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I apologize for the very long absence. I have been dealing with health issues.

I appreciate all of you who find this blog useful. I sincerely apologize to people who have been waiting a long time for their questions to be answered or messages responded to.

Right now this blog is still taking questions, messages, etc. however with that said I would consider this blog semi-active. I periodically check in.

I want you to know that you are all incredibly strong and to remind you to take a step back and look at how far you've come on your journey. No matter what stage of transitioning you are in, you have worked hard to get where you are. I'm glad you're here today 💙 🩷

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I’m in Florida and I need to start t and transition as soon as I can I’ve been waiting for so long now I’m finally in a position where I can be able to long story but I heard because it’s a controlled substance you get put on a list for getting prescribed it and that list states why like a dysphoria diagnosis and in florida that list can be handed over to the police without a warrant or subpoena and I don’t want to be at risk like that with the police knowing and all that but I don’t know how likely that is to happen or if it did what would they do/be able to do so you or your followers or anyone know anything about that situation? And do you think anything would happen?

I am not from the USA, so I am not so familiar with how each state works, and also how the government is actually handling this. I understand your fear and it's valid. Since I do not feel comfortable, I am going to post this and hope someone can help you.

I will also ask around the community and see if anyone can help you with this.

If anyone can help anon, please help!

You can either send me an ask I will post for them, comment, or even reblog this post. Please let's work together to help Anon.

You are incredible, stay strong.

-Zestual

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Hi there, I have some questions about phalloplasty not necessarily about the procédure but how you feel about it. In my mind I think a phalloplasty is just for gender affirmation and I wouldnt feel "normal" about it since its not like a normal cis guys dick. How do you feel about it and do you ever feel dysphoric about it. (having to use a pump to get erect, no biological children, ect)

Hello,

I feel very comfortable with my phallus (penis) to be honest. I confidently can walk around naked, I've been told by my urologist that my phallus was incredible. I even have veins and a head.

I don't mind the pump to be honest, it's become part of the foreplay between my partner and myself. I will admit first I was a bit, not dysphoric, more not confident in myself.

Children, personally I struggled with this the longest and just recently in the last few years came to terms with it. I have some hereditary illnesses that I don't want to pass down. That has been a major reason for how I've coped with this I will be honest. I am okay with it, I plan on actually starting a family in the next few years. But it was a source of heartache for a while I will admit. As a note I knew I was "in the wrong body" as a very small child. For many years I put my hopes into modern medicine to help have a biological child as many medicine doesn't have a working solution yet. (Just an FYI - if you are interested in biological children consider freezing some eggs prior to your oophorectomy -removing the ovaries-.)

I feel comfortable using the men's room in the context of using the facilities. I have used a trough (this in general is just an awful thing), urinals, I have gone outside.

I think people have not seen enough phalloplasty examples for a proper image in their heads. About what you said about it feeling "normal" in your opinion, I want to ask you a question. What about men that are sterile and impotent? He also needs help with erections (the pump is actually more popular than people think), and they are not able to have children. Is there any difference between that example and having phalloplasty? In your head, is that penis still "normal"? (Fertility rates are actually going down and are rather low on cis men) You are of course entitled to your opinion about it. But I'd like you to maybe give that question a thought, what still differs in your mind? Does it differ anymore? (You don't need to reply with the answer(s), just something to contemplate) People only see impotence as something cis men get after a certain age, but any cis male of any age can be or become impotent. When it comes to the pump, it was actually invented for cis men with erectile dysfunction.

In an adult context I feel confident and comfortable with my penis. I have complete "tactile function" in my penis, therefore i feel everything. I will admit it took a while to get my full sensation, as nerves take a long time to heal.

All in all, I am happy and comfortable with my penis, from the look of it, sensation, and overall function.

TLTR: I am super comfortable with my penis, and have no problems with looks to functionality. I came to terms with not having biological children.

Thank you for your question, I apologize it took me so long to answer it.

- Zestual

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Hey! I was wondering who your surgeon was? Your experience with phallo sounds so amazing.

Hello!

My surgeons name are Dr. Belanger and Brassard at GRS Montreal.

I have had a great experience with my phallo, I was lucky enough to have minimal and minor complications after each surgery.

It's a long road, and it's painful, but when you're done you feel more whole.

