#not aplatonic either

[demonlike-judge-of-fire]

Me realizing i picked my crushes after reading aro people's experiences: 🙂

[the-meme-monarch]

So, I found the note in the Easter room.

It seems Delilah isn't the one who decides who is a main and who isn't... Which means her hands might be tied in how things happen with the toons. For some reason I can't share it (keep getting errors when I try) so uh... I hope you found it. And would like to hear your thoughts behind it.

three in a row to make the post shorter

INCH RESTING……….. ARTHUR being the one to do something probably bad for a toon’s well-being and delilah being the one to try to convince him otherwise? also DELILAH CARING ABOUT A TOON’S WELL-BEING…… DELILAH’S NOT EVIL TRUTHERS COME GET YOUR FOOD!!!!!!!!!

[solidwater05]

I'm greyplatonic. I've been greyromantic, too. And I realized that being a grey aspec is lonely

I don't fit in with allos, so I go to aspec spaces, but I don't fit in with aspecs either. When the aro community in general talked about not having crushes, I felt left out as a greyro who had crushes. When the apl community in general talks about not loving their friends, I feel left out as a greyro who, very rarely, loves some of their friends.

So, I'm making this post for all aspecs who feel too aspec for the allos, and too allo for the aspecs. For aspecs who love too much for aspec communities, but not enough for allos.

For all aspecs who feel attraction. For aspecs whose attraction is abundant but weak, rare but very strong, and everything in between.

For all acespecs who have sex and arospecs who date and all other aspecs who engage in activities without attraction.

For all aspecs who worry that their attraction and existence inherently support oppressive social structures.

For all aspecs who have never seen someone else like them. For aspecs who feel invisible.

For aspecs who feel like they don't belong.

I'm making this post for all shades of grey aspecs, no matter how light or dark, to let them know that we belong.

[the-whimsy]

God if I had a penny every time I saw a “we’re totally inclusive of all aspecs!” place have an exclusively-ace name I’d be able to fund a marketing campaign to make aroallos and our fellow forgotten aspecs visible enough for that shit to stop

[mathematical-cheese]

I've just seen a post and I know it's just supposed to be a joke but not all aroaces experience platonic attraction in a normal way if at all. Platonic attraction isn't the default attraction that "replaces" romantic and sexual attraction and it's platnormative (spelling?) to suggest otherwise. To suggest that there even needs to be an attraction that makes up for being aroace is aphobic and amatonormative. I know it's just a joke but hidden under it is the assumption that platonic attraction is the default nost important attraction for aroaces

[sunnydayaoe]

giving him every stigmatized label possible I'm so sorry king. npd and aplatonic. who else here gets discriminated against a lot and seen as evil and heartless I should put that on him too /silly

[incredibly-tired-icecube]

hey aplatonics wya

i have a question for anyone that can answer: do aplatonics still have friends despite being aplatonic or is it more like you don’t have friends and ur happy with it ?

[k1tty5]

hello :D please tell me more about your mezalian (is that how you spell it??) smalletho I will forever be indebted to you

(they are gorgeous I love them sm)

hey hi !! it would be my pleasure … (and I’ve been spelling it mezalean ??? but i have no idea LOL. there might be a canon spelling but i havent watched joels esmp1 since… probably since it ended. i will have to check sometime)

apologizing in advance because i will probably get very ramble-y!!

ummm. Oh god. How to start. Lets see. WELL. In this silly little au (i guess it has become a bit more than just me doodling designs LOL) in my head they have like this sort of zelink dynamic? obviously without all the zelda lore & stuff, just that kind of … okay forgive me I haven’t brushed up on my zelink lore for a good many years but. Like the princess and her personal knight that doesn’t really talk much sort of thing.

this made more sense in my head. But yeah. They have the vibes of zelink ? At least if i remember zelink right, I have a really bad memory :’) not exactly the same, i do think etho talks to joel (whereas if iirc link never really talks) - especially after getting to know him a bit - but just. they have the Vibes. You know?

I reckon Joel’s definitely very into sculpting in this au, maybe dabbles a little in painting - I imagine mezalea to be very heavy on art and expression in general. think you���d especially see lots of pottery and textiles all around the place. He probably also has an interest in some form of like. um. whats the word. Some sort of … fighting. lmao. Specifically thinking of fencing, i had this idea in my head that he’s watched Etho practice outside the palace at some point and is just absolutely fascinated and enamored. by both the practice and etho himself haha.

and for etho… talented swordsman? he is Not washed. i dont really have many ideas for his character in this au To be completely honest, mostly just of his personality. Although, I alsooo think he’s probably not actually from mezalea? I like to draw him with those pointy elf ears, and i think mezaleans are just humans. I cant remember if thats canon or not but um. mezaleans have human ears, so i’d imagine etho’s probably from like.. rivendelle? Is that. What it’s called. The elf guys? Are they elves??? Goodness I cant remember. Grimlands would make sense too since i THINK they’re kind of like. technical engineer guys? but i dont know what species they are um so ,,, yeah,,,,

i think joel’s probably a bit put off by etho at first, mostly just because he’s not super enthused about the idea of a personal guard, but also because the guys a bit odd, you know? but he’s also probably suuuper intrigued by him. he wants to figure this new guy out, and when they start talking a bit more, i think. They are both incredibly charmed by the other. head over heels? possibly.

most of my ideas of this au are just little scenes that are cute and silly but dont follow any main plot. I would love to write some one-shots of some of the ideas i have in the future, but as of right now im experiencing a bout of creative burnout and am busy with the holidays - spending time with family, so… not right now lol!

hopefully this is what you wanted,,,, i tend to get very ramble-y when talking about literally anything, so i do apologize for that haha, i am Not good at explaining things in simple ways, as i’ve said many a time before.

