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i took your suggestion and got my nearing-due-date sister a nice set of shower supplies!!! A shampoo, conditioner, body wash, lotion, loofah, AND unscented hand cream!!! thank you so much for your suggestions, so helpful!!! it’s just that usually people are focused on the baby and they’ll gift baby things and I understand perfectly why but it’s like… what about the mothers, you know? But yeah anyway again thank you so much!!!

That’s so sweet and I’m certain it means so much to her that you’re thinking of her right now, especially because as you said there’s so much focus on the baby!! I hope the rest of her pregnant and delivery go smoothly and that you love being aunt 🥰

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Wishing you health and an easy birth as you get nearer to your due date!

Thank you! I can’t BELIEVE how close we are! I woke up this morning with Braxton hicks contractions so bad I thought it might be go time… how does time pass so slowly but also so quickly?????

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Hi! Hope you’re doing well! How long is maternity leave in America? Is it different depending on what kind of job you have and what state you live in? I feel like I’ve heard that it’s not that long. If that’s the case, that’s a shame!

It depends where you live and what your job covers. For me in my current position and company:

We have a federal 12 weeks of unpaid but job-potected leave for bonding with a baby (though I expect the current administration will rip this down)

My state has paid leave that includes 12 weeks of job-protected bonding with a baby, and potentially additional time for a birth-giving parent (as well as some other things like caring for an ill family member) that can combine for up to 26 weeks of coverage. The pay has a weekly cap. We pay state taxes/my company has to pay into this.

My company covers 16 weeks of bonding for new parents or birth recovery and will "top off" whatever of my income isn't covered by my state leave. In the event i have to stop working early for medical, or complications at birth would extend my medical recovery further, that can potentially fall outside of the 16 weeks, it just depends what the qualifying factors are.

I'm planning to take 18-20 weeks off. Thanks to my summer company break, I'll get an additional 2 weeks of fully paid leave, and then we'll see how recovery goes and how baby is settling in to decide whether I want those last 2 weeks at partial pay.

I'm very fortunate compared to how little paid time so many moms get, but my company is also pretty far behind other tech and entertainment companies (and certainly international) so...

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Oh shoot that sucks man! My dad just got diagnosed with diabetes as well and though it’s not gestational, he’s had a hard time adjusting to the change. Mike Flanagan’s other projects include: doctor sleep (the sequel to the shining), the haunting of bly manor (based on the turn of the screw but it switches up some narrative devices like Flanagan did with hill house and its source material), midnight mass (Catholicism, the brothers karamazov and vampires) and the fall of the house of usher (follows the narrative of usher while mixing in a bunch of other Edgar Allen Poe works). He’s also directing a movie coming out in June called “the life of chuck” and it has Tom Hiddleston in it.

It's a hard adjustment! I'm very relieved that mine is only temporary but T1 and T2 both run in my dad's family and my aunts warned me they all had GDM so I'm really hoping this isn't an indicator for things to come.

I am jotting all those suggestions down, thank you so much!

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Hey Foxy! I'm just stopping in because I was thinking of you and wanted to let you know your writing inspired me to write. I'm happy for you that your life seems full and busy right now. I hope you have time to do the things you love, even if that means writing just for yourself, just wanted to thank you for your words and I'll always be excited to read em when they are ready for us! Take care!

You're so sweet <3 <3 <3 I have been writing very little BUT... a little bit. A little bit is not nothing. I'm even just trying to get some journaling done because that's a start, and definitely thinking about my stories a lot which is always step one to working on them again. I've got a nursery that's just about ready for a baby girl in it, and the weather is gorgeous this weekend so we're getting our yard ready for a summer outdoors, hopefully spent writing in my hammock during baby's naps... so things are going pretty well right now as I am torn between trying to enjoy these last few weeks of my pregnancy and also really looking forward to being off work for a while 😉 I hope you're doing well and that I'll have more stories to entertain you soon!

