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[bigfatdenial]

I have the absolute worst food addiction. I know I have a food addiction. I hate myself for it and while others swear they don't, I know they hate me for it too. I'm so tired of driving down the highway and stuffing my face with fried chicken while I cry because I hate myself and scream at myself to stop eating. I'm at an okay weight now but I know I won't be an okay weight forever if I keep this up. I'm fucking disgusting and I don't want to be. It's my own fault, no one is forcing me to do this, it's me. I've tried so many things and my impulsiveness hasn't helped at all. Do you have even the smallest amount of advice to overcome even the most difficult food addiction? I'm so desperate. I don't want to be a slave to food anymore, I want to be me. I miss being me.

I'm not a doctor or a licensed therapist, so I don't want to give you any advice other than to take this seriously. Addiction is hard, and I have lost people to it. Food addiction is very real, and you need the kind of support you won't be able to find on Tumblr.

Please visit https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/ or consult with your doctor about potential treatment options.

You got this.

[bigfatdenial]

The TRUTH behind the 95% of diets fail LIE | Exposing Cherry-picked Science

Great video (as always) from Sam at Every Size.

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Hey Tumblr fatties, you're in a cult.

Here's how the Fat Acceptance/Fat Liberation operates, similar to a cult:

Ideological rigidity: The movement can exhibit black-and-white thinking, where questioning any aspect of the ideology is met with hostility. Nuanced discussions about health risks or personal weight loss goals may be shut down completely.

Purity testing and policing: Members may face scrutiny over their adherence to movement principles. Someone who loses weight, discusses dieting, or expresses body dissatisfaction might be accused of betraying the cause or having "internalized fatphobia."

Information control: There can be pressure to reject mainstream medical advice about obesity-related health risks, with dissenting scientific evidence dismissed as "fatphobic pseudoscience." Alternative explanations that minimize health risks are promoted in place of them.

Us-vs-them mentality: The movement often frames society in terms of oppressor/oppressed dynamics, with anyone not fully aligned with fat liberation viewed as part of the problem.

Shaming and ostracism: People who deviate from accepted beliefs may face public callouts, harassment, or social exclusion from the community.

Emotional manipulation: Appeals to trauma, victimhood, and moral superiority can be used to shut down criticism or maintain group cohesion.

YOU'RE IN A CULT.

https://www.peopleleavecults.com/post/how-to-leave-a-cult

[bigfatdenial]

Losing weight would help with all of these.

Doctor's Appointment

[bigfatdenial]

i've seen the phrase "body positivity won't unclog your arteries" somewhere and i've been living by it

[bigfatdenial]

This is so horribly gross and sexist. Men don't "make" women. They certainly don't "slap" boobs and ass on a "stick" with a "hole" and call it a perfect woman. This is just you denigrating thin women or women you find offensive because they happen to fall into a "conventionally attractive" category. This is you being a piece of shit misogynist.

Ask yourself what is "realistic."

I'll tell you what's not real - a fucking uterus pouch. Your uterus is only like 4 inches, and it's tucked behind your pelvic bone. It doesn't sag. This is not an "actual aspect" of the female body, you fucking moron.

Men's attraction to women is so boring it's like they take a stick and slap some boobs and ass on that thing then put a hole in it and say "bam, my perfect woman" meanwhile lesbians will go into depth of all the actual aspects of the female body (uterus pouch, sagging boobs, realistic muscles and fat, body hair, REALISTIC VULVAS) and appreciate the female form for what it actually is

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Plenty of body positive women boost their platform by saying they "hate skinny bitches." Either way, it's shitty to reduce someone to attributes & pejoratives, and yet this is something that you'll easily find in "body positive" spaces.

Not so positive, eh?

A man could say he “loves fat bitches” and he would be praised for being a body positive feminist

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Oh babe, I'm doing fine. I don't have to lie to myself to "find peace," so there's that. I don't hate fat or thin bodies. I think all bodies are incredible.

What I don't like is people who feel the need to lie about how bodies get fat and post weird fat fan-fiction on tumblr. I know you're trying to "find peace" by doing this, but it's harmful to people with disordered eating or body dysmorphia.

But keep projecting with "finding peace" and "feeling joy" - I promise you'll get there once you quit lying to yourself (and others).

<3

I was recently hit with the crippling realization that I used to have an eating disorder.