[colorpicked-flags-from-one-guy]

Would you be okay with colorpicking from the aplatonic flag?

Of course!

The aplatonic flag picked from this one frame of Zuko!!

[2pen2wildfire]

Y'know I identified as asexual for like, a WHILE before eventually realizing I wasn't, and honestly I regret nothing. I mean I was like 15/16 and Mormon (repressed exmo gang eyy✌️) so it's not like I'd be having sex anyway, I wasn't missing out on anything (and aces aren't "missing out" in general, they're doin their own thing and I love that). But in my case identifying the way I did allowed me to step back and just. Get in tune with my emotions and attractions and everything. I'd realized I liked girls at 13 and instantly I thought that meant I had to sexualize them, objectify them even. And that led to a lot of awkward interractions and feeling like shit about myself for being creepy (didn't help that I'm autistic and had trouble figuring out what was too much). So I really think I needed to be ace for a while. I needed that time to let myself desexualize love and attraction in my brain until I was in a place where I could express sexuality in a healthier way. In a similar way I think it was good that I went through so many gender and sexual/romantic orientation labels before settling on what I am now, because it allowed me to analyze why I identify this way and what it means to me. My identity is stronger and more solid because of the way I grappled with it throughout highschool, and I learned a whole lot about other communities along the way!

[schizosamwincester]

There is something so deeply aromantic aplatonic to me about season 5 Dean and Castiel.

Are they friends? Not really. Well, Dean thinks they are because he thinks friends are just what you call your coworkers when you're a hunter and doesn't actually signify any particular feelings towards them. He still isn't entirely convinced that other people feel anything for their friends. But they really don't interact outside of work and that one... Interesting brothel interaction.

Are they lovers? Absolutely not. Sure, neither of them have any sense of personal space or boundaries, but is there actual chemistry there? On the actual screen? Yeah no, I don't see it.

They are, however, both The Other Person I Know in each other's lives. If Cas needs help? Well, he's rebelled from pretty much everyone he's known and worked with since forever. He can call Dean. Or Dean's family, but he doesn't really know them. They just come as a package deal with Dean. And if Dean needs help? Well, Castiel is the one person who knows shit about anything when it comes to this apocalypse business, and he still has some useful angel powers, even if he doesn't have all of them.

Cas and Dean both don't really understand or do friends. They certainly don't understand or do romance. But they have found one person in this world who is useful and who tolerates them, and by God, they're going to keep bugging him.

And yes, they will act strange and overly familiar with each other the entire time, because neither of them understand how real human relationships work. But despite that, they will show no sign that they actually feel anything for each other at all, platonic or romantic.

[infiniteorangethethird]

"a life without love must be awful and terribly sad" is such a strange take for me bc do you know what does suck majorly? Trying to force yourself to feel an emotion you can't feel just bc it's something everyone is supposed to feel. Going on dates with people in hopes that maybe if you just gave them a chance you'll grow to like them the way they like you. Shifting between "love interests" constantly bc you don't actually feel anything for any of them but you're terrified that if you don't find someone you'll end up all alone. Listening to your friends telling each other "I love you" earnestly and feeling extremely guilty bc you know if you said it back it would not be honest. Realizing you have never actually loved anyone and feeling like the worst person alive for it, thinking there must be something wrong with you.

Being loveless was never the problem. The expectation that everyone must be able to feel love is. There is nothing wrong with not being able to feel love, and love is not the only way to be happy in life. Love isn't the only and ultimate source of happiness, without which your life is inherently less than the lives of those who do feel it.

Realizing and accepting I was loveless wasn't some heartbreaking tragedy. It was self-acceptance and freedom from the impossible expectations I put on myself. It was joy.

[vespidwasp]

They would have much to discuss. Aplatonic robot/construct who picks a name that reduces themself to what they were made for in spite of not liking the purpose they were made for at all

[axemetaphor]

saw a post on my dash yesterday that was like "so I know people tend to characterize Jinx as some kind of sex god—" and it gave me intense whiplash because I've always read her as extremely aroace and I don't really engage with the Arcane fan base at large on here. post is quite literally living in my mind rent free because what on earth do you mean

[neverendingline]

im actually not lonely because im single i don’t understand people who have friends and go omgggg im so lonely because im not dating someone </3 like girl what

[dark-twist-fairytales]

I realize why I didn't like my previous jobs, why I felt uncomfortable in previous relationships even:

I don't like being held on a pedestal of example. I don't like being looked at like I'm an experiment or someone to gawk at.

Leave us in the shadows, in our little bubble, and come around when you need us. And no, this isn't some sort of attention seeking reverse psychology, this is quite literally how we feel.

We don't mind being a last resort. We still care and observe. Don't make an example of us, or treat us like an experiment, please.