out like that in the calculus of Le Sonic Discourse. It's just a rotten experience to the core.

[just-antithings]

Not really an anti thing per se, but something I feel the need to vent about:

One of the reasons I feel so conflicted on the Harry Potter thing is not only my concerns about continuing to give Rowling a platform, but also just, unpopular opinion, I… kinda think the fandom can be almost as performative as the haters?

I KNOW HOW THAT SOUNDS BUT HEAR ME OUT!

First off: they’re always going on about how "oh, we’re making ALL the hp characters trans to piss off the TERF!" and then you look at the fics and art and stuff and it’s like, at least 80-90% is just the same cookie cutter "Draco and Harry are gay trans men who make out 24/7 and there's some trans gay WolfStar in the background too, I guess, and also maybe black trans Hermione can have a cameo at some point as a treat, but who cares because it’s Drarryin' Time! *proceeds to Drarry all over AO3*" fics.

Like… why is it that after Rowling announced her status as a card-carrying fascist, "all the hp characters" suddenly became just Harry, Draco, Remus, Sirius and maybe Hermione if you're lucky? ESPECIALLY considering the fact that I know from experience that the fandom used to have way more diversity headcanons than this?

What about Ron "angsty because his mom wanted a daughter" Weasley? Or Neville and Hannah, who never had children (clearly, one of them is trans! Or maybe both are trans AND ace! Two groups Rowling hates for the price of one!)? Where are the Trans Dean/Seamus and Trans Lavender/Parvati fics? Trans Luna??? One of Bill and Fleur's kids being the first known male Veela hybrid in the series (literally a fuckin' goldmine of gender possibilities)???? What about fuckin' Nymphadora "gender nonconforming shapeshifter who hates her traditionally feminine name" Tonks (if ANY character would’ve been made trans or enby to spite Rowling, I’d have thought Tonks and her son Teddy would be the FIRST choices)???? EBONY DEMENTIA DARKNESS RAVEN WAY (objectively the BEST Harry Potter character)??!!!????

Part of me suspects that this is at least partly because these characters aren’t "popular" and therefore won't get the same attention as the Drarry "rivals to lovers" vibe and the All The Young Dudes spin-offs, but I can’t be fully sure of that.

And like… a lot of times it looks like their activism just, begins and ends with fandom activity? A lot of the same questions levied at HP haters ("are you supporting and/or donating to pro-trans causes?" "Are you making an effort to understand WHY TERF ideology is bad?" etc., all 100% valid questions) can also be levied against fans who make their headcanons and shipping the main source of their activism.

I’m not saying that NO hp fans are doing actual activism, I’ve seen a few examples, but it feels to me at least like the majority are not. It just seems they think shipping Harry and Draco whilst transing them to pretend it makes the TERF seethe (when really she probably doesn’t even know your fanfic exists) is a substitute for activism, just as HP haters think hating the series and patting themselves on the back for not reading it when they were twelve is a substitute for activism.

I guess the bright side is that at least the Drarry shippers aren’t harassing people? There are testimonies from trans people about hp fans harassing them, but the majority of those fans obviously wouldn’t also be writing trans Drarry fics so ehh?

Idk, like I said I’m conflicted and I need to vent. I’ve been holding this vent in for a while now.

I guess my thesis statement here is: HP fandom, if y'all really want to "diversify Harry Potter to spite the TERF", then please for the love of Glaux ADD MORE CHARACTERS AND IDENTITIES TO YOUR HEADCANON ROSTER.

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[hunkygreenbean]

I've noticed a few camps of Mangione detractors that I feel like I need to point out and address.

The "Leftists Hypocrisy" Camp--Those that believe leftists are hypocrites for cheering on the CEO's death while also being against mass shootings and/or guns. I think we all can see a big moral difference in mowing down innocent unsuspecting school children vs. killing a man who made deliberate choices that harmed the ill and disabled all for his own profit, right? These types of folks can be found on the liberal-far right side of the political spectrum. They believe killing anyone for any reason is always bad, regardless of the context. They're the ones that think peacefully marching along a designated police route with Harry Potter puns on posterboard is how systemic change is enacted. The flaw in their logic is that peaceful avenues a) have already been tried and have been violently stamped out by the police state and b) peaceful protest only works when your oppressor has a conscious. They fail to see that our lives to these billionaires are only as valuable and worth protecting as long as it enriches their pocketbooks. The oligarchs that rule over us don't see us as human beings, but as assets they can liquify, bodies that they can exploit. TLDR this camp is blinded by pacifism and moral absolutism.

