#cw transtrender

[obstinatecondolement]

Dysphoria and lateral transphobia cw

No one has to enjoy the same fictional depictions of transness that I do, or justify why things that don't make me feel dysphoric make them incredibly dysphoric, but you know what I really get dysphoric about? Shockingly, being implicitly misgendered for fan fiction taste crimes makes me extremely dysphoric. And apparently that's not as important because, after all, I am a gross transtrender theyfab who has nothing valuable to add to the conversation and is probably just a gross fujo anyway :D

[our-transgender-experiences]

Hello everybody! (CW: LGBTQ-phobia is mentioned)

I only wanted to know whether I'm real transgender or transTRENDER... Let me explain now. Sorry for being so long, but it's my most honest confession.

I was a stupid boy ("girl") till I was 8 and never realized I was not cishet 'cause my parents "censored" everything connected to LGBTQ+ and "unobtrusively" convinced me that I was a straight girl (tbh, politics and sex were also forbidden topics in our house; interestingly enough, my family ain't religious, all of them are atheists). I didn't even have a thought that a boy could like boys and "a woman may want to be called a man." I gave no thought that I might not be what my parents want me to be: a straight girl who loves her husband and has children.

I only learned the word "lesbian" when my aunt accidently said it (I was 8 y. o.), and after I asked my dad the meaning of this word. He got absolutely furious and only said, quoting, "These are mentally ill girls who need to be rap... ahem, who need to have s*x with men." So, like, you know now how it was in my family.

I "had" a "crush" on my best friend when I was 9-10. It was totally made up by me because EVERYONE (our parents, friends, classmates, and even teachers) would ship us, not even listening to our "no." My dad was absolutely happy that I "have found a future husband, like every normal girl," and I just felt disconnected from this. Not only with the "found a future husband" part but also with "every normal girl" part, too. Nonetheless, I suppressed every thought like this.

I only got internet access when I was 10-11 y.o. I was getting into puberty and hated my chest: I couldn't find a reason to explain this to my parents, who knew about me disliking my growing breasts. Subconsciously, I wanted to be like my the most favorite guitarist (he's a man) from the band of my childhood. I couldn't understand what was wrong with me and why I couldn't be like him. But I quickly thought it was because of my chest and was actually right.

The first time I saw the word "transgender" was when I turned 12. I learned about the pronouns and felt a strong connection to she/they and he/they set. I tried using "he/they," but I stopped in a day due to the simple fact that it felt unusual. I immediately banned myself from thinking of this, putting a limit: I can only be an ally. The problem was that I never had any strong position because my parents were constantly brainwashing me. So, I have seen some posts about radical feminism... and sooner became a TERF.

Honestly, radical feminism helped to accept my aroaceness, but it's the only good thing it has done to me. I started hating men simply because they were men, and I also started wishing death on all trans people for "supporting gender stereotypes." I had no reason for this: I was just brainwashed by TERFs when I was 13. I didn't support the whole feminism: I only hated trans people because... why? (P. S. I still hate myself for this period of life) TERFs forced me to think I am proud to be a girl, even though I MYSELF (!) never believed in it. Also, it is worth saying that being radfem was actually quite popular (if I can say it) in my country in 2020-2021 / 2022 (maybe it's still popular now, idk), so many girls were (or are) into that.

Deep down, when I looked through the photos of my favorite guitarist and thought he was handsome... and I felt jealous since I'm not like him, but I quickly restricted myself from thinking of this. I didn't know it was gender envy.

When I was turning 14, my ex-friend helped me to realize I had masculine features. And then I realized I was a guy with he/they pronouns (I go by he/him now). And I felt... relieved? It’s as if my life has acquired colors that weren’t there before this moment. I had no idea what my name was... My deadname always seemed to me so usual, but not mine, and my inner boy was almost killed with TERF's f*cking ideology. I googled some boy names and... I found an amazing one, which was the best for me (even if it wasn't typical for my country).

I went to the psychologist (who turned out to be an impostor and did not have a diploma). She said I was the girliest girl she had ever seen, and I'm faking it.

I have changed SO many labels, trying to find the most suitable one, but now I just label myself transgender man and don't give a damn. I have two names now: the one I have chosen when I was 14 and the most recent one when I realized nobody's gonna call me by my first chosen name. Both feel nice for me, and I'm even thinking of getting the other two (I'm fascinated by Janick, Dariusz, and Friedrich, honestly, but I believe 5 names will be too much for me). The guitarist I adore is still my gender envy. 🤣

I WANT to look like a man and transition... but I always think I'm not trans enough. I nearly killed my real self, letting my parents and TERFs decide who I am. What if I'm not trans and just faking it? What if the internet has brainwashed me, and I'm not real trans? I don't wanna be a "typical masculine man" or a "typical feminine woman," I wanna be myself. And my real me is dead. What if I'm just a gendervoid and can turn into everything: girl, boy, nonbinary, bigender, etc? What if I have lost in my dreams and I'm a girl? What if I'm just a transtrender?

