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This is from an older post of mine someone recently reblogged- discussing how PCOS was discovered to also affect people assigned male at birth, as ovaries and polycystic gonads were discovered to not be a requirement despite the name.

And this response really got under my skin. Every single one of these people responding this way were cis women.

This is what I and other trans men are talking about when we say that unfortunately we are being left out-deliberately or accidentally- of discussions that affect us- and that we are at an increased risk of medical malpractice and medical neglecy.

Over 10% of people with PCOS are trans men or trans masc. Over 50% of trans men and trans mascs actively avoid going to the gynecologist, and this number jumps to over 90% reporting feeling anxious about making and attending appointments. Anywhere from 40-60% of trans men and mascs WORLDWIDE report intentionally poor care from medical professionals, including and especially at a gynecologist.

PCOS has already dramatically affected men, even before it was discovered to affect those assigned male at birth. While I understand the bitter response, as medical misogyny affects both cis and trans women alike, the choice to leave off the three little letters which would clarify the point also serves to silence and erase the way trans men and mascs are and have been treated by the medical community.

(It also inherently labels all people assigned male at birth as "men", inherently misgendering and erasing trans women and fems as well. Not that I think many of these responders care about that either, being that at least a few of them were TERFs when I investigated their blogs).

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Yes, this is a very good point. I always keep thinking about how you could so wonderfully also take the stuff in regards of Digimon Tamers 1984 and use it in the context of Analog Horror. Like, Digimon Tamers 1984 would be SO FUCKING PERFECT FOR IT.

Imo Digimon really fits well into the Analogue Horror genre. So I feel like a season with that theme could work out well. I mean look at what Digimon's already got:

Unearthly creatures that can enter our reality through kids' imagination or even an adult's strong emotions. An entire world parallel to ours. The concept of the internet and digital spaces being an actual dimension that you can slip into without realising, and its inhabitants having evolved to mimic objects, concepts and lifeforms of our world. The religious influence in the naming and design of some of the Digital World's aspects.

I really wanna see a season where they make it like the Backrooms or smth. One wrong step and you misclick a link that forwards you into the Digital World. Ghost Game already tried its hands with the "horror" theme, but I kinda wanna see it a little differently. Maybe some Digimon learned to mimic human voices as much as their body system could allocate resources for it, to converse in various human languages. Maybe people are going missing because the barrier between the two worlds has been breached and is starting to malfunction. Maybe Digimon are getting spotted and labelled as Cryptids because some of them ended up here like that too. Also, a ragtag team of weirdos as the protagonist.

Maybe a computer/internet geek with a Y2K aesthetic going on (partner them up with a Keramon. Do it) and has old internet and web mysteries as special interests. A fan of cryptids and paranormal stuff who wants to catch one on camera (Ghilliedhumon evo line maybe?). Someone who's into coding and stuff, and has an idea of what AI is and how it works, including experience with non-gen AI (who'd fit as their partner? Idk. Maybe Espimon? They're all literally AI anyway). And finally some alt broody-looking guy who's trying to figure all this out because a friend or family member of theirs went missing and they're trying to find them with the other's help and their partner's too (Well, there's way too many options here, so idk this one Something that ends in Beel Starmon maybe?)

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why is being a radfem bad? why is caring about women's right so terrible? (genuinely asking)

That isn't what radical feminism refers to.

Radfeminism is the belief that all bigotry stems from misogyny, or is a lesser problem to misogyny in some way, and simultaneously the belief that misogyny only affects those with TMDP sex traits. (Misogyny does absolutely affect everyone with any number of TMDP-associated sex traits regardless of gender, but it ALSO affects feminine people regarding of sex traits- radfems reject this second part)

Ex, radfems don't believe trans women are subjected to misogyny because they do not have the same body parts as cis women. Most radfems actually end up in radical spaces to begin with specifically because the ideology feeds their pre-existing hatred of trans women. So the average radfem has a personality akin to boiled piss if you are a trans woman or otherwise a transfeminized person. They believe you to be invading and pretending to suffer from the same/similar issues that cis women face, and take your existence as a form of disrespect to them personally. It's where you get transmisogynistic insults like "womanface" (in refrence to blackface, used to imply trans women existing is misogynistic)

This is not to say radfems "like" trans men and transmascs- they outwardly often treat trans men much kinder (in comparison) but this is a manipulation tactic. Ultimately radfems do not support trans existence and want transmascs to detransition and "embrace their Female sex"‐ they believe and promote the transandrophobic notion that a trans man's transition is a misguided attempt at escaping misogyny. Radfems consistently infantilize trans men and I've personally observed them display this weird entitlement to transmasculine peoples' bodies, which they seem to hold at a value above the actual person who owns that body. Similarly to how cis men view women.

