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In an act of probably over-enthusiastic optimism, I’ve decided to add your Trello queue back to the open tabs on my desktop. A girl can dream. Manifesting that baby Lily (picking a girl name from one of your stories) will be calm and peaceful and enjoy sleeping for long, long periods and you will be motivated to write.

you and me both!!! I have it open now! I was hoping I could move something around as like a house-cleaning, airing out the laundry type of thing, like I'm opening up a cottage for the summer. I think I need to do some really short inconsequential drabble writing exercises to get my muscles warmed up again, debating whether I should bother posting when I do just to expose the process even if nothing remarkable comes out haha. Then I've got To Kill a King and My Matryoshka chapters started, two Patreon shorts ready to start, and I think I started the next After the Applause before my unexpected break too... Not to mention Owl Yoongi is just waiting on the fringe...

We considered Lily! Not a bad pseudoname for her at all. She skipped one of her nighttime feedings last night... does this mean better sleep ahead??? Or that she's gearing up to fake me out, because some newborns go bonkers at the 3 week mark and we hit that Thursday... 🙃 I wish I could write via voice notes while I walk around the neighborhood with her but I've always needed the tactile keyboard or a pen to write.

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I'm just starting a reread of the Secret Song series because I'm obsessed with Sasha and love her so much. I love how much growth we get to see from everyone and how much room you give JK and Sasha to be human! I am unreasonably worried by S's (fictional) academic career, but is she ever going to publish anything????? Also would she and Michelle get a cat if their next living situation allowed it? Anyways I hope you and baby Foxy are resting well and getting plenty of cuddles in!

OMG are you one of her professors??? 🤣🤣🤣 She's getting it from every angle.

Seriously though, she does need to publish. Or, if... I don't know... maybe fear of her family finding her... is holding her back, that's probably worth addressing with Dr. Kim.........

A cat would be SUCH a good idea for the girls!

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i think the annoying thing about the first-time mother experience is (at least for my sister) is your own mother criticizing every single thing you do 🙃 every time my sister posts a picture/video in the family gc my mother always has something to say.

“don’t hold the baby like that”

“don’t carry the baby like that”

“why is his skin splotchy like that? do you not bathe him?” (mind you his skin looked normal and the doctor had to reassure my sister during a checkup that there was nothing wrong with the baby’s skin)

“what the hell is that thing? why don’t you just hold the baby in your lap? you don’t want your fancy clothes to get wrinkled, is that it?” (guess what she was referring to… a fucking CAR SEAT)

“why are you wiggling the baby like that?”

and a million things more.

so now my sister is less inclined to share anything with us in the gc. and she told me the other day that she was not looking forward to our mother’s upcoming one-month stay (to help my sister out) because she was sick of mom’s comments.

i get that our mother means well but it’s just.. idk. like… this is why im never having kids 😭 because if it were me as a new mom I would have left the group chat and cut my mom out of my life like SHUT THE FUCK UUUUUPPPPP but my sister is better than me so she (tries to) take it in stride 🤠

Oh man, I am very glad I did not have THAT part of the experience. We didn't have any nearby family for our first two, so everyone was only getting a couple visits a year. I was the first of my generation in my mom's family to have babies and there was none of that going on, and actually I was desperate for my mom to be MORE involved when she would come visit. She acted like she didn't know anything about babies and was afraid to do any caretaking!

OH actually the ONE thing I remember LOL is that not putting socks or hats on my babies drove my mom and dad both crazy. Any time either of them saw bare feet or a bare head they scolded me 😂 but that was harmless, absolutely nothing like what you're descriping. I did have to draw some boundaries with my dad about things he isn't allowed to say to my kids or talk about with them (1. politics and 2. boys don't cry 🙃) but he mostly behaves because he absolutely adores them.

I am sooo sorry that your sister is having to deal with that. It's hard enough being a new mom without your own mom overstepping and making you doubt everything. I'm glad your sister is holding her own but that's really hard, especially if she isn't in a position to be able to tell your mom to back off. Best of luck to her in navigating that and I hope it doesn't spoil family events!

