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Healing occurs at the Rate of the Injured

In my life I’ve been both the victim and the perpetrator. I’ve been the person who inflicted the pain and I’ve been the one receiving the pain on behalf of someone else’s choice. … It certainly was no picnic on either side. When I inflicted the pain I didn’t want to be repeatedly reminded of, and punished for my error. And when the pain was inflicted, especially if I felt the apology wasn’t…

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This popped up in my memories not long ago. You can’t tell by looking; I portray a pretty happy persona, but behind that smile was a very sad, broken hearted, hopeless girl. … This was 2013. I’d been divorced for 6 years. I’d had a myriad of failed relationships. And the last one had ended about 3 weeks prior to this moment. … Directly after the breakup, in a desperate attempt to soothe my broken…

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How Defensiveness Builds Walls Between Others and Stunts our Personal Growth Pay attention: The things you are defensive about can have a lot to teach you.…

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Education is Valuable; Experience is Invaluable

Let’s face it, some things can’t be taught. And experience is one of those things. … I could describe the pain and heartache that comes with divorce. The grief and hurt that accompanies a death of a loved one. The anguish of losing an unborn child. The hopelessness of being sick, and scared, not knowing what might happen next. I’ve lived through all of these things. But unless someone has…

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Showing up for Ourselves Naturally Decreases our Fear of Abandonment

I can trace my fear of abandonment back to my childhood. I was only 7 or 8 years old when I got in some trouble (I don’t remember even what for 🤷🏼‍♀️). As punishment I was left home as my mom and my siblings went to visit my grandmother. After she got in her car and started backing out the driveway, I ran out of the house after her, down the gravelly drive, and then the deserted country road we…

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You Will Never be a Burden to Those Who Love You One of my dearest childhood friends called me the other day. “I dont know,” she said “he just has so much going on right now.

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Recognizing and Overcoming Emotional Triggers

Ahhhh triggers. Those pesky little things we like to avoid. They seem to jump out at us, sometimes from the most unexpected places and leave us in a state of panic and anxiety. … Many years ago I was in a relationship full of dysfunction. I dated a man who was very immature and if he found himself in an uncomfortable situation he would simply leave. Like hit the road 👋🏻🚗. Without me. He did this in…

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Radical Change Requires Radical Acceptance.

One of the most impactful moments of my life happened when I first met my psychologist. … I was in a mess. My entire life was deteriorating around me at a rapid pace. I was in the midst of a divorce. I had been terribly betrayed by my sister. And to make matters worse one of my closest friends died unexpectedly. She was only 32 and left behind 3 children. I was devastated in more ways than one, and…

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Wanna know why sociopaths and narcissist seek positions of power? To abuse and manipulate those who they view as “beneath” them. This sociopath hacked emails and triangulated and tortured her victims with information she should never had access to. . . . . . . #exposingthesociopath #sociopath #narcissist #antisocialpersonality #narcissism #femalesociopath #femalenarcissist #narc #personlalitydisorder #parentalalienation #sociopathicmother #narcissisticmother #evil #delusional #psycho #psychopath #psychopathicmother #mommydearest #psychology #liar #abuse #narcissisticabuse https://www.instagram.com/p/BzolyqXgABN/?igshid=w5ayk88aqv0i

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Narcissism: Inherent or learned? Here’s the thing. We don’t inherit disease. We LEARN disease. By our daily habits. Our diets, our lifestyle, our choices. These are what contribute to our health physically. In the same way we LEARN behavior and thought patterns. It’s what contributes to our health emotionally. The same reason drinkers drink, is the same reason abusers abuse. It’s often a behavior they’ve seen as a child and it’s habitually learned and passed down through generations. BUT- we are all capable of change. We can CHOOSE to unlearn our poor eating habits, we can CHOOSE to put the bottle down, and we can CHOOSE to not abuse. It’s the reason not everyone grows into the sick adult their parent or grandparent was. Whether it be diabetes, heart disease, or narcissism. If you find yourself saying “It runs in the family” to anything negative physically or emotionally that is a struggle for you, don’t be afraid to get the help you need to overcome the root trauma causing your ailment. Be the change. Be the hero. 💛 https://www.instagram.com/p/BzodKVWAJ3X/?igshid=12lzpgv4lodab

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And this is how it happens. We often hold on to an illusion, something we want to be true about our life narrative that just simply isn’t supposed to be. It’s heartbreaking. And it hurts beyond belief, but with truth and acceptance healing can come. . . . . . . #exposingthesociopath #sociopath #narcissist #antisocialpersonality #narcissism #femalesociopath #femalenarcissist #narc #personlalitydisorder #parentalalienation #sociopathicmother #narcissisticmother #evil #delusional #psycho #psychopath #psychopathicmother #mommydearest #psychology #liar #abuse #narcissisticabuse https://www.instagram.com/p/BzerncZgzPk/?igshid=op0lm76e4c1b

