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Goodbyes

Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.

-Rumi

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Authenticity

“If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.”

“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”

– Brené Brown

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This is me letting you go

Take a chance on me. Because the timing’s always going to be wrong and the stars are never going to align but I would break every clock in this city and I’d shut every star down from shining if it meant that for one afternoon we could cast all that aside and give in. Give in to the complete impossibility that something could work here, despite everything that stands in the way.

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Because you're afraid of who you'll be once your wounds close up and you have to go on living in your new, unfamiliar skin. You want your old skin back.

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I’d wait for decades or ages or centuries or lifetimes. I’d wait through wars and resolutions and tsunamis and ice ages and apocalypses. I’d wait indefinitely. I’d wait forever. But the brilliant thing is, I don’t have to do any of that. Because here we are, right now. At this time. In this Universe. And as long as you’re alive here and I’m alive too,

the timing is right enough for me.

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The day we stop making mistakes is the day we stop living. We just have to give ourselves the room we need to make them.

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Maybe anyone worth knowing is worth knowing for only a short while. Maybe anyone worth loving is worth loving inconclusively.

And when you look at it that way, it doesn’t seem quite so unbearable at all: to allow yourself to love someone with everything you’ve got – and then to fully and completely let them go.

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Because some people simply are not meant to stay forever. Some people come into our lives for a season, for a reason, for the simple purpose of showing us the world in a way we would never have seen it otherwise.

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This is me knowing that I have to let you go. That no matter how much I love you or how hard we work at this or how badly we both want each other to be happy, we are never going to be the right partners for each other. This is my acceptance that the best things are never straightforward and that I want you to take whatever crooked, twisted path you need to take if it will lead you towards your dreams. This is me knowing that I have to do what’s right. That sometimes the best thing you can do for someone you love is to let them go – to do more, feel more, be more than the person they ever could ever have become by your side.

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At the end of your life, go out with a bruised-up, worn out heart that gave too much and loved too strongly and felt too fiercely.

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Forgiveness means saying that you're not going to let what happened to you define you any longer.

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Sometimes you're going to have to let one person go a thousand different times, a thousand different ways, and there's nothing pathetic or abnormal about that. You are human.

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Forgiveness means giving up hope for a different past. It means knowing that the past is over, the dust has settled and the destruction left in its wake can never be reconstructed to resemble what it was. It’s accepting that there’s no magic solution to the damage that’s been caused. It’s the realization that as unfair as the hurricane was, you still have to live in its city of ruins. And no amount of anger is going to reconstruct that city. You have to do it yourself.

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In a world full of dishonest people, you choose not to become one of them, even if that makes you lose a foolish game or two.

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You need to be alone when you are growing into a new version of yourself. When you are shedding the layers of who you’ve been like snakeskin, you will need the time to bury who you’ve been.

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The right people don’t make you hmm and haw about whether or not you want to be with them; you just know. You know that any adventure you had originally planned out for your future isn’t going to be half as incredible as the adventures you could have by their side. That no matter what you thought you wanted before, this is better. Everything is

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Because growth and letting go are so complexly intertwined that we often only see one or the other. We forget that they can exist side by side – releasing the old while letting in the new.

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When you’re tired, go slowly. Go quietly. Go timidly. But do not stop. You are tired for all the right reasons. You are tired because you’re supposed to be. You’re tired because you’re making a change. You are exhausted for all the right reasons and it’s only an indication to go on. You are tired because you’re growing.

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You will not get over your ex all at once. You’ll get over them through a series of tiny, tender moments that bring you quietly back to yourself. And in some ways they’ll never really leave you. The people who change us in those big, irrevocable ways never do. To get over them we’d have to alter ourselves into people so unrecognizable that we’d lose who we are in the process. And so instead we learn to integrate the influence they had – the books you now read because of topics that they turned you on to. The music you now download because of the lyrics they loved. The ways you now look at the world that would never had occurred to you if they had not opened your eyes up to seeing and doing things differently. We don’t ever lose people we love in their entirety and perhaps we never should

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we ourselves become bigger, more encompassing people because of it. You’ll get over your ex the day you realize that you damn well may never get over them. That pieces of them are going to live on inside you forever and that discarding them would mean discarding parts of yourself. But the day that you get to move on is the day you simply decide to do so in spite of it – in spite of the tired, restless ache that begs you not to take a chance. In spite of the fearful, self-conscious mind that tells you nobody will ever love you better. In spite of every careless part of you that wants to keep holding on but knows that it needs to let go. The day when you finally move on is the day you decide move forward

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with all of your fear, all your pain and all your subtle hesitations. It’s the day you finally get over yourself.

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You’re not pathetic for mourning while you grow.

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Sometimes you’re going to have to let one person go a thousand different times, a thousand different ways, and there’s nothing pathetic or abnormal about that.

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maybe doesn't mean, "This may happen." It means, "I am too fearful to go but not strong enough to stay." It means, "I'll miss you but not enough to be with you." It means, "I love you but not quite enough to stick around and fight.

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When you are not ready to give someone your whole heart out of fear of what they’ll do with it, it is yourself that you must learn how to trust. It’s yourself you must come back to, piece by careful piece as you learn that your heart is an endless, refillable vessel that does not deplete and fall apart when it is given away. It is yourself that you must learn to be alone with.

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We don’t ever lose people we love in their entirety and perhaps we never should – we ourselves become bigger, more encompassing people because of it.

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It is hard to get over a cheater because when you leave the relationship, there are two people you must mourn. One is the asshole who cheated on you, in all their flawed, unfaithful glory...The other person you must get over is the person you thought they were. The relationship you thought you had.

