#self validation

[succulentsiren]

How to Prioritize Yourself

(in other words, how to put yourself 1st)

1. Before making a decision, ask yourself, “Is this beneficial for me?”

2. Second ask yourself, “Do I want to do this? If so why?” Make sure that whatever you do is serving your best interests.

3. Always take care of your needs. Treat yourself like you would your child. Maintain your basic hygiene. Make sure you've eaten and drank water. Keep up with your skin care. Give yourself compliments and support your dreams. Be financially stable and provide security for yourself. Give yourself everything you desire.

4. Don’t rush or let others push you into doing something you don’t want to.

5. Put your standards on the pedestal. Form your own judgement about things and don’t be persuaded easily.

6. Do what you set your mind to regardless of opposition.

7. Always be in tune with what you desire and never compromise your standards.

8. Fill your own cup first. Invest in yourself.

9. Set clear boundaries and start saying no when you mean it.

10. Release all shame surrounding your self prioritization. Understand, people won’t care about your wellbeing. You have to be the one looking out for you.

11. Gate-keep yourself from those undeserving of your love and energy.

12. Don't tell all your business. Move in silence and cherish your privacy.

13. Stay self-sufficient.

14. Do the things YOU enjoy. Have your favorite cup of coffee. Eat your favorite snack. Watch your favorite show. Do tarot readings. Read occult books. Wear makeup. Dress up. Don't shrink your beliefs, lifestyle or presence just because someone else disagrees with it.

15. Ignore unsolicited advice.

16. Stop trying to prove your worth and just be. You are already enough as you are. You habe nothing further to prove.

[slfcare]

ten years ago you were so scared of such different things, but you survived them anyway. the same goes for five years ago and two years ago. everything that has ever felt like a hurdle, you’ve passed through. so be afraid, identify your fears, and then allow yourself to remember that in just a little while, this will be another thing that you have overcome.

[sobbing-org]

[agirlwithglam]

things confident people do, part 1

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 1) when someone compliments them, they say thank you.

WOAH mind-boggling right! they don't self depreciate themselves by going "no no im so ugly" or whatever, but they don't say something like "yeah i know." either. show your gratitude, but don't let it get to your brain.

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 2) take care of themselves.

they make sure to show themselves just as much love as they show everyone else because they know they deserve it just as much as anyone else.

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 3) they show up for themselves.

when they say something, they do it. when they want something, they work to get it. when you feel sad and hurt, you yourself should be the first person to come and support yourself.

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 4) they walk and sit with good posture

confident people know that they don't shouldn't have to make themselves invisible for anyone. it may be scary at first to be walking around looking straight instead of hunched over, but just btw u look rly lame being hunched over. stand up girl.

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 5) they take up space

because they know they are allowed to. they know they deserve it. why would they try to become smaller? for who are you doing that for? literally no one cares and it just looks pathetic. take up space honey, you're allowed to.

GIF by cherrylipssara1

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 6) you like what you see in the mirror

when i look in the mirror, no matter how i look- whether im sweating and crusty musty dusty or even all glammed up- i always love myself. why? because i know that i am not what i look like. i know i am beautiful, but that is not the only admirable thing about me!

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 7) do what scares the crap out of u!!

or basically, step outside your comfort zone. do things that the previous you wouldn't even think of doing, and do it proudly, and do it alone! (me for example, recently i did the most scariest thing ever that i was dreading the entire day and when i did oh my god i was so proud of myself!! esp since i did it alone as well!)

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 8) is not scared of being alone.

who cares? literally who cares? confident people know that no one cares. people look at you because they may be curious or just looking around, but then you don't stay in their mind all day, okay? other people couldn't care less and neither should u!

