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You are not bad at doing things, you're NEW at doing things.

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I always experience a whiplash of feelings when I read this - I start out nodding my heading like AMEN and then see who the quote is accredited to and am like, "dude, you didn't take your own advice."

I'm gonna assume he wasn't the first person to say this anyway. New mission: find an earlier person with less ick to attribute to... Challenge accepted!

“When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.”

— Louis C.K.

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I have (obviously) always hated the term "wife beater" for the name of this sort of tank top, sooooo, why we ya'll sleeping on me and not telling me there are folx that call them WIFE PLEASERS. I love it! ^O^

<333

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I totally understand that OP's post is supposed to be funny/a joke (I think?), BUT, just so everyone is on the same page:

People working customer-facing service type jobs (could be fast food, retail, customer service... anything where your job is done get things done swiftly and make people happy or "satisfied" are in very. vulnerable. positions.

There is so much pressure on these employees and people/consumers/customers/patrons (so many different kinds of people interacting) know this and take advantage of this. I wish it weren't true, but it absolutely is.

TL;DR if you are trying to decide being a wise-ass, or kind to someone helping you at their place of work, please be one of the people they remember for the better, not more difficult. You really can and do make an impact, and a difference.

[formerly-feminish]

And I'll never forget who gave me grace.

i’ll never forget who gave me a hard time when i was already having a hard time

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It's the "Holiday Season" and I've been told I don't have the... spirit...

What was really being communicated to me was that my pain was an inconvenience; I did not go out of my way to make people comfortable, and I let myself feel my feelings even if that meant others had to begrudgingly acknowledge me too.

Give yourself this. Trust me, you deserve it. You do not owe people a watered down version of you or some facade with a fake smile plastered on your face so that you are easy to deal with.

[formerly-feminish]

Remember to act as if what you do makes a difference... because it does. Every little thing. You'd be amazed at how it adds up.

[formerly-feminish]

It's important to check in with yourself, and recognize your habits:

You aren't alone <333

I have felt all of these too, otherwise I wouldn't have thought to write them out for you to hopefully recognize and start taking care of yourself again too. It's never too late. you deserve it. If you don't think so, I'm here to assure you that you do. <333

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reblog if it's okay for your mutuals to message you and create an actual friendship, not just interactions

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Personally, I definitely think this qyalifies as a "fake it til you make it" kind of thing. That's how it was and is for me at least, and I think that's okay. It's a process, and doesn't happen over night. Sometimes you have to tell yourself something enough times to believe it. <333

[formerly-feminish]

It's important to check in with yourself, and recognize your habits:

You aren't alone <333

I have felt all of these too, otherwise I wouldn't have thought to write them out for you to hopefully recognize and start taking care of yourself again too. It's never too late. you deserve it. If you don't think so, I'm here to assure you that you do. <333

[formerly-feminish]

Yes to all your additions/comments!

Don't forget to take care of yourself. You need what you need. Give yourself the grace you give everyone else. Go get it, because you are worth it, I promise you. <333

[formerly-feminish]

Don't forget to take care of yourself. You need what you need. Give yourself the grace you give everyone else. Go get it, because you are worth it, I promise you. <333

[formerly-feminish]

It's okay to forgive yourself for doing what you needed to in order to survive.

It’s okay to forgive yourself for not knowing better. It’s okay to forgive yourself for knowing better and letting it happen anyway.

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Ooooo weee, I missed this poll, but damn, in my hay day on here, I got doxxed and got some of the most vial and horrifying things said to me... we'll just say the death threats were "nice" compared to some of the other things. Men scared of women on the internet making waves...

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You do not owe anyone constant productivity. You do owe YOURSELF rest.

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why is my mental illness racing in my chest

anxiety is so weird like why is my mental illness in my stomach