#headmate things

[404errr0r]

WHAT THEY DONT TELL YOU ABOUT BEING IN A SYSTEM IS THAT YOU WILL BE SOCIALLY INEPT. YOU WILL FUCKING SUCK. BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH I WAS ONLY AWAY FROM FRONT FOR AROUND TWO WEEKS THATS STILL TWO WEEKS OF NOT TALKING TO ANYONE AT ALL. in all honesty i AM kind of just shit at talking to people in general. BUT IT REALLY DOESNT HELP, THE ISOLATION. ANYWAYS. EVERYONE GET BEHIND ME AND IF THEYRE RUDE ABOUT YOU STRUGGLING TO CONVERSATE, ILL RIP THEM TO SHREDS.

[thebirdbrainedcollective]

sys culture is getting a coca cola for the genshin fictives bc they swear it tastes like fonta while getting a root beer at taco bell bc you're personally craving it and mcd's (our work) doesn't have it-

[kimthemangoguy]

[dreamcircuitsys]

Shoutout to in-system relationships that aren’t romantic in nature. To your headmates who are your parents, your children, your siblings, your best friends. To your headmates that love you so dearly, as a friend or as family or any other label. <3

[noctiscollective]

“fake disorder cringe” has us losing our mind so we're going to just say a few things:

systems can have alters younger (and older) than their bodily age.

systems can have nonhuman alters and introjects from controversial or modern-day medias.

systems can have alters that aren't the same gender as the body or use different labels.

systems can have high alter counts.

systems can want to change their appearance (using wigs, makeup, fake piercings, etc) depending on who is fronting.

systems can post about their personal experiences with their disorder and be open about having the disorder.

systems can have a complex headspace or no headspace at all.

systems can have varying degrees of dissociation and memory loss.

systems are not always aware of who is fronting or who they are.

systems can refer to their alters as anything they feel comfortable with, whether it be alters, headmates, parts, or even something like rats.

systems can realize they're a system at an early age or be unaware/in denial for a long time.

systems can go to parties, drink, smoke, and do “normal” things that singlets do.

system alters can have positive triggers.

systems can have times where their alters rapidly switch or their fronting room is crowded/overwhelming.

system alters can have varying levels of communication with other alters.

i shouldn't even have to say this one, but systems can have dyed hair??

tldr: if you don't have the disorder, don't speak on it. fake-claiming does more harm than good.

[scatteredstrayz]

I don't understand how people use delusional as an insult then act like they're not ableist. You know calling people delusional isn't an insult right. You know that it's just further stigmatizing people that do have delusions right.

[attentionneedyqueen]

*me, a transfem alter in an afab body* I need to take estrogen

[angelic-oath-plural-positivity]

i love you if you're a human alter. i love you if you're a alterhuman alter. i love you if you're a nonhuman alter.

you look super amazing just the way you are :]

[thehorrorwood]

𝄢 Aggresivist «🪓»

An Aggresivist is a headmate that takes problems the system may have and builds agitation off of them. They may find some way to lash out whether that be insults or anything of the sort. This headmate holds onto problems until they are no longer an issue.

{ SYSTEM ONLY - SYSTEM ROLE }

[solar-jack]

NORMALIZE IN-SYS RELATIONSHIPS!!!!

Okay aggressive title aside I wanna talk about romantic headmate relationships

I want expressing them to be more normalized!!! I think it's generally well known at this point that headmates can have relationships with each other. But I never see it talked about much beyond that it's a thing that happens.

I wanna hear about how people experience their relationships. I wanna hear what folks do together and how they express their love.

But something we especially wanna hear is how systems do physical affection.

"Physical affection?! But you only have one body!" THAT DOES NOT STOP US IN FACT IT MAKES IT EXTREMELY INTIMATE

We hold our own hands. We kiss our own body. We wrap our arms around ourself. And we want this to be normalized. Okay sure maybe it looks a little odd at first, but this is normal to us. And we want others to see it as normal and okay too.

(I swear to fucking god if "showing headmate affection on camera" becomes the new thing used to fakeclaim like how switching on camera is I will YELL)

I wanna be able to show our affection in front of someone else and make them uncomfortable NOT BECAUSE IT'S OUR OWN BODY but because they're being a third wheel just like to singlet couples.

