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I love unfocused lights in pics

City Lights by Kofi Dua

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Muse @deebott , anon and mother nature Series titled : Graphite high

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“Edit your life frequently and ruthlessly. It’s your masterpiece after all.”

Nathan W. Morris (via thatkindofwoman)

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Tweets

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What is detachment? Detachment is the: * Ability to allow people, places or things the freedom to be themselves. * Holding back from the need to rescue, save or fix another person from being sick, dysfunctional or irrational. * Giving another person “the space” to be his/her self. * Disengaging from an over-enmeshed or dependent relationship with people. * Willingness to accept that you cannot change or control a person, place or thing. * Developing and maintaining of a safe, emotional distance from someone whom you have previously given a lot of power to affect your emotional outlook on life. * Establishing of emotional boundaries between you and those people you have become overly enmeshed or dependent with in order that all of you might be able to develop your own sense of autonomy and independence. * Process by which you are free to feel your own feelings when you see another person falter and fail and not be led by guilt to feel responsible for their failure or faltering. * Ability to maintain an emotional bond of love, concern and caring without the negative results of rescuing, enabling, fixing or controlling. * Placing of all things in life into a healthy, rational perspective and recognizing that there is a need to back away from the uncontrollable and unchangeable realities of life. * Ability to exercise emotional self-protection and prevention so as not to experience greater emotional devastation from having hung on beyond a reasonable and rational point. * Ability to let people you love and care for accept personal responsibility for their own actions and to practice tough love and not give in when they come to you to bail them out when their actions lead to failure or trouble for them. * Ability to allow people to be who they “really are” rather than who you “want them to be.” * Ability to avoid being hurt, abused, taken advantage of by people who in the past have been overly dependent or enmeshed with you. If you are unable to detach emotionally for physically from something or someone, then you are either profoundly under its control or it is under your control. How to Develop Detachment In order to become detached from a person, place or thing, you need to: First: Establish emotional boundaries between you and the person, place or thing with whom you have become overly enmeshed or dependent on. Second: Take back power over your feelings from persons, places or things which in the past you have given power to affect your emotional well-being. Third: “Hand over” to your Higher Power the persons, places and things which you would like to see changed but which you cannot change on your own. Fourth: Make a commitment to your personal recovery and self-health by admitting to yourself and your Higher Power that there is only one person you can change and that is yourself and that for your serenity you need to let go of the “need” to fix, change, rescue or heal other persons, places and things. Fifth: Recognize that it is “sick” and “unhealthy” to believe that you have the power or control enough to fix, correct, change, heal or rescue another person, place or thing if they do not want to get better nor see a need to change. Sixth: Recognize that you need to be healthy yourself and be “squeaky clean” and a “role model” of health in order for another to recognize that there is something “wrong” with them that needs changing. Seventh: Continue to own your feelings as your responsibility and not blame others for the way you feel. Eighth: Accept personal responsibility for your own unhealthy actions, feelings and thinking and cease looking for the persons, places or things you can blame for your unhealthiness. Ninth: Accept that addicted fixing, rescuing, enabling are “sick” behaviors and strive to extinguish these behaviors in your relationship to persons, places and things. Tenth: Accept that many people, places and things in your past and current life are “irrational,” “unhealthy” and “toxic” influences in your life, label them honestly for what they truly are, and stop minimizing their negative impact in your life. Eleventh: Reduce the impact of guilt and other irrational beliefs which impede your ability to develop detachment in your life. Twelfth: Practice “letting go” of the need to correct, fix or make better the persons, places and things in life over which you have no control or power to change.

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"my only regret: too young for Nia Long"

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Hahaha so accurate

Trying to do ANYTHING while your parents are sleeping.

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This came out a little darker than I intended…Point is talking about your feelings before they build up is good!!

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Now is your chance to be on Button Poetry! Video submission are open TODAY! Send us your videos! SEND US YOUR POEMS!

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I thought about Aunt Viv too

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Dark Ocean Aesthetic

requested by: Anon Pictures found on Weheartit (X/X/X/X/X/X)Critique not desired

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Hanging beds not only look cool but ensure there’s always emergency storage space underneath!

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Teach ya sons it's okay to cry