It was branded as intermittent fasting, something that would help change the number on the scale. I was skipping two meals a day and starving almost constantly.

My pants got a bit looser, and the number went down by twenty pounds over the course of three months. One person noticed my weight changed -- and she was fat herself, so of course she would be more likely to notice it -- and not a single other person seemed to care that my clothes looked a little baggier on my body now.

I hit a plateau that my body refused to let me move on from. No matter how few calories I ate, how hard I exercised, or how many cups of water I drank a day, my body refused to shrink anymore. I didn't stop, thinking surely I was close to another breakthrough.

That was the most weight loss I ever experienced in my life. A measly 20 pounds. The BMI said I needed to lose 70 more to even be out of the obese category. I didn't even stop starving myself when the weight came hurling back at me a year later.

I gained back all twenty pounds. I was still starving myself. I gained twenty more pounds. I was barely eating each day. I gained even a little more, despite barely taking in any food.

My mother said I must've been cheating, eating extra food at school during lunch. I was eating 500 calories a day. I was miserable.

I told myself I was worthless, that I needed to be better. I was so close to becoming thin. Why couldn't I just lose the weight?

I kept gaining, about a pound a month. I finally told myself I needed a break, and I started trying to eat again. I had two meals a day. I didn't get thinner, but I did feel a little better.

One day, while scrolling on social media, I saw a post about something called "fat liberation." Intrigued and confused, I dug deeper. I still remember the way my jaw dropped when I learned intentional weight loss isn't feasible for most people, that many tend to gain back extra weight after.

I saw myself in those numbers. I saw that I wasn't so worthless, that it wasn't because I didn't have the willpower. My body never wanted to be skinny, and maybe it was possible that I didn't either.

A year or two of researching fat liberation, and I denied I ever had an eating disorder. I was hit with the realization about four weeks ago, when listening to a song a thin person with an eating disorder had written.

I believed I couldn't have had an eating disorder purely because I didn't get thin while I was in the middle of it. I could have died of malnutrition, still fat, and it's possible no one would have suspected it was because of my "diet."

And that is exactly why fat liberation is so important. That's why bigotry as a whole needs to be abandoned. Because no matter a person's weight or size or whatever, everyone deserves a place in this world with equal opportunities. No one deserves to feel worthless, or feel like they'd rather be in someone else's skin because of how they look, or how they're treated.

Fat people with eating disorders are just as needful of healing as thin people with eating disorders, period, end of story.

[bigfatdenial]

ily for creating this account, makes me believe that people have common sense and sanity again

💕sanity will win :)

[bigfatdenial]

This isn't limited to fat people, though. If you are ugly, if you have missing/bad teeth, if you are balding, if you are a short man, if you have a resting bitch face, if you are too skinny, if you have bad hygiene... that's your first impression. And yes, you might have to work harder to win friends and influence others because of it, and it sucks, but get the fuck over it.

Some things can't be fixed, but you can fix fat; that is entirely under your control.

And when you do lose weight, people will treat you differently. I know this firsthand. It also sucks. I'm not afraid to admit that. But I got over it. People are superficial.

Get over yourself.

" When you're fat, you don't get a first impression. When you're fat, the first impression people get is that you're fat."

@ Kaitlin Shepard on Tiktok speaks about fatphobia (without naming it) and their words reasonated very hard in me.

[bigfatdenial]

...is this you? ⬇️

if you're going to make a negative remark about what someone is eating or how much someone is eating, first try this: take a hammer and hit your head really hard

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Ah yes, another “I gained weight only eating 500 calories a day” fat fan-fiction. 🙄

I believe fat people have eating disorders (you don’t become morbidly obese without disordered eating), but where it gets complicated is when you lie about how you got fat. Who is the real fatphobe here? You’re not afraid of being fat, but you’re afraid of why you’re fat? You cannot survive on 500 calories a day for an extended period of time and you absolutely would not gain weight. It’s impossible. Starvation mode isn’t real. Find a new trope or start being truthful.

I was recently hit with the crippling realization that I used to have an eating disorder.

It was branded as intermittent fasting, something that would help change the number on the scale. I was skipping two meals a day and starving almost constantly.

My pants got a bit looser, and the number went down by twenty pounds over the course of three months. One person noticed my weight changed -- and she was fat herself, so of course she would be more likely to notice it -- and not a single other person seemed to care that my clothes looked a little baggier on my body now.

