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two months of pride for me over here in my city, because we don’t celebrate in june :)

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is there a solution to feeling like a walking, talking billboard for aromanticism and asexuality? like every time i talk abt being aroace i have to explain what it means, and then explain aspec terms, and answer questions (u dont like anyone? uve never had sex? how do u know?) and respond to comments (u just havent found the right one, someday youll be in love and youll be like a human again). so yeah is there a solution because this sucks?????

unfortunately, there's no exact solution for this. but what i can say is this: remember that it is not your responsibility to educate people in this day and age. there's plenty of free access to as much information as one could want one thing i am personally struggling to put into place is hard boundaries in regards to what i will and will not allow myself to answer. it leaves one with a sense of guilt, but any good therapist will tell you that that's normal for someone who isn't used to it. if you ever feel yourself drained from people like this and the questions they have? tell them so. be honest when you say "i shouldn't have to explain this to you,,, just Google it" if someone is worth keeping around and worth continuing a conversation with? best case scenario would be that they go "oh, okay!" and ask that you maybe help direct them in where to start that research. and your worst case scenario is they call you rude and impatient (which is probably someone you don't want around anyway, so it helps to weed those people out)

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Do you know what the space in between romance and platonics is? Is that just queer platonic? I'm very confused.

from my understanding, that's one way to interpret it. but ultimately? i believe it's a case-by-case basis for a lot of people

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Our newest addition to our pride collection - AROMANTIC is out there looking dapper!! You can get yours at the link in our bio, or at irisidium.com !

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Fellas.. is it Ace to play fortnite???

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Floral Pride Buttons from Saltshop | Lily Pfaff

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I wondered. Can I call myself aroace if I'm frayromantic (which is the opposite of demiromantic) and on the ace-spec? (I know it's definitly not demi but I couldn't find what it is)

that’s a tough question because that’s all based on personal opinion and one’s current understanding of sexuality as a whole

in my opinion, i lean more towards “no” as a response simply because frayromantic aligns too closely with how a lot of non-aro spectrum people seem to experience attraction. that’s why the concept of being “demi” is so confusing for cishets especially, because it blatantly states that the attraction is not an automatic response

romantic attraction is not everlasting. no matter how hard some people wish for it to be. love is hard, and love takes work. but sometimes feelings just... stop. that’s the normal cycle of things. and people can either choose to stay in relationships despite that or move on

frayromantic follows that general idea of “i had feelings and now i don’t,” which is a pretty universal experience. it’s just not always a consistent one that happens 100% of the time. it’s more of a “micro” label to help describe how it is you experience attraction, and that’s about it

if anything, i would stick with just saying “aroace-spec” because it implies you do (and can) feel both romantic and sexual attraction but under a certain set of conditions. to say just “aroace” implies you feel nothing at all, and that can be upsetting for those that actually do. it shouldn’t be used as an umbrella term. that’s why we say “aro/ace spectrum”

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Aro ask meme!

When did you realise you were aro?

Are you interested in having a QPR?

Do you own any pride shirts/rings/patches/etc.?

What’s your sexual orientation?

Who is a character you headcanon as aro?

Are you out? Or semi out?

What aro issue do you wish there was more talk about?

What do you wish alloromantics understood about us?

Can you recommend a romance free book/fic/song/film/etc.?

any opinions on symbols (ie. like ace dragons) aros should claim? 

How important is being aro to your overall identity?

What is something that helped you accept being aro?

what’s your ideal future? living alone? with friends?

Do you relate to aro stereotypes?

Does the media’s portrayal of romantic love bother you?

what do you enjoy about being aro?

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Aromantic Asks

What arospec label(s) do you identify with?

Sexual orientation?

Are you romance-repulsed?

Do you relate to voidpunk?

What kinds of attraction (romantic, sexual, aesthetic, sensual, platonic, etc) do you experience?

How do you like to show people you (platonically) love them?

Do you want to remain single all your life or do you want to have some sort of life partner?

If you want one, what is your dream partner?

Which is your favorite of the 3 aromantic flags?

Your opinion on soulmates?

Your opinion on shipping?

Do you ship characters in romantic/sexual relationships, or do you only ship characters in familial and platonic relationships?

Are you out to anyone in real life?

How did you come out?

Do you know any aromantic people in real life?

How do you feel about your aromanticism?

What is the worst part of being aromantic?

What is the best part of being aromantic?

How did you find out about aromanticism?

When did you know you were aromantic?

Do you have any aromantic headcanons?

What would be your dream representation of an aromantic/aro-spec character?

Who is your aromantic icon/idol?

What is your favorite song that relates to aromanticism, or is simply not about romantic love?

What is your favorite movie that is not focused on romance?

What is your favorite tv show that is not focused on romance?

What popular romantic pairing do you see as only platonic?

Do you experience squishes?

Do you own any aromantic pride merch or outfits? What are they? If not, what would you like to own?

Do you have any advice for anyone who may be questioning if they are aromantic or on the aromantic spectrum?

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Ace!Reigen is so canon, freaking fight me

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ASEXUAL, AGENDER, AND AROMANTIC ARE NOW OFFICIAL WORDS IN THE ENGLISH DICTIONARY

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For trans women and most LGBT minorities "visibility" is dangerous to safety...

as if i (as a minority) do not already know that

what is this message hoping to accomplish here?

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i’m posting this sUPER late on tumblr, bUT Aro Awareness Week wasn’t long ago and i did this for the days set aside for “visibility”

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being in the void is now aroace culture pass it on

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I made a thing

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To anyone looking for Ace-related advice

My blog is probably not the best place to get it, as I’m just trying to figure stuff out myself. 

This wonderful group of blogs is probably much better suited for your questions:

Teenage Ace

Asexual Advice

Asexuals Exist

Queerplatonic and Aromantic Advice

Lithromanticism

Asexuality

A Gray-Asexual Space

Fuck Yeah, Queerplatonic Zucchinis

Ace Talk

Asexuals_Anonymous

This list was taken from http://sophiaphilemon.tumblr.com/acetumblr, where you can go to find other ace blogs about pretty much anything.

I’d suggest taking a look there. Sorry I couldn’t personally be of more help, but I hope you find these sites helpful!