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Kacy killing us all and making us scream "Just kisssss!"

Bonus:

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LUCY & KATE | NCIS HAWAI'I 3x04

6 tips to make your (fake) honeymoon extra special by Lucy Tara and Kate Whistler

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LUCY & KATE | NCIS HAWAI'I 

“Being with you… it’s changed everything.” Kate Whistler

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My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Someone requested „unhinged life advice“ and I will try my best to provide some - but firstly, and at the risk of sounding like a buzzkill, I need to say something very annoying: 

A lot of the things that’ll make you feel happier and make your life better are - frustratingly - very, very hinged. They’re just the things you expect them to be: try to eat at least some veggies, fruit and fiber. Try to drink enough water. Go to bed early enough to get eight hours of sleep. Try to move your body, for example by taking walks or exercising. Avoid alcoholic drinks (altogether if possible but at least in excess). Quit smoking. Try to do at least some things in your free time that are not just passive consumption of content and instead challenge your brain, like learning a language or doing puzzles or writing short stories. Try to have at least some pleasant social interactions, ideally even in person. 

These pieces of advice aren’t fun. They also aren’t easy. I think we are so fascinated by the concept of „unhinged life advice“ because we are tired. We hope for something easier, for a magic quick fix, for a „this one little thing changed everything“ - while in reality building new habits needs patience and determination and time. 

So, I think the best pieces of „unhinged life advice“ are the ones that help to build these habits! I’ll share some of them. I’ll also throw in some pieces of advice that are just unhinged in the sense of „weirdly specific“ (since that’s another possible interpretation). 

Without further ado: 

If putting chicken nuggets in a salad makes you actually eat a salad you otherwise would never eat, then chicken nuggets are a healthy choice. 

If you struggle with eating fruit because the texture is so unpredictable, try frozen fruit (eaten straight out of the freezer). Frozen fruit has a predictable texture! 

If frozen fruit hurts your tummy or you don’t like that texture, either, here are some more ideas: make smoothies, or purée fruit and mix it into yoghurt, or purée fruit and add it to tomato sauce (sounds weird but a little sweetness can work great in tomato sauce), or bake fruit into muffins (if you cut them up very finely or blend them into the dough, they are often barely noticeable) 

Moving your body doesn’t have to look like exercise. Going on a walk (maybe to look for pretty stones on the sidewalks? or even just to get a coffee!) counts! Dancing to your favorite song (even alone in your room) counts too! Crawling on the floor like a dog (just for the silliness of it, which is also great for your brain) also counts! 

Sleep rituals can help a lot and they don’t need to be fancy! Just do the same thing before you go to bed and over time your brain will associate it with getting sleepy and calm down once you do it. This could be something like making a cup of chamomile tea, listening to soft piano music, praying or meditating, writing down one thing you’re grateful for etc., but also something whimsy like saying good night to your favorite plushie! 

A great way to get some steps in and also challenge your brain is to go to museums. If you feel like you are not the museum type because you don’t „get“ art, try this little trick: just don’t try to get it. Don’t focus on finding the meaning or find hidden symbolism for now. Instead, just try to find three things you like about the art piece. This doesn’t have to be anything smart or deep. It can be something like „I like the blue color the artist used“ or „I like how fluffy the clouds look“. This approach will help you relax and actually learn to appreciate the art… which is what you need to do in order to allow your brain to look for meanings

There’s probably at least one vegetable you think you hate but you really just hate the way your mom prepares them (no offense to your mom). It can be a fun challenge to revisit some foods you decided you hate as a kid and to see if that’s still true. 

Allow yourself to be bored. „I need to look at two screens simultaneously at all times to avoid a thought from occurring“ is not as funny in real life as it sounds as a meme. Your brain needs to be bored sometimes. Your thoughts need to wander sometimes. If that’s hard, then start by just doing certain things more intentionally: do not watch YouTube while eating. Just eat. Do not scroll through TikTok while on the toilet. Just poop. Your brain will reward you for actually getting some time to sort through and process stuff. Even if it’s just while pooping. 

Allow yourself to gameify those boring adult tasks if that works for you. Pretend to be on a cooking show while chopping onions. Sing a silly song about laundry while doing laundry. Beat your own record for speed-cleaning. Give those dishes a nice pool party in your sink. 

Reading of all kinds still counts as reading. Yes, it can be a rewarding challenge to finally finish that bestselling novel that is totally outside of your genres or interests, or that classic piece of literature that everyone should know. But if it’s too overwhelming and kinda stops you from reading altogether, then just put it aside and read something that’s actually fun for now! It can be a graphic novel or a children’s book or fanfiction or Wikipedia articles, too. 

Make lists. I may be biased because I love lists and make lists for everything (I even have a list categorizing all my lists…) but lists can be such a great tool! Any task becomes much more satisfying when you can cross it off a list.

When people say things like „someone should empty the dishwasher“ or „we should take out the trash today“, they often mean „I want you to empty the dishwasher“ or „I want you to take out the trash“. They’re not even being confusing on purpose or playing mind games, they just assume that wording it so indirectly is nicer and more polite.

If you safely can, then go to Pride events (and queer spaces in general) in small towns or rural areas! They’re often the ones who need support the most. And since they’re smaller, they can also be more accessible (in terms of less noise, less crowded etc.)