This is the gist of it, anyway. Basically, no, radical feminism is not just caring for women's rights but rather a toxic off-shoot of feminism that centers cis women about trans people, among a bunch of frankly misogynistic and bioessentialist beliefs (for example that (cis) women are always weaker than men), or that cis men abuse women because they are biologically predisposed to do so and not because patriarchy empowers them to.

I honestly wouldn't even consider most radfems to be actually feminist at all.

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Her Last Goodbye [Morrigan/Warden]

Today's story for @dragonagekissweek. Today's prompt was "Battlefield" and it was really asking for the finale of DA:O. Which obviously means: broken heart.

Her Last Goodbye

Fandom: Dragon Age Origins Shipping: Morrigan/Dalish Male Warden Genre: Hurt No Comfort + Action

Kim and his allies fight as the darkspawn flood in Denerim. Kim knows there are only two possible outcomes: either he dies, or he will lose everything.

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Nexus [Tsurugi & Agumon]

Today's story for @rewatchingdigimon is just a very short ficlet for Digimon Next.

Nexus

Fandom: Digimon Next Relationship: Tsurugi & Agumon Genre: Missing Scene

Tsurugi wonders what kind of challenges are waiting for him and Agumon.

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Food Education is Somewhat Lacking

If you grew up in the West you probably saw something like this during your life, and some part of you has this general idea still engrained that to be healthy you need a varied diet that is mainly built around fruits and veggies and then maybe some cereals and what not.

In a way the food pyramid is very noticable for me as it shows very much the influence of the USA on the rest of the world. Because we learned this thing in school. In Germany. But it was developed by the US Department of Agriculture.

The thing you will notice instantly is how much grain and milk it wants to feed you. But I think by now a lot of people have heard that grain products are often not that healthy - and in a moment we will talk about why. And with milk it should be obvious: the vast majority of humans actually are still lactose intolerant, so it is a bit sus to see it there.

Knowing this was the US where it was developed, It hink it does not need a genius to realize what happened there. Lobbying efforts by the grain and dairy lobby made sure that both products are more present here.

By now we have alternative things, though many of them still suffer from related issues.

This one by Harvard is already a lot better than the food pyramid. But in the end... While it is probably more accessible than the truth, I feel that health education in regards to food still is vey much lacking.

Here is the thing: your body absolutely does not care in what way or form you eat the things that it needs. It needs a variety of things. Proteins, minerals, vitamins, fibers and such. And calories, too. But it does not really care how it accesses this. Which is why people for thousands of years managed to live healthy with a variety of very different diets. There were cultures who due to their climate mostly lived of "all-meat" diets, just as there were vegetarian cultures, and both succeeded for many centuries, if not millennia.

Meanwhile today a lot of people struggle a whole lot more with getting their vitamins in, even though in theory we can access way more food than we ever could in history.

But the issue is that a lot of folks do not really understand what vitamins and minerals are in what kind of food. And these kind of illustrations do not help. You could easily eat a diet that fits those criteria, but still lacks important nutrients. I mean, I am autistic, and I perfectly understand how it can happen.

I know more than one autistic person consisting off a "pasta diet", that usually goes: pasta, some sort of sauce and a bit of meat. If there is enough tomato sauce involved, well, technically you have met your healthy plate. But I think it does not need a genious to understand that it is lacking a whole bunch of nutrients.

And especially among students and autistic people I know a whole bunch of diets like this. "Everyday is Taco Tuesday" is also one of those. Tacos are very varied and technically cover this healthy plate - but you will often then miss out on certain nutrients still.

Heck, I even know "health nerds" that punish themselves with "healthy foods", but do so in a way that still leaves their body lacking in a lot of nutrients. No, Clara, eating brown rice, beans and brocolli every day is not, in fact a balanced diet.

And i feel like both adults and children are being left behind in this regards, not getting educated about food what what they should and should not eat - and why.

Somehow at this point the Marxist idea of alienation comes in once more. We are very alientated from our food. This year war for me the first year to ever actually cultivate food of my own and eat it - and we generally do not do that in this day and age.

