#connection

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Tags by @feykiller:

#honestly this kind of behaviour is how I realised that online spaces are not as it was before #literally every kind of conversation in public spaces is less conversation and more of a public performance

#being “politically correct” and using therapy speak has it made it hard for people to just be and speak as themselves

#its like a hive mind almost- you’re supposed to know and do xyz as the norm while ignoring your own regional culture #and how that brings its own value to the conversation

Personally I don't really understand why we are so anti-solidarity these days, but I don't like it.

"I relate to your struggle because it sounds similar to my struggle, therefore I want to help you with this the way I would have wanted to be helped myself" is pretty much the baseline of allyship. For whatever reason, though, it's almost become a matter of stolen valor and stealing the spotlight, and frequently I see it rejected outright.

I just don't get it. Personally I am thrilled when someone who Isn't Like Me reaches out to share help or even just an encouragement. I don't really see it as an out group "making it about themselves" if they're just trying to say they've experienced similar and sympathize.

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#asking questions builds community and connection Tag by @sojusalsa

I often see people say something along the line of “I’m not here to teach you about [insert minority group here]! Google is free! Educate yourself!” when someone is just asking honest questions and is clearly trying to educate themselves.

And I get not wanting to be at the beck and call of every person who decided they want to learn more because you happened to inspire them to widen their scope but also…just telling people to “google it” can be pretty dangerous because you have no idea what they’ll find of misinformation. Just telling them to look up authors from the minority group in question with zero suggestions could send them straight into the arms of some self loathing person who’s harming the group they’re part of.

And I know some people are going to respond with “If they wanted to know then-“ Well they asked you so they clearly do want to know and were probably hoping you could set them off on the right path.

My best advise is to tell people you don’t have the mental energy or desire to be anyone’s teacher and just give them a copy pasted list of sources you personally like and leave it at that. Or just ignore them.

And sometimes it’s okay to just say you can’t really help them because you don’t have enough knowledge yourself despite being part of said group. People have asked me about being intersex and unfortunately I don’t have much to say about the general state of intersex rights or biology because it hasn’t had a huge effect on my life so I never sat down to fully understand it beyond “the intersex experience depends from person to person but your intersex character is clearly just a futanari”

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