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joon posted a letter to armys on weverse at 12 AM on June 13th and he said he felt like huckleberry finn in it… and signed it off as ‘Free Man’…

Huckleberry finn, a scathing critique which examines escaping abuse and adversity and moving toward freedom from societal constraints…

Joon, telling us during his first live after his discharge that he had a hard time during his enlistment… that he had developed insomnia during his time there… that he had to see a PSYCHIATRIST during his time there for reasons that he refused to disclose… and that he had started drinking right after seokjin left for the military… that he tried so hard to write music during enlistment but it just wouldn’t come out…

…… I just. I’m so, so so SO RELIEVED they’re finally out. They’re finally free.

I'm sure we could all tell too that he was having a hard time. I'm happy for Taehyung that he seemed to find a way to enjoy the experience, and who knows how they actually each handled it in private unless they tell us, but I had sort of expected that Namjoon would really, really chafe under it all. Bless them and all the men forced through this experience against their wishes :(

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Yeah the fact that you write so good I would not be physically able to imagine another end to sugarfairy 😭😭 its impossible that story is my fav it hurts so good eventhough I was torn reading it but its worth it

Yeah thankyou for replying to my ask love you and your stories take care ❤️

That and Tell Me What Changed are the two stories where I considered writing alternate endings because I hurt myself 😂 I mean, I guess that fits with me anyway, I got my start writing fanfiction when I was 8 years old and pissed off at the way a Redwall book ended and I thought "well I can't let that stand so I'm just going to make a better ending myself." Now I do it even to my own stories haha

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Hi Foxy,

'Current Boyfriend' Tiktok trend anon here.... So, the trend is GF slips in the words 'my current boyfriend' in the conversation.... and BF realises that he was just called 'current boyfriend' instead of 'my boyfriend' and reacts... Just thought how it'd be cute of Secret Song JK-the 2 years into their established relationship version-to react to Sasha calling him 'current boyfriend'. PS. You are very cool, Mrs. Foxy!

This is so funny, I told another anon and I"m telling you too, y'all are bullies! 🤣🤣 JK still hasn't got over Sasha already calling him her current boyfriend.

OK but this would be very funny in like a decade, let's pretend they're married, maybe kids, who can say, and she pulls this out. At that point, JK is in his era of "hell no, I'm eternal."

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current boyfriend explanation:

https://www.bustle.com/life/current-boyfriend-tiktok-trend-relationships

this should help

Ok, so it *is* what I guess. And y'all are MEAN because that's basically what Sasha has done for the last year and change and JK is stressed by it 🤣🤣 If she pulls this any time soon JK's signing them up for couples' therapy with, "Oh god here we go again." 🤣

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Ahhh Foxy, I hope you’re doing good! New baby, so exciting and demanding 🙃 had my first last year and that newborn phase was ✨something else✨ Wishing you all the best ❤️

I reread Lowlander and got curious about Taehyungs story and my god do I love that! To see everyone grow up and understand so much more about them. And I’m really looking forward to them finding their way to each other although my heart my break for someone as well (no spoilers) Can’t wait to read more about our Avvar Hold 🥰

Aaaand of course I love the secret song series and over the falls soooo much!! It’s not about my fav bias anymore but your writing style, hook and everything else! Such good stories! I can’t count how many times I reread amended oder sugar fairy oder that one where Jungkook ist a pitbull hybrid ❤️ thank you for your great stories 🥰

There is no newborn phase like the newborn phase of your first 🤣🤣 It's shocking any of us survive that one, much less want to do it again! I can honestly say the third one SO FAR is the easiest by a thousand miles. Maybe it's because we just get used to functioning with the sleep deprivation 😂

I'm really really touched that you love so many of my stories!! I am dying to get back to work on them, I have missed those babies of mine so much too. Thank you for reading and for your kind words!!

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I just finished rereading The Secret Songs series… for the 100th time (I’m not exaggerating lol). I just love this story so much, it brings me so much comfort and joy and I just wanted to let you know that. The lastest chapter kills me, it’s just so good and I’m so happy they’re finding their way back!

