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I'm going to two social events over the next two days and the people who've organised the events are from the same friendship group. I'm not 'close' to them compared to how close they are to each other, and I'm just afraid I'll be left out or something. One's a birthday dinner and the other is a party. I'm can be quite shy at times. I'm just anxious is all because usually when I hang with people it's on a one on one basis.

Hey there!I'm sure a lot of people have been through the same tricky situation. Well, don't be worried over the fact that you might be left out. It is in these fun yet kinda scary social situations where you can possibly form new friendships and/or meet new people. So just stay confident, get dressed up in your best way, think positive, and just try to have fun. Try to be a little more chatty and bubbly than usual, and just not worry so much and enjoy the best out of each situation.IF you were really left out because you aren't that close to this group of people, I will suggest you to try to talk to others who seem to feel a bit left out as well. Try to smile and initiate a conversation with them about random stuff. you will feel better meeting new people instead of sulking in a corner and thinking that this party or birthday dinner sucks. And if there comes a situation when there aren't any people who are feeling as left out as you, then just come up with an excuse and leave the place early. You wouldn't want to feel miserable for the whole night, right? This is what I do in most social situations when I felt really awkward and well, it usually works. :)Hope this helps, and don't worry about it. I'm sure you will have fun if you step out of your comfort zone and try doing new stuff in these events. It will only help you broaden your social circle and stuff, so why not give it a try? Good luck. (:

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Hey :) hope you're doing alright. Lately I really feel stupid or like there's something wrong with me. Because I have a friend and we used to think the same about sex - we're both 19 and virgin - and we agreed that it was stupid to rush things just to say 'i'm not a virgin' but it's been a month she's acting completely different; she says she'd like a one shot just to get rid of her virginity and I think she wants me to say the same but I still think the same so I don't know what I should do ..

Hey there. I'm doing fine, thank you. :) Well, I think everyone has different opinions on different issues and it's really rare to find someone who feels or thinks the same way as you on something. I think the next time when your friend talks about this issue on having a one shot, just stay quiet and when she asks you about your opinion, tell her truthfully that you feel it will be better not to have sex just because you want to prove that you're finally not a virgin. If she insists on you feeling the same way as her about this, just tell her firmly that "no, I can't. Sorry about that." Don't worry about the fact that you have a different opinion from your friend. If she can't even accept the fact that you and her aren't thinking the same way anymore, then I guess she doesn't deserve you anymore as a friend. Honestly, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin dear. I will advise people to not rush into things unless they are already attached to a nice and responsible guy because well, casual sex brings about consequences which you might not be able to cope with when the time comes. Hope this helps! (:

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Hey dear. So sorry I've been busy for the past few days, but I'm online now:)

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My boyfriend says he'll break up with me if I transfer to another college even though it's only 2 hours away. He said he'd be fine with it if we could share an apartment there since he couldn't afford one by himself but I REALLY wanted to live on campus in a dorm. He's also paranoid cause 2 of our friends recently broke up with their boyfriends so they could be free to date at the colleges they're currently attending. He says relationships need compromise but his suggestion doesn't seem fair.

Hey there. Well from what you've described, I can tell that your boyfriend is taking this relationship very seriously. I think you have to tell him calmly that firstly, you love him and that you're not going to break up with him even if you are transferring to another college. You understand how he's feeling now but you promise that this will not separate the both of you no matter what. Secondly, explain to him that you really really want to live in a campus dorm for whatever reasons you have. It will be good if your reasons are really important, such as staying in a campus dorm because you're trying to save up money or something like that. I'm sure he will understand. However, if you think that your boyfriend might not agree to this, what I will advise you to do is to just share an apartment with him, if you really don't want him to break up with you. It might seem like the best choice now because him being paranoid is already bad enough, and the issue of you not agreeing to whatever he wants is just making the situation more difficult to handle for the both of you. Hope this helps, and good luck.

