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It's time for Steve Week 2025! 💛💛💛

Join me for a little fandom event celebrating our fave ex-coven scout! You can make something for every day of the week, pick one and go all out on it, or do a weird mashup of several! Use the hashtag or @ me directly in your posts so I can share as many as possible :) Everything will also be collected at @steveweektoh (go there to see previous entries)

Because it's the third year of me doing this, the prompts this year are a bit more open-ended, and some of them have more than one possible meaning, to encourage as much creativity as possible. Have fun with it!

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Parents who criticize their (adult) child’s emotional reactions to their actions are more concerned with how they (the parents) are perceived than with how their words/actions affect their children. The concept of self-reflection or acknowledgment of fault (specifically re: their parenting and how they talk to their child(ren) is too uncomfortable so they blame the child for being “overly sensitive” regardless of the reality of the situation.

Also, despite what some parents seem to think, experiencing symptoms of anxiety and ptsd is not being “oversensitive.”

The question isn’t just “is it ever okay for a parent to call you oversensitive?” It’s “is it ever okay for your parents to deny the cause and validity of your emotions and blame you for being too sensitive instead of doing some introspection on their own behaviors?” to which both the answer is no.

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Feel free to share further thoughts via reblogs or replies

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Its come to my attention that a lot of people do not know how to deal with a hot car in summer. A lot of people will get back to their car, after hours of it being parked in the full sun, and will open the door to be blasted in the face with furnace-level temperatures, and you'll just clamber in and shut the doors and leave the windows closed and you'll start driving that thing, and you'll wait for the air-conditioning to battle and overcome the heat.

Thats. Insane to me.

The inside of a car can get up to 40°C/104°F hotter than the outside temperature. Why would anyone get inside that????? It's gonna take your air-conditioning at least half an hour to combat that and bring the temperature down to something even remotely reasonable, and in the meantime you're sitting there risking heatstroke.

Now, I understand that it's currently winter in the northern hemisphere, which is where most of this site lives, but a) I'm in the southern hemisphere and today was Lots Of Degrees, and b) y'all should read this now and commit it to memory or queue it to reblog in summer or whatever, because it boggles my mind that some of you get into a car whose interior is literally oven-hot.

So!!!! Some tips!!!!!

Get a sun visor. One of the big ones that goes inside your windshield. You will not believe how much cooler those things keep your car. Get one, use it. Leave it to bounce around in your back-seat on cooler days, but have it on hand for the stinkers. They range in price but two-dollar stores usually have them for pretty cheap.

Leave the windows of your car cracked open. It doesn't have to be much. Literally just the tiniest amount will mean that the heat building inside your car has a way to escape, meaning the interior temp will naturally be kept lower. The larger the opening, the better, but depending on the neighbourhood you're parking in, maybe it would be better to have them open just a sliver. Even the tiniest crack will help. Ever tried warming up an oven with the door open? It doesn't work well. This is the same concept. If there is a way for the hot air to escape, the inside of your car will stay a lot cooler than it otherwise would have.

If you're fancy enough to have an openable sunroof (that's the dream) then leave that open a bit as well.

Youve just gotten back to your car and opened the door, and its hot as fuck in there. Open another door, ideally on the other side of the car, and let the hot air escape. If you can open all four doors and the boot, then thats even better. A bunch of the hot air will flush out. Not all!!! But a lot. Give it anywhere from a few moments to a few minutes, depending on how much of a hurry you're in.

Get in, start the car, open all the windows. Yes, even if you hate having the windows open.

Put the air-conditioning on full blast, and make sure the recycle is turned OFF. This means it pulls fresh air from outside the car (hot, but less hot than inside) and pumps that into the car, further displacing the heat inside the vehicle.

Start driving, still with the windows down. Once you get up enough speed, the force of the air from outside coming in will blast the rest of the excess heat out of the car.

The temp inside the car will now be roughly equivalent to the temp outside the car. Still hot!!!! But MAJORLY less so, and majority more handle-able by your air-conditioner.

Put all your windows up, and switch the air-con over to recycle. This means it takes the air in the car and cools it, then spits it back into the car, meaning that with each cycle, the air gets progressively cooler a lot faster.

If you do this, your car will be a hell of a lot more comfortable a hell of a lot sooner than it would be if you got into a 60°C/140°F cabin and just.... endured that, until your aircon could overcome it.

