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I've been seeing a disturbing number of "queer safe spaces" describe themselves as things like "femme & them" and even worse "she+," conflating femininity & nonbinaryhood. cease this immediately. say it with me: nonbinary people are NOT women-lite and it is extremely violent and straight up incorrect to imply that all they/thems are fem adjacent. this is erasure and this verbiage does nothing but make gnc and nonbinary spaces unsafe for masc and male nonbinary people. nonbinary, genderqueer and other third gender people can be and are masculine and men, we can be hes as well as shes and theys, stop allowing yourself and your peers to view nonbinary as woman/femme-lite, signed a butch nonbinary person.

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Do you gen angry when McDonalds pairs Barbie with Hot Wheels?

nah. would you get angry if i tell you i like playing with either? LMAO

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ppl still liking this; i'm a butch lesboy now. not a man, not a woman, but a boy and a girl anyway. i'm still all that gender stuff but i just got the bigender girlboy update

cis people just don't get it tbh

(edit: i added a watermark bc some of u cheeky fuckers like reposting art w/o credit ....)

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DEER LESBOY

[PT: deer lesboy]

— deer themed lesboy flag! for lesboys who like deers, deergender lesboys, deerkin lesboys, etc.

[ID: a rectangular flag with six equal-width horizontal stripes; (top-to-bottom) brownish-red, orange-red, orange, light yellow, light purple, and dull purple. END ID]

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some anatomy tips for drawing cat legs - works for big cats too

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Happy birthday to revolutionary communist and trans pioneer Leslie Feinberg ♥️ May hir memory be for a blessing.

If anyone is interested in reading hir work, here are free links to all hir writing

Journal of a Transsexual (1980) [transcript]

Transgender Liberation (1992)

Stone Butch Blues (1993) [epub version here]

Transgender Warriors (1996)

Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink or Blue (1999) (you need an account for this one, but it’s still free)

Drag King Dreams (2006)

Lavender & Red (2004 - 2008)

Rainbow Solidarity: in Defense of Cuba (2009)

While a Hostile Relative Rewrites My Life (2011)

Casualty of an Undeclared War (2011)

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IMAGE ID. 3 rectangular flags with 7 atripes that are, in order: redish dark pink, red, light orange, light pastel yellow, pink, purple, indigo. END OF ID.

୨୧ • transbian

︵︵︵︵︵︵★ ꒱ explanations :

୨୧ • a flag for trans lesbians, this can be used by ANY transbians, men or women, no matter their gender.

transbian 1

transbian 2

︵︵︵︵︵︵★ ꒱ meanings :

୨୧ • 1. Being a lesbian. 2. Unique attraction to women. 3. Pride. 4. Love. 5. Disabled transbians 6. Poc transbians. 7. Being trans.

PT. transbian. explanations. a flag for trans lesbians, this can be used by any transbians, men or women, no matter their gender. meanings. being a lesbian, unique attraction to women, pride, love, disabled transbians, poc transbians, being trans. END OF PT.

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DONT FORGET TO DO YOUR DAILY CLICKS TO HELP PALESTINE

୨୧ • severic lesbian, severic gaybian, severic veldian

A flag for severic lesbians, gaybians and veldians! Could be because one feels like their attraction to multigender people is lesbian, gaybian or veldian attraction, or simply because they are both lesbian, gaybian or veldian while also being severic.

PT. severic lesbian, severic gaybian, severic veldian. A flag for severic [see link] lesbians, gaybians and veldians! Could be because one feels like their attraction to multigender people is lesbian, gaybian or veldian attraction, or simply because they are both lesbian, gaybian or veldian while also being severic. END OF PT.

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lesbigay / bigayles flag

for people who use the labels bi, gay, and lesbian to pin down their complex attraction/identity!!

higher quality + more versions on my twitter

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Honestly, I find it also quite telling that it is always demanded of mspec lesbians to historically prove their right to exist as their identity. I just feel like, with all the stuff about "transgenderism is a modern trend" and "xenogenders & neopronouns are a modern trend", and all of us always needing to prove with history that we exist, it becomes quite obvious what lesbian exclusionism and lesbian separatism is: just another form of denying people their identities.

