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kindness is important to me and comes naturally. i am also naturally empathetic.

and while words don't literally mean everything, words do however mean a lot to me and go a long way, specifically when actions reflect sentiments and vice versa.

i feel that if you speak, and maybe you're a person who chooses your words carefully and at times, even choosing specific words or phrasing, just with the truly honest intention of being kind and wanting to be positive and make a positive impact, i genuinely find that to be so, so deeply admirable and special. i try to be that way myself, with people i speak to daily, strangers, etc. i think it's important to speak thoughtfully and to pay attention to what we say--and at least be open to giving context to what we say and mean at times if needed--and always put ourself in someone else's place. how would we want to be treated?

the question "how would i want to be treated?" is so incredibly important and at its core it can and will change your life. sure, many of us were told this as kids, treat others how you would like to be treated... but i think instead looking inward for real empathy and asking "how would i want to be treated?" somehow communicates empathy differently in my opinion.

i guess i feel if "treat others how you would want to be treated" worked more and translated better a lot of things would be different in life, but...

how would i want to be treated?

you then think of your own behavior, if this involves being a more conscious and empathetic individual. you are led to imagine you're being spoken to with your words. someone else, speaking your inner workings, to you.

it can be easy to imagine what was said to them, said to you, and imagining that does bring forward a feeling based on how you would react to it.

this can change your life if you allow yourself to evolve and think of how others feel. but thinking about how others feel isn't just surface level--it does have to do with one's own behavior. even your own positive or neutral interactions, behaviors, sentiments, how might those make others feel?

how would you feel having those conversations with someone?

how would their actions and behavior make you feel on the inside?

how this all relates to kindness means, basic kindness, at the bare minimum, is not difficult, but does require someone to ask themselves...

how would i want to be treated?

i think that's a great question to ask. do you want kindness? do you crave peace? do you see another as human first?

would you want to be seen as human? would you want kindness? would you prefer peace?

being truly self-aware could grow from this, too... it all matters.

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nothing can stop me now

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you’re safe and you know it

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there should be 0 cops in schools

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You know what's thoughtful? Asking someone to finish their story when they get cut off in a group conversation. It's such little gestures that mean the most.

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her: i’m coming over you better not be trent reznor spinning in the closer by nin mv when i get there

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third single by American artist Nine Inch Nails from the album Pretty Hate Machine released in October 1990 save me

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By Kevin Westenberg.

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Trent Reznor and David Bowie

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Trent Reznor