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it’s not a coincidence that lissa’s spirit skills grow substantially once rose comes back. for one thing, she’s motivated to learn things like charming objects for rose’s sake, which gives her the push she needs. but if that were the only factor, she’d have learned to walk dreams when rose left.

i think her rapid improvement is largely because, once she starts to take back responsibility for her safety and well-being and starts to detangle herself from her codependency with rose, she is empowered in her own right. since spirit is all about giving parts of yourself, it makes perfect sense that when she treats rose like a friend again, and not a crutch or a shield, her spirit truly starts to blossom.

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Doofenshmirtz is kind of proof that you can, in fact, make one of the funniest characters out there by throwing shit at the wall.

He’s a supervillain, he’s amicably divorced, he was raised by ocelots, his evil ambitions only stretch as far as taking over the tri-state area, he’s in a romantically-coded/joked about rivalry with a sentient platypus, he’s a good dad, he once lost a fight with a potted plant, he was forced to be a lawn gnome. But most importantly, he never gives up.

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my girl sydney and dimitri would bond soooo much over architecture they’d be getting into wild debates over eastern vs western european buildings and they’d both walk away GRINNING

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Awww they are such little cuties 🥺

Again please people don't be hateful towards these two they are just little girls I'm reminding you again don't hate on these little girls please they are obviously very sweet

They remind me so much of my niece honestly it's destroying me 😭

Child actors and children in general are my biggest weaknesses

Again I'm reminding people to not hate on them

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btw suzanne collins not mentioning skin tone of characters in sotr was absolutely intentional since the book and movie have been connected since their announcement

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i need you all to know that it is quite likely that, for their first kiss after Peeta comes back from the Capitol, it is very likely that Peeta still didn't have his eyebrows fully grown back in.

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cleaning along desire paths

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instagram.com/colormush

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i just want to one day be loved like elle woods’ sorority sisters loved her

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sometimes the show is not self-aware. it does not understand what it is showing us. how else could you explain the near perfect parallel it gives us regarding angel and spike and their attitude toward buffy and dawn

like buffy asks soulless spike to protect a magically important nearly-fifteen-year-old dawn after she dies and his response is until the end of the world (not even until he dies but possibly longer) and he becomes her babysitter teaches her card games and they paint each other's nail

where as the ptb send word to a fully souled angel that he must protect a magically important freshly sixteen-year-old buffy and his first thought is wow she's clearly part of MY destiny this is a romance thing and it's gonna be so hard NOT TO FUCK HER

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On Thanksgiving, I witnessed something I think was one of the best parenting moments I’ve ever seen.

I’ve been adopted by my coteacher’s family, and since I have no family around where I live for the holidays, she invites me to her house. I go to birthday parties, soccer games, family events, the whole deal.

Her young son (he just turned 5) was swinging around a toy on a string in circles. She asked him quite a few times to stop because he was too close to people and it could hurt them, but he still continued to do so. While he was swinging it, it smacked her pretty hard in the leg, hard enough to leave a bruise later.

Right away, her husband ordered him to apologize, and with a rather less than sincere voice, he said “sorry.”

She looked at him dead straight and said, “I don’t accept your apology.”

The kid was floored. He just stood there and didn’t know what to do. Her husband asked her why she said that, and she said, “He’s not sorry. He doesn’t know what he did wrong or how to fix it. He just said it because you told him to. So, no, I don’t accept his apology.”

After a few seconds, she walked away. The kid just stood there, confused and not knowing what to do. So, we at the family dinner table, walked him through what happened.

“She asked you to stop so no one would get hurt, and you didn’t listen. And now, someone got hurt.”

“Do you think saying sorry made it stop hurting?”

“Do you feel bad about it?”

“What can we do to fix it?”

And he agreed he should stop swinging around the toy and went to a different room so no one would get hurt. No more forced apology. Just action.

Eventually, about an hour later, he offered a sincere apology to his mom and gave her a hug. Only then did she accept his apology and told him why. Not because he said he was sorry, but because he stopped once he realized what he was doing did hurt someone, and he went on to fix the problem.

So many parents force their kids to apologize, and she’s told me time and time again it always makes her feel uncomfortable because usually the kid doesn’t regret their actions or want to apologize. Parenting isn’t always pretty words and being gentle. Sometimes you have to prepare them for real-life situations, and unconditionally accepting or being understanding of their actions isn’t always the best way to go.

Not only is this teaching him how to genuinely apologize for his behavior and do better, but it also makes him realize words are just words until action is taken. That’s the only way things get fixed.

Is there gray area? Absolutely. Is this always going to work? Absolutely not. But, is it a step in the right direction to teaching children how to genuinely apologize? Most definitely.

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Me for the millionth time: Katniss Everdeen is a sweet reserved girl whose impression of herself as selfish and mean is not accurate to her actions.

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Can’t wait for, like, 2025 when we look back on the 2018/2019 era and say “hey, remember when we were all really freaking depressed? That was a crazy time! Glad we aren’t like that anymore”