#ftm questions and answers

[answersfromzestual]

I was wondering about phalloplasty (with vaginectomy and scrotoplasty) but without UL. Does this cause urinary issues or an increase in UTI's? I am not sure if there is much information out there.

I ask because as much as I would like to get UL, I have had some issues with kidney stones and catheters in the past. I'm wondering for my overall well-being if it makes more sense for me to forego UL.

Any insight or research/info/articles would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you!

I was in the same boat as you were at one time. Now I actually have less UTIs and I have not had kindney stone issues since my Urethra lengthening procedure.

The sources you'd want are the two at the very bottom of the page

I have a birth defect which makes my kidneys not work properly, it's a rare disorder, I have been in the hospital for them more times than I'd like to...

I have been making sure I drink at least two cups of water a day.

I had to have my catheter removed shortly after two weeks (they wanted six), but two weeks is the minimum for healing period, and typically clinics now have you only keep them in for three weeks.

Having my catheter removed early was because 1. I tugged on the catheter and it became dislodged from its position, I started to urinate through my penis and around the catheter. This is not good, this is go to the ER right now. Most of the time the doctors there can make you comfortable with the catheter still in, they can usually flush and they can reposition. This can make things comfortable. I had a urine bag break and I did not have a replacement on me towards the end of a week and a half after coming home, this led to me having a bladder infection which was why I personally insisted they remove the catheter. They will call your surgeon and get details to make sure you are okay, or they are okay to remove your catheter. Lastly they did not give me any antibiotics for the trip home (clinic made an error).

I have less issues with my urinary tract than I did before my UL procedure.

feel free to check out the links at the bottom if you've already read my article on the urethra lengthening Procedure.

A great resource is GRS Montreal (link is at the bottom of the article I sent you). They are very transparent and informative about these procedures.

Thank you for the question. I hope I gave you what you needed, but feel free to ask more if I didn't give you what you needed.

Stay Golden ✌️ 💙 💜

-Zestual

[lycandrophile]

it's silly but the biggest reason why im not into t yet is bc im so afraid of losing my hair. do you have any solutions/tips for it?

first of all, i don’t think it’s silly — it’s natural to be worried when hair loss is talked about by so many people as like…one of the worst results of aging for men. listening to my dad talk about how much he hates balding definitely did not make me feel particularly good about the knowledge that i may very well be joining him someday. i’m not saying the fear is right, because i don’t think hair loss is something awful that we should avoid at all costs, but it’s an understandable fear given the beauty standards we’re working with, and it’s one that a lot of us (myself included) feel.

one thing that’s helped me is just…paying more attention to the guys that i interact with on a daily basis. i’ve learned two things from it: 1) hair loss is super fucking common. i’d say it’s much harder to find an adult man who isn’t balding at all than it is to find one who’s completely bald. and 2) if you forget everything you’ve been told about how bad hair loss is, you’ll realize that quite frankly, every single one of those guys looks totally fucking fine. it doesn’t ruin their appearance and make them ugly, it looks totally natural and isn’t really even something you’d notice if you weren’t looking for it. we put so much weight on it but it’s really just not that big of a deal. i’ll hear my parents talk shit about men in my family who are losing their hair when i didn’t even notice a difference last time i saw them. it’s one of those things (like so many other appearance-related things) that you really only notice at all because you’ve been taught that you’re supposed to care about it.

this isn’t something i’ve done personally, but if you really want to desensitize yourself to the idea of it, embrace the time-honored queer tradition of just shaving your whole damn head! find out what you’d look like without hair, find out how you feel about it and what you can do that makes you feel good about your appearance without hair, test the waters while it’s still a temporary change and not something permanent. that way, it won’t feel like this big scary unknown, and you’ll actually have a frame of reference for your feelings about how you look without hair rather than accepting the societal assumption that you’ll inevitably hate it. if you don’t want to actually shave your head, you could also just fuck around with bald filters or photoshop and see what happens.