The "Centrist Haters"--Those that believe Mangione should not be celebrated as a class unifier because he's a libertarian/centrist/mid right/crypto bro. They have fallen prey to the boxes the billionaire class has drawn up for us, to keep us divided and weak. Believe it or not, there are Republicans and Libertarians out there who are actually happy about Mangione's deeds. Class solidarity does not end at the people who are ideologically opposed to you or even those opposed to your very existence. Even the most shittiest scumbag MAGAt that you can conjure up in your head deserves universal healthcare. Those in this camp cannot acknowledge the existence of bad people who do good deeds. If the class unifier is not a perfect Marxist anti-establishment leftist, their objectionably good deed that aligns with our values is thrown to the wind. These people await the "perfect" assassin, one who not only hunts down CEOs but one who is in complete ideological agreement with them. This is how the billionaire class wants us; divided and laterally aggressive. If we're too busy purity testing CEO hunters, then ultimately we will cease our efforts to enact systemic change because no one is perfect.

The Radfems--A subset of group 2 but separatist flavored. Similar to group 2, they are purity testing Mangione based on the fact that he is a cis man whose centrist/mid right ideology has led him to say some misogynistic things about women on his social media. Additionally, they mock male attracted women for making satirical edits and fanfics about Mangione, claiming that libfems and straight women have such low standards. But they're outraged for all the wrong reasons. The Mangione case shows us that at the state level, they could easily track down missing and murdered women. Police easily have the resources to track down rapists, pimps, and all other manner of abusive men, but choose not to as these men are not a threat to the status quo a.k.a. protecting property. As a feminist myself, it boils my blood that the feds have spent all these resource trying to find this 1 man over the 5,000+ missing & murdered Indigenous women, the 64,000+ missing & murdered Black women, the 36 trans women that have been murdered this year, and the 15,000 women & 50,000 children that are trafficked in the sex industry every year. They have the resources to do all this shit, but because rapists don't constitute a threat to the billionaire class, they won't do shit. This has shown that the safety of the 1% will forever outweigh the real danger that women face every single day. Direct your feminist rage towards the pigs, not Mangione.

[rosykims]

💘💔 for Ashara!!!

💘 HEART WITH ARROW — what and/or who do(es) your oc consider the most important to them?

oooooo good question !!! i think broadly speaking her clan has always taken precedent over everybody else, especially her keeper and her nephew. TECHNICALLY her twin sister is her #1 priority but she would never admit that bc publicly she's a hater. but if it came down to a choice she'd pick mithra every time.

in dai and onwards obviously solas is sort of at the forefront of everything. despite her somewhat umm repulsive personality <3 she IS a romantic at heart and she falls in love very quickly with people who are kind to her and he wasnt an exception, so she rly had it in her head that they would run off and have a family together before he dumped her lol. since then he's stayed THE looming figure in her life post trespasser but in a deeply unsettling psychosexual tom and jerry "my entire life's purpose is to drop a piano on your head" type vibe. she pushes away basically everybody during this period except (divine) leliana and cassandra, who's council and general presence is the only ones she trusts.

💔 BROKEN HEART — what are three of your oc's negative traits?

she will - and especially at the beginning of dai - answer every single obstacle with "hey cassandra i think we're gonna have to kill these guys :/" . she has enough self awareness to know this isnt a great way to walk through life and she wishes (and tries, usually to some degree of success) to course correct, but she hates personally suffering through diplomacy because she thinks people shouldnt have to be incentivized and ass-kissed to do the correct, moral thing. IRONICALLY, she isnt ANTI diplomacy at all - as first to the keeper in her clan she did strongly encourage her keeper towards more open trading and collaboration with human towns. she just hates having to do it herself bc she does not have a charismatic bone in her body. which is why shes thanking mythal every single day for josephine montilyet lmao.