[libraalynn]

[ariaxco]

how to build confidence when you feel invisible ⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧸

hi, i’m aria — new here but not new to feeling like i didn’t exist in a room ⋆.ೃ࿔*:･. if you’re tired of feeling invisible, this is your reminder that you don’t have to stay hidden forever 🫧

for a long time, i thought confidence was something other people were just born with. like some girls just walked into a room and were automatically seen. i wasn’t one of them. i waited for people to notice me, and hated how it felt when they didn’t.

but here’s the truth nobody tells you: confidence isn’t about being noticed — it’s about knowing you exist loudly, even if nobody claps for it.

step one: stop waiting to be chosen.

no one’s going to hand you a permission slip to shine. they’re too busy worrying about themselves. stop auditioning for roles in other people’s lives, this is your life. you’re already the main character.

step two: practice being unapologetically present.

sit up straighter

take up space (yes — legs uncrossed, head high)

make eye contact even if it feels scary at first

speak slower, calmer

you don’t have to be loud to be powerful. you just have to exist intentionally.

step three: romanticize your own existence.

confidence starts when no one’s watching. get ready like you’re meeting the love of your life (hint: it’s you). wear the outfit. play the playlist. light the candle. live like the girl you dream about becoming.

step four: build small wins daily.

confidence isn’t built in big dramatic moments. it’s built in the tiny "i did it anyway" choices:

finish that book

stick to your morning routine

say one thing in that group chat

these wins stack up. proof that you’re her.

step five: know that you’re allowed to be seen.

stop apologizing for taking up space. you’re allowed to exist loudly. you’re allowed to ask questions. you’re allowed to want more. you’re allowed to shine even if nobody claps yet.

visibility isn’t something you earn, it’s something you claim.

if you feel invisible, it’s not because you’re not good enough, it’s because you’re still waiting for permission.

stop waiting. show up. especially when it’s scary. that’s when it matters the most. 🌷

[iambrillyant]

“mind your own magic and let people believe whatever they want while you alchemize your intentions and become the best version of yourself regardless of their perceptions.”

— billy chapata

[silent--symphony]

Peace is like a butterfly, it flutters

into the hearts of those who seek it.

[girlsgirl06]

MASTERLIST..😌

-BECOME HER:

🪷GUIDE TO BE THAT GIRL

🪷THAT GIRL AFFIRMATIONS

🪷IT GIRL AFFIRMATIONS

🪷MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY AFFIRMATIONS

🪷MAIN CHARACTER AFFIRMATIONS

🪷SHE IS LUXURIOUS

🪷SHE IS OUT OF LEAGUE

🪷SHE IS HARD TO GET

🪷SELF CONCEPT AFFIRMATIONS

🪷SELF LOVE AFFIRMATIONS

-PART 1

-PART 2

🪷TRAITS OF SIGMA FEMALE

🪷SIGMA AFFIRMATIONS

🪷FEMME FATALE

🪷I'M CUTE(CUTENESS OVERLOAD)

🪷FEMININE ENERGY AFFIRMATIONS

🪷MODELING CONFIDENCE

🪷HOW TO BE UNFORGETTABLE

🪷HOW TO TAP INTO YOUR FEMININE ENERGY+ AFFIRMATIONS

🪷 "WHO'S THAT GIRL?!" AFFIRMATIONS

🪷I AM A GODDESS AFFIRMATIONS

🪷LITTLE HABITS TO TAP INTO YOUR FEMININE ENERGY

-INNER WORK:

🪷HEAL THE CHILDHOOD TRAUMA

🪷HEALING AFFIRMATIONS

🪷HEAL THE INSECURITIES

🪷CHANGE THE MINDSET

🪷MINDSET AFFIRMATIONS

-PART 1

-PART 2

🪷HAPPY LIFE AFFIRMATIONS

🪷EVERYTHING WILL WORK OUT AFFIRMATIONS

🪷 MANIFESTATION GUIDE

🪷MANIFESTING AFFIRMATIONS

🪷 MANIFESTING ASKFIRMATIONS

🪷TIPS TO MANIFEST BEAUTY

🪷AWAKENED SOUL AFFIRMATIONS

🪷CREATE A NEW YOU (CREATE YOUR SELF CONCEPT/SELF IMAGE/SELF IDENTITY)

🪷HOW TO STOP REPEATING CYCLE?