This post has been brought to you by an Australian who knows not one but TWO people who get into 60°C cars and wait 15 to 30 minutes for their car to drop back down to a temperature that's even REMOTELY tolerable.

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I’d like to take a minute to appreciate aromantic diversity

Every single aromantic person’s experience is different. Every single aromantic person has a different constellation of reasons they took up the label, a different journey to finding it. I think it’s important to remember that, while our community as it exists today began with clusters of lonely, alienated people finding strength in their similarities, we have just as much strength in our diversity.

Our community has grown beyond a group of people with common exeriences to become a group of people with vastly varied experiences but a common need not to be constrained by social convention in the form and frequency of our relationships. That’s rad as hell.

So here’s to the many forms that takes:

aros who want romance on their own, convention-defying terms

aros who want no romance at all, ever

aros who want friendships as their primary relationships, who want their friends to be their roommates for life, who maybe even want to co-parent with their friends

aros who want nonromantic sexual relationships

aros who want nonromantic, nonsexual relationships

aros who want intimacy that defies existing categories

aros who want no intimacy at all, thank you very much

aros who want romance sometimes, maybe, it honestly depends

aros who want romantic relationships in theory but can’t stand them in practice

aros who want to call themselves aro but aren’t sure why yet, and maybe they never will be

aros who want multiple intimate relationships of some kind and identify as polyamorous or polyaffectionate or poly-something else

and all the rest of us. There are so many others. Represent yourself in a reblog or reply if you want!

And here’s to the beauty of a community that unites such diversity in mutual support and respect. We are so powerful together.

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Raine raine raine raine raine

I'm addicted to this watercolor brush

(fixed it bcs I saw a problem hours later)

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reblog and put in the tags a physical feature about yourself that might change your mutuals visual idea of you

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Do you think Hunter would freak out more about knowing that King is a titan or about him being the author of Ruler’s Reach. Because I think it would be the second one.

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i remade this post because i feeelt liiiiike ittttt

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Hey everyone. I wanted to share my tipping jar and print store. It's my birthday in 2 weeks, and hehe, would absolutely love any tips or any support in case anyone blessed with a generous heart and disposable income would love to throw anything my way ♡ it's summer here in the philippines, and at 41*c, all the eggs we kept in our shelves went bad. My sister and I are both autistic picky eaters, and eggs are one of the quick and easy foods we got. Other than that, I got ran over by a golf cart, and it destroyed my only pair of shoes. Just paid for my mom's lasik! Am the sole caretaker of a disabled family of 4. any wiggle room to keep me and my family of four is deeply appreciated!

Inprnt / ko-fi/ p*ypal tipping jar

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Skara!

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it’s safe to say i think about this video at least four times a day, i can quote almost the whole thing from memory

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I am editing this post to say that, while he isn’t on tumblr, you can find this creator on most platforms (i.e. tiktok, instagram, youtube) as @littlevictorianboy !

i highly suggest going to find his content on your own, he’s so funny and he deserves to see everyone’s support !

i made sure to put his @ in the tags and it’s visible on the video but i still felt bad for reposting without explicit permission so i sent him a dm after smoking some weed and he actually responded!

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probably gonna go back to twice a week updates for Finding Palismen. might change the days but it’ll probably just go back to tuesdays and fridays :3

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Hunter sketches <3

idk i felt like drawing him. he is blorbo shaloobie heh

special appearance from shoto todoroki...

reblogs are okay, please dont repost tho 💛

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disabled people are worth the extra effort it takes to accommodate them. it's worth going the longer route together that's wheelchair accessible. it's worth the time and effort to research places to eat that work with specific allergies or food intolerances. and it's worth the price if those places or that food is more expensive. it's worth going further to buy something gluten-free or nut free or dairy free for your party or get together. it's worth adding extra travel time, or planning an overnight stay instead of a day trip. it's worth learning how to administer medication for people who need it. it's worth learning how to call ahead to check if somewhere is accessible. it's worth the whole friend group going to the film screening with captions even if only 1 person needs it. disability often means having to do more work, more planning, take up more space, more money, more time. it's false to say it's as easy as having an abled companion, but that effort is worth taking. it's not wasted because it's all spent in favour of a disabled person, and that's always worthwhile