also still tethered to her hot headedness/frustration angle, shes also deeply emotionally stubborn. i say emotionally bc its not so much plans or ideas she wont budge on, because she's usually pretty thoughtful and open to teamwork. PEOPLE are what she struggles with, particularly if they hurt her (solas) or abandon her (solas) or betray her (solas but also blackwall). when she doesnt like someone it is borderline impossible for her to move past that and she will devote great deals of time and mental energy to being hater #1. she and blackwall *hate* each other after his rainier revelation and she allows him to join the wardens as penance only bc she is Actively banking on him dying horribly in the deep roads 🥲 same with solas. ironically if he had just told her the truth she would have been more or less on board with helping him out, and she does for most part agree with him on 85-90% of it. but its the fact that he lied and then dumped her and then humiliated her which is the reason she will never collaborate with him or entertain any of his ideas or stop trying to drop pianos on his head ever. if she can get past this sort of knee jerk reaction by/during datv then she'll be more open to redeeming him but until then. hater vibes only.

lastly, on a more sympathetic note, she struggles a lot with vulnerability. she watched her mother become an abomination bc a lifetime of pain overtook her in a moment of desperation, and ashara, being only like 13 when this happened, really took that lesson to heart. she thinks pain is an admission of weakness and defeat and death (ironically she does not think anger counts as an expression of pain, although it absolutely does) and so she tries to distance herself from opening up to others about her struggles because she feels its her burden to bare and she wants to protect people from that uncertainty. she wants them to trust her and feel like they can depend on her because they can.

her only real exception to this was solas, so to have been fucked over by him of all people really only just reinforced how she already felt about it all. lol.

[jalebi-weds-bluetooth]

Hey Jwb!

Hope you are doing well!

I used to be an Ardent fan of ipkknd and Arshi especially when it used to air on tv (2011-2012), It aired on tv in my childhood era, I was literally obsessed with this show, obsessed with Arshi, And Arnav was my first childhood crush, he used to be my ideal man and at that time i always wanted to experience a love story like Arshi, i even cried alot when ipkknd ended, However recently after 12 years of this show, i've started rewatching ipkknd on hotstar And now after rewatching it, A sudden dislike towards Arnav's character has started, I can't believe that he used to be my ideal man in childhood, after growing up it's hard for me to digest the amount of toxicity and narcissistic behaviour of Arnav, even though he faced a trauma in his life but i feel like the way he showed his extremely emotional and verbal abusive side to Khushi is pathetic and no one can forget it, Iknow he changes later in the show, But it's hard for me to forget the way he used to treat her earlier, that's the reason why i don't find him as an ideal man anymore, If he had that much toxicity due to his trauma then he should've taken therapy, he was already rich enough, he should've seek a professional help, Also, there was no serious redemption track of Arnav in the show, If the makers would've created a long and serious Redemption track then it would've been easy for me to forget his past behaviour with khushi... I'm sorry if im sounding like a hater, but seriously i'm unable to stan Arnav's character now, I loved ipkknd alot, but now i can't admire this show anymore, What are your views on this?

Hello dear Anon :)

Every media needs to be examined and consciously consumed. If something that you enjoyed watching no longer gives you that enjoyments then I would definitely recommend you to explore more options :)

With regards to IPK - I understand that feeling completely. And as a fan I can consume it anyway I want. So the most I can do is share what I did to be able to still enjoy the show.

Realize everything is ultimately fictional and have critical discussions with my friends and fellow fans who recognize the good and bad.

Write fix-it fan fictions where I address the more troubling parts of the show and run a whole blog about it!

Edit the show to enjoy it as per my sensibilities of what is tolerable in a romance (thus I like to imagine the Gupta House track to happen much later, Arnav never 'buys' Khushi's house, etc etc)

And the whole point about fiction is to enjoy it - if you aren't finding enjoyment then what's the point?

I personally still love IPK. Its writing was far more progressive compared to other shows and it set a standard for romance and filmmaking that is still used by other shows in Indian television - especially in filmmaking.