Sorry for being so long. Thanks for reading. Sorry for taking your time.

you are 'trans enough', and even if you decide your not later, thats fine. you can be whoever you want, forever. i'm happy that you figured it out, despite terfs and parents.

also, you dont need to apologise for sending something, its what this blog is for!

[pupyzu]

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❝ TRANSTRENDER PRIDE FLAGS! ❞

Trenderpunk | Trendercore | Trendersoft

TRENDERPUNK: a subculture surrounded around trans self-love, self-acceptance, punk aesthetics, social justice, and identifying with the term “trender” / “transtrender”. ⊹ ⁺

TRENDERCORE: a subculture surrounded around trans self-love, self-acceptance, bright colored aesthetics, social justice, and identifying with the term “trender” / “transtrender”. ⊹ ⁺

TRENDERSOFT: a subculture surrounded around trans self-love, self-acceptance, soft/pastel aesthetics, social justice, and identifying with the term “trender” / “transtrender”. ⊹ ⁺

flags by me, based off of the voidpunk flag. i wanted to make flags specifically for those who identify with these subcultures, outside of just the aesthetics themselves. lmk if any of the definitions need to be changed. see also: trendergender, trendercoric, trenderpunkic.

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[sillysalmonn101]

SPOOKYGENDER !!!

this is a gender that feels spooky and connected to halloween in a childish and silly way!

anyone can use the flag but please give credit!

EYESTRAIN WARNING UP AHEAD

both flags are free to use with credit ^•^

[foulserpent]

transmedicalists are like if you disagree with my masochist self hatred bootlicking coven youre automatically a fake transgender

[pupyzu]

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❝ TRANSTRENDER! ❞

PRITRENDER: a gender connected to being a (trans)trender prince; this gender is connected to being a (trans)trender, (trans)trender pride, prince aesthetics, and non-binary boyhood! ⊹ ⁺

TRENDERCESSE: a gender connected to being a (trans)trender princess; this gender is connected to being a (trans)trender, (trans)trender pride, princess aesthetics, and non-binary girlhood! ⊹ ⁺

ROYALTRENDER: a gender connected to being (trans)trender royalty; this gender is connected to being a (trans)trender, (trans)trender pride, royal aesthetics, and being non-binary! ⊹ ⁺

flag/coined by me! (trendergender flag here!)

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[tinkertytonkanddownwiththenazis]

K, I recently got into a keyboard battle with someone who was probably a troll, but I want to make a point about transness, dysphoria and “trenders”

CW: this post is going to reference the medicalisation of transness as well as medical transphobia.

“Transtrender” is a transphobic term. I will not debate you on this and if you disagree, I don’t want you following me. It is used to insult and deride trans people who are non-dysphoric/gnc/nonbinary/don’t want to medically transition/don’t pass and cut us out of the community because we don’t fit the narrow view of transness held by many cis people. And honestly, I can sorta understand why some binary trans people would use it. Transphobia is exhausting to deal with, I got my fair share when I came out. So if a bunch of cis people start saying “I’m fine with trans men and women who put the work in (medically transition + pass), but all this genderfluid nonsense? I mean really?” it makes excluding people outside of that narrow view seem beneficial. If you say “they’re nto with us, we don’t want anything to do with them either” it puts you on their side. So yeah, I understand that it’s presented as an easy way to assimilate and for the trans people who want that, or who just want to not get shit for existing, that would be nice. But we shouldn’t be dividing our own community for the sake of an “easy” way out. If we all band together and say “accept all of us or none of us” we can get the rights and respect we deserve.

The DSM openly acknowledges that not all trans people experience gender dysphoria. This person made a wonderful post with quotes from DSM-5 because not everyone has immediate access to it. I am truting you to click that link because they summarise it really well and I’m not just going to regurgitate everything they’ve said because I have more points to make.