And I just would hope that we can create a future - you know, the entire Solarpunk thing - where people are not as alienated from their food and know actually what they are eating.

We really need more education on this. And more understanding.

And speaking of "deserving" stuff. I am personally struggling financially right now. If you can, please consider supporting me on Ko-Fi or Paypal.

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Sasha here. My Phone got soked. Im writing from my workphone. I still have the tablet at least but imo, that month seems really damn unlucly

Jesus, you really have bad luck right now. :(

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No, it is not alive. A thing that absolutely is incapable to persist without being kept alive by someone else's body is not alive. Which is why this is also the belief held by medicine in general. There is a reason why medicine does indeed agree that abortion is absolutely in line with the hippocratic oath. I am sorry, but you are talking with a scientist here, and I kinda feel you never even have read a single scinetific paper or talked to a single scientist FROM THE FIELD OF OBGYN OR PRENATAL MEDICINE about the topic. I have done both.

And no, you also not stabbing the child. What happens in the vast majority of abortions is that the pregnant person takes a drug that will lead the body to no longer supply and eventually eject the cells of the fetus. It just does no longer allow the fetus to use the organ of the pregnant person to life off. And because it is not alive this means it will no further develop.

The process started through those drugs that are used in the vast majority of abortions is a process that has an about 20 to 30% likelihood to happen naturally in the phase of pregnancy where most of abortions happen. The drug just makes sure that this very natural process, that has evolved probably for some protective reasons, does definitely happen.

About 90% of all abortions occur within the first trimester - at a time where natural abortions (also called miscarriages) occur at a high likelihood. The majority of them happen because the pregnant person has already children to look after an cannot take on another child, often because of financial reasons. Though I might note: as someone who believes in bodiliy autonomy it would not matter if they occured for any other reason.

Of the about 10% of abortions that happen after the 13th week of gestation, more than 60% happen for medical reasons. Meaning: we have a fetus that has some sort of condition that would likely not be conducive to life (meaning: even carried to term, the child would die at birth, or within a coupld of days/weeks, having a probably very painful short life), is already dead, or keeping the pregnancy would almost certainly endanger the life of the pregnant person.

Abortions happening in the last trimester are less than 1% of all abortions and pretty much ALWAYS happen for medical reasons, due to this being usually the time where you could just deliver the child and at least attempt to keep it alive in a neonatal unit.

Meanwhile what is actually murder and in contradiction to the hippocratic oath: creating "anti abortion bans" that look at a pregnant person coming in with severe, life-threatening conditions possibly caused by the pregnancy and going: "Well, we cannot help you, because helping you might mean the pregnancy will stop." We have seen way too many stories now of pregnant people DYING because anti-abortion bans created an environment where they were not helped. Often pregnant people who WANTED TO HAVE THAT CHILD, who had planned on carrying the pregnancy to term. And, yeah, just by the way: those fetuses obviously also then were ended, due to them not being independent living creatures, who cannot exist without living of the host body.

You cannot be pro-women and anti-abortion.

You cannot say you support women and their choices and then deny them the most fundamental right to their body, deny them the right to make their own medical choices, deny them autonomy, deny them the right to deny the use of their body by someone else.

To be anti-abortion is to be anti-women.

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Actually, something I would have loved in the Winter Palace would have been to be able to choose what we wear from like three options, with Josephine or Leliana explaining what it would mean and say about us to wear either option. Because I feel that is generally an aspect of politics not represented in media enough: how appearance was always a part of politics.

One thing I’ll always give DA is that they happily show the—at least human—nobility in brightly colored outfits. Because, yes, despite the early 2000s and 2010s depictions of most “medieval” fantasy worlds as drab and dark, humans have always loved color, and the upper classes of society could effort more rich fabrics and dyes. Even then, the peasantry would have some limited access to different man-made dyes, such as those locally produced, but the more affluent city-dwelling merchants and craftsmen could afford increasingly expensive fabrics and dyes.

Though, it does make me wish that the Inquisition appeared in the Winter Palace in the charcoal grey and red as depicted in the Inquisition art book. To me, it could be a telling sign to the other nobility that while they play their Game, the Inquisition will only indulge it to such an extent, and that they are, in a sense, serve matters above the petty squabbles of the nobility, in both Orlais and Ferelden.