The biggest thing about IPK is that it's a story that's realistically not possible. Arnav is not a good man. IPK never frames Arnav as a hero - in fact he's an antihero. His and Khushi's marriage is traumatic for most parts and it takes him a long time to be able to love her selflessly. Which is why the second marriage was essential because this time he chooses to be a better man than let his trauma take over him.

Trauma is not a choice, but hurting other people is. And with the way he stood up for Khushi, his mother-in-law completed his arc as a character.

Also Arnav was written and portrayed as an anti-hero. He's... not the hero. Never was. Which is why Arnav is almost always dressed in black/dark. It becomes a light joke at the end of it that his closet doesn't have anything bright but the reality is that's the underlying of him being an anti-hero.

And I always like watching the IPKKND rewind Arnav snippets because that feels like a tortured man who went to therapy and healed himself and his relationships.

But the most important part is - you can grow out of loving old things :) Just don't guilt yourself into loving something that's problematic (as long as you don't apply those rules and beliefs in your real world) and keep enjoying life.

For me that's always going to be Miley Jab Hum Tum and Sarabhai V/S Sarabhai - hilarious and poignant!

Best,

Jalebi

[askgothamshitty]

Hate to bring you into black Twitter drama but it's a misogyny tirade over here

Obviously the whole Halle and that guy thing is a mess. I feel so bad for her. Too many people are taking this as an opportunity to dunk on her. By principle, I don't engage with blatant misogyny so people just jump to the dude's side doesn't bother me persay. It's fully expected that people will side with him just for spite. This is the audience that he has cultivated so it just doesn't surprise me nor bother me. His countless attempts are defamation are laughable. Him exposing her clearly unstable state as a result of his actions was crazy enough but the fact that it was meant to be apart of an attempt to get a restraining order on her is baffling to me.

Obviously, DARVO will not work in this situation. I constantly see people saying that "they're doing what Johnny Depp did" everytime a man tries to discredit his victim and it's insane because that's not what's going on at all and I am concerned. What Depp did was more than just a smear campaign or just denying his actions. I get that a lot of people feel guilty for being stupid enough to side with Depp and now they're like indirectly defending themselves in some confusing way but no not every man that says "I didn't do it she's just crazy" is trying to manipulate that situation or pull a DARVO. Glad you finally passed misogyny 101, but you have to take DV 101 and PR 101 as well. Not every man is a mastermind manipulator. You were just a misogynist. People believe abusive men over women isn't some pr scheme it's just misogyny, take the l and move on.

Also there is no court of public favor when it comes to custody battles. He can try all he wants he already lost.

https://x.com/NATERERUN/status/1930777836609999308?t=42StyV9jq89ah-_6iUnKeQ&s=19

I always thought that them dressing up as whitney and her abuser to be very gross and inappropriate. However, i think it's genuinely odd to turn around and talk about foreshadowing or whatever. Positioning abuse as a consequence is insane. This cosplay was just insensitive. It was not indicative or foreshadowing or whatever. It was just a poor choice of couples costume because it was referencing an unhealthy and abusive relationship. Their relationship turning abusive is not some divine punishment for a bad costume. Weird post, weird replies, just weird behavior

https://x.com/lexxszn/status/1930684279878480327?t=-Q2rCz7qArTaAE0F84Wr5A&s=19

I remember when kya first started to blow up, and everyone was defending her and her content because obviously she's just a tiktoker she can't steal your man. Like she was just a girl trying to share her recipes, so leave her alone. It's almost funny to see that now that she has offended the people with her comments toward Halle, suddenly she is a pick me and not a girls girl. And it's not just because of what she said about Halle, its everything like her whole existence is just a front to women. I'm not defending her or anything I just find it funny how randomly people can go against someone, deserving or not. The whole narrative about her has just flipped completely. Dare I say, people never liked her but it was seen as anti-girls girl to hate her but now that she has done a bad thing suddenly she is the anti-christ.

Funnily enough, they did the same thing to Halle when she ignored rubi and with the whitney stuff and many other weird moments. But today, she is a victim, and any woman that has wronged her is the devil. It's almost as it it's not about the victim but just having an excuse to be cruel and dismissive towards women.

