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[femmebis]

anyone who argues that femmes are gender conforming have never had a conversation with a femme about gender and/or see femmeness as synonymous with womanhood

[femmebis]

may all our bisexual dreams come true. may we find pleasure in our lives and joy in our relationships beyond our wildest dreams. may we be abundant in love and safety and community. may we find out it is all possible, and it is all waiting to welcome us, to celebrate our freedom and embrace us.

[femmebis]

i am not just bisexual. i am tragically bisexual. in the way that the hero of a shakespearean tragedy is bisexual. you know. yearningly. emotionally. unsuccessfully.

[femmebis]

I mean, I’m intersex, and I don’t mind it. We’re often grouped in with transgender people as a “gender minority” (for lack of a better term), and we’re a demographic like any other. It makes sense why we’d have our own chart. It helps to increase our visibility to be included in things like this, too.

Data from a recent report, which shows which types of relationships bisexual people are in. So you all can stop with your biphobic ‘bisexuals are always in M/F relationships’ nonsense.

(Note: binary trans people are included in the first graphic. The last two graphics are just created to be exclusively about them.)

Graphics by @isthisbicuIture on Twitter

Study: https://www.ilga-europe.org/report/intersections-the-lgbti-ii-survey-bisexuals-analysis/

[femmebis]

[femmebis]

bi feminists and bi activists against any and all biphobia are so so so important to me and i just can’t explain it in full with the right words to honor them. i tried writing a whole essay post earlier but it just didn’t encapsulate my point well enough, so here’s another one that does. i’m not even kidding, with the shit i’ve experienced in the past year, bi women and bi sapphics are so incredibly brave and strong. you truly cannot understand the trauma, pain, frustration, and rage unless you are one. if you’re bi and you’ve ever faced controversy as a result of taking up the space you belong in and being your authentic self, or even claiming you have a right to do so and live your own cultural life (because you do!), then i am so fucking sorry and i hope you find the support network you need from other fighting bisexuals who really do want to protect and help you with no strings attached.

[femmebis]

Hi bisexuals

[femmebis]

What does ‘your Holy Roman Empire’ mean?

(In reference to this post)

It’s a reference to a trend on social media, where people asked men how often they think about the Holy Roman Empire, with the joke being that men think about it more than you’d assume.

So, “my Holy Roman Empire” essentially means, “something I think about a lot more than you’d assume I do”!

[femmebis]

Data from a recent report, which shows which types of relationships bisexual people are in. So you all can stop with your biphobic ‘bisexuals are always in M/F relationships’ nonsense.

(Note: binary trans people are included in the first graphic. The last two graphics are just created to be exclusively about them.)

Graphics by @isthisbicuIture on Twitter

Study: https://www.ilga-europe.org/report/intersections-the-lgbti-ii-survey-bisexuals-analysis/

[femmebis]

WAGH YOUR HEADER IS SO CUTE !! how did you do that glowy effect if you don’t mind me asking :O

Thank you! 💖

I edited it in ibisPaintX, and I went to the layer underneath Miku, then used the Glow (Outer) effect. I then made a new layer above the glow effect layer, put the flag on it, then clipped the flag layer onto the glowing layer!

[femmebis]

Data from a recent report, which shows which types of relationships bisexual people are in. So you all can stop with your biphobic ‘bisexuals are always in M/F relationships’ nonsense.

(Note: binary trans people are included in the first graphic. The last two graphics are just created to be exclusively about them.)

Graphics by @isthisbicuIture on Twitter

Study: https://www.ilga-europe.org/report/intersections-the-lgbti-ii-survey-bisexuals-analysis/

[femmebis]

let's clear something up

femme does not mean long hair. butch does not mean short hair.

femme does not mean skirts. butch does not mean trousers.

femme does not mean make-up. butch does not mean no make up.

femme does not mean clean-shaven. butch does not mean unshaven.

femme does not mean thin. butch does not mean fat/muscular.

femme does not mean pretty. butch does not mean ugly.

get cishet people's idea of gender presentation out of your head

[femmebis]

My Roman Empire is canon bisexuals in animation 🩷💜💙

[femmebis]

honestly i get so sad when i think about the irreparable damage done to the bisexual community because of the ahistorical redefinition of what it means to be bisexual, like i spent so long thinking that i couldn't be bi because I'd been told emphatically that bisexuality didn't include trans people and that other identies focused on personality over gender/genitals where bisexuality didn't, and that's not only biphobic as hell that's also just.... wrong

to all those people out there wondering if bisexuality is for them, the definition of bisexuality has been "attraction regardless of gender" since the 1970s, there's such a wonderfully diverse and rich history of bisexuality, i promise you there is room for you in this identity and I'm so sorry other people have told you otherwise

[femmebis]

@wlw-orchids replied to your post “Femme bi women married to men still have stories about queerness to…”

actually femme is a lesbian term but bi women can use stag/tomcat/doe!

Just a few notes!

1. Tumblr is the ONLY place I’ve ever seen it claimed that “butch” and “femme’ are lesbian-exclusive. EVERYWHERE else–LGBTQ+ organizations, wlw magazines, drag shows, pride parades, academia–recognize that while many different groups under the LGBTQ+ umbrella have had special histories with the words “butch” and “femme”, the terms actually originated in straight culture and have been used by people of EVERY sex, gender, and sexual orientation, for decades.

2. Bi women CAN use stag/tomcat/doe, if they want. But overwhelmingly, we DON’T want to, and ACTIVELY resist having those terms shoved on us. The doe/stag/tomcat paradigm was invented in 2014 by two bi teenagers who were bowing to pressure from lesbian exclusionists; bi women have called themselves butch and femme for as long as lesbians have. (Until the 1970s, ”lesbian” historically meant “a woman who has been known to love/have sex with another woman” and wasn’t very strict about its definitions; historical “lesbians” include people who today would be recognized as bi, asexual, trans, or nonbinary) And if a large number of bi women WERE willing to give up the identities they’ve carried since forever, which is dubious, it would NOT be for terms as dehumanizing, and sex-essentialist, and hypersexual as doe/stag/tomcat..

3. I’m really disturbed by how much this claim is being pushed on Tumblr, because a lot of Tumblr’s audience is teenagers and people newly discovering their LGBTQ+ identities, who don’t have a ton of LGBTQ+ and allied friends to give them support and community. And, well, a lot of LGBTQ+ people, a lot of lesbians, really disagree with the idea that everyone should get scolded for using words they’ve always used. But Tumblr discourse primes teenagers and newbies to think “Anyone using butch/femme incorrectly is bad,” so when they go to their local pride parade or safe space or LGBT center or queer community, they’ll see ways those groups have talked about themselves for over fifty years and assume these are bad people who won’t support them. It teaches new/young people to look with suspicion and distrust about people who can be really valuable in their lives, and to interact with them in ways they don’t know come across as really hostile.

That keeps newer/younger LGBTQ+ people from forming friendships with or learning from other LGBTQ+ people outside a small circle on Tumblr–and when someone is isolated, and has been taught they can’t look to any outside source or do any independent research to tell them about their history or identity or what makes a relationship healthy, they are very at risk of being preyed upon, with no knowledgeable outside friends to say, “Hey, some of what your online friends are saying sounds really extreme. Are you sure letting them tell you what to call yourself, what to watch or read, how to dress, or who to sleep with is really healthy? Maybe you should tell them to back off and let you decide those things for yourself.”

[femmebis]

SALUTE THE FLAG, IT'S BI VISIBILITY DAY EVERYONE 🫡🫡🫡

[femmebis]

☽☾ | FEMME BISEXUAL ROXANNE WOLF ICONS

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