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Honestly: Those two are EVERYTHING TO ME right now. Just a young trans woman and her support eldritch grandpa. I love them. I love how Heimlich is trying so much to actually help somehow. He is adorable.

As a German I obviously am at times a bit cringed due to certain pronounciations, but... I still love them.

pov: you bring your eldritch grampa to a cafe but he won't stop complaining about "kids these days"

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Let me start this with saying: this is not an attack, just offering some more information on this. Because this is actually a very interesting anthropological topic, that certain people (mostly "evolutionary psychologists") love to spread false information on.

Here is the thing: humans as a species have evolved to have sex for a variety of reasons, rather than just reproduction. That is why we are generally horny no matter in what phase of the ovulation someone is. In animals the male animals are just hot for female animals that are ovulating and the ovulating animal is also only horny when ovulating. Humans are horny basically year round. And we have the female orgasm, which is fairly fare in animals.

However, we do have a fairly good idea why we have this: Because humans apparently evolved to use sex to smooth over conflicts within our groups. We can see that in bonobos. They have conflict and often then have sex to bound. It improves group harmony and all that.

We know fairly well from bone finds: early human women (or people with ovaries), despite apparently having a lot of sex, rarely gave birth more than three or four years. Current theory goes like this: we know that hunter-gatherer cultuers nurse children way longer than modern humans do. We are talking about nursing children till age 5 or 6. And while nursing is not a perfect contraceptive, a lot of women have a way lower likelihood to get pregnant during nursing. So basically a woman during those about 20 years she could get pregnant only ever got pregnant three to four times.

This entire idea about slutshaming exists because of the patriarchy. Because the entire thing about the patriarchy - from an anthropological perspective - is to control women so that a man can be relatively certain of paternity of his children. And this meant originally just baring women from sex - but also shaming them for it.

It has to do with a woman's ability to get pregnant. But nothing really about the risk. It is just about "ensuring paternity".

It's weird how there are so many derogatory terms for promiscuous women, but it makes more evolutionary sense for men to be promiscuous.*

*this is a generalization, of course, which applies to cishet people, and to some extent cis bi people, but not everyone, but cishet people are the vast majority of everyone.

Women have way more risk from het sex than men bc they can get pregnant, so it makes sense for women to be way more careful about how they have sex with than men. Conversely, a man can cause a lot more pregnancies within 9 months than a woman can, at lower risk to himself, so it makes sense for him to be promiscuous.

Basically, why do we call women sluts? men are the real sluts. Is it bc being slutty is a man's role, so "slut" is really an insult like calling a woman masculine?

For the record, I don't think that promiscuity should be seen as bad or insulting. I just think it is weird that most of the derogatory terms for it are aimed at women, who probably do it way less. Although, it is not just weird but a sexist and misognist double-standard, obviously. But also weird.

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Something that really bugs me right now is seeing people in the context of correctly criticizing Corrective Shout (who are absolutely pro-censorship, anti-women and anti-queer) using it as a vehicle to go against Cuties/Mignonnes, bringing up that entire controversy once more. And I am so fucking annoyed.

Like, here is the thing: I personally am of the opinion that in general there should not be movies with child actors as the protagonist. Period. No matter the topic or anything. Because children deserve to be protected from fame. It does not matter if it is some child-adventure movie, some teen-drama, or a movie with a more serious matter.

But this movie was not in some way pedophile. It was a movie by a female director that centrally criticizes the adultification of young girls, both in regards of being parentified at home a lot, and being sexualized from an early age. Specificially in regards to how it affects non-white girls. The movie literally is about how harmful those things are, and the movie (which is not Netflix produced but was an indie production that Netflix bought the distribution rights for after it premiered to high acclaim on Cannes) did try during production to introduce the best practices for movies involving underage actors in such scenarios.

Again, you can absolutely criticize the fact that they made a movie about those themes using minors as main actors. In fact I will go so far and criticize EVERY MOVIE with child main actors. But stop acting as if this movie was catering to pedos. It is not. The Netflix marketing was in really bad taste, but that is not the fault of the movie or anyone who was directly involved in making the movie.

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RadFems, Anti-Choice, Censorship and the No True Scotsman Fallacy

Let's talk about the entire itch.io/Steam censorship thing again - because ironically, with me talking about the radicalization of Radfems on this blog a lot recently, this entire thing fits in there very neatly.

