brandonsouk

[brandonsouk]

Know when you're not wanted and embrace it

An issue I see far too often is people pursuing friendships with a specific person or a specific group of people who don't like them.

Very lonely people who don't like themselves hang around people who bully them and belittle them, ain't that sad?

What I have always thought is it's better to have a party with yourself than have it shit on by other people.

A piece of advice I'll give everyone reading this is to learn how to enjoy your own company, this can be done by realising that you are probably a decent person with something to offer and not some boogeyman that you should try and avoid.

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Wanna be more confident? Dress like a weirdo.

At one point or another, we've all spent way too much time worrying about the clothing we're going to wear on a night out.

We do this because we are paranoid and anxious about the way other people are going to react to it and think of it.

This is a prime example of the effects of social conditioning because let's be honest why the fuck should anyone care if your trousers match your shirt or if your cufflinks are perfectly tidy at the end of the day your mind and your personality represents you as a person, not your jacket or your shoes.

So what I would like everyone reading this to do is at your next social event is to dress the most unstylish way you possibly can because over time the anxiety you get over your outfits and your appearance will gradually begin to fade.

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Socialise like it's a workout

A thing I always tell people with social anxiety and a more introverted personality who want to be more confident and extroverted is to treat social events and the act of human interaction like it's a workout.

Imagine if you regularly go to the gym and lift weights right. After some time of hard training, you get gradually stronger and stronger, well social confidence works the same except your workout is socialising and your strength gain is increased confidence in social situations.

So what I'd like anyone reading this to do is treat their social interactions like a workout. Rain or shine if you want to or not is to push yourself to socialise and eventually your confidence will shoot up massively.