Wishing you nothing but love and good health, especially in the coming weeks! I hope you have a smooth delivery and recovery. I just love babies so much so I’m so happy for you:)

Thank you!!! Other than developing hypertension and dealing with anemia again, this recovery has definitely been easier than my previous two! She is an angel baby so far and I'm having a ton of fun with her, and my boys LOVE her. While I didn't plan the age gap and still feel a little sad about it sometimes, I have to admit that it is SO much more fun enjoying the baby without feeling torn in two by a toddler or preschooler's needs as well.

That's so wonderful you're enjoying the series that much! I've been writing it in my head yesterday and today so definitely I am eager to get back to working on it!!

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things I’ve learned about (newborn) babies since I’ve become an aunt that I never knew before:

1). Turns out that aside from keeping their tiny liddol hands warm, their tiny liddol mittens also protect their tiny liddol face from being scratched by their own tiny liddol nails. Because their nails are still too tiny to cut.

2.) apparently newborns can’t even see anything yet??? I mean they can but all they see are blobs of shadows???

3.) and apparently all they see is black and white?? That’s why whenever I wave my hand right in front of him, his eyes don’t move at all. But when I wave this thing that has black and white animals on it, his eyes follow those animals

4.) and babies don’t blink that often??? Once I timed it out of curiosity and he didn’t blink for a solid thirty seconds???? Should I sign my baby nephew up for a no-blinking contest

5.) I thought you’d just nurse your baby and that’s it. Turns out nursing a baby is a very complicated process. Positioning the baby, the baby having a hard time sucking milk out and breathing at the same time when the flow of milk is fast (like I really never knew this)

6.) turns out the taste of breast milk depends on what the mom eats and drinks??? My sister has to refrain from eating spicy food because my nephew can taste the spiciness from her breast milk??? Omg I could NEVER 💀

7.) also babies just… eat whenever they want??? Even when they aren’t HUNGRY 💀 the pediatrician said “yeah so babies sometimes do that… belly already full but they’ll still ask to nurse anyway” and I was like excuse me 💀

8.) turns out they poop often at the beginning because of the colostrum in the breast milk?? but as the colostrum peters out, they’ll poop less and less?? I never knew that

9.) babies have to be nursed every 3 hours apparently?? The other day my nephew slept through the night for 7 hours straight and both my sister and her husband immediately texted the pediatrician once they woke up 💀 they were like “is our baby okay??” 💀💀

10.) just something funny I wanna share: my nephew didn’t wear mittens the other day so he experimented with his own fingers. Found his own hair with them, pulled at it, then burst into tears because it hurt 😭😭😭 babies are unintentionally funny 😭

That’s it for now. He’s like six weeks old!

Congrats on your baby girl!!! You HAVE to tell us how it went!!!!!!

It's so fun to learn all these things alongside your little nephew, isn't it?? Congrats, it sounds like you're having a lot of fun with him!

Babies go right for their own little faces with those nails!! You can cut them or bite them off but there's inevitably some little corner you miss anyway and suddenly they have a gash on their nose 😭

Image from Lozier Institute, I think this is so cool too! Right now baby girl is just starting to look at things --mainly the window and a dark frame I have around a light painting.

//// skipping down to 6. Not only does what you eat influence the taste and flavor, but the fact that breastmilk changes to account for any illnesses nearby/in baby/in mom is SO cool to me. Mine were never bothered by spicy but when we were trying to figure out what was wrong with my first (GERD and laryngomalacia), I had to completely cut out dairy for a few weeks to see if he had an intolerence. Thankfully it was not but gave me total sympathy for the nursing moms who have to drastically change their diet!

7. I love the comfort nursing, or when they just fall asleep right there all comfy and happy. Comfort nursing doesn't tend to be much actual drinking though. I see a lot of debate about whether babies will actually "overeat" when nursing, I dunno!

8. I hadn't thought of it that way! The diapers get bigger/fuller but there are fewer of them because the whole cycle has more volume moving through --baby eats more, so poops more, and doesn't need to eat/poop as frequently. Just wait until he starts solid food, that's when diapers get gnarly🤢

9. Babies can usually go longer than 3 hours without eating no problem as long as they are healthy and gaining weight so I hope that's the case for your nephew and your sister can enjoy it guilt free next time she gets a long window like that! My first one had feeding and sleeping problems for the first year 🥲 I was so sleep deprived I hallucinated, and I definitely remember panicking when he would occasionally sleep like 7 hours. Sadly, it was a RARE occurrence until he was 18 months old 😭😭

Six weeks is when I remember starting to figure things out and it getting more and more fun each week, so good luck and have fun!! I am more than happy to answer questions, labor and newborns are such a singular experience... each of my kids has been SO different!