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It's hard to get over a cheater because the only person you hate more than them is yourself. You hate yourself for falling for them. For investing in them. For turning a blind eye to every red flag that was a clue along the way. You scorn yourself for believing every lie they told, and letting it all come to fruition. You hate yourself for not putting together the puzzle pieces that you were never actually holding.

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person you’re going to fall in love with deserves all your beginnings and none of your endings and if you’re still torn up about the past and it is bleeding straight into the future, it might mean that you need more time to heal.

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We’re allowed to let them in. We’re allowed to let them matter. We’re allowed to engage in the temporary foolishness of falling for someone who is not going to be left holding our crippled, wrinkled hand fifty years down the road. Because some people simply are not meant to stay forever. Some people come into our lives for a season, for a reason, for the simple purpose of showing us the world in a way we would never have seen it otherwise.

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Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you are giving up all of your power. Forgiveness means you’re finally ready to take it back.

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go are so complexly intertwined that we often only see one or the other. We forget that they can exist side by side – releasing the old while letting in the new.

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Heidi Priebe, This Is Me Letting You Go

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Philosophy

Human beings are members of a whole

In creation of one essence and soul

If one member is afflicted with pain

Other members uneasy will remain

If you have no sympathy for human pain

The name of human you cannot retain

- Saadi Shirazi

Make no friendship with an elephant keeper. If you have no room to entertain an elephant.

To love or have loved, that is enough. Ask nothing further. There is no other pearl to be found in the dark folds of life.
- Victor Hugo (Les Misérables, 1862)

Lift the veil
that obscures
the heart
and there
you will find
what you are
looking for
- Kabir (Dohas of Kabir)

The soul does violence to itself when it is overpowered by pleasure or by pain.
- Marcus Aurelius (Meditations, 167 A.C.E.)

If the doors of perception were cleansed everything would appear to man as it is, infinite.
- William Blake (The Marriage of Heaven and Hell, 1790-1793)

All cruelty springs from weakness.
-Seneca (On the Happy Life)

Enjoy present pleasures in such a way as not to injure future ones.
- Seneca (Letters from a Stoic)

You will understand that there is nothing dreadful in this except fear itself.
-Seneca (Letters from a Stoic – Letter XXIV: On Despising Death)

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Sorrow within

If I tell you of sorrows in my heart, it will burn my tongue.

If I keep it inside, I’m afraid it’ll burn me from the inside. But if I let it out, I fear it will burn the whole world.

I can only be kind because it’s the only thing my spirit can allow me.

- Saadi Shirazi

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I am everything

I am everything

In all of my beautiful parts

in all of my faults

All of my shining moments

All of my downfalls

I am what I know

the reality moves through the body

that is what I know that is what I am

So I am everything

You become your own puzzle. You didn’t feel pressure to become the missing piece, to make sure that this piece fits everything and everyone around but rather to create a whole and a beautiful puzzle that is a narrative of who you are today.

Every bit of self every piece of body sensation breath that resides within us is worth feeling worth exploring worth living by

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“If your mind is empty, it is always ready for anything, it is open to everything. In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert's mind there are few.” - Shunryu Suzuki

“One is never afraid of the unknown; one is afraid of the known coming to an end.” - Pema Chödrön

"See confusion as confusion. Acknowledge suffering as suffering. Feel pain and sorrow and divisiveness. Experience anger or fear or shock for what they are. But you don't have to think of them as evil—as intrinsically bad, as needing to be destroyed or driven from our midst. On the contrary, they need to be absorbed, healed, made whole." - Steve Hagen

“Don’t worry. When the time is right, you’ll meet your teacher. When you’re ready, some kind of magnetic energy will bring you together with your teacher.” - Thubten Yeshe

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Many disappointments

“Nothing out there will ever satisfy you except temporarily and superficially, but you may need to experience many disappointments before you realize that truth.”

-Eckhart Tolle

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One lives fully

“If there is no blind hope, there is also no disappointment. If one knows that everything is impermanent, one does not grasp, and if one does not grasp, one will not think in terms of having or lacking, and therefore one lives fully.”

-Dzongsar Jamyang Khyentse

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Judge not

“Today, I shall judge nothing that occurs.” -Deepak Chopra

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Reason for art

“I could not live in any of the worlds offered to me — the world of my parents, the world of war, the world of politics. I had to create a world of my own, like a climate, a country, an atmosphere in which I could breathe, reign, and recreate myself when destroyed by living. That, I believe, is the reason for every work of art. The artist is the only one who knows the world is a subjective creation, that there is a choice to be made, a selection of elements. It is a materialization, an incarnation of his inner world…”

-Anaïs Nin

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Take a chance

“Take a chance on me. Because the timing’s always going to be wrong and the stars are never going to align but I would break every clock in this city and I’d shut every star down from shining if it meant that for one afternoon we could cast all that aside and give in. Give in to the complete impossibility that something could work here, despite everything that stands in the way.”

-Heidi Priebe, This Is Me Letting You Go

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Ending

"There is no real ending. It’s just the place where you stop the story." -Frank Herbert

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Death and end

"End? No, the journey doesn't end here. Death is just another path. One that we all must take." Gandalf, Lord of the rings

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Butterfly

"She loved him because he had brought her back to life. She had been like a caterpillar in a cocoon, and he had drawn her out and shown her that she was a butterfly.” -Ken Follett

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Do your best

"Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” --- Maya Angelou

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Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.

Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free (via wnq-anonymous)

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