oh, and if you’re attracted to men, keep an eye out for guys who are bald or balding and also hot as fuck. in my experience, there’s no insecurity or potential future insecurity that being gay for other men hasn’t helped me with. just off the top of my head, i can think of a couple actors who i think are absolutely fucking gorgeous who have helped me get over my fears about losing my hair. despite what our anti-aging-obsessed world might want you to think, there is no such thing as a physical feature that automatically makes someone less attractive, and while making attractiveness less of a priority in your life is good, it can’t hurt to also give yourself some proof that actually, you might lose your hair and look hot as hell doing it.

basically, entertain the possibility that it won’t be a bad thing at all! whether that’s just because it turns out to be a neutral thing for you or because you end up actually liking it, it’s not an inherently bad thing. i’ve ended up liking a lot of things that were “supposed to” be bad effects of t — i love the weight i’ve gained and the new shape it gives my body, i get a lot of gender euphoria from the fact that my acne is now on parts of my face that i saw a lot of guys in high school get it and i’m not complaining about the scars i get from it either because i’ve always liked the added texture that acne scars give my skin, and so on. i think there’s a lot of joy to be had in the changes we’re taught to fear, once we look past that conditioning and actually explore how we feel about it.

but if it’s something you really don’t want and you just want to improve your chances of not having to deal with it, it’s not like there’s nothing you can do! products like finasteride (oral) and minoxidil (usually topical but i think there might also be oral versions) are pretty commonly used among trans guys, for the purpose of avoiding hair loss and for other reasons, and there are plenty of other anti-hair loss products out there (though i don’t know how effective any one of them might be). if it’s a big enough deal for you, you can just decide that you’ll go off of t if/when you start noticing signs of it, since no longer having higher t levels would stop the process in its tracks. and if you don’t find prevention options that work for you so it ends up happening, you can always explore different hair styles (judging by the pattern of hair loss i see in my family, i suspect that keeping my hair long would make it less obvious if i started losing mine), find your preferred method of covering it when you don’t feel good about it (personally i love a good beanie generally and would probably wear them a lot more if i didn’t have hair to worry about because my main complaint is the way they press my hair onto my neck), or just shave it all off if you don’t like the look of the partial balding but don’t mind a shaved head. the point being — you have options!

at the end of the day, whether you go on t or not, you’re going to see your body change as you age in ways that aren’t always going to be attractive to others or aesthetically pleasing to you. that’s just the reality of having a body. even if you never went on t, you’d get older and you might see your hair thin out even if you don’t bald, you’ll see your skin start to wrinkle and sag in places that used to be smooth, your metabolism might slow or your body fat might start to gather in new places; hell, you might lose your hair for a totally different reason and end up in the same place but without the benefits of having been on t that whole time. life is full of bodily changes like that. transphobes will fearmonger about the permanent changes of testosterone all day long but the truth is, there is no escaping permanent bodily changes. whether or not you go on t, your body now isn’t the same as it will be in 1 or 5 or 10 or 20 or 50 years, just like it isn’t the same as it was at any point in your life before now. our bodies are never supposed to stop growing and aging and changing throughout our lives. there’s no guaranteeing that we’ll love every single change our bodies go through, but that’s okay! there are so many things in life that are more important than the way our bodies look. even if you go on t and lose your hair and don’t like how it looks, your life won’t be ruined; plenty of other things will bring you joy and more than make up for the insecurities.

just think about the gender euphoria and relief from dysphoria that t could give you. would losing your hair be bad enough to outweigh all of that? or is it just the pressure of a society that decided balding is bad that’s making you fear one single change despite how much joy you could have if you let that fear go? only you can decide if going on t is worth the potential downsides for you, but i suspect that for most of us, the benefits of going on t far outweigh the possibility of side effects like hair loss happening down the line.