It is so hard to be a feminist and a hater. Because now I have to defend cooking with kya who's content I always hated and who is also a raging misogynist but I can't sit here and pretend like half the people hating on her aren't her twins.

OMG why would they dress up and Whitney and Bobby Brown??? That’s so ridiculous.

“It’s so hard to be a feminist and a hater” truer words have never been spoken.

It is just so terrible to see so much abuse apologism from other women. It breaks my heart honestly. But it has to be opposed because this is what gets women killed!

[kyrodo]

I'm not particularly delicate in many cases. Trying things in vr like getting eaten for example, I don't get motion sick, I don't mind, I'm not sensitive to phantom sense. Or if a fur hater is harassing me in a public lobby, I tend to be chill throuhout the whole interaction till I eventually block them. I'm not gonna give people the benefit of a reaction. Most people don't know that I post my thoughts on tumblr. All they get is the cold front and I'm not gonna feed a troll. You really need to try hard to press my buttons, and the best you'll get is a block. If only it were that simple outside of vrc. Also horror maps, completely void of reaction in most cases. I'm not the type that likes to feed another person one-sided pleasure against me so I care more about that than the buttons they try to press. And horror, I don't react because I'm not going to entertain people with genuine reactions. Only reactions that I am in full control of. So my body instinctively kills reactions to jump scares before I so much as twitch.

I am by Kay's own words 'no fun'. But my social anxiety quells my need to be likeable for reacting to things unironically. I desire to be in full control, so when I react it's my vocalized cat personality or wolf personalities that come out. Proof that I have fully processed everything that I react to. This is why I'm not truly a dom, sub or switch. Because everything I do is a controlled choice. I don't fluster easily. I don't scare easily. I don't leaugh easily. I don't anything easily. The one thing that does come easily is joy from being praised for something. And that is it. My hide is a 100x thicker than my soft delicate exterior makes me look.

Even if I get mad about something like the way choskey treated me in a game with his banter, it's a question of betrayed expectation that I get mad about more than the act itself and unlike my online self I hardly ever show it. I have shown that I am capable of being a nuclear reactor. But the moment someone is standing in front of me, making it insanely obvious they are trying to aggravate me for their benefit. I will sense that. I will sense that and hide the fact that I'm laughing inside from someone trying too fucking hard. I am not blind to social cues and I am always several steps ahead the moment I've lost any doubt what someone is trying to do. I am so anti confrontational that you'd have better luck getting a reaction out of a fucking rock.

If you grant me a social role in an interaction I didn't ask for, then I am not going to play my fucking part. I say this as someone who head canon'd someone like a fucking moron. But I know better now. I'm not going to be stupid forever

[byl4biu]

for everyone who is offended by biu for the fact that he rarely appears on social media, remember more often what hell he went through and is still going through and try to put yourself in his place. and if your love for him is so easily shaken by the fact that he didn't wish you good night or didn't post his photos, then think about whether you love him at all or are you selfishly craving for him to entertain you? yes, he is an artist, but his position in the entertainment industry is not the same as everyone else. he works to the point of exhaustion every day (he often says that he doesn’t get enough sleep), unlike those who are given work on a silver platter by their companies. he tries to the best of his ability to make everyone happy, he was even able to organize a series for himself, because everyone wanted to see new acting work from him, but it’s not enough for you all. instead of hyping his series, you whine that he doesn’t entertain you enough and envy other artists, for whom their companies do most of the work: they find work for them, organize projects, promote them on social media and through mass media. these companies have a large staff and have money for all this, but biu doesn't have this. he has a small staff, not much money because he has no sponsors, little experience as a ceo and a huge traumatic experience that is not allowed to heal, because those who want to destroy him every day continue to do this by paying money for hate posts and spreading rumors about him. oh, and have you already forgotten that he is suing for leaking his personal information for which he was dragged through all the circles of hell just because people hate him for no reason for the rumors that are spread about him? no one knows how much of what was leaked is true, everything was taken out of context and incorrectly translated, haters spread it by twisting everything written and exaggerating. you as fans should be on his side and not cause him more problems with your lack of empathy. i understand that fandoms are supposed to be fun and we are constantly at war with antis and fake fans, but have some shame and stop blaming him for your choice to be on his side. if you need a break from all the negativity or you are completely tired of it all, leave, but stop blaming him for the fact that your expectations weren't met. this world is a rotten place, there is too much injustice around, especially aimed at good people. don’t become another stick that gets stuck in his wheels. rest and come back or leave completely, but do it quietly without pointing your finger at him "you owe me for what i suffered because of you." it doesn’t work this way, you made this choice yourself, he never asked anyone to stay on his side, on the contrary, he is always surprised that we are still here and continue to love him. so stfu everyone and decide why you are here, to love him or constantly blame him for everything that you don’t like. he is also a human being and every human has limits to what he can endure. a year ago you were afraid that he might commit su!c!de and now you bark at him as if you're his haters and not his fans. i'm so done with this sh!t

