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Therapist: How's work going?

Me:

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ugh yeah no i feel this so bad. like. i try not to let it get to me but sometimes it really does. i’m not even trying to cause problems or get in people’s faces?? i just… exist. and that’s apparently enough to make some people hate us. or treat us like a threat. and it sucks lol.

it’s so weird having to treat your own identity like a secret. like “oh god what if they find out i’m mixed origins, what if they think i’m faking everything.” and it’s not even that you’ve done anything wrong, it’s just that they already decided what kind of person you must be.

i’m sorry you had to unfollow that artist. i’ve done that too and it always stings a little more than i expect. just know you’re not alone in this, ok? a lot of us are navigating the same kind of fear. and you’re still valid. still plural. still real. 💗

— rue (she/they)

sometimes my syscourse label makes me feel like a prisoner. a detainee. like, I am mostly endogenic by nature. that means I can't interact with half of the plurals I meet because I'm always scared they'd turn on me if I told them what I am. and I'm not one to easily get scared, mind you.

it just really sucks sometimes. I had to unfollow an artist once because of their stance on my existence.

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Syscourse tag be normal about psychotics and people with delusions for 5 fucking seconds please

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ngl it breaks my heart how many people act like you're faking your system if you're not visibly falling apart all the time. healing doesn't mean you never struggled. and struggling doesn't mean you're not healing. let people be in different places pls 🥺

— rue (she/they)

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omg wait yeah this?? this exactly

like. even if someone’s faking that still doesn’t give anyone the right to be cruel. you don’t know what they’re going through or why they might feel the need to do that. and tbh i care way more about people getting support and learning about themselves safely than i do about “catching fakers” or whatever?? there are sooo many more important things we could be doing in the community than policing each other

; hot take even if someone IS faking being a system or plural it's not your business to attack them for that or make callouts or wtv. Harassment isn't cute and who knows why they're faking, who cares, we have bigger issues than a random hypothetical person pretending to be a system (like the violent infighting and fakeclaiming, lack of resources and lack of recognition beyond our own communities?)

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we're pro-endo but we've definitely seen misinformation being spread by other pro-endos. it's just from some systems though...not everyone. we think a lot of it is unintentional and it's not as extreme as misinfo from singlets.

we've seen other pro-endos do stuff like:

❌ claiming DID/OSDD aren't trauma disorders

❌ saying that endogenic systems probably just have OSDD or a disorder that's never been discovered

❌ telling systems with fusions that they're murderers or pluralphobic

❌ claiming certain experiences don't count as trauma

our community isn't perfect. sometimes we get things wrong! we should be just as willing to correct each other as we are to correct anybody else.

a bunch of people, especially the endo-neutral or syscourse-unaligned crowd, say that they're not pro-endo because the pro-endo community spreads misinformation.

could someone explain what history of misinformation pro-endos have?? because unless we're talking about system hopping or headmate scammers, i got nothing. /genq

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pastel holographic/chrome dividers:

please like and credit if you use, reblogs are appreciated! thank you! 💕

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eternal

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hey um. can we talk about why ppl think you have to have a diagnosis to be valid?? like. real talk.

for a long time we thought we had a psychotic disorder. we had delusions and weird reality breaks that really messed with our life and made things super hard. but then in therapy we talked about it and our therapist was like “hey i believe you but i don’t think this is a full-blown psychotic disorder. i think this is trauma stuff.”

and like. at first we were kinda crushed?? like we really thought we had a psychotic disorder. but our therapist was right that it was caused by somethng else.

the thing we learned is that you can still experience psychosis without having a psychotic disorder. our experiences were still real and we got support for them. most importantly we were believed.

all of this goes the same for plurality too. you can be plural without a dissociative disorder. you don't need to fit a diagnosis for your experiences to be valid. you still deserve to be believed and taken seriously.

idk. just something i’ve been thinking about. pls be kind to people figuring things out. we’re all just trying our best here lol 💔

— rue (she/they)

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Don't say mental illnesses or neurodivergencies are the reason for someone's harmful behavior.

Can harmful behavior be influenced by mental illnesses and neurodivergency? Of course.

But saying it's the reason, and implying that all harmful behaviors are caused by them and that all people with them are harmful, is factually incorrect and it's bigotry.

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self reminder: it’s okay to feel sad,

it’s okay to have a bad day

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Hi Lex! We're not sure if you meant to send this off anon so we're responding with a screenshot! Thank you for sharing. 💛 It's so refreshing to hear from an actual pro endo. You're absolutely right, willogenics are cool as fuck. 😎

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we’re not anti endo. We’re pro endo tired of fakers like you. You’re not welcome here, and never will be. Created plurals will never be plural

Gods you are OBSESSED 😭 You harass us every time we make a post. We are not even a created plural but it's not like you care, Mx. """pro endo""""

Just think we're fake and move on like a normal person. Look, we'll even agree with you:

We're faking!

We're a fakey faker!

All it took was this """"pro endo"""" anon obsessively harassing us to realize we were wrong about our entire life up til now! Whooooops!

Bye bye now! 👋 Now go enjoy your high from abusing trauma survivors online~

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Sometimes I wish we could just have a conversation. A real one...not a debate or a fight or something that ends in fakeclaims and abusive anons in our inbox. I truly believe that if some anti-endos actually sat down and talked to systems like us, they’d find we’re not nearly as different as they think.

— Moth (they/fae)