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THIS. PERIODT.

But also:

If you’re chronic issues are only sometimes debilitating, meaning of course, that sometimes they are not, that does not make that debilitating time, periods, bouts, or flare ups any less valid.

You can have days where you are able to walk, and still have days that you can’t. You can have days where your pain is at a minimum, but that doesn’t change that you also have days where your pain is so severe that your vision goes black.

Just a couple examples; the list goes on and is unique to the individual. The similarity or through line is that both can be true, and they are both valid.

This is very important...

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This is so true, but I hate that we have to explain it this was to get people to care; like if it’s not going to directly impact them, then they can’t be bothered.

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I know this is kind of a “joke”, but this is actually really a BRILLIANT idea. Both commentary additions are *chef’s kiss*. Like, just thinking of how self-involved he is, if Donald were a robot he would short circuit trying to figure out if he wanted passes or not. Genius thinking out of the box way to get true reform done!

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You can and should set your own personal boundaries. You should feel comfortable doing so - no matter who you are, or who you are with. This is a bare minimum, and if that’s okay then there’s a problem… and that problem is not you.

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I don’t have mental health coverage for psychiatrist appointments now that I am in Ohio. I thought I had one refill left, but apparently I don’t. Does anyone know the quickest options for me service-wise so that I can get my Prozac refilled ASAP? I have no idea, so any help or guidance of where to turn is much appreciated - thank you and please boost if possible. (I have three days left, am going out of town in three days though, and if I am out of the med for 2 days my PTSD symptoms start to get really bad).

THANK YOU! <333

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LOOKING FOR RESOURCE: IMPORTANT AND TIMELY

I don’t have mental health coverage for psychiatrist appointments now that I am in Ohio. I thought I had one refill left, but apparently I don’t. Does anyone know the quickest options for me service-wise so that I can get my Prozac refilled ASAP? I have no idea, so any help or guidance of where to turn is much appreciated - thank you and please boost if possible. (I have three days left, am going out of town in three days though, and if I am out of the med for 2 days my PTSD symptoms start to get really bad).

THANK YOU! <333

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I've also heard the version "Just because I carry it well doesn't mean I should have to..." - relating to toxic relationships and trauma, but of course I think a lot more people can relate in a lot of ways. <333

Someone said “because I carry it well doesn’t mean it’s not heavy” I felt that.

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one moment that made me feel really happy (in a time where I have otherwise definitely been being put through the ringer) was when some people at my workplace asked about my sexuality and I came out, and then I just felt light as a feather about it. :) <333

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You are not bad at doing things, you're NEW at doing things.

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I always experience a whiplash of feelings when I read this - I start out nodding my heading like AMEN and then see who the quote is accredited to and am like, "dude, you didn't take your own advice."

I'm gonna assume he wasn't the first person to say this anyway. New mission: find an earlier person with less ick to attribute to... Challenge accepted!

“When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.”

— Louis C.K.

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I have (obviously) always hated the term "wife beater" for the name of this sort of tank top, sooooo, why we ya'll sleeping on me and not telling me there are folx that call them WIFE PLEASERS. I love it! ^O^

<333

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I totally understand that OP's post is supposed to be funny/a joke (I think?), BUT, just so everyone is on the same page:

People working customer-facing service type jobs (could be fast food, retail, customer service... anything where your job is done get things done swiftly and make people happy or "satisfied" are in very. vulnerable. positions.

There is so much pressure on these employees and people/consumers/customers/patrons (so many different kinds of people interacting) know this and take advantage of this. I wish it weren't true, but it absolutely is.

TL;DR if you are trying to decide being a wise-ass, or kind to someone helping you at their place of work, please be one of the people they remember for the better, not more difficult. You really can and do make an impact, and a difference.

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And I'll never forget who gave me grace.

i’ll never forget who gave me a hard time when i was already having a hard time

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It's the "Holiday Season" and I've been told I don't have the... spirit...

What was really being communicated to me was that my pain was an inconvenience; I did not go out of my way to make people comfortable, and I let myself feel my feelings even if that meant others had to begrudgingly acknowledge me too.

Give yourself this. Trust me, you deserve it. You do not owe people a watered down version of you or some facade with a fake smile plastered on your face so that you are easy to deal with.

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Remember to act as if what you do makes a difference... because it does. Every little thing. You'd be amazed at how it adds up.

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It's important to check in with yourself, and recognize your habits:

You aren't alone <333

I have felt all of these too, otherwise I wouldn't have thought to write them out for you to hopefully recognize and start taking care of yourself again too. It's never too late. you deserve it. If you don't think so, I'm here to assure you that you do. <333

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reblog if it's okay for your mutuals to message you and create an actual friendship, not just interactions