#psycology

[wordsoup420]

Hot take: it's fucking idiotic to call someone who is just calmly trying to explain their actions or emotions 'rude'. It's ESPECIALLY idiotic to say that to a small child. You'll end up turning them into a fucking doormat unable to speak up for themselves (me)

Kids can't properly control tone yet. I ESPECIALLY couldn't due to autism. So to hold a kids tone to the importance of the tone of an actor on set to get the correct feel is completely idiotic. And some teen girls literally *just sound like that*. They aren't "being rude" that's just what her voice sounds like. They aren't "making excuses" they are genuinely trying to fucking communicate their reasons so that an understanding can be reached. This shit is why EVERYONE SUCKS AT COMMUNICATING AND WE NEED TO FUCKING STOP DISCOURAGING HONEST AND OPEN COMMUNICATION

Most kids are innately honest until they are taught to lie by society or their parents. By making them FEAR honesty. By punishing them for communicating you are teaching them to lie. You are making lieing feel like the safest option even when you punish for lies. Because at least with the lie there's a chance of no punishment, but with the truth you'll 100% get punished.

[thecalminside]

Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose

-Eckhart Tolle

[gunsandspaceships]

Proof that Tony Stark is not an extravert

Well, I’d bet it’s better results than one could get on YouTube, Twitter, or Reddit, but come on.

I’m going to show you why MCU Tony is certainly not an extravert.

I've already posted some stuff, such as:

Absent-minded Tony

Socially awkward Tony

As you can see, Tony has some issues that hint to us that he’s not always present or outgoing. And now it’s time to gather all these and other things and summarize our findings.

Extraversion: Large social network & Thrive in teams, crowds vs Introversion: Value 1:1 friendships & Favor independence

Tony no doubt knows a lot of people. Because he ran a huge technological company, right. Business partners, military officers, politicians, SHIELD agents, journalists, his staff, etc. Although this doesn’t mean that he communicates with many people regularly, or has many friends. And we know he doesn’t. He never had many friends. Throughout the Infinity Saga, he made a few, like Pepper and Happy. But before IM2 his only friends were Rhodey, J.A.R.V.I.S., and his bots.

Jon Favreau commentary

He mostly interacted with AIs and robots, especially in his solo movies. This tells us something, doesn’t it? I’ll write a separate post about his childhood, but it is obvious that he was always an outcast: in school, college, before the Avengers, within the Avengers… We don’t really see him as a “gear” in this mechanism. He is most often steps ahead of others or steps aside. None of the Avengers were really his friends, and I’ll write about that too in the future.

Did he try to make more friends? He seemed to think some of the Avengers were. He thought Steve was. Remember this?

Or Bruce. But Bruce didn't even want to listen to him when Tony needed help.

And he left him at the end of AoU. But Tony thought he was a friend. Moreover, he considered them all his family.

That’s what he was doing – everyone around him, from assistants to teammates, were considered friends and family members and were treated accordingly. He needed that, not a large social network of "pals" and "buddies" he barely knows.

Let’s illustrate how he felt about people around him:

Deleted scene "Dubai Party" from IM (2008)

Tony doesn’t really talk to those people. He doesn't feel comfortable shaking their hands or taking anything from them. That's not why he's here, it's an alibi for the mission in Afghanistan. And we see that all this causes him disgust and discomfort.

The Charity Ball - IM (2008)

And boom - he doesn't know that Christina is talking about Jericho, which Stane sold to the Ten Rings. He thinks she is referring to this event. And he (surprisingly) reveals that he actually has social anxiety. That doesn't sound like an extrovert to me.

Alternate Opening from IM2 shows us Tony, who is trying to avoid going on some kind of dangerous mission. And then we find out that that mission is actually the Expo Opening. He doesn’t look excited that he has to go to the crowd, doesn’t he?

After that, he makes his way through the crowd of fans, actually communicating with virtually no one.

At the Senate hearing, he seems bored. He doesn’t pay much attention to the politicians, asking Pepper about chili, hacking networks, and making fun of Senator Stern (and not for his own fun, but so that Stern and other politicians/officers would fuck off).