I don’t think this one is rooted in science but I’m a big fan of having little comfort items. Just little „emotional support trinkets“ or lucky charms you can carry with you and look at or fidget with when you get nervous. Of course it’s important to not fall into overconsumption with that (impulsively purchasing lots of items you then do not end up actually using or even just purchasing them for the thrill of purchasing), but, if done intentionally (only picking a limited number of items that you actually form an emotional attachment and assign personal meaning to), I believe it can be a simple way to boost happy feelings. It can also work well as your own little „secret“ Pride item! If you don’t feel safe or comfortable wearing rainbow accessories but want something to affirm your identity for yourself, it can be a great idea to assign your own meaning to something totally random. Good way to train your creativity too! 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

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heloïse looking at marianne

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Pride month Day 23

Jennifer & Needy

Jennifer's Body (2009)

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Things cats were right about all along:

Fuck staying hydrated by drinking enough water - eat! more! wet! food! (watermelon, cucumbers, SOUP!)

Feels great to be really high up in your house where you can see the whole place (loft bed loft bed loft bed loft bed!)

Express yourself as clearly as possible when people are touching you and you don't want them to.

Optional, but you can also express yourself clearly when your people are not touching you and you want them to.

Sometimes it's important to just go "hmm. actually, I don't care" and wander off.

You don't have to be the strongest or toughest to defend yourself, it's enough to just be difficult enough to not be worth the trouble.

Ghosts will eventually leave if you stare at them for long enough.

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Tenjuan Temple, Kyoto, Japan

kyotophotograph

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The current state of the gl fandom

As someone who got into gl with gap the series in 2022 I have had the priviledge of seeing how the fandom has grown and changed over these past few years and while I do love the community some issues have been cropping up that i find to be really disheartening.

First I'll start with the change in the way some casual fans of the genre talk about Freenbecky and Gap the series because it is linked to a few other problems that have popped up.

Now I love Gap the series and in my eyes it will always be perfect but I can admit that criticism about certain aspects of the show are valid. The acting was not FB best even though I think it was still good. The budget was low and it reflected in parts of the production. What people neglect to mention is the circumstances the show was made under. They had 3 dollars and a dream. Gap was a risk and it the time of airing it was revolutionary for wlw media worldwide. To my knowledge there wasn't any full length dramas between two women where the romance took centre stage especially with the tropes Gap had. Freenbecky were praised for their NC scenes because it also wasnt as common to see desire between two women portrayed with that level of care before.

They weren't the only ones to do it but they were notable. Now a switch has flipped and the things they were praised for are the same things they are criticized for all of a sudden they're terrible actresses and people only love their sex scenes. Never mind the fact that their sex scenes dont even take up a quarter of the run time of their shows or the fact that they never even show skin. You would get far more of a show from porn. Which some people genuinely try to compare their shows too.

These criticisms extend beyond them. Any show that shows sex scenes between the leads is porn adjacent and made for fetishists and "gooners" and now that Korea and Japan are starting to make full length gls suddenly all thai gls are cringe, low budget and have shitty acting.

I wish people would realise that the thai gl scene is in its infancy and its still leading the entire world in wlw rep. Its too early to make sweeping generalizations of it. Beyond that thai gl isnt a monolith. There are small companies and big companies with varying levels of money and talent and we are lucky to have all of it even the bad. Straight media isn't held to the standard of perfection, gay media isnt held to that standard and so sapphic media shouldn't be either.

We all have our standards and the right to critique any show we'd like but we can do that and still respect the fact that the show exists. That people enjoy it and that as good or bad as it may be it is another crucial bit of rep that deserves to exist.

We also need to stop treating gls ships like kpop groups. We all have our favourites you can probably tell who mine are from this post alone but that doesnt mean we can enjoy others. There's enough competition with award shows there's no need for random comparisons that only serve to tear down one ship in the effort to uplift others.

At the end of the day the more shows with wlw rep the better. We can have our Friendly Rivalry, The loyal Pin, 23.5, Chaser Game W and Couple of mirrors all at once its not and either or situation. Wheter its heavily coded or explicitly queer its needed and it should be appreciated.

And if you genuienly think there are no good thai gls I geniunely think you're an idiot.

Also sex scenes dont need a reason to exist. People have sex. Its not always to culmination of weeks of slow burn sometimes its brief and messy and just for pleasure. Shows should be able to depict that without everyone clutching their pearls.

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For @breadcrumbshome : Kacy + longing

Kate sits alone at the bar, her head low as she stirs her drink with a small, thin straw, watching as the ice cubes tumble over each other, her mind full of the memory of the first time she came here and the woman she met. 

She has been back on the island for five weeks now, and has spent four weeks and three days avoiding the one person she was desperate to see again, because there is no way they can be anything now she has discovered that she and Lucy will be working together.

So Kate comes to the bar to replay the one weekend they shared, like some kind of self-inflicted torture, becuase oh, all she wants is to experience Lucy all over again; the flirting, the gentle teasing, her silly jokes that made Kate laugh, the taste of her lips, the feel of her hands on Kate’s bare skin.

Kate tries to shake the thoughts from her brain, wondering if Lucy would think her silly for being here, for reminiscing.

She doesn’t notice Lucy sat in the booth on the other side of the room, her face hidden under a baseball cap, nursing a whisky and watching Kate from afar; she doesn’t know that Lucy hasn’t stopped thinking about that weekend since she waved goodbye to Kate’s cab on Sunday afternoon; and she doesn’t know that Lucy has the same wish that she does, that they could forget that they are colleagues for just one more night.

💛🧡❤️🩷💚🩵💙💜

5 sentence fic challenge

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ALIENWLW’S TOP QL DRAMAS | Friendly Rivalry (2025)

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Friendly Rivalry // Ep 08

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My photography.

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LUCY & KATE | NCIS HAWAI'I 1x06

- “ It’s not easy always being the bad cop. - I don’t think you’re bad. In fact… I think you’re amazing.”

Requested by @this-url-was-not-yet-taken

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Roland Barthes, A Lover’s Discourse