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siiiighs . not stating why im upset rly hurts but what'll hurt more is ur immense guilt and apologizing 400 times anywayyyy guess who feles bad for doing literally anything with their friends now if this is ur reaction to me answering a friends question on a certain day

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trying to be petty and not talk in a group chat w/ ppl who made you upset the other day is like. worse than everything. i do want to talk but also i want to know if you'd notice my absence.

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"make sure we have a little time together in the future" i literally fucking spend every single day with you to the point i no longer have friends because i keep on rejecting hang-outs with them to instead hang out with you because i know you dont like it. but whatever. me talking to my friends and joking about making plans (FUCKING LATER IN THE WEEK !!! WASNT EVEN THAT DAY !!! AND I WAS STILL TALKING TO YOU AND WE HAD WATCHED AND HUNG OUT FOR OVER 8+ HOURS.) but yeah. sure. we need a little time together in the future. (spits on the ground) i shouldve fucking said no and told them that i spend literally fucking hours upon hours hanging with them and it still isnt enough???

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No I Wont

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"im not made of glass" (immediately starts acting like a single emotion would shatter you) yeah okay

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sighs deeply. feels bad when you have to just say something else to avoid lying

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I just wanted to tell anyone with BPD that we deserve as much slack as anybody who is neurotypical.

We deserve to be loved, we deserve company, we deserve care, we deserve to LIVE.

You want to have children? Fuck anyone who says people with BPD should not, it's going to be hard but it's not impossible. Do you want to have a couple? To hell with anyone who's ever told you you're dangerous to people because of the BPD itself.

You're not some kind of animal people should be afraid of, nor should you be treated like one. You're a human, with their own aspirations and desires, a human with difficult emotions and a disperse sense of self, a human with an obsessive and insecure way of loving, it's true, and that's okay, you're not poison.

You're all very strong, because whatever things that happened and made you develop BPD, it doesn't matter how small they may seem, were fucked up, and you're still here standing, still fighting against the debris of those events. We're as borderline as we are damaged, and we deserve as much a chance of recovery as any other people.

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BPDragender

A neurogender relating to BPD, anger, rage, and BPD anger. The drips are mean to symbolize the anger “dripping” or “spilling” out. This gender is exclusive to those with borderline personality disorder, or BPD.

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bpd 🤝 aspd

being fine being fine being fine the most violent fucking thought or urge u have ever had being fine b

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sometimes it feels like if i’m not constantly proving myself i’m not important and useless

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hey this is a little reminder i need for myself but other people definitely need it too.

accepting and acknowledging your cluster b traits does NOT make you an asshole or a bad person. even when your thought processes sound EVIL and TERRIBLE and BAD, they are not evil and terrible and bad. it's all about managing your symptoms and you being here reading this post means that you are trying your best. you are not evil because of your disorder. you are you, and you are beautiful. <3

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messages for those with NPD, BPD, ASPD, or HPD

you are loved, valued, and important.

the people in your life care about you, even if sometimes it doesn't feel that way.

i'm glad you're here today.

your needs matter. your feelings matter. your limits matter.

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how do you deal with abandonment issues? it feels like my FP may be ignoring me and know I can't even interact with them without feeling in pain. i've semi-age-regressed from the stress of it which is something I really only do under severe stress

These are my usual go-to things:

I ask if I've done something to upset them/make them uncomfortable.

If they say yes then we discuss what happened, how I made them feel and how I can modify my behaviour to stop it from happening again.

If they say no, then I express the concerns related to possibly being ignored (without pointing fingers/getting upset).

If they tell me that they're having a hard time/they don't feel like talking/etc. then I ask what they need from me, followed by some suggestions that might be hard for them to say unsolicited (less/more contact, reasonable behavioral modifications, etc.) so they know that It's safe to ask for!

If they promise that everything is fine, then I do my best to take them at face value and move on to a more pleasant conversation.

This is what's helped me when it comes to my abandonment issues. Obviously it won't always work, but I would recommend trying!

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bpd develops for a reason. don’t ever let anyone make you forget that.

you were hurt and had no one when you needed it most. you’ve been through so much pain and trauma. regardless of what the world sees you as, this was the way your brain decided to cope. this was the only way your brain knew how to survive and keep you alive to this point. you’re amazing and i’m proud of you

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The old bpd-culture-is blog deactivated or got nerfed, so I'm the new replacement! Run and operated by a 20 y/o person with BPD. I go by they/them pronouns, and I'll post any asks. Even the ones about the bad sides of BPD.

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URGGHHHHH. shakes head and makes weird noises with my mouth. splits are always so hard