[the-alarm-system]

if i had a choice to be reborn as a singlet or be apart of a system, I'd choose system over and over and over

[somequeeralien]

AM: How did we ran out of estradiol?

Suspiciously estradiol-shaped Ted:

[bielbunny]

new guy alert

This is Es all y'all!! They've quite literally been in the brain for a while and you'll be seeing 'em around real often from now on

[constellationcollective35]

I hate that thing where you can feel a new headmate wandering around the system but you can only describe how they feel, like this "new" bitch feels like spindly if that makes any sense (I know it doesn't) but I have no other way to describe it

-anon

[dailygriandoodles]

Day 138

I know I've said it before but I'll say it again, thank you all so much for the support these past several months. It means the world to us, and we hope to continue to bring silly doodles and drawings to you for a long time to come!! <3

Didn't really have an idea going in but ended up yapping about the origins of this blog a little haha. We've had a lot of system members help out these past 138 days to keep the blog going! And sometimes we do forget and miss a day, c'est la vie. But we all pitch in and do our best because it's important to Gri so it's important to all of us too :]

[attentionneedyqueen]

Rating R/syscringe comments about me!

My original post and The reddit post <3

Tw : Ableism

User 1 :

Uhm 💀

[RATING: 1/10. Boring, but straight to the point.]

User 2 (top 5% commenter) :

so it's gotten to the point they're just loud and proud about it, yet they're still getting away with this? real classy, if it's not bait i'll be really annoyed.

[RATING: 8/10 No, dear redditor, it is not bait. I am being #deadass, /Srs, if you will. A little trueposting on main. Imoblogging. Favorite out of the bunch as it makes us plurals sound like some evil movement]

User 3 :

They’re right in that there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting validation, attention, and to be more interesting! But there are unhealthy ways of going about getting there.

→ User 4 (replying to 3) :

We need to normalize requesting attention. Normalize saying “hey, I’m lonely and/or bored and want someone to talk to.” Normalize saying “Hey, I feel like I’m being ignored.”

[RATING: -0.0010/10 PLZZZ ADD SOME PIZZAZ PLZZZ. Well at least User 3's kinda based.]

User 5 :

ew

[RATING: 0/10 because one less letter and no emoji unlike the first one. I like to think I'm fair ]

User 6 :

At least they have the guts to accept that DID faking is typically done for attention. I’d prefer this attitude over a “NOO!!1!!1! EVERY SYSTEM IS VALID AND U CANT FAKECLAIM CUZ UR JUST A SILLY JELLY SINGLET WITH NO MEDICAL LITERACY OR COMPASSION FOR MY OBVIOUS SUFFERINGGGAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHGRRR>>:(((“

-> User 3 (Replying to 6) :

Right? I would prefer this over “gusss I HATE having DID why did our Martha Washington factive do our homework by candlelight with all the lights off”

[RATING: 3/10 NOOOOO USER 3!!!! YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO BE BASEDDDDDD!!!!]

User 7 :

Jesus fucking Christ man. On Christmas eve?????

[RATING: 8/10 Christmas came 341 days early :3]

User 8 :

Fuck them, so tired of this fucking bullshit they do and in a way it's fucking worst when they are fucking open about fucking faking a fucking horrible mental illness, fuck them 😤

[RATING: -5/10 ohmygoooodddddd cheer UP! People with a disorder just have a disorder ! Not the fucking bubonic plague cursed apon them from Bhaal. Fucking "horrible mental illness" is like sooo varied from person to person.]

User 9 (1% commenter) :

Finally they admit to being attention seekers

[RATING: 100000/10 LOUD AND PROUD BROTHER!!!!]

CONCLUSION :

Well, that was fun! Honestly I hope more people do stuff like this. Being posted on that subreddit can be a super fun experience (but only if you make it be/want it to be)! At least for someone like me LOL.

I also find it amusing that they make us sound like a bigger problem than we actually are. It'd be adorable if it wasn't just a smidge concerning.

Anyways! PLZZZZ TAG ME IF YOU RATE COMMENTS FROM THIS SUBREDDIT ON YOUR PLURAL POSTS!!!!!!!!!! PRETTY PLZZZZ!!!!