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Congrats, Foxy! Can you let us know what names you thought about for babycub but didn't choose? =) I always love reading those lists, don't know why.

I get it! I have spent SO much time in my life researching and brainstorming names, so when it comes to actually naming kids I have a really hard time. Especially because newborns are such potatoes, nothing really fits them yet. My husband and I also have pretty divergent tastes in name (he likes trendy and simple names, I like elaborate and unusual names, so we try to meet in the middle.)

For baby girl, names we strongly considered:

Autumn (I ALWAYS thought I would name a daughter this and am still a little sad I did not, but it didn't feel right for a May baby or sound great with my other kids' names)

Rose or some variation, Rosalie, etc. (what I also thought I would name a daughter if i ever had one)

Hazel

Violet

Lucy

Sora

Summer

My husband also really liked Chloe, Zoe, or Penelope, while I really liked Calla, Nari, and Gemma (there are so many names I like but I was trying to find ones that fit the shorter/simpler style we've used with our other kids.)

Of my boys, my oldest liked Hazel and Violet, and my younger one liked Hazel (nickname Heihei) or Moana or Pumpkin 😂

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omg, what if foxy named her baby Kai, like Jk and Isabella did? Or I guess Kaia for a girl!

I've loved Kai as a boy name forever, it was definitely in the running for all of my kids! I also absolutely adore Ezra but my husband hates it 😭 When I thought we were going to have a boy for #3 I was preparing to go to the mat for Ezra or Kai or Tristan, which was my other favorite boy name I almost used with each kid but then it never quite fit any of them... Names are SO HARD

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WELCOME BACK, MY LOVES 🥹

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When life gives you tangerines was seriously so good. But also heartbreaking, I haven’t cried that much in a long time. I think I cried during almost every episode haha! Not to scare you, it’s amazing and so worth watching if you have the time❤️

Perfect show to watch with postpartum hormones 😂 I’ll be ready to get my cries out!

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Manifesting baby foxy girl’s name is Sasha. Or Bronwen. Or Isabella…..Dulce, Grace, Alex, Pippa, Margueritte…….etc etc. So many possibilities!

lolllll. So Bronwen, Grace, and Pippa all came up from my husband actually when we were brainstorming! In the past I had made a rule to never use any names I thought I might want for a daughter, but once I was certain I would only have boys, I relaxed the rule --and then had a girl. Bronwen doesn't sound good with our last name though, and as cute as Pippa is, to be honest, I told my husband "I have written insanely filthy things about a Pippa, I just don't think I can use it" so we nixed it.😂

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I dont if if you have already given birth or not but I just want to say take care stay healthy happy and blessed ❤️ I am sure the baby is going to be adorable 😭❤️

I just wanted to say I absolutely love your writing all of them specially jk fics they are so good ✨️ but sugar fairy 😭 not gonna lie that fic made me cry so bad like its was hurting my heart I dont know maybe its just me but I feel like pippa deserved better 🥲 I still dont like jungkook in that fic he hurt her so much throughout the whole pregnancy too 😭😭 I wanted pippa to end up with taehyung but I guess its just me because I got too attached to pippa its okay the story was great

Take care ❤️

There was absolutely a world in which Pippa wound up with Taehyung, if you must know 😎 I genuinely debated about it for a while, whether I should embrace a different path for the story, but ultimately decided to stick with the redemption arc I wanted for Jungkook, since it aligned with the theme I wanted for Pippa finally getting to choose things for herself, regardless of whether those are the choices others would have made for her. JK definitely had a ton of growing to do and it's totally ok to be someone who felt like he didn't get there enough in the end.In your heart you can pretend she wound up going with Taehyung after all haha

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Wishing you a smooth and safe delivery, all the best to you and your family Foxy!❤️

Thank youuuuu! It happened! And the actually delivery part went fast so what more can you ask for, you know? We're safe and sound and happy at home now! ❤️❤️