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I feel like the line between “fluffy uwu self care” and “get your shit together self care” is thinner than people seem to think. Like, sitting in a quiet space with a book and maybe some twinkly fairy lights gives me the spoons to go call my damn doctor like I’ve been meaning to. Bath bombs or shower steamers make me feel content and/or sparkly, which gives me confidence to go out in public. (Plus, I bathed.) I dye my hair funky colors so if I feel like people are staring at me I can say it’s at that instead of whatever my anxiety wants it to be. 

The two are not mutually exclusive, is what I’m getting at, and I never see that mentioned, just either “self care is being nice to yourself” or “self care is kicking yourself in the ass to function for a few hours”. Kick yourself in the ass with niceness.

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When I go out in public with my parrot (always wearing a harness), I often get asked by strangers if they can pet her. I always say, “I don’t know. You can ask her!”

And after a moment of hesitation where they try to figure out if I’m joking, they will kindly look her in her eyes and ask if they can pet her. 80% of the time, she bows her head and I let them know that means she said “yes”. Then I instruct them on how to pet her correctly, since most people have never touched a bird.

The other 20% of the time, she will turn away from them, and I have to let them know she said “no”. They always look a little disappointed, but respect her decision. I just think that’s neat.

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No offense but the internet gives you the most wrong and fucked up idea of helping people because people get mad if you don't care about disasters happening in 72 countries, meanwhile the people in real life that are doing the most good picked one VERY SPECIFIC thing to care about and care about it REALLY HARD

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i love you. you made a mistake? i dont care i love you. you made a wrong choice? love you. you don’t think you’re good for anything? guess what you’re good for loving i love you

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ZAZA

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Spicy-brained friends, I would like to propose an update to the very useful ‘if you hate everyone, eat, if everyone hates you, sleep, and if you hate yourself, shower’ mantra to live by

Have you suddenly become a petty, hateful little gremlin who thinks people should face the firing squad for (checks notes) leaving teabags on the counter, breathing loudly, or daring to exist in the same space as you? Perhaps mundane and reasonable requests like ‘hey, we agreed to hang out now, let’s hang out’ make you want to scream and move to a yurt in the woods.

You. Are. Overstimulated.

People talk a lot about being overstimulated, and the physical/mental effects of it. What I haven’t seen is people talking about what it does emotionally, and it took me an embarassingly long time to link up those nitpicky, resentful emotions with the state of overstimulation/meltdown/shutdown.

These feelings do not mean that you’re a bad person! They probably aren’t how you actually feel about the people around you. They probably do mean that your nervous system is at its absolute limit and any request/demand/stimulus is Too Much and taking you into fight or flight territory.

Go lie down in a dark room for an hour, or find somewhere safe and familiar to stim for a bit. If it’s happening a lot, schedule yourself regular low-stimulation shutdown time

Signed: someone who moved in with their nearest and dearest only to have a massive crisis of faith about Suddenly Hating All of Them. I don’t hate them, it’s just overstimulating living with people. If I can spare anyone else a similar 9 months of suspecting that they may actually be a bit of a shit person, then this post is worth it!

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PRACTICE URGE SURFING

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Spicy-brained friends, I would like to propose an update to the very useful ‘if you hate everyone, eat, if everyone hates you, sleep, and if you hate yourself, shower’ mantra to live by

Have you suddenly become a petty, hateful little gremlin who thinks people should face the firing squad for (checks notes) leaving teabags on the counter, breathing loudly, or daring to exist in the same space as you? Perhaps mundane and reasonable requests like ‘hey, we agreed to hang out now, let’s hang out’ make you want to scream and move to a yurt in the woods.

You. Are. Overstimulated.

People talk a lot about being overstimulated, and the physical/mental effects of it. What I haven’t seen is people talking about what it does emotionally, and it took me an embarassingly long time to link up those nitpicky, resentful emotions with the state of overstimulation/meltdown/shutdown.

These feelings do not mean that you’re a bad person! They probably aren’t how you actually feel about the people around you. They probably do mean that your nervous system is at its absolute limit and any request/demand/stimulus is Too Much and taking you into fight or flight territory.

Go lie down in a dark room for an hour, or find somewhere safe and familiar to stim for a bit. If it’s happening a lot, schedule yourself regular low-stimulation shutdown time

Signed: someone who moved in with their nearest and dearest only to have a massive crisis of faith about Suddenly Hating All of Them. I don’t hate them, it’s just overstimulating living with people. If I can spare anyone else a similar 9 months of suspecting that they may actually be a bit of a shit person, then this post is worth it!

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Unrestrained winter fun

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Hi everyone! I received some difficult news yesterday, and I could really use some cheering up. Could you tell me something good that happened today in the notes? Nothing is too small to celebrate 💕

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My abuser has ADHD, so as a result, I hate my ADHD. Any advice?

I’m so sorry I missed this ask! First of all, I want you to know that having a diagnosis in common with someone who hurts you does not make you like them in any way. You are your own person, and neurodiversity is a spectrum! None of us experiences ADHD in exactly the same way as anyone else, and I think that’s actually really cool.

I really hope that helps. I can sympathize with being afraid of seeing similarities between yourself and an abuser. I know it’s easier said than done, but please be kind to yourself. I hope things get better for you very soon 💕

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Hey you! 👋

We are back into it this autumn with some Wellness Wednesdays, and we would like to wish you a very warm welcome back.

We are making our way into the colder days, one step at a time. If you need a little help to look after your well-being, Wellness Wednesdays might just do the trick. We are here with some helpful resources, including mood-boosting quizzes and sunny playlists for the darker months.  

First things first. Let’s get things started with the fine folk from @kokobot, who has kindly provided this interactive quiz to keep you in good mind. And if you’re struggling through these longer days, why not click here to start an anonymous chat with Kokobot, access further resources, or share what’s on your mind?

Don't forget to check out the rest of the classes this week

P.S. Did you miss our event on Monday? Don't worry, we got you covered.

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Sometimes little ghost gets confused, and that’s okay! 💕

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Hey, you! Try that mobility aid you've been thinking about. If it helps you, then you need it. Easy as that! Most people start using mobility aids on their own, without a doctor recommendation. And that's perfectly normal and okay! If you're worried about using it correctly, there are many guides to get you started. I know it can be scary. But mobility aids can open up your world in so many ways. If it helps, then you need it!

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i know we're all sick of self-care being a marketing tactic now, but i don't think a lot of us have any other concept of self-care beyond what companies have tried to sell us, so i thought i'd share my favorite self-care hand out

brought to you by how mad i just got at a Target ad

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