[genderqueerdykes]

is it bad to be scared to start hrt?

i feel a little ashamed that i am. i try my hardest to be positive about all the things that make men & mascs masculine. i try to appreciate the parts that arent valued by society, like male pattern baldness, being fat, hairiness (love that part especially lol), etc.

but im 15, and i go back and fourth over whether or not i want to start testosterone. i had terrible cystic acne before i started acne medication, i have male pattern baldness on my dads side etc. im not a binary trans guy, so i kinda doubt ill be on it forever anyway if i DO wind up doing it, but its really scary to be told all the stuff that WILL make me a man when im… just a boy. that feels infantalizing but i suppose its true. im scared to be a man admittedly, im angry i never got to have a “true” boyhood because in currently at that age, and im scared of being thrust into it after not getting to be one. theres so much stuff about becoming “ugly” after starting testosterone. i know thats not true, logically, but ive faced so much bullying for not being pretty enough as an afab that i guess i still have that vanity embedded within me.

i feel ashamed for it, do you have any advice?

no, absolutely not- i think it's super reasonable to be scared to start HRT. it's a huge change, it affects your body and mentality in many different ways. it's a lot to take on at once especially considering there are permanent effects if taken for long enough at a high enough dose

i get why you'd be worried at that age. i didn't start HRT until i was in my early 20s. i think its okay to give yourself some time, especially considering you have some concerns about it potentially affecting your health. it would be ideal to find a way to get your blood tested for a few things- liver enzymes, red blood cell count, estrogen and testosterone levels, and so on. if you can't do that, it's understandable. i know it's not easy for someone your age to get a ride to a place like that discretely

is it possible to contact your dermatologist about your acne and see if they would be able to weigh in on that? baldness is a tricky thing. some people do bald but really late in life. some people don't. a lot of transmascs have their hairline recede by a few inches and then it usually stops. the nice thing about hair loss is there are medications that work very well that can help mitigate that. gender affirming care specialists or other doctors who prescribe testosterone are usually aware of the effects on scalp hair, and usually they'll help you test for high blood pressure, any issues like that

honestly i get where you're coming from here. i've seen this way too many times. people get pissed off about someone being a type of trans they don't like so they just bully the person until they consider detransitioning or never start transition at all, and then continue to mock and harass them anyway. i see this all the damn time and it bugs me like why would you do that to someone. who cares

people think it's ok to bully trans men & mascs right now because of all of the transandrophobia and antimasculism in general. testosterone doesn't make anyone "ugly", people are projecting their hatred of men and mascs on to a hormone that almost everyone produces naturally. it's just hateful senseless bullying. people think the younger the trans man/boy/masc is, the more valid they are to bully them.

it's okay to identify as a boy for as long as you need. you actually never have any obligation to adopt the label man if it doesn't fit you. many people identify as boys instead of men. some people are guys and not men. it's okay some people find they have to take their time to transition from boy to man. you're only 15 you are still a child, you don't have to worry about being a man for quite a while

it's definitely okay to feel conflicted and confused here. if you're able to, take time to yourself where you shut all that noise from other people out. if you're able to just ask yourself a few questions like why do i identify as a boy, what about it makes me happy, what kinds of things do i want to do in transition. just try to get a feel for what's going on so it makes it hard for people to get in your head

remember that when people attack you like this they're projecting something they deeply hate about themselves on to you. my therapist told me that last week and i thought i would just relay that. it's alright to be affected by it, but they really are just being assholes. it's good to be a trans man/boy/masc. transmasculinity is good. testosterone is good. testosterone saved my life. i'm glad to get up in the morning every day because i at least look and sound like myself. i love my body. i love the way i look. i'm stronger. i stand taller. my face is the right shape. my voice sounds right.

life is good

i hope you found any of this helpful. good luck, it's okay to feel guilt or shame for a bit. i did NOT want to come out as FtM for a VERY long time it was hard. i get it. take care of yourself, let me know if you have any more questions

[a-timely-problem]

I know that for a lot of people, I am the first trans person they meet. But may I say- I am tired of being used as a human Wikipedia. I'll answer some of your questions but for fucks sake, learn how to use Google! No, I won't tell you if I'll just "grow a dick on t". Figure that shit out yourself

[aghostahhh]

How does one genuinely form a poly relationship?

[male-fiona-apple]

Send me horny asks <3

[radrabitz]

Oml smol

if you call me that again im stealing something from your house!! ^_^

[mothsaresc4ry]

Do you know any fics with trans male enid??

I sadly don't know any ftm Nid fanfics. I only know mtf ones xD sorry ♡ I have searched for it but haven't found any :(

[ftmforestfae]

Do you have a bush?

