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Dissociative Disorders and S-x

(Sorry about the censoring, not risking Tumblr being a POS)

One thing that has complications when you're part of a dissociative system is s-x. I, Alecto, am single. I'm our physical protector and s-xual protector. Our host is distinctly not single. They are in one relationship with a s-xual aspect to it, and this comes with complications, both on our end, and with the partner in question, Alexandra, who is her system's (henceforth referred to as US) s-xual protector.

First and foremost, you have the issue that I am ordinarily the one who would deal with s-x. Therefore, though I do not front during s-x between Zed and Alexandra, I am generally aware of it, as all our prior knowledge of s-x is mine. This is something that I am yet to form an opinion on. On some level, it feels like I'm intruding, but equally, the distance I'm watching from is fairly significant, and it's not like I mind Alexandra, but very distinctly, that is not my girlfriend. I have no romantic feelings for her. I'm happy to stay distant.

There also is the issue that the host of US, Ash, also dating Zed, is ace. Very, very ace. So how do you negotiate having a s-xual partner and an asexual one in the same body? The answer is by careful division.

Not to sound preachy, but with DID, the best way to ensure that all relationships are functional is boundaries and discussion. The way that Zed maintains everyone's comfort is by ensuring that Ash is nowhere near front during s-x, or in the aftermath, and also by discussing what signs Ash is okay with having on the body afterwards. Through this clear communication, we have it at a point where noone is uncomfortable.

I swear I had something else to say here, goddamn. Ah well. Essentially, communication and awareness of boundaries and trauma issues makes having s-xual relationships with DID perfectly manageable and fine, without harming any alters.

- Alecto

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Heya!

We're the Panda System, and there are 5 of us (but only 3 regular fronters)! We are Alecto (protector, Trans girl), Zed (host, non-binary) and Jade (little/protector, demigirl).

I, Zed, am in relationships with 3 separate systems, 4 alters across them, but more on that later.

Alecto is presently not dating anyone, though that is subject to change.

Being a little, Jade is not in any relationships, but is super close to the system littles in our partner systems, and also considers some of the adults to be pseudo-family.

For now, we won't go into the details of our partner systems, but we wanted to introduce ourselves first.

We hope to make this blog a safe space for us to share how being in a relationship with other systems works, and also for others to possibly share their own stories of the same. Enjoy!

- Zed