The first time they checked the blood flow, you could hear it like a baby's heartbeat during an ultrasound, and it's the most amazing feeling that washed over me. I felt my body/outside was complete.

Thank you for your question, I apologize for rambling.

Anything else feel free to reach out.

Stay Golden Anon,

-Zestual

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Welcome to anyone who has joined so far! Please welcome our admin @bagelsandlocks

I look forward to having some of you networking on here, maybe even make some friends!!!Please pay attention and abide by the rules, we want this to be a safe space for masculine presenting people where there is no shame in wanting to be a man or masculine. Let's be respectful, and safe.

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Let's try to stay safe, stay strong, and be proud.

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If the invite does not work to TransMasc Safe Space, let me know please

Happy holidays to all by the way! To any and all winter solstice holidays!

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I did the thing!

There is now a community that will remain safe place for Transmasculine men, where my goal is hopefully to allow you to network safely and respectfully.

This is a transmasculine only space, or those who [want to] present male and hopefully some advocates as well.

Please feel free message me or @bagelsandlocks to be sent an invite.

Doing this as a way to keep it more secure.

Thank you.

Thank you, hope to see you all on there soon!

Also I did figure out a link to join without asking. Please remember to adhere to the rules.

Join TransMasc Safe Space

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I did the thing!

There is now a community that will remain safe place for Transmasculine men, where my goal is hopefully to allow you to network safely and respectfully.

This is a transmasculine only space, or those who [want to] present male and hopefully some advocates as well.

Please feel free message me or @bagelsandlocks to be sent an invite.

Doing this as a way to keep it more secure.

Thank you.

Thank you, hope to see you all on there soon!

Also I did figure out a link to join without asking. Please remember to adhere to the rules.

Join TransMasc Safe Space

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Hi! Thank you for being a great resource and advocate.

Question: How did you bring up bottom surgery to your doctor? How did they respond, and do you have any tips for people who might be anxious about bringing it up?

I have been wanting to bring it up to a doctor, but I've been too afraid. I'm worried they'll say no, or act like I shouldn't want it for whatever reason (ex. the unfortunately common misperception that transmascs don't get/need bottom surgery). I don't know anyone else irl getting phalloplasty, and I still struggle with feeling ashamed about how bad I want/need it.

Thank you, and no pressure to answer this if you don't feel up to it, for any reason.

Hello and thank you :),

When talking to your doctor bring it up less as a question. Say "I have been researching this and looking into studies and I have been doing the work and I am serious, this is something I have been thinking about for awhile and need to be happy with myself in my skin". Ask them what steps they can help you with to get you going in the right path. This helps the doctor feel you are a lot more serious, they know at this point you need it, it's less a conversation of persuasion and more of a conversation of information.

I was very straight forward with my doctor, I came at him like an information tornado, and also I remember trying to explain my disconnect between my brain and body. I actually had to teach my family doctor about it. (With that don't be surprised if your family doctor does not know much, they are general practitioners, so they may know it in a very general term).

Pro Tip: email a clinic about generic information on the procedures and bring that information with you, it's proof you have put thought into it, and that you are serious about pursuing your transformation.

This is big and brave and I am proud of you. Just take some deep breaths, maybe try to talk to a trusted person and work out the kinks in your speech prior to the appointment.

It's better to be fully prepared, sound confident, and show you have knowledge about things like how you know it will be painful, mentally taxing, and it's a huge procedure. Be realistic with your expectations.

So it's less of your asking them if you can have the procedures, and more "I need them, to be okay in my skin".

Thank you for your ask, and the appreciation 😊.

You got this! I have faith in you.

Love,

-Zestual 💙 🩷

P.s if you have any more questions or concerns please feel free to contact me (or if my wording is confusing). I do not mind answering questions one bit.

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Please do not come onto this blog to be negative because this blog supports transsexual ftms, wanting to be masculine or considered the men they are.

Leave your hate at the door, this is a safe space and I will continue to keep it that way.

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Be kind. Asks that are mean, cruel, hurtful, hateful, transphobic, homophobic, or anything hurtful about any other ideification of Trans or LGBTQAI+ (this includes any hate on transmascs/femmes/anything inbetween) are automatic block and report. I will not put up with anti transitioning propaganda. I will call it out. Depending on how rude you are, I will block you without warning.

If you have something to add to my post, make sure you post at least three legitimate sources with your fact or correction. Without doing so, I will ask you to remove your comment. If not, you will be blocked from access to this blog.