The fear that “transtrenders” are a threat to trans healthcare and trans rights. The concern here is that the presense of  “fake” trans people will cause doctors to make gender conformations surgery and HRT even harder to access, something that’s a big issue in places like the UK where to get approved for surgery or hormones you have to speak to two separate psycholigists to make sure you’re really trans. *cracks knuckles* So lets break this down. First off, a number of “trenders” don’t feel the need to medically transition, so they will never try to. If you’re about to bring up detransitioners, 1) they make up anywhere between 1-5% of people who transition medically, and 2) The reasons they cite for detransitioning are lack of external support from friends and family (many of this group later re-transition once in a safer environment), not feeling like they adequetly pass, or saying that they sought medical intervention because they felt social pressure to do so (i.e. people perpetuating the idea that you have to medically transitions to be “really” trans). Stonewall wrote a really great post on the subject with links to the relevant papers and studies. The Wikipidea page on the subject is also really good. Detransitioners do not disqualify everyone else who transitions, and more people need to recognise that medically transitioning is not manditory to be trans. So those who don’t want to medically transition aren’t a threat. Next point. I am nonbinary and currently on the waiting list for a GIC in Exeter because I want top surgery. Just top surgery. Once I have my first appointment, I will be asked a bunch of questions to check if I’m really trans. For a very long time, trans healthcare was and still is extremely binary, and while changes are being made to accomodate NB people, they aren’t happening everywhere. Meaning, there is a good chance I won’t fit their criteria and I won’t be approved for surgery. Even as I write this, the though of being turned away terrifies me. So I and lots of other NB people apply for hormones or surgery that we genuinely want and get turned away. Then doctors start thinking “hmm, so many trenders are applying these days. If some of them slip through the net, they could get treatment they don’t want or need and that’s going to make life hard for them. We need to raise the bar to prevent that from happening.” We didn’t raise the bar. They did. The biggest barrier to medical transition is not nonbinary people or non-dysphoric people, or trans people who don’t pass. It is a narrow minded view of the trans experience. There are plenty of binary trans people who get turned away because they don’t meet the standards set by cis doctors. Because every trans experience is different. Just because only some people can jump over that bar doesn’t mean the rest of us can’t jump at all.

I recognise that this isn’t as well worded as it could be. I struggle to articulate myself sometimes. But please read this because we need to have a broader view of transness and trans experiences. I am not the enemy.

[transgenderresearch]

an intro course.

cw transmedicalism, gender dysphoria

Instagram can be a truly nasty place. That’s why I always make it a point to read the comments. I have scrolled through countless online bickering and pettiness, but the Instagram comments that have stayed with me the most were the ones that inspired me to start keeping up with this conversation. The comments I began to engage with were on a post containing this image. 

Up to this point, I was unaware of this viewpoint within the trans community. Once I realized the conversation had been around for years and was still going on I got even more curious about what this debate meant for the community and the feelings it sparked.

Within the transgender community, there are people who identify themselves as transmedics, or who believe in transmedicalism. Transmedics believe that to be able to call yourself transgender you must also experience gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria, as defined by the American Psychiatric Association, is “...a marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender.” More broadly, they believe in, what is often referred to as,  the science of being trans. Transmedics believe that if you do not experience gender dysphoria, to some degree, you are a transtrender, or a trender. A trender is someone transmedics believe are faking being trans for social clout, and because of the increased visibility of trans and other gender-variant people. They also refer to trenders as tucutes, stemming from these people being “too cute” to actually be trans. People with the opposite view, trans people do not have to experience gender dysphoria to be trans, refer to transmedicalists as trusum. This stems from their belief that transmedicalists are “true scum”. They believe that transmedics are gatekeeping the trans community with a narrow-minded view of being trans. If all of this terminology sounds a bit like trolling it’s because it was all invented by people who spend a lot of time on the internet.

In addition to the limited view of who is trans, transmeds oftentimes do not validate non-binary trans people as actual trans people unless they feel some level of gender dysphoria. This especially applies to non-binary people whose gender expression matches the gender they were assigned at birth. Within the transmed definition, these non-binary people would be considered cisgender. 

I have found that the conversation around transmedicalism is alive and well on platforms like tumblr, reddit, twitter, and instagram. The conversations taking place seem to always divide into these two camps, and the debates are heated and often end with personal attacks. The biggest issue and source of toxicity in these conversations is the idea promoted by transmedicalists that if you are actually trans there is no way you like being trans. They hold staunchly to the idea that the suffering of gender dysphoria would make any real trans person wish they were cis. But many trans people who do not believe in transmedicalism find this conflation of being trans and suffering to be a dangerous narrative to be pushing. From the perspective of transmedicalists, they are protecting cis people from beginning a false transition that will result in irreversible changes and the development of gender dysphoria post hormones or gender affirming surgery. 

Transmedicalism is rooted in a dependence on the medical system. It is a belief that relies too much on the promotion of suffering and the idea that the only medicine for a trans person is medical help and transitioning. It does not account for societal standards and the pressure of a binary gender system that oppresses, not only trans people but everyone it touches. In this blog, I will examine the growing transmedicalist views on social media and it’s representations from popular figures. I will (try to) dispel myths that are spread by transmedicalists and center transgender identities in readings of gender that hold space for trans people who may or may not experience gender dysphoria.

[nondysphoric--enby]

Watching transmeds get completely fooled by very obvious satire accounts made by other transmeds, and then using those satire accounts as "proof that tucutes are stealing resources" went from very funny to very sad really quickly.

It's like

Obvious satire account: OMG I finally just got hormones after Lying to to a bunch of doctors about having dysphoria! I might not have it but I'm a real man!! x3 those annoying doctors kept not believing me when I lied, but I finally fooled one~!

Us: ...this is satire and it's very obvious. In fact, we might know who's behind the account by looking back through other satire posts-

Transmeds: AHA, PROOF. See?! Tucutes are evil and stealing trans resources! This is the most real thing ever and this post on Tumblr is solid evidence!!

[nondysphoric--enby]

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