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hello author foxy —

I see that you are not writing much anymore, but in case you do check and see this, I wanted to tell you that your writing is so inspiring. Im scared to try writing, scared of being terrible and not understanding how to craft a story, people not liking it etc etc.. I’m a fully grown adult, so it’s not like I can go back in time to college and add a creative writing class to my course load, so I don’t even know where to start. But I have decided that I will start. And really, it’s because I scrutinize and idolize writers like you and so I want to be brave and just do it!

Thank you so much, this is such a sweet thing to have read today that I wanted to catch up on my tumblr asks. You're right that I haven't written in a few months, and it breaks my heart, but I am absolutely still thinking of my stories and hope to get back to it in the near future! Right now I'm like 4-5 weeks away from having a baby, still working full time, and trying to get my life and family ready for that change, but the gears are turning so I'm hoping any day now I'll find the time 🤞

You should start! I'll secretly let you know that the fear around it never goes fully away, but it's such a muscle and as your writing muscle gets stronger from use, you also get better at ignoring the fears and doubts to just write. Don't even worry about the lack of a class or anything! You could start with just writing about your own life or feelings, or there are bajillions of writing prompt generators on tumblr and the internet that can give you a line or a quote to start with, or just let somethign start playing in your head and write down what you see. There are NO rules or requirements to start, don't worry about making something that's "whole" or "good" or "complete." You just start doing it and over time you'll start shaping and editing the things you write into something more structured and yet there will still be days where you have to go right back to the first step of just sitting down to write anything to get those muscles working again.

You've got this, and I wish you lots of joy and tears and self discovery and entertainment on your writer's journey!

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what do you think the science behind exposed forehead = sexy ass man is… a BTS member bares his forehead and suddenly their hotness level is cranked up to 10000000000000

It's gotta be just social trends in hairstyles, right? I love those series that show pictures of videos of hairstyles and fashions changing over the decades. Or maybe for some of us it was a transition from the haircuts that were popular for children when we were children to the more heartthrob haircuts of movie stars? I don't know!

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Hi Foxy,

Can across this poetry on Insta... Reminded me of Sasha's Story....It made me this of Sasha writing this as part of her own life experiences....

https: //www.instagram.com/p/C_HUHfJN3qJ/

Pls remove the space after https: for it to work

Even removing the space, it's just showing me a blank instagram site :( I'm sure it was lovely though and I"m so pleased you were thinking of Sasha! I have been thinking of Sasha a lot lately too, I am soooo ready to get back to writing for her. We've got some fun stuff ahead!

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Gotta say your gift ideas for new moms are spot on!

Anything that can give a mom a moment to herself or to rest is fantastic. It's so hard to do anything yourself, because you are literally there to serve and shepherd this new little one that cannot do anything for itself.

The nostalgia of you mentioning old stories here in replies and pregnancy talk makes me want to go back and read Sugar Fairy again (wishing you a pregnancy very smooth and with no stress, so unlike Pippa).

Do you ever get the urge to go back and read parts of your stories?

🎉

(P.S. Being in your inbox makes me happy too!)

Thank youuuuu <3 Honestly I think this pregnancy is being mostly fun. In most ways I feel better than I did with my previous ones despite worse morning sickness and now having gestational diabetes which I didn't ever have before. That was rough to adjust to and largely why I went MIA again on here because it just consumed soooo much headspace. But now I've got the hang of it and so even though I'm gettin the pregnancy insomnia and starting to FEEL the 34.5 weeks I am more now, I don't know, I just still think it's fun and miraculous and I'm trying to enjoy it as much as I can since 99% sure this is my last pregnancy. I'm also much healthier and smaller and more active than with my last pregnancies so that helps too (silver lining of the GDM!)

I do sometimes go back and read parts of my old stories! It's never the whole thing but every so often I'll feel hungry for a particular feeling or a particular scene and go on a little nostalgia path through a couple chapters. It's very fun, not only because i was writing stories I really wanted to read, but it just fills me with such fondness for that time in my life with everyone on here. I hope we get a renaissance in a few months!