Because the group responsible for it - the group who pressured VISA/Mastercard to in turn pressure the online shops - is not your classical Christian Conservative group, but in fact a radical feminist group. Who so happen to also be anti-abortion, despite a lot of Radfems saying that "no true Radfem" would ever be against abortion, wonderfully showing the beauty of the No True Scotsman Fallacy.

But today, let me do a longer post and go through it one by one.

Who are Collective Shout?

The group responsible is an Australia based Radical Feminist group calling themselves "Collective Shout", founded in 2009 by radical feminist author and pro-censorship advocate Melinda Tankard Reist, who is also quite noteworthy for being very, very pro-life anti-choice.

In the 16 years since it was founded, the group mostly lobbied for a variety of censorship measures. This was directed at all sorts of media, including art films, lingerie shoots, erotic novels (specifically 50 Shades of Grey), Rap music and lately, obviously, video games.

While the current censorship eventually happened after the group asserting pressure over the undoubtedly distasteful game "No Mercy", they tried to do the same before, targeting among others GTA, for its depictions of women as eye-candy, but also Detroid: Becoming Human, for featuring a domestic assault scene (that within the context of the game is framed as negative and puts the player in the role of the victim, mind you).

While the pressuring in those other regards rarely stuck, the fact that in regards to No Mercy very few people would argue that this game is in good taste was used as a wedge to push for general censorship of games as medium, as we can see now.

Given this group is RadFem it is obviously no surprise that the other things that they managed to get shadowbanned from some of the platforms affected (keep in mind, this has also affected some non-English platforms) very much and very deliberately include LGBTQ* content.

Anti-Abortion SWERFs/TERFs make a lot of sense, actually

This brings me to one important thing I want to talk about before tackling the rest of it. Because a lot of Radfems and of course TERFs and SWERFs will tell you, that anyone who is against abortion is "not a true Radfem". But obviously this is bullshit. We have studies that show that in radfem online circles a good 25% of people support anti-choice sentiment. And it makes a hella lot of sense.

Because here is the thing: the core ideas of at least SWERFs and TERFs is very much against the bodily autonomy of people. Explicitly, in both cases. So them being against this particular bodily autonomy is perfectly in line with the general belief system built up by them.

TERFs are against the bodily autonomy of trans people. They are against our ability to get the medical interventions that we need to be happy and have the lives that we want. I frankly do not even need them to believe in me being a man - but they do have no right to forbid me from getting the medical intervention that I want and need.

SWERFs are equally against the bodily autonomy of sex workers. While yes, there is human trafficking in sex work, the vast majority of sex workers do sex work because for some reason or another it is to them the best option as of right now. They will keep insisting that as soon as money is used, nobody can consent anymore - so nobody can and should ever have bodily autonomy, actually.

So, if you are already part of an ideology that inherently is against bodily autonomy, being anti-abortion is just one more logical jump away. Some of them think that being pregnant and giving birth is actually what makes women special(tm), so obviously women should do just that. Some others meanwhile note that girls tend to get aborted at a higher rate than boys, so, they argue, being against abortion is actaully pro-women!

If you do not believe in bodily autonomy - which TERFs and SWERFs do not - arguing against abortion on the basis of "women's rights" is actually fairly easy.

So yeah, I am sorry. If you are a TERF or a SWERF but you think abortion should be a human right... tough luck. You do not get to "no true scotsman" anti-abortion people like Collective Shout out of your movement. Because technically, your basic ideology is already so anti-bodily-autonomy, that frankly, being against abortion rights and reproductive rights is a logical next step.

Those are your people. Congratulations!

RadFems and the Anti-Sex Movements

Let me make one thing clear: While feminism as a whole tended to fight for sexual liberation - given that a lot of the patriarchy was built around sexually controlling women - a good chunk of Radical Feminist theory always was based on the idea of being sex negative, puritan and anti-sex. This is not a new development.

While there are aspects of it that are at least understandable, even if I do not agree with it, others are plain ridiculous. While I - someone who personally knows people doing porn - do not agree with any radical feminist assertions on pornography, I at least can understand where some of the criticisms of porn come from. Even though the discussions happening there are about as silly as politicians, who never once in their life played a computer game outside of Solitair, who then discuss "video games leading to violence". In the same vein, I have yet to see a SWERF anti-porn discussion where anyone actually has watched porn before, let alone talked to porn-actresses before.

