#setting boundaries teaching

[essentiallybetterliving]

Achieve Work-Life Balance as a Teacher

Over the years as a teacher, I have observed my colleagues stay at school way into the night hours, take stacks of work home, and complain they have no time for themselves or their families. Some even come to school to work on the weekends. They struggle with home-work balance, finding time to be a great parent, teacher, friend, family member. Their workload takes its toll on their mental and…

[seance]

EDWARD TEACH leaving BLACKBEARD behind.

[fangsduobing]

di feisheng's iconic "i don't hate you because i love someone else, i hate you because you fucking suck"

[belllllove]

[sonnetforbonnet]

Thinking about the "Stede crossed Ed's boundaries" discourse from Calypso's Birthday, and how it's mostly not true? I won't deny that Stede was attempting to initiate sex at a high stress and, by most parameters, inappropriate time. It probably didn't fall under the definition of "taking things slow," but that's also not a clear boundary. No one defined what taking things slow actually means; however, they *do* establish how that boundary should be respected.

Stede kisses Ed, Ed wants to take things slow. Stede holds Ed's hand, asks if it's okay. Ed confirms that it's okay. So the guidelines for taking things slow is this: things are okay if Ed says they're okay.

What does Stede do at the end of the episode? He pulls Ed into the room and pushes him against the wall. He silently waits for permission from Ed. Ed nods and confirms that it's okay.

No, it wasn't really a good time for all this, but I think Stede can be cut some slack after what had literally just happened. He still respected Ed's boundaries based on what happened when Ed first asked for the boundary to be instituted in the first place.

[starryskiesahead]

so once i saw a tdlosk x jjk x mp100 crossover fanfic on ao3 and it was like “yuji and gojo, reigen and mob, and saiki all hang out”! and i was like neat but tbh it’s kinda stands out to me that saiki’s the only one who. doesn’t have a mentor figure similar to the other so.

[psychopomp-namine]

xiaochen, to me, is like. li tianchen is building a house of cards. liu xiao tells him that card houses are fragile so you have to be strong enough to withstand the event of them falling eventually. but li tianchen's card house hasn't fallen yet! so li tianchen just keeps building the house of cards and puts his identity into being a really good builder of card houses. liu xiao maybe even gives him more cards and compliments his house making skills. and it's like. "wouldn't it be fun to topple it later? just pull out one card, and woosh! it's all gone in a second. doesn't that sound fun?" and tbh li tianchen would (and has) enjoy(ed) toppling card houses, but only if it's other people's card houses. this one though? he just built this card house after the last one fell apart and he's gonna be inconsolably upset if this one falls apart too. and it does fall apart — spectacularly, even, that all the cards get blown away by the wind and li tianchen doesn't have any cards anymore to build a new card house. maybe he doesn't want to build a card house anymore. can't be a good card house builder without cards.

so liu xiao offers to play a new game with him. remember when your card house fell apart, tianchen? there are other games like that, games we can play that don't need cards. we can play dominoes. we can play jenga. half the fun is watching something you construct fall apart, you know? here, I'll teach you how to play. do you want to play?

and li tianchen is like. well I don't have cards anymore. I'll probably suck at playing other games, but it'd be nice to play games with someone else. what else is there to do? liu xiao gave him cards earlier, so he might as well see what other games he plays.

liu xiao asks him if he wants to play cards and li tianchen tells him nah, liu xiao should choose what they play. liu xiao smiles and brings out the jenga set.

li tianchen doesn't know how to play jenga but he learns quickly. he misses his cards but it's fun taking turns playing jenga with liu xiao. they're constructing something together! li tianchen isn't playing alone. that's nice. liu xiao wants to play games. li tianchen is good at playing a game; maybe he can be good at playing more than one game.

then liu xiao tells him that this jenga tower will fall too. that's all part of the game. li tianchen understands this. it'd be less upsetting if li tianchen is the one who takes it apart instead, so it's on his own terms, instead of waiting for someone else to topple it. but is it really on his own terms if liu xiao was the one who suggested playing jenga in the first place?

maybe soon liu xiao will topple the jenga tower they built together. but it hasn't happened yet! when (not if) it does happen, well, li tianchen has gotten good at playing games now. so liu xiao will keep playing with him, right? liu xiao likes games, and li tianchen is a good player. and good players aren't afraid of game overs anymore. it's all part of the game.

[sweetteaandpie]

did anyone else have a shit week last week? were some planets super aligned and messing with people or something because i had the worst week i've had in years. everytime some shit went down i was like, "MUST. LOVE. A LITTLE. MOOOORE." i try to meet all my challenges and hard moments with more love but i literally felt like last week was a test. i am praying this week is a lot gentler.

[collectorcookie]

Mao the demon on esu's shoulder: accept the yandere esu

Makoto the angel on esu's other shoulder: nooo esu fight back and set boundaries

[chainmail-butch]

Once again thinking dad thoughts

[arsenicflame]

i am actually really, really glad to see Ed setting himself some boundaries and then sticking to them. he said he wanted to go slow, to take it easy, and when Stede ended up not respecting that, he took the initiative to set some distance between them.

i don't think running away to become a fisherman is the answer, but i do think its important that Ed is removing himself from that situation at the moment. if Stede didn't respect his boundaries once, who's to say he wont do it again? Ed's got enough on his plate, and as they've said before, they're both impulsive! in the moment Ed's gonna keep agreeing with Stede, and then realising later that it wasn't the best thing for him to do. removing himself from that situation, taking away the temptation is a good thing!

[agayconcept]

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[lumine-no-hikari]

This thing!

"I know why you did the thing" does NOT mean "it's okay you did the thing", and it does NOT mean "the thing you did is justifiable".

It CAN, however, mean, "I have faith in your capacity to choose differently" and "I am willing to teach you how to choose differently".

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[peridotsarelongterm]

For as much as social anxiety sucks, the self-awareness is a nice silver lining.

I may not be able to public speak or even go to a party without a mini-breakdown, but at least I can read a room and know when to keep my mouth shut.

[goatmilksoda]

Some mfs MY AGE are like "god, gen alpha is so screwed. So glad my parents raised me right" despite the fact that they still had a DS that they could take to family parties by age 6 and a fully working phone and Twitter by 9. GIRL YOU WERE THE PROTOTYPE IPAD BABY!!! DONT EVEN SAY THAT "I lived a real childhood and went outside" SHIT TO ME!!!

[mitzvahmelting]

dropping this here because i have big feelings about it