I do I usually keep mine trimmed I'll fully shave it maybe once a year it just depends.

[answersfromzestual]

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[rednosedpup]

Don’t have much to say but you have really nice thighs and a hot piece of ass, also i want to grit with you but from behind so i can slide my cock between your thighs too. -❤️❤️❤️

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[bitchypuppy1986]

2, 11, 13, 47, 78

2 - first time masturbating: I don’t know I think it was an accident? I watched something hot but I don’t remember what it was and my body reacted pretty well.

11 - top three places to be touched: in no particular order; tits, ass, hair.

13 - do you like the idea of a three or moresome: maybe? It’s not at the top of my list but if I really trusted those involved then maybe.

47 - do you masturbate with penetration: sometimes. I only have my fingers and I have a few medical issues which make it difficult so I’ve never reached orgasm from it.

78 - do you have any friends you’d sleep with: yes next question

[pally-plate]

I am genderqueer but I am not non-binary.

I am a binary gender. That binary gender is male, and happens to also be genderqueer. Even if that “technically counts as being non-binary,” it doesn’t to me.

I am two genders at the same time, but I am not bi-gender.

I have two gender identities. They coexist at the same time and never change. I am always male and always genderqueer. However, I am not bi-gender. You might be scratching your head and wondering how that’s even possible. How can someone who’s two genders at once which never change not be bi-gender?

Because I’m not. The label just doesn’t fit me. I do not identity with the label bi-gender. I am not bi-gender, I am genderqueer. A genderqueer guy.

Although my gender fluctuates in intensity, I am not gender-flux.

My gender tends to be silly goofy and likes to fluctuate in how ‘intense’ it is. One day, I could be feeling 100% super manly man, boyly boy, and want only to be addressed using he/him/his, no matter what I look or dress like that day. Other days, I could feel a little more ‘disconnected’ from my manhood, and although I still love he/him pronouns, I might throw it/its into the mix too. (But never they/them.) You’re probably thinking that that sounds like the textbook definition of gender-flux. And it more or less is. But it’s not me. Even I don’t know why; I just don’t vibe with the label.

There are certain labels that, although they may “technically” describe someone, won’t fit them. In my opinion, gender should not be defined as what label “technically” fits. It should be defined as how the individual themself feels about it.

A binary trans person might identify as a label such non-binary, for instance, not because their gender itself is not binary, but maybe because they still like dressing in clothes traditionally associated with their birth sex, or because they don’t like being referred to as a woman or man and would rather just be called a person! Or even if they just like they way the label vibes with them and would rather use that instead or “trans man,” or “trans woman.”

Their gender could still be binary, but they are 100% allowed to refer to themselves as non-binary, for whatever reason they want.

If you want to use labels to describe your gender expression rather than identity itself, then that’s alright! You’re allowed, I promise. And if anyone tries to police your identity for no absolutely reason, just remember: it’s YOUR gender, it’s YOUR identity, and it’s NOT hurting anyone!

[uncleghostt]

happy 1 year of being even hotter and sexier <3333333 (the change was the mullet not top surgery in case u were wondering :/)

[apricotbuncakes]

I saw your GoFundMe. How is the progress on that going? Just curious

Ahh thank you for asking!!

The GoFundMe for my top surgery is currently at $340/$6,000!!

Due to some personal circumstances, a seasonal job I had lined up didn't work out (no one's fault really! We tried to make it work and my employers were lovely people!!). But that does mean I'm not able to save as much as I wanted to this summer. We roll with the punches though! I'm going to try and work longer days than I'm really comfortable with in the hopes of having some extra saved, but I do truly need external help to make this possible.

If you can, please donate here: Gofundme https://gofund.me/d5b11252

My hope is to have the money raised before the end of next year.

[ch1ckenrat]

so my school’s media team got invited to be in the live Dr. Phil audience and I cannot overstate the shock and pure fear that coursed through me whenever Dr. Phil announced that the second recording topic would be “If minors should be able to transition.”

I AM A MINOR THAT WANTS TO TRANSITION.