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an observation of the expectation of a woman

I have observed a prominent theme in the way women are treated compared to men when making mistakes, when they don't exceed expectations, the treatment of a man when he does, and I've found a disturbing theme of inequality. It all links to misogyny and traditional beliefs in the way women are presented and their role in society.

The theme present is that of the harshness women face in expectations. If a woman makes a mistake the same way a man does, the woman is more likely to face punishment through fear in messing up, even slightly, as it totally ruins their reputation and the way in which others perceive them.

This comes all the way from the deeply rooted misogyny from centuries ago. Men have always been placed on a pedestal, with a birth right to the vote, to an education, to working, to living. Women, on the other hand, fought long and hard all throughout history to gain these same rights, (although inequality is still present, that is a whole other topic) so we are treated with the perspective that if we fought so hard for these rights, these opportunities, we have to go above and beyond with them. Women are treated with the ideas that since we've been preaching equality, anything less than that is disgraceful. for example, making a mistake in a field as a woman can cost far more than if a man does, since he did not have to fight for his right to work and to have an education so it is expected he will make a mistake, but since a woman fought long and hard for the same rights it is expected they should be perfect.

can you see the irony here?

Men are treated with a gentle, nurturing respect since it is just socially acceptable for them to be better, and so making mistakes is natural and okay. However, women are treated roughly since through history, they have had to campaign their ability to work of the same value to a man, and so the second they mess up it seems to disregard the entirety of their preachings.

Traditional beliefs are still very much around, everywhere, and it affects half of the populations' every day lives.

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a take on modern poetry <3

recently people have been writing so called "poems", compositions of cliche ideas and overdone symbols, and it really pisses me off!

Sure, poetry can be what we want it to be, but when it consists of cannibalism being a symbol of infatuation, and the 'sun and moon' tropes, it lacks what truly makes poetry, poetry: soul.

It lacks the creativity and raw emotion expressed in innovative ways true to your own person, with metaphors relating to you, symbols that can be traced to your very roots. The commercialisation of poetry and writing takes all of that away, leaving the half-assed product as a direct outcome of recycled emotions and expressions you don't truly mean.

A true poem, however, comes out as a by-product of an expression of feeling on paper, written in ways maybe only you understand. Poetry is supposed to be the leftovers in the fridge after a revelational outburst of a meal made out of your own human feelings. The words on paper are only a small outcome of the otherwise immense self discovery and expression that comes whilst writing, and so 'bad poetry' per say does not exist, only unethical poetry does.

the unethical poetry in question is the writing that comes out of popular, 'trendy' metaphors and feelings we all know without any originality or experiences linked to it. It is the mass-produced 'poems' with no rhythm, dropping lines and sprinkled punctuation with no intention or meaning that links to the writing, only present because that's what you see in other currently popular works. It's the monotonous structures with no sense of human behind the writing, as if a robot could produce the same thing without a difference spotted.

through this, we see a link of capitalism and art as truly, these poems are written for the sake of money and publicity. Their writing keeps up with the current trend or themes relevant in media and culture, with ideas so simple a toddler could understand, supported by images in case that is still too difficult for you to grasp (although simplicity is not necessarily synonymous with bad writing, it's often used to gain as wide an audience as possible). Poetry is no longer a product of emotion and expression, but writing whatever will gain a quick buck and the most publicity in this modern world.

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forgive me father for I am human.

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"but poetry, beauty, romance, love, these are what we stay alive for." - N.H. Kleinbaum, Dead Poets Society