I hit a plateau that my body refused to let me move on from. No matter how few calories I ate, how hard I exercised, or how many cups of water I drank a day, my body refused to shrink anymore. I didn't stop, thinking surely I was close to another breakthrough.

That was the most weight loss I ever experienced in my life. A measly 20 pounds. The BMI said I needed to lose 70 more to even be out of the obese category. I didn't even stop starving myself when the weight came hurling back at me a year later.

I gained back all twenty pounds. I was still starving myself. I gained twenty more pounds. I was barely eating each day. I gained even a little more, despite barely taking in any food.

My mother said I must've been cheating, eating extra food at school during lunch. I was eating 500 calories a day. I was miserable.

I told myself I was worthless, that I needed to be better. I was so close to becoming thin. Why couldn't I just lose the weight?

I kept gaining, about a pound a month. I finally told myself I needed a break, and I started trying to eat again. I had two meals a day. I didn't get thinner, but I did feel a little better.

One day, while scrolling on social media, I saw a post about something called "fat liberation." Intrigued and confused, I dug deeper. I still remember the way my jaw dropped when I learned intentional weight loss isn't feasible for most people, that many tend to gain back extra weight after.

I saw myself in those numbers. I saw that I wasn't so worthless, that it wasn't because I didn't have the willpower. My body never wanted to be skinny, and maybe it was possible that I didn't either.

A year or two of researching fat liberation, and I denied I ever had an eating disorder. I was hit with the realization about four weeks ago, when listening to a song a thin person with an eating disorder had written.

I believed I couldn't have had an eating disorder purely because I didn't get thin while I was in the middle of it. I could have died of malnutrition, still fat, and it's possible no one would have suspected it was because of my "diet."

And that is exactly why fat liberation is so important. That's why bigotry as a whole needs to be abandoned. Because no matter a person's weight or size or whatever, everyone deserves a place in this world with equal opportunities. No one deserves to feel worthless, or feel like they'd rather be in someone else's skin because of how they look, or how they're treated.

Fat people with eating disorders are just as needful of healing as thin people with eating disorders, period, end of story.

[bigfatdenial]

NO, when people say they want to lose weight they probably mean: I want to feel better, I want to have more energy and less pain, I want to be in shape/build muscle/be stronger. I want to give my body proper nourishment instead of junk and improve my hair, skin, nails, etc. I want to be a better, healthier version of myself.

“Weight loss culture” will allow you to learn what a portion size is, help you stop over eating and emotionally eating. Ease the strain you put of your back, knees and joints. Allow you to keep up with your kids or nieces or nephews or even more fit friends. It will allow you to live a longer, healthier and most likely happier life.

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True, but absolutely no one would be 250+ or 350+ lbs.

Absolutely no one.

Doctor Beverly Crusher @SpaceDocMom If everybody ate exactly the same food in exactly the same amounts and exercised exactly the same, we'd all still have very different bodies. emojis: black heart, blue heart, masked, spoon 5:26 PM · Sep 1, 2024

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[bigfatdenial]

Weight is something that you can control. The other things you mention (race, gender identity, sexual orientation) are generally not something you can control.

Just because you treat your own body like shit doesn't mean you can treat someone else like shit. Fuck off with that.

friendly reminder that fat people are as allowed to joke and punch up on skinny people as gay people are on straight people, trans people on cis people, poc on white people, etc

if you disagree, ask yourself why.

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Deserve sex? Love? Healthy relationships? What kind of incel logic is this? Fat or thin - the universe doesn’t owe you SHIT. You get what you give, respect included.

Autonomy over medical choices? You gave autonomy up when you blamed being 300+ lbs on “condishuns” instead of choices.

Gurl.

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Fat Privilege is assuming skinny people are able-bodied by default.

Fat Privilege is believing the world is obligated to provide accommodations for something you did to yourself (obesity).

Fat Privilege is hating someone based on their body size/composition & age.

Fat Privilege is not accepting No as an answer.

I fucking hate skinny people. I got on my local bus service today, and noticed a teenager sitting in the disabled seat with an old lady. I kindly asked them to move, but they said no, so I had to sit on a single seat. When they got off the teenager gave me a disgusted look, thin privilege, am I right?