The moment you demand someone to prove their identity based on whether it is "new" and "modern" or actually historically documented, you are a shithead, because 1) no one has to prove their identity to you 2) no one's identity has to be around for a longer time to be valid 3) a lot of queer history has been erased, so there's that 4) a lot of queer history is very normative and focused on binarist views on queerness

I am radically inclusionist, because I am convinced that it helps no one if we exclude people based on prescriptivist definitions of labels. The "radical" has been assigned to me by people who wanted the good sound of "inclusionist", but didn't feel like committing to actually including everyone. Yet still, I will take that term with pride, because in our anti-queer society as well as a very policing queer community, yes, it seems to be a radical act to not exclude.

And that is also why those going against me hate the idea of "including all good-faith identities", because it is a pure principle that you can either commit to, or not. The moment you start making exceptions is when you betray that principle. Which is also why there are no "inclusionists" who exclude mspec lesbians. Because they are, as result of their exclusionist stance, exclusionists.

Even less surprising then is the entire force that is used against the word "queer". Its usage as liberating term exceeds by far the use it allegedly found as a "slur". Heck, people use "gay" ten times more as a slur, especially nowadays, and I don't see people going against the reclamation of that term. No, the people taking issue with "queer" that I have encountered so far were, by majority... too young to even have experienced the alleged great usage of it as a "slur". They take issue with the word, because unlike acronyms like LGBTQIA+, it also conveys a stance - that we are weird, yes. By which is meant, yes, we go against norms. We go against regulations of a gendered heteronormative patriarchal society. Our identities may fall in line with their views here and there, but we don't adhere to them, because we are who we are without bending ourselves to what others want us to be. This spirit goes against everything exclusionists and separatists try to do. This spirit is much more common here on tumblr, so no wonder Twitter exclusionists don't feel welcome here at all (and they shouldn't!).

The only reason why history is brought into this entire matter in the first place is that they've tried to use history against us. They've tried to use revisionist radfem history to exclude us just like lesbian separatism has done in the past. Only for them to be proven wrong by those who managed to dig deep enough into the history of the lesbian label. And yet, still, we don't need that history to prove our validity. Because we are here, we are queer, and proud of all that we are, not giving up any of our identities to please others.

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Queerfuck

With Symbol (left) || Without Symbol (right)

Queerfuck is the orientation version of Genderfuck. Queerfuck is a term for when your orientation and general identity is against social norms, heteronormativity, amatonormativity, etc. including the notion that orientations are boxes that you must perfectly fit into to be "valid" or "real."

One who’s queerfuck may have “contradictory” labels, and take pride in confusing and pissing off exclusionists. Queerfuck can be used as an orientation, or its own stand-alone term, similar to Genderfuck. Queerfucks use whatever words they want to describe their orientation, and the relationship between their gender & orientation.

Orientations that are often excluded against, demonized, or erased, along with orientations that are so complex one needs to use many labels to describe oneself (such as orientationhoarder) are included under this term. Polyamory and Non-Monoamory relationships and labels would also fit under this label, along with MOGAI/LIOM orientations are other neo-orientations, including Allion terms.

Queerfuck’s all inclusive to good faith identities. Including but not limited to Mspec Gays, Aspecs, Fictospecs, Autospecs, Lesboys/Turigirls, etc.

(Also inclusive to Amatopunk, including the idea of challenging what’s a “normal” relationship, blurring boundaries between different orientation terms, etc.)

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This term was originally posted June 8th, 2021 on my original blog, and then posted again on March 27th, 2022. There were differences between the two definitions I had posted, so this post is a combination of the two definitions.

I had originally chosen the colors apparently from the one nine-stripes Queer flag, and formatted it similar to the one Genderpunk flag I liked.