After he’s done with Hammer and Stern he shows his public mask to others. We know he is not comfortable with this situation, but he has to deal with it.

At the party "Natalie wears the gauntlet" deleted scene from IM2

This is what Tony really thinks about these people. He doesn’t like them, doesn’t like this lifestyle. He didn’t want this party in the first place.

Sounds very introvert-like to me.

He wears sunglasses in public. Because he is uncomfortable when people see his eyes - they cannot hide from them what he wants to hide. And that brings us to the next trait…

Extraversion: Enjoy being a center of attention vs Introversion: Avoid being a center of attention

He hides behind sunglasses. Most of the time, he only shows his mask to people he considers strangers. When he's the center of attention, it's his mask, not the real Tony.

The real Tony refused to be the commander of the Avengers, despite being their benefactor and providing them with everything. The real Tony didn't go to important public events on behalf of the team, Natasha (WS and CW) did. The real Tony left the Avengers at his Compound and went to live with his family in a cabin in the middle of nowhere. And, again, we can recall what he said about his birthday and parties in general.

Here are the posts about parties: Big post, And he just said it himself

Extraversion: Think out loud vs Introversion: Think before speaking

Tony is not the guy who shares his thoughts with others. He thinks a lot. And he hides most of it from others.

Does he always think before speaking? No, not at all. But that’s his goofy personality, not extraversion.

Extraversion: Energize around people & seek greater stimulation vs Introversion: Recharge, reflect in quiet & Seek less stimulation

As we can see, Tony is not that much of a people person. He avoids gatherings when he can, and doesn’t enjoy them when he can’t. Most of the time he spends in his workshop/lab with his AIs, bots, and sometimes with Bruce, with occasional visits from Pepper and Rhodey. And he is comfortable in this environment.

With the Avengers he doesn’t act like an energy battery. Instead, he is quiet, calm, and just minds his own business. Look at the scenes from AoU:

At the party he doesn't talk to many people, we see him in a small group of Thor and Maria Hill, and he is, again, pretty quiet.

In Endgame he lives with just his wife, daughter, chickens, and Gerald the alpaca in a cabin, far from other people and their noise. He has nature around, a big fireplace, and paper books to read by it. This is his happiness. An introvert's dream.

Conclusion: all the "extraversion" we see in Tony came from his business training that started when he was a kid. He had to develop a set of skills: communicating with many people, participating in gatherings, selling stuff, running a company, dealing with journalists and politicians. He became the owner of a huge business when he was only 21 years old. Of course, he has skills formed by decades of experience. But we see he doesn’t enjoy doing all this stuff. This is not his comfort zone. His comfort zone is his lab and a few close friends. It's hard to tell from the masks he wears and his skills whether he's an introvert or an ambivert who tends to be introverted, but he's definitely not an extravert.

P.S. This is not a 100% comprehensive review of everything I've seen in the movies. There are many more examples of his introversion in the MCU. But this post is already huge, so if you would like to see more about it – let me know in the comments and I’ll make more detailed posts about each trait.

616 Tony here

[phantomhivestims]

Ada Mesmer Stimboard

Being remade

[jaienviededormir]

NSO themed phone!

[Original idea in the link below, ccheonssa on Pinterest!]

[francesca-parita]

from Dualism series - "Equilibrium"

A figure in contemplative solitude finds balance in its inner dualisms.

[scorbusfan]

bro, I talked about scorbus to my psychologist, she asked which character I identified with the most and I said scorpius malfoy, I hope she doesn't research his psychological problems

[aesthetic--mood]

Harley Quinn Red Aesthetic

[chocotacoshawtybae]

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the thought of this makes me actually sick to my stomach

[shrimpcocktailsauce]

Не страждав = не жив

Роздумую над тим, чому у батьків покоління бумерів майже відсутня емпатія по відношенню до своїх дітей-міленіалів, і прийшла до цікавого висновку: справа в рівні страждань.