🪷UNIVERSE FAVOURITE CHILD AFFIRMATIONS

🪷HEALING MEDITATION

-PART 1

-BEAUTY AFFIRMATIONS:

🪷PART 1

🪷PART 2

🪷EYES AFFIRMATIONS

🪷LIPS AFFIRMATIONS

🪷HAIRS AFFIRMATIONS

🪷NAILS AFFIRMATIONS

🪷SMILE AFFIRMATIONS

🪷AURA AFFIRMATIONS

🪷I AM THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PERSON ALIVE IN THIS UNIVERSE

-HEALTHY BODY AFFIRMATIONS:

🪷PART 1

🪷PART 2

🪷PART 3

-I'M A STAR SERIES:

🪷DANCER AFFIRMATIONS

🪷PART 1 (DANCER VERSION)

🪷PART 2(RAPPER VERSION)

🪷PART 3(SINGER VERSION)

🪷PART 4(SONGWRITER VERSION)

🪷PART 5(MUSIC PRODUCER VERSION)

🪷PART 6(MODEL VERSION)

🪷PART 7(FANSIGN EVENT)

🪷PART 8

🪷PART 9

-BODY LANGUAGE:

🪷HOW TO MAKE STRONG PERSONALITY

🪷 THOMAS SHELBY GUIDE:

-PART 1

-PART 2

-AFFIRMATIONS

-SPICE UP YOUR DRESSING:

🪷FIND YOUR STYLE

🪷FASHION AFFIRMATIONS

🪷I'M A FASHION ICON(FASHION AFFIRMATIONS PART 2)

-ROMANTICIZING THE ACADEMICS:

🪷ROMANTICIZING STUDY

🪷ACADEMIC SUCCESS AFFIRMATIONS

🪷ROMANTICIZING COLLEGE ERA

🪷 AFFIRMATIONS

🪷ATTRACT FRIENDS AFFIRMATIONS

-MOTIVATION:

🪷BOOST OF CONFIDENCE

🪷REMINDER

🪷JUST A REMINDER

🪷POSITIVE SHIFT OF MINDSET

🪷JUST DON'T STOP

🪷FOR WHOEVER WHO NEEDS TO HEAR THIS

[safe-haven-safe-place]

[succulentsiren]

Stop being so easily intimidated. When their heads turn to look at you, own the moment and feel totally empowered. Drop the negative self-talk. Own the ability to make head’s turn, eyes shift and people stand at attention when you enter the room. It’s time to allow your presence to be spellbinding.

[slfcare]

Lately I’ve been really into being honest to people about my positive feelings towards them. I told my classmate that I’ve admired her creativity from the start and named a project of hers that I loved, and her face lit up! I took the train with a project partner the other day and told her that I always have so much fun with her, and it prompted an entire conversation about the difficulties of graduating from ‘classmates’ to ‘friends’ and both of our insecurities in this regard (and how we’re definitely getting coffee later). I express my gratitude honestly. I say what I feel if I’d be happy hearing it, myself. I remember details so that I can refer to them later. Once you realize how great you can make someone feel, all of those mundane moments become so special. It will maybe even create some lasting connections, something I think we could all use more of.

[natalyajjohnson]

you are allowed to not be okay. you are allowed to not be alright. you are allowed not to have good days. you are allowed to cry. you are allowed to be upset. you are allowed to feel what you need to feel. don't let anybody make you feel bad because of what you're feeling.

[cosmicportal]

[agirlwithglam]

just in case you need a reminder...

yes you will have a good future, yes you will find someone who loves you fully, yes you will achieve your dreams, yes you are worthy of love, yes you will find close friends, yes you will get your dream house, yes you will live the the life you deserve.