Again thanks to the person who had these screenshots after like.... a whole year. /gen

Below is a couple images of the original post that someone provided me with, of which you may notice there's three different flags on it, the two having different symbols. I simply just decided against having the flag with the relationship anarchy symbol on it, as I no longer felt like it completely aligned with the concept of Queerfuck itself, and I kinda felt weird conflating the two.

[ID] Two flags with 6 horizontal stripes of the same size, the first flag has a symbol which is an eye with the thick black outline, the purple and iris replaces with a white and black swirl. The colors from top to bottom are as follows: ripe plum purple, black, red-purple, medium teal blue, black, ripe plum purple. The colors are vibrant. [/End ID]

[ID] Two screenshots of Tumblr on a dark theme in a mobile format. The contents of the text and images in the screenshots are almost word for word of the contents of this post, however missing the new "One who's Queerfuck" section, and the "Also inclusive to Amatopunk" section, along with having an extra flag which I talked about above. The second screenshot shows the original date of posting, which is June 8th, 2021. The post is tagged with various pro-mogai and related tags. [/End ID]

[ID] A DNI (do not interact) banner with a very faded galaxy background. On the left of the banner there’s a flag as with a rounded side, the circle inside it showing an image of a forest on fire, the flag being the Queer flag with nine stripes. The rest of the image is filled with white text that reads: “DNI (Do Not Interact). Against Good Faith Self Identification Or “Contradictory” Identities, Transmed, Sysmed, Group Arospec under Acespec, Anti-Educated Self-Dx, Call Mspec identities “Bispec”, Anti-Alterhuman, Anti-Otherkin, Anti-Chronosian, Against the term Transandromisia (or similar terms), Anti Aldernic, Anti-Altersex, Pro-Contact harmful paras, TransID,  Anti-Anti, Proship, “Consang”, Anti-SFW Agere, Demonize Cluster B disorders, Anti-BLM, Anti-ACAB” [/End ID]

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hi i hope I didnt bother you but I was curious if you take flag requests?

it's no problem! and yeah i take flag requests! as long as they're sfw :3

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girltwink & boybutch flags

for girls who are twinks & boys who are butches !

girltwink ⤵️

boybutch ⤵️

higher quality versions on my twitter

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"Lesbian means exclusive attraction to women!"

"No, it means non-men exclusively attracted to non-men!"

"It actually means queer attraction to women!"

"Lesbian means women and nonbinary people being exclusively attracted to other women and nonbinary people!"

Lesbian is a multifaceted label that can describe many different experiences. There is no one perfect definition of lesbian that will encompass the entire diverse experiences that lesbians can have.

I'm personally a genderqueer woman who's exclusively attracted to other women, but the lesbian next to me might be a transmasc lesbian who loves all genders except for men. And the lesbian next to them might be a bigender lesbian who's both a girl and a boy, who's exclusively attracted to women. Our experiences can all be described by the term lesbian if that's how we wish to describe it, but we might define it differently based on our own experiences. And guess what?

None of our definitions are wrong, but none of our definitions will encompass every other lesbian's experiences. A word can have multiple definitions without any of the definitions being wrong. And those definitions can be very vague or very specific. Labels are made to fit us- we aren't made to fit labels.

People who may have a different experience with the lesbian label are not your enemies. People in lesbian spaces who aren't exactly like you are not your enemies. The problem comes when you try to force one singular definition on every single lesbian. THAT is harmful. Sending death threats to other lesbians because they don't have the same experience as you is harmful. Not another lesbian having a different experience from you.

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i love the sheer variety i see when i meet trans men, trans boys, transmasc butches, ftms and the transmasculine community. no two transmasculine people you meet are the same. you'll meet tough boys, soft men, guys who love makeup, people who dress like they're from a specific period in the past, proud butches, dudes who dress like freaks, dapper gentlemen, lesboys and lesbian men, goofy boydykes, silly bros and your best friend. the transmasculine community is rich in diversity and every person you meet has a lot to teach you about what masculinity and manhood mean

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figuring things out, reflecting.

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Okay yes you reblogged a post about a boyfriend being a girl but are you like actually normal about multigender people especially about multigender lesbians and gay dudes