#savingoursanity

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@savingoursanity

HG: And yes, cuddles are very, very important. 

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⚡️here she is, saving us all from losing the plot, one 🧘🏻‍♀️flow at a time. Starting today off with @parissyogaa and her Positive Power Flow....feeling 💯 better & ready to take on Saturday in lockdown 💪🏻❤️ #khyaonline #parisyoga #positivepowerflow #savingoursanity #grateful #theweekend #lockdown #moveyourbody #onlineyoga #timeonthemat #getitdone #yogafamily #yogisofinstagram https://www.instagram.com/p/B-RjZbMnjlu/?igshid=18xzymnmlq8z0

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savingoursanity replied to your post “August 25th, 2018”

First year is always a doozy. Hang in there hun I wish you best of luck! If ever you need someone to talk to feel free to message me anytime

As much as I appreciate the offer I made this blog as an outlet to just write about my feelings without having to drag anyone into them because I feel bad having the same people listen to my problems all the time.   

[groovy-rat-man]

thank you to everyone who answered, this has been very informative!

@savingoursanity @falen-treee @garp-juice-of-that-one-vineyard @qualityllamamuffinpanda @sublimepaperfury @we-are-the-science-side @thesillysage

is it just me or is everything louder in the dark? Science side of tumblr please explain

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savingoursanity replied to your post: [[MOR] I’ve had another series of panic attacks...

Hey hun if you want some one to talk to feel free to send me a message anytime <3

Thank you :)  I’m going to try getting some sleep and seeing how I feel tomorrow

[savingoursanity]

"Others have it worse than you" should be about gaining a more nuanced perspective.

It shouldn't be about negating or invalidating your personal experience and/or current circumstances.

[savingoursanity]

Today's epiphany is that I'm basically a Rube Goldberg machine when it comes to being able to do anything. Line things up just right and the sequence of events I can accomplish can be surprisingly long or I'll be stopped along the way because the trash can is two inches too far to the left.

[savingoursanity]

Hey folks,

I'm getting real tired of how ableist our world can be and even to able bodied and minded people so here’s something I want you to hear if no one has told you yet: 

Please stop expecting yourself to give optimal performances and achieve optimal results if working with or in suboptimal conditions. 

[savingoursanity]

In trying to do your part to make the world a better place, please know that it's not your role or responsibility to make it the best place

[savingoursanity]

Executive dysfunction is a bitch and people who don’t deal with it do not realize how friggin hard it is to live with.

Lemme tell you a story, 

Growing up my mom was the queen of organization. Like she has always been the ultimate mama in terms of planning and being on top of things and all that jazz. Long story short this lady does not have executive dysfunction. 

That means that for a very long time my mother did not in the slightest understand what I’ve been dealing with and even with my adhd diagnosis (which I only got at almost 20) she still didn’t really comprehend how hard it was for me (not that I blame her I mean how could she have known really). 

Now a few years back my mom started menopause and poor thing it has run her over like a truck several times ever since. She’s still pretty heckin on top of things but she has slowed down big time. Point is that a while back, when her menopause was hitting real hard, she came to me one day to apologize. 

It took actual friggin hellbent menopause to slow my mother down to a point where she got to experience a glimpse into what my life had always been. It was then that she knew that I hadn’t been kidding, I hadn’t been faking it, I hadn’t wanted to be lazy, I hadn’t done it out of spite, I just literally couldn’t do it. She got to see how terribly frustrating and exhausting it can be, and actually apologized and empathized with my plight because she finally actually understood (even only to a degree) the nightmare that was my brain. I saw in her face this terror and helplessness I had never seen her have; she who had always been so in control and capable when it came to executive function type demands. 

To anyone who deals with executive dysfunction I feel your pain and frustration and so did my mom if only briefly and partially. So know that if the people who tell you that you’re faking it or being lazy actually knew and understood what you’re dealing with, they wouldn’t be saying that.

[savingoursanity]

Me? Lose track of time?

More likely than you think

[savingoursanity]

“You can’t have adhd, you’re smart and you’re good at school” 

Step a little closer so I can attempt to slap the stupid out of you 

[savingoursanity]

I can't help but laugh a little when people ask me for my recipes cuz more often than not it's like "what's a recipe?" (except for baking which is a science)

Those lists of ingredients and the pretty pictures are inspiration at best just watch me creative liberty my way into achieving sustenance. More often than not what I make is merely a mix and match of whatever's in my kitchen that'll probably work (results may vary)

[savingoursanity]

Some mornings I wake up feeling ready to take on the day.

Other mornings I have more neutral or somewhat ambiguous feelings about getting up.

Then there are mornings where I'm met with the screeching velociraptor of existential dread.

[savingoursanity]

Get you a friend who you could probably be in contact with more if you wanted to/remembered to but is equally as bad about remembering to reach out as you are and so even though your interactions are sporadic and inconsistent there are no hard feelings since you both know that it's not personal and there's no sense in holding this kind of stuff against each other when we're equally guilty in the long run and we know deep down how much we care about each other

[savingoursanity]

Possibly controversial opinion: in popular media, two guys, girls or queer individuals of any gender identity can be verbally and/or physically affectionate with each other, not end up together, and still not be considered as queerbaiting or discrimination against the LGTBQ+ community.

I find it quite of ironic that by giving more room to LGBTQ+ characters in media we've hypersexualized or hyper-romanticized interactions (even more so than was happening with straight coded interactions) and in doing so we've simultaneously cut off a whole section of LGBTQ+ community. Have we just forgotten about the whole asexual and aromantic spectrum? Or what about the simple fact that healthy human interactions can include caring and affection while being completely platonic. Or that some people choose to be single regardless of sexual or romantic orientation or gender identity.

Because if we really actually wanted better representation we would fight for more representation of not just gay, lesbian, bisexual or pansexual characters.

But lets be honest, it's not actually representation that most people care about. No, it's all about the shipping, because that's what sells and gets people invested. And now with more LGBTQ+ characters popping up everywhere no ship is off the table anymore (not that it technically ever was just that now there's an actual possibility it could be reality).

As such the moment that any two characters so much as look in each other's direction, someone somewhere will have shipped them. If that ship is shared by enough people, happens to be queer and doesn't look like it's going to become canon anytime soon the queerbaiting card gets pulled out so fast and we veer dangerously towards the toxic road of cancel culture. I'm overgeneralizing and exaggerating of course but anyone who spends enough time on Twitter knows I'm not exactly wrong either.

Now don't get me wrong, there are instances where queerbaiting is a valid and warranted complaint. However, I think that often we're forgetting all the nuances that exist in human interactions.

Two guys can deeply care for each other and both be straight.

Two guys can deeply care for each other and one is straight the other is queer.

Two guys can deeply care for each other and both be queer.

Two 'sexuality compatible' guys may end up together, or they may never date nor have any intention of doing so.

And this is valid for every other gender identity regardless of sexuality or romantic inclination. These people exist in real life after all so why shouldn't they also exist in media?

One last point I also want to make is this. We've been making so many strides on breaking down the social barriers that lop femininity and masculinity into boxes. This has been so important especially with the rise of mental health advocacy.

Haven't we been trying to break down toxic masculinity and telling our boys and men that it's okay for them to be emotional, to cry, to care, to be sensitive? That you shouldn't let people tell you what's man or woman enough? Haven't we been trying to strive for people to be more emotionally available and open about their struggles regardless of perceived roles and expectations? Or to seek help, care and comfort from others if they are struggling?

We desperately need this to also be shown in media. But we're never going to get there when basic human decency gets flagged as flirtation and/or queer coded.