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Maybe it won’t be your fault, but there’s a reason you landed where you did. And when it’s over, perhaps after the discard, is finally your opportunity to get healthy. . . . . . . #exposingthesociopath #sociopath #narcissist #antisocialpersonality #narcissism #femalesociopath #femalenarcissist #narc #personlalitydisorder #parentalalienation #sociopathicmother #narcissisticmother #evil #delusional #psycho #psychopath #psychopathicmother #mommydearest #psychology #liar #abuse #narcissisticabuse https://www.instagram.com/p/BzerLW2gjQA/?igshid=150m01oxfsbev

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I know for myself, it is not saying something and wishing I had. I am VERY good at biting my tongue. But when I do choose to speak, I am well thought out, informed, and my tongue is very sharp. • What do you think is worse? . . . . . . #exposingthesociopath #sociopath #narcissist #antisocialpersonality #narcissism #femalesociopath #femalenarcissist #narc #personlalitydisorder #parentalalienation #sociopathicmother #narcissisticmother #evil #delusional #psycho #psychopath #psychopathicmother #mommydearest #psychology #liar #abuse #narcissisticabuse https://www.instagram.com/p/Bzep4S_gpau/?igshid=tc6d4mm2a34m

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Often times scapegoats have no CLUE they’re the scapegoat or have even been involved in a narcissistic family dynamic. But one thing you can count on; the narcissistic family will ALWAYS blame the scapegoat for every problem that ever was from the beginning of time, till the end of time. And no, I’m not exaggerating. . . . . . . #exposingthesociopath #sociopath #narcissist #antisocialpersonality #narcissism #femalesociopath #femalenarcissist #narc #personlalitydisorder #parentalalienation #sociopathicmother #narcissisticmother #evil #delusional #psycho #psychopath #psychopathicmother #mommydearest #psychology #liar #abuse #narcissisticabuse https://www.instagram.com/p/BzeoJJqAEnS/?igshid=1p7kodurcflrr

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I don’t know how many times I’ve spoken with clients or friends who are at a loss and in need of direction in their lives when I turn the question back to them “what would you advise your best friend, son, daughter (fill in the blank) to do in the same situation? •They immediately know how they would advise their loved one. And it pains me to watch their hearts sink, as they know what they need to do. •The thing is we all know the answer to our own questions. It’s when we are able to be subjective we gain clarity. Our emotions cloud us, we are attached, sometimes dependent on others, and fear what life looks like on the other side. Whether it be a job you’re unsatisfied with, a relationship that’s not working, or a long held belief that doesn’t hold up anymore, the unknown always brings fear and anxiety. • I have also, and would be lying if I didn’t admit I still fear the unknown. What will happen if I reject a long held belief? Am I a hypocrite? A fake? - gosh, I hope not. Those are things I immensely dislike. But the more I come to know, the more I come to know, I don’t know. I am ever evolving, ever learning, ever changing. A student of the Divine power I call God. And the more I think I know God, the more I understand that what I think I know is also very limited. I put God in a box, a small box, and then call Him awesome, and glorify Him, not understanding fully his glory. •At the end of the day, I believe our innate wisdom and that “voice” within us comes from the divine. That which created us IS divine, and so, therefore we must be also. For how could something so awesome, create something useless? And this is why we must learn to connect to and trust that which we already know 💗 #thedivineinmehonorsthedivineinyou #trustyourself #youalreadyknow #truthseekers https://www.instagram.com/p/BzO_wayAhxe/?igshid=1le8acervv99e

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Healing far transcends reading self help books, and seeing a professional for talk therapy. These are both important aspects of healing, but health is all encompassing. After you’ve been traumatized is often a very difficult time to ensure you are doing all you can to be healthy. But the truth is, it is probably the most crucial time for self care. And I’m not just talking about bubble baths. Our gut is our second brain, and if we neglect it we suffer. Emotionally we are depressed, angry, and easily agitated. More and more researchers are finding a link to poor gut health and mood/personality disorders. Our gut microbiome affects the quality of our sleep, and our emotional responses to triggers. Not to mention, poor nutrition often leads to life threatening illness later in life like cancer, Alzheimer’s, and diabetes. The bottom line: No matter what stage of healing you are in, nutrition matters! Now is a great time to further your emotional healing by cutting out refined sugars and alcohol and focus on eating more organic fruits and vegetables, whole grains, hormone free meats, and making sure you are moving your body for all those feel good endorphins! #healingfromabuse #holistichealing #narcissisticabuse #trauma #guthealth https://www.instagram.com/p/BzL5vehAIQq/?igshid=17cj1458pp8da

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Hey all! I’m back and I have to say, this has been an exhilarating break for me. I’ve listened to podcasts, read books, practiced yoga, healed my body emotionally and physically, had amazing conversations, deeper personal connections, spiritual insights and have felt a shift within. I have gained more clarity, understanding, compassion, and tolerance. I feel renewed, and ready to focus on the deeper meaning of life, and love as I move forward with this platform. Just a heads up, I do plan to shift more into the physical and spiritual part of healing and explore how all parts (physical, emotional, spiritual) are connected to the whole self and our ultimate individual and societal well being. ���. Looking forward to being healthier, and happier with you all. 🙏🏻 #enightened #lovewins #connection #wellbeing #weareone https://www.instagram.com/p/BzLiZMtAI_i/?igshid=1i5bq682v0kd