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Hello, it’s been a few days and I just saw that you responded to my ask. I highly suggest watching the haunting of hill house if you have the time and if you haven’t already. It’s full of so many good quotes and moments and it’s really changed the way I look at the horror. I could wax poetics about the show and the creator (Mike Flanagan) all day but to make it simple: his body of work is amazing. He’s also on tumblr so there’s that. Everyone so often I’ll get one of his posts on my dash and it shocks me every time. Most of his works are available on Netflix presently

I will now!! I have to walk for 15-20 after every meal because I got diagnosed with gestational diabetes 🥲 but the brgiht side is I have been watching movies and TV shows while I use my walking pad when the weather is bad, so I'm really cruising through shows haha. So I appreciate the rec, I will check it out!

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KIDS ARE SO PRECIOUS OMGGGGG

https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSrMNN65b/

So sweet hahah. My 6 year old for some reason thinks that dancing together means you're married, so he keeps dancing with our dog and being like "we're married!" Which is such an odd marriage test considering me and his dad don't dance around the house because it makes the dogs bark and jump on us, my older dog HATES dancing.

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you’ve given birth twice now (and you’re about to do it the third time) so I have a question:

what do you suggest I should give my sister for after she gives birth? Like, some kind of post-partum care? Things for her, not for her newborn. What do new mothers who just went through labor want for themselves?

Sleep 😂😂 I’ll be honest the BEST gift I got from anyone was a friend who dropped off a bag of meals on my front porch, texted me the food was there, and drove away. No hosting, no small talk, just caregiving. Same could go for treats, coffee, whatever, or offering to do some loads of laundry or dishes. Any time NOT spent doing things like that is time spent snuggling baby or resting and recovering.

Alternatively if she’s up for having you over, a box of nice shower supplies and a period of watching the baby so she can actually shower and wash hair and all that without rushing is also lovely. Finding time and energy to shower in the first few weeks can be tough. Nice new comfy pajamas could be good too, sort of in that topic of feeling fresh and clean and pretty.

there are definitely other things:

- unscented nice hand lotion (you do SO much hand washing it dries your skin out)

- gift cards to literally any place that is nice to walk around with a baby when you need out of the house

- pedicure! It was a while before I felt like a massage would be good because a nice pedicure for as soon as comfortable leaving the baby is so good

- I know this includes baby, but pictures and video of her with the baby. No mom ever has enough and those early days are a blur like no other. Doesn’t even need to be professional, just recording the simplest smallest moments

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Hi foxy. I hope you are doing great, please take care of yourself!! Just wanted to tell you how amazing your writing is. To be honest, sometimes I dont miss your update🤣🤣 only because youre such an amazing storyteller. I can read the old stories multiple times. Currently I am rereading Meadow and the raw pain it brings in me everytime is so crazy. But i feel the same reading Amended, The Lowlander, Sugar fairy, Flux and every single one. I dont know how every single of your story can be such masterpiece!

Awwww thank you, it’s so heartwarming to still get notes like this even when I haven’t had the time/energy to write the way I want to. I am so fond of those stories but largely because they will always remind me of my time here and all the lovely people I’ve met!

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decided that he is real, my imagination isn't that rich to create such a divine flawless perfect out of this world beautiful human being 👍

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[475/547] — until we meet again, jungkook ♡

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Is it just me or does anyone else also think that Sasha and Halsey (the singer) are like twins??? They give me the same vibes and everything, I hope with all my heart even if it's a minimal interaction with her because wow bi panic

as a big fan of Halsey and my baby S I've had this in my head for so long I also think Sasha had her tumblr era and well Halsey is tumblr Queen 🥸

I wish I could say I know enough about Halsey to confirm or deny this but I'm glad you're feeling it and happy about it! There aren't many musicians I've learned a whole lot about --I'm not sure if it's just the way I go where I sample and move on, or because for so long I had to keep up with soooo much music and artists that I could rarely go deep into any one of them. Her interactions with BTS have always seemed so sweet and sinceer though!

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BTS really hate the military SHDKDHSKBSDHDKDHDK bc why is it that every time they give updates it’s always “I cannot wait to get out of here” 💀💀 especially joon… that man is ITCHING to ditch that place for good 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

What little I've seen, he really is. Can't blame him! Shouldn't be something anyone has to go through against their will!