[shappoxs]

You guys just can't acknowledge the actual reasons people dislike TimBer and exaggerate or cherry-pick specific obviously stupid arguments.

I'll start by saying, ship what you want. There's nothing inherently immoral about TimBer. I make jokes, but I'm definitely not "Anti-Timber," but it gets to a point where you guys are just going-

Most TimBer "haters" are not these caricatures you guys like to paint us as. There are genuine reasons to dislike the ship.

1. It's genuinely bad for both characters. Queer men are allowed to have flaws, too! Yet they've stripped both Tim and Bernard of all of them and brushed any past mistakes under the rug.

Tim and Bernard were not good friends before 2020, and instead of giving them an interesting character arc, the writers just retconned all that and are trying to convince us they were besties.

2. Having Tim and Stephsplit up off-panel is already a disservice to a decades old relationship and Steph as a character. Especially because almost immediately her next appearance is as an accessory to TimBer, to tell the audience, "Actually, you should like them because she would want you to." When that's bullshit!

I'm not saying she should be jealous, but she has every right to be upset at Tim. The fact they did the exact same thing to Ariana, another one of Tim's exes who he hurt, turning her into a one-dimensional TimBer fangirl, feels very misogynistic.

They don't have to be jealous, but don't minimise them, and allow them to have reasonable reactions.

3. The way TimBer was handled feels more biphobic than the average fan reaction. This may be a personal interpretation, but so many moments feels like they're trying to belittle Tim's past relationships with women because he's with a man now. Which pisses me off. TimBer's chemistry comes from us being told about it, but I'm supposed to believe it was more meaningful than what he had with Steph?

I want to see my bisexual characters BE bisexual in ways that aren't stereotypical, but there are ways they could've done that without throwing Steph into a trash bin. As a TimKon shipper, I would be just as pissed if this same scenario played out with Kon instead of Bernard.

Honestly, I don't even want TimKon OR TimSteph if that's how the writers treat these characters. Let them bastardise Tim and Bernard just leave Kon and Steph out of this 😭

4. Most of the "he should cheat" takes are jokes or coming from people who haven't actually read the comics/comic where he actually cheats. Tim only cheated once iirc, but there is still valid criticism to be made about how flawless he's written now that he's with a man.

TimSteph's greatest strength is that we get to see them be a real teenage couple, they both make mistakes but it's watching them grow from them that matters most.

5. I'm fine with platonic TimSteph, but they clearly don't actually value their friendship. I'm also bisexual and grew up a Tim Drake fan, I am the last person who'd want his bisexuality to be erased, but I'd rather them actually do it justice than shrug my shoulders and slurp up any slop they feed us because it's gay.

Finally, I'm sorry if any of this came off as mean. I always try to be respectful even when I'm making jokes or disagreeing with someone, but I'm not perfect. Know that this is a critique of the ship and certain writing choices, not people who just innocently like TimBer.

The mental gymnastics people do to hate timber should be studied under a microscope.

The fuck you mean he is bad bisexual rep because he is dating a man… and how does that makes him gay???? Have you ever talked to a bisexual person???

“Oh it makes less of his past relationships” how?? How?!? Is he not allowed to be infatuated with his current partner? Should he continue pining after his past relationships even tho he is dating someone else???