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ok so i dont know if you can give me advice on this but hey here goes. So a week ago me and my dad got into a teeny argument over the fact that he didnt like my opinion on something so i said to him "see this is why i never talk to you, you dont care about my opinions and thoughts and never once in my life have i ever had a conversation with you that has lasted more than 30 seconds"- which is true and now i fear that he hates me for saying it and that ive upset him even though its true :'(

Aw man, it sucks to have an argument with your parents or other family members. I don't know the full situation, but what happened after that? Did your father start giving you the cold shoulder or was there anything that he did that tells you that he hates you? Whatever it is, just remember that you shouldn't be worrying at all. A parent's love towards his or her own child will not disappear just because of a careless remark that his own teenage child said out of anger. I know this myself because I have once gotten into a similar situation with my dad. We ignored each other for a few days before he actually came to talk to me about this and we apologized to each other. I'm sure he won't hate you or stop loving you just because of that quarrel, but if you're really having deep worries about this, why don't you apologize to him? You can always write him a letter telling him that you're sorry for saying such hurtful words, if you feel that it's too awkward to express your feelings face to face with your parent. You can also tell him calmly and politely that you wish he can give you more freedom to express your opinions and to respect your opinions in all situations in the future. Hope this helps, and good luck. :)

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I need some advice.. I’m in love for three years now, and he still doesn’t know it.. Now he has a girlfriend since september and I still can’t get over him :( Do you know something that could help me? I’m really desperate ..

Hey dear, I guess you have to tell yourself that no matter how nice or charming he is to you, there is no way you can get together with him now because he already has a girlfriend; you have to remember that. I will suggest you to head out and expand your social circle, form new friendships, and who knows, you might find just another guy out there whom you truly deserve. Try to stop yourself from thinking about this guy, and the best way you can do so is to delete all "memories" that you have with him. Such as, the photos you and him took, or the messages the both of you sent to each other. Tell yourself that you'll find a nice guy out there who will love you as much as how you had always wanted to be loved by someone. Let me assure you, that day will definitely come, and be prepared for it. Meanwhile, just go out, enjoy your life while making new friends and engaging in new interests, and flick that guy off your mind. I'm sure you will get over him soon. Good luck. (:

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I need advice! My boyfriend is about to break up with me because I was talking to my ex when I promised I wouldnt. My boyfriend says unless I can convince him to give me another chance hes out. What can I do to get his trust back?!

Well I think the only thing you can do now is to have a talk to him about this. Tell him calmly that you will stay true to your promise this time (and that is really important) and that you are never talking to your ex ever again. Try to prove to him that by deleting your ex's phone number from your contacts, or even change your phone number so your ex won't be able to talk to you again. You have to really make him feel convinced that you aren't going to break your promise anymore, and be serious about it. Tell him that you're really sorry about this, you truly love him, and you realize that you've committed a serious mistake by breaking your promise. I don't really know the full situation but I think the most important thing you've to do now is to really, stay true to your words. You must understand that you were the one at fault here because you were the one who broke your promise to him. If you show true sincerity, I'm sure he will forgive you dear. Hope this helps and good luck. :)

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Stay strong everyone. (:

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I've liked this guy in my science class for a while now, I try to make eye contact with him to hint to him and today we had this great eye contact after school! Tonight I was thinking about messaging him to (hopefully) get the ball rolling. What's a good way to start a message, should I just say 'Hey :-)'?

Hey there! :)Yeah I think your idea is great. you should just start off with a simple greeting, such as "Hey" or "Hi there" and yeah, I'm sure you get the idea. Don't get all eager or excited about talking to him and end up chatting non-stop. I've seen some of my friends who actually text guys long chunks of texts while the guys only reply with a few words. So try not to do that because it gives the guy a bad impression of you. I'm sure he will reply your message. Hope this helps, and good luck. :)

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You are absolutely fantastic !

Oh that was really random but hey, thanks a lot for that compliment. :)