But then there are the other things in this regard. Several Radical Feminists - such as Dworkin - have asserted that "well, actually, all penetrative sex is rape", meaning that the only pure form of sex is lesbian, non-penetrative sex. Which... yeah. Is pretty darn dumb.

The same with the entire anti-kink thing I already wrote about. Which again very much is against bodily autonomy. If I want some dom or domme to spank me until my bootie is all bruised, than it does not matter that Mrs. Reist does think that is amoral. It is none of her business. Even if I want to be whipped until I am bleeding, that is my own business. Not hers. Well, the business of me and whoever is whipping me, naturally. But yeah, definitely does not include her.

Sexual liberation will always involve people doing stuff that you personally will be disgusted by. But as long as they do not pressure you to participate in it, and things happening are consensual, it is none of your darn business.

The itch.io Censorship

So, let's look at the itch.io censorship.

For this, please keep the following in mind: itch.io is a platform where people mostly sell games (both videogames, as well as PDFs for board and TTRPGs), and in some cases comics and novels. I absolutely do not know whether someone sold anything that involved actual pornographic material (meaning: things that involved recordings of real people doing sexual stuff), but for all I know pretty much all we are talking about is fictional depictions of any of this. So, we are not talking about actors, we are talking about written words, drawn or modelled pictures, and animations.

And let's just look at the banned topics here. These fall roughly into two areas:

Non-Consensual Stuff (non-con, rape, revenge porn, sex trafficking, underage)

Fetish Stuff (bestiality, incest, extreme fetish, in some degree also the underage stuff, as we know age-play related stuff also got shadowbanned under this)

Now, if we were talking about anything with real people involved, I could understand the non-con stuff. Because yes, obviously, revenge porn is illegal, and with the other stuff it is at times super hard to distinguish what is "real" and what is "acted". (This is the reason why the rules for fictional depictions of non-con in pornography recorded with actors are fairly strict.) But we are talking about games, comics, and stories. Quite a lot of which actually make the player take the perspective of the victim here, trying to teach how it feels to go through something like this. As noted above: they tried to get Detroit Becoming Human banned before because of a domestic abuse scene in which the player plays the victim, ultimately fighting back. I do not like the game, mind you. I do not like Cage, the stupid bloody developer. Because I do think the way he does tackle issues is well done. But guess what: I do not support censoring his games. And least of all I am going to censor the genuine attempt to create sympathy with victims of abuse and oppression - even if I think that attempt does not really work.

And yes, let's make it clear: there are authors selling some writing and solo-rpgs that go into non-con and rape and trafficking for kink reasons. Quite a lot of them having the reader once more take in the role of the victim, because guess what: rape fantasies are very, very common, including as fantasies where one fantasized to be raped - something that ironically has to do with sex negativity. But really, so what? It is fiction. Why do we get so up in arms about this, while pretty much all blockbusters we have depict massive violence and killing - yet somehow not increasing violence in the streets. Fiction is fiction. That's just it.

And that is even without going once more into the fact that people with sexual trauma do actually seem to do better when consuming certain fantasies, probably because it gives them a feeling of control over their trauma.

And the fetish stuff... Again, we are talking about written stuff, about animated stuff and art. And we also already know that from the "animal adjacent" stuff mostly banned Furry stuff. Like, I am sorry, but Furry stuff is a community and a fetish. It has not even much to do with real beastiality. Just let the furries have their darn furry porn. You do not need to be into it, but there is literally no harm coming to anyone from people consuming furry porn. And yes, the same is true for people consuming incest porn or porn depicting other fetishes - including scat.

Do I find scat fairly disgusting? Yeah. But guess what, I just will not consume it. Hooray. I am free! Tada! No need for me to get involved in what other people do.

And mind you, this is without even going into the other big issue, that the entire DBH thing already hints at: You can absolutely have all those themes in your game or whatever piece of media as a way to have a serious conversation about it. Because you want to educate on human trafficking, or on how common rape is. Because you just want to have a serious story about someone who falls victim to it. Or maybe you are creating a historical game about some royal family that did have incestuous relationships, which is just a part of this particular history. Or maybe you are making a game about Greek mythology, which at least will feature references to bestiality, because it turns out Greek mythology is full with that stuff. All of that is right now not allowed on itch.io. Do you understand that? One of the games currently Shadowbanned is "Fear & Hunger", a game that is absolutely not fetishistic in any way, but seriously discusses several of the topics above.