I do have autism, so if I do not understand your context, it is okay to tell me. I would prefer an ask.

Trans people can themselves be transphobic - there is no argument here, so if you pull that card, I'd put it back in the deck before you use it on me, this blog, or the followers... This is a blockable offense without any warning!

I have a busy life, so posting may not be daily or constant. I try to answer as quickly as possible.

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Just general guidelines:

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I'm proud of you, I'm glad you are here today and you should be too. ❤️ 💙 💜

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Okay, so there was a question brought up about my hormone post about how 1. I did not post all my sources since i don't keep all links written down and my notepad only saves two things 2. The difference between gels and creams and why then didn't I differentiate the two?

Let's talk about why, T-gel is being prescribed less and less because the actual Cream is more stable, and more reliable for dosing. The gel and the cream work the same way they are both transdermal methods of introducing testosterone into your blood stream.

Since this is also a conversation to have with your doctor, they are similar in almost every way but viscosity and cream is more stable dosing.

This is to clear up any misconceptions about my last post, I also added this information on there.

I think we need to discuss reading blog rules again.

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Please spread this blog.

Blog is oriented towards transmasculine and people who want to present male and feel unsafe or unwelcome in other places.

I have been thinking about making a transman community, to maybe meet some others and make some connections.

We need some more information out there,

@answersfromzestual

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I just want to let you know that tumblr can be hard on people (ex. Me), and sometimes I want to escape.

This blog will not be erased until there are other positive and unbiased resources, end of story.

As I've said the recent uptick in detransition propaganda is out of control and a lot of the community is leaving actual transsexual people to drown or causing a schism or fracture in the bonds between the LGBTQAI+.

I see prominent blogs posting propaganda that can lead to inside turmoil on people who want to transition to male.

Being masculine is perfectly fine, and you can also be feminine and be masculine too. Your need to be who you are is more important than anyone else or their opinions about you.

I see many of you are exposed to so much negativity about being masculine, like you are misogynistic just for needing your brain and body to match.

Others don't want to match, that is their issue not yours.

Men are not automatically misogynistic. Even though I see that is not the common message though. Being hetero-normative or being gay/bi and wanting to be masculine is fine, there is nothing wrong with that. Masculinity can come in different forms too, just because you are transitioning, doesn't mean you need to put yourself in the 'trans box' exclusively. You don't need to have a label if you aren't ready to have one.

Please don't let the world tell you who you are inside is wrong. Don't let non educated opinions expressed by even popular blogs tear you down either.

Whether you want to be a bush man, or a feminine man, you can still be a man.

I know there are other designations, but I want to remind everyone that I have been living as a man for over twenty years, including time when I didn't exactly pass. Just because you don't pass now doesn't mean you won't sooner or later. It can take time, but hopefully you can find some tips and tricks here to make yourself feel and look more masculine.

Please don't let anyone talk you out of who you are.

Love,

Papa Zestual

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I am truly upset and disappointed in the community and lack of support of transmen and transsexuals. Of course I do welcome all types of men.

Men can be feminine, they can me masculine. But you can still be a man, do not let the outside world convince you your feelings are not valid, or wrong.

If others are free to do as they please, you can do as you please as well. The only person you need to care about is yourself first and foremost.

Take care, please stay strong.

-Zestual

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This site will remain,

This was not a decision I took lightly at all, I did some heavy listing of pros and cons and the stress. But with the amount of anti-transition propaganda, I decided my community was more important than myself.

Due to lack of outside resources for people transitioning and lack of support for transsexuals and transmasculine people.

I thought there were other reliable blogs for information, sadly I was wrong.

I am a very strong advocate for the transsexual and trans masculine community, and people wanting to identify as male. Of course anyone supportive is welcome.

Recently I have seen an uptake in posts spreading fear mongering, spreading detransition/transition propaganda. I did not think again, that with all the talk of inclusivity I would still need to continue this blog.

This blog may not be as active, but you are welcome to ask questions still and ask for information you want or need to make a correct and informed decision on which direction your transition will go.

I refuse to allow my people continuing to be pushed around and pushed towards not transitioning if that is your goal.

Anyone who spreads fear, or tells you any form of detransition propaganda, block them, they are not your ally.

We need to be strong as a community and if we need to break off, we will try to make that happen.

Thank you for your time

Zestual.