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Are we becoming what we HATE?

As I sat down waiting for the show to begin, they chattered among themselves. It was as if I was surrounded by one personality type, multiplied by 5. They understood each other too well and were so consumed by their conversation that they forgot there was one person there who didn’t belong. A stranger is you may. I’d occasionally nod and smile at some of their comments which were birthed out of…

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Emotional turmoil; refocus to vision 20/20

“If I were to liken an individual to a ray of light, I would say that in this refractory world, an image may be perceived differently depending on the lens of the perceiver! Hence, to not truly behold one’s identity puts one at risk of morphing into the images created through other lenses! “ Kukua Anthonyin Understanding your identity allows you to estimate the perceiver’s refractory error. And…

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A dawn of emotional slavery?

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN I would like to think that the worst form of captivity is one we are unaware of. Kukua Anthonyin Annan The things we do, whether perceived as right or wrong, even including inertia, have consequences. Your action, therefore, begs the question 1. what decision influenced the said perceived action or inaction? 2. was your intent actualized? 3. which set of parameters…

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 Emotions likened to kryptonite- a distress call 

One minute your brain is functioning at a 100% capacity and when a dull moment ensues, it all comes rushing. Rushing like a flood and which better place than when I’m most unaware- In my freakn sleep! You dare attack me in my sleep. In my most vulnerable space, where I crave peace. I crave sanctity, where I crave rest. There you linger until my eyes can no longer hold the darkness! Opening with…

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Still on the topic of social media: Keeping it real

Still on the topic of social media: Keeping it real

Are we losing our humanity- Social media post interpretation caution: A timeline that always elicits excitement does not mean the account holder is PRETENDING ! I see people make blanket statements about how people who appear to be happy are not really happy!! I think that’s just nonsensical. You just can’t know anyone’s intent just through scrolling. However, it also doesn’t mean that the rest…

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A PLEA: ON THE ISSUE OF SOCIAL MEDIA TRENDS AND MENTAL HEALTH

A PLEA: ON THE ISSUE OF SOCIAL MEDIA TRENDS AND MENTAL HEALTH

Why do we deny people acts of kindness without getting to know them PERSONALLY? If we knew what others thought about us, based on our ACTIONS which THEY interpreted to be wrong, and if we considered them to be ‘TRUTH’, we probably wouldn’t like ourselves! In essence; before we slander, before we insult or wish anyone evil (because apparently, that is a trend), let’s perform a short mental…

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How your expectations of others define you; a knee jerk reaction

How your expectations of others define you; a knee jerk reaction

According to the Oxford dictionary, the word definition implies ‘what is meant by a word, context, action, etc…’. A definition is also intended to communicate something that may not be directly expressed! Hence, how you define yourself may be explicit or insinuated through your actions. How you define yourself, however, is unlikely to be seen in isolation. As humans, we often make inferences…

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You may be viewing rejection the wrong way!

First blog post in 2022! Glad to be back

I’ve found that there are two main reasons why people get rejected! You are either being devalued by the wrong people or undervalued by the right people! If it’s the former, rejoice and sing your hallelujahs! You’ve probably dodged a bullet! However, if it is the latter, then there might be room for personal growth! Till you fully embrace and understand your value, it is unlikely it will be seen…

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Sleep Eludes

It is 02:06 hrs and it’s rather … LOUD. To my left, the electric heater screams loudly and the stillness around me nags my brain. To silence the disparate faculty in my cranium would be an achievement I’m yet to attain this year! However, tonight, there seems a need to finally convene a meeting. So here it goes; Self, I see what you’ve been up to and I see how you’ve been competing with the…

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The age of apathy; the middle ground between love and hate.

The age of apathy; the middle ground between love and hate.

I imagine being given two oranges!; one with so much juice and seeds, and the other, however, simply being like the first without seeds! I like to picture love as an act that proceeds to bear more good fruit! And while it’s been thought that hate is the opposite of love, for me it seems, the opposite of love is simply the lack thereof. In fact, it’s almost like taking a surgical blade and…

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A tsp of forgiveness, a TBS of grace and a liter of love

A tsp of forgiveness, a TBS of grace and a liter of love

I was recently caught up in a quagmire, where I struggled to process an emotion! From my previous blogs, you will know that I am big on the virtues forgiveness and love. I’d like to think that grace is the link between forgiveness and love. To show unmerited favor (grace), one would need to possess love. Hence, my confusion had to do with how it was possible to forgive and remain angry/bitter at…

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The difference between wishers and doers; the art of discipline

The difference between wishers and doers; the art of discipline

“Build castles in the air but support them with pillars”Shared authorship James Annan and Samuel Y. Annan I remember hearing these words from the lips of my dad and for a very long time, it’s been a principle of mine! I called daddy this morning to verify the source of the quote and I was pleasantly surprised about the story behind it, as it came out from an interaction between him and my…

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The 3 types of social media consumers.

The 3 types of social media consumers.

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN About a year ago, I decided to cut down on my screen time. It wasn’t necessarily because I wasn’t being productive in areas I needed to be- or so I thought. However, multiplying an average of 6 hours by 7 days by 4 weeks by 12 months clearly spoke volumes. I was wasting my life on things and people who were not IN my life; social media in summary. After deleting my…

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Growing your emotional intelligence; Respect

Growing your emotional intelligence; Respect

Have you ever been so angry at a mate you ‘screamed’ so hard at him/her to let out all your frustration? However, after the scream, you got even angrier for having to scream so hard? Well maybe it was not a scream and maybe it was not even someone you could potentially scream at to hold accountable for your misery but hopefully you get where I am coming from. In this modern world where the…

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He was customized for the Annan’s’!

He was customized for the Annan’s’!

Clearly, the world’s confusion about standards makes me pause with the statement ‘I have the best…’. I’d like to think that for the person I’ve become and I’m continuing to grow into, God gave me exactly what I needed and still need!  Daddy! His intellect is my favorite quality of his. I haven’t met a better planner and if there’s one person whose advise l’d take without involving my cerebrum…

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Dear June; an open letter ‘of a sort’

Dear June; an open letter ‘of a sort’

23:44 hrs Dear June, This may be reaching you a little later than expected but it surely is better late than never. I remember peeping through January’s wintery window and wondering when I might find your respite. February always lagged sluggishly like a millipede, moving tortuously along its on path, yet glued closely to March’s stack of ambitions. March, as I remember, was always layered, as…

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The cool part about the ‘I’ of the INTJ spectrum;

The cool part about the ‘I’ of the INTJ spectrum;

Have you tried spending time with yourself lately? No, I do not mean avoiding people. I mean spending an alone time with ‘yours truly’ because you relish it! Also, alone is not equal to lonely; let’s get the definitions right. Being alone simply means being in a physical space where no other person is, OR being mentally captivated or entangled by all the thoughts running through your mind while…