And I will once more remind you: Censoring the education of those topics makes it harder for actual victims - especially children - to reach out for help, because they will not have the language to do so. Which is why people like Trump and Co. support this kind of legislation. They want to rape little girls, who have no understanding of what rape is and hence will not complain about it.

The Food Parallel

Let me end this with one reminder: It is none of your business. Even if you do not like something, as long as everyone involved consents to it, it is none of your business.

Think of porn and sex as food. The image above? Those are brussel sprouts. I think they are the most vile food ever cultivated by humans. Thinking of them makes me feel sick to the stomach. I hate them. I fucking hate those stupid things. They are vile and disgusting.

However, I will stand up for your right to be able to eat them, if you for some reason find that taste appealing. I would ask you to do not eat them in front of me, because the scent of it alone makes me wanna puke. But if you eat them alone at your home, that is your thing. I do not need to participate in brussel sprout eating.

And here is the thing: it is basically the same with pretty much everything else.

Radfems will say: "Yeah, well, but a lot of poor, poor girls and women will be pressured to do sexual stuff they do not want to do and it will harm them!!!"

Well, great. Fun fact: I was forced to eat brussel sprouts as a child by my mother, despite being miserable. And it gave me an eating disorder.

I am still not of the opinion that brussel sprouts should be outlawed, rather it should be outlawed to force people to eat something they do not want to eat. Also because I understand that while I might not want to eat brussel sprouts, someone else might love brussel sprouts but hate carrots, which are my favorite vegetable. And that person might develop an eating disorder from being forced to eat carrots repeatedly.

See how that works?

And yeah, censorship almost always is bad.

Even if it is a game being censored that I agree is pretty darn bad. Because in the end it will end up harming mostly marginalized people.

Banning actual real porn mainly hurts people working for the ethical porn studios - because those are more likely to comply with those rules than the studios already built on exploitation and trafficking, the later of which is already illegal. Go figure.

And in regards to stuff that is written, drawn, and animated... Yeah, great. It is not real. If someone wants to get off on that... great for them. No problem for you. You just can ignore it.

The main group hurt by the censorship is marginalized people. Disabled people, and queer people most of all. Many of them being non-white, too. People who often have little other ways of earning money due to their specific circumstances.

So if you support censorship. Sincerely: Fuck you. And also, yes, no matter how much you personally might be for the right of abortion, there is a good reason that you are fighting side by side with the people who want to ban abortion, sexed, and the right of women to do anything. Because you are way more closely aligned ideologically with them, than with anyone else. Because you seek to control other people on stuff that harms noone. So yeah, fuck you.

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My BG3 headcanon: Astarion truly cares about his Tav | Durge, doesn't matter if they are friends or lovers, so when his dearest had a date night, he secretly followed, just in case.

Bonus below:

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Some leftists are so interesting to me because what do you mean you hate terfs, but muslims are totally welcome? The same religion that has being gay haram? The people that are at times violently homophobic to their own people in the name of the Quran? People will come on this app and/or twitter shouting "No terfs on our turf" and then post about "Islamophobia is bad". How is it acceptable to not only be transphobic but homophobic and misogynistic at the same time in the name of religion, but being trans exclusionary feminist is where they draw the line? I never see trans rights activists protesting about "punch your local muslim" or "the only good muslim is a dead muslim", but somehow with radical feminists it's okay? The only possible conclusion is misogyny. I seriously am baffled by hashtag they.

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You literally argue that "it moves so it is alives" and then goes "but because that believe was held in the past does not make it true". That is a bit of a contradiction, isn't it?

And no, it is just not alive in any way. The pregnant person is though. And you have absolutely no right to decide with how they use their living body, and forcing them to undergo a potentially deadly, painful, at times disabiling medical process. For a bunch of cells that have already a likelihood of about 20-30% to never end up becoming a baby (because that is about the likelihood at the time where we usually talk about abortions).

I will note once: Usually the same people who are against bodily autonomy for pregnant people, usually will whine about bodily autonomy when someone talks about organ donations, or even just stuff like people being required to donate blood or bone marrow while alive. And the person who might die due to the lack of donated stuff are undoubtedly alive.

You cannot be pro-women and anti-abortion.

You cannot say you support women and their choices and then deny them the most fundamental right to their body, deny them the right to make their own medical choices, deny them autonomy, deny them the right to deny the use of their body by someone else.

To be anti-abortion is to be anti-women.

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I should write some more about this polycule, shouldn't I?