Бумери вигризали для себе право на життя, а їх можливості завжди були обмеженими, тому їхній шлях до моменту буму технологічності був засіяний мінним полем із дуже складних випробувань.

У роки їхньої юності вони і не мріяли про такі речі, як саморозвиток, відстоювання кордонів, прояв почуттів, особливо негативних, і особливо до своїх батьків. Їх виховували в жорстких патріархальних рамках. Вони не задумувалися про вибір шляхів для власного розвитку, бо всі працювали заради спільної мети – вижити.

На фоні цих зусиль бумери вважають дитинство своїх дітей ідеальним, тому що міленіалам не треба було напрягатися заради базових потреб, які зараз дійсно закриваються по велінню руки. Тобто, діти прийшли в цей світ на все готове, і їм гріх взагалі на щось жалітися. Така точка зору позбавляє доросле покоління емпатії по відношенню до своїх дітей.

Порівнюючи рівні страждань, бумери створили собі упередження: повагу до дорослого можна заслужити тільки в тому випадку, якщо їх життя було схоже на випробування. Легке життя = життя на всьому готовому, тому і поваги така людина не заслуговує.

Іншими словами, у бумера є переконання, що, якщо його дитина не мала тих самих труднощів, які він переживав в дитинстві, то і проблеми дитини не варті уваги, тобто, дріб'язкові. Йому може бути важко прийняти той факт, що дитинство і життя його дитини може бути легким з точки зору базових потреб, але це не означає, що вона не стикається з проблемами соціальними, фінансовими, психологічними і так далі.

Важливо розуміти, що кожна людина переживає свої унікальні труднощі в своєму середовищі, навіть якщо це не пов'язано з базовими потребами.

[thecalminside]

You are a function of what the whole universe is doing in the same way that a wave is a function of what the whole ocean is doing.

-Alan Watts

[ktisis-collective]

I LOVE THE GAME MOUTHWASHING SO MUCH PLEASE RECOMMEND ME MORE PSYCHOLOGICAL HORRORS I NEED THEM

[y2kaee]

"I know the world will not recognize my efforts", he said to himself, proud of being misunderstood. After all, that was the price every genius had to pay.

Paulo Coelho _ Veronika decides to die (1998).

[gods-favorite-exorcist]

Character analysis: Excorcists, Lute, and Adam.

TW: CULTS, NARCISSISTS.

Ya know, I've been thinking about the excorcists as always and here's me info dumping, I'm not a therapist but I'm mentally ill so- and I have a shit ton of religious trauma

Adam is a narcissist, that's obvious, the excorcists he surrounded himself with constantly validate him. It's almost cult like. The excorcists are his cultists, they practically warship him. When Lute reminds Adam of the rules about the excorcisim in ep 6, he agrees, but puts her in her place, degrading her. Vaggie was kicked out for questioning. Learning on her own, whith is the #1 rule when it comes to cults. When Lute kicked vaggie out, it was her attempts at gaining his attention. It's her trying to gain his favor and praise. Adam breeds an environment where the excorcists need to stand out to feel worthy, but not stand out too much, and differ yourself from the cult. I grew up in a hyper religious town, I'd parrot conspiracy theories and radical ideals at 6, 7, 8, without much thought, the kids I grew up with said them, I wanted to blend in yet stand out for the praise, recognition, and attention. I'd gain favor with teachers and pastors for the attention and praise when I'd spit back out thier homophobic and racist shit they'd say tenfold, their praise when I'd admit that yes, I was a sinner, or how the teachers would praise me for my skill, for standing out from my peers, something I still have to work through years later, it's not something that just can be gotten rid of. It lingers for the rest of your life. This did not mean to turn into a trauma dump but lol

In conclusion, The excorcists are a cult where the girls are the victims of their programming, Adam is a cult leader, a narcissist. And he deserves that death tenfold♡♡♡.

[89hitokiri]

If AI art is stolen art, who does this belong to? Part X

[jelthefrog]

Me conte, me conte sobre sua infância.