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Please read this story from Vox. It’s always made me deeply uncomfortable whenever people look at queer representation that they find dissatisfactory for whatever reason and say, “A cishet person obviously wrote this” or “This is written for straight people” or “No queer people were involved here.”

Because like. You can’t know that. And saying that can be very damagng when you’re wrong.

The article is here and you should read it, but the SparkNotes version is:

we’re all familiar with the attack helicopter meme; reddit fuckheads saying “i identify as an attack helicopter” to mock trans people

trans people then proceed to reclaim the meme and undercut it by making a joke of it themselves

some time later, an author, Isabel Fall, (who is a trans woman) decides to pen a sci-fi short story about a person who does identify as an attack helicopter, in order to explore different facets of gender; internal, external, how it’s used by the public, its place in society, etc.

her story gets several reads and is nominated for an award, and then gets a massive backlash - often from people who didn’t bother to read it beyond the title

and en masse, it gets comments assuming the story was written to mock trans people and was written by a cis person

specifically, a cis man

so this trans woman who drew from her own experiences to write this story, was bombarded with angry comments and messages accusing her of being a cisgender transphobic man

she suffered a lot of gender dysphoria and had to check herself into a hospital because of it, and completely shut down her online presence and has said she’s given up on ever living or writing as Isabel Fall

Like. It wasn’t enough to force Becky Albertalli to out herself before she was ready because clearly, no queer person could’ve written Love, Simon? Now we’re just skipping to wrecking people’s lives?

You cannot be sure if someone is queer or not without forcing them to out themselves. You just cannot be sure, and it’s rude and dangerous to assume you can.

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Happy Diwali folks!

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I am NOT an artist

can I still be tumblr-famous?

asking for a friend

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anyone over here likes coding, machine learning and AI?

could I get some mutuals with these interests?

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can we all just slow tf down? is anyone else feeling this social media fatigue, like every other day it's a new thing - a new tiktok dance trend to replace yesterday's couple trend to replace a filter trend to replace a-

and instagram just has recycled tiktoks and youtube has recycled instagram reels.

i used to use tiktok as a way of relaxing but obviously it has become an addiction to doomscrolling so that i don't have to get to the next anxiety-inducing task.

but now, tiktok itself causes anxiety ugh. the tarot reading of the day predicts 97 days of conflict and misery

you're doing your dishes wrong, here's a new useless product you'll use for 2 days and never think of again

and oh my god, the reddit stories- can y'all just stop cooking up stories just to make tiktoks about it?

maybe it's the undiagnosed adhd in me but i'm OVERWHELMED and OVERSTIMULATED. i'm sick of it.

just. slow. down.

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I think I’ve never had a true romantic interest before, someone who stops my heart and starts my stuttering, someone who I can’t wait to see. All I’ve had are half-made crushes on any decent human being because I’m so in love with the idea of being in love that I start projecting unto others and I feel like I’ll never find it.

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It's my 3 year anniversary on Tumblr 🥳

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I'm in the backseat, i have no control

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Elephants crossing the street

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Monica Byrne

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Want to learn something new in 2022??

Absolute beginner adult ballet series (fabulous beginning teacher)

40 piano lessons for beginners (some of the best explanations for piano I’ve ever seen)

Excellent basic crochet video series

Basic knitting (probably the best how to knit video out there)

Pre-Free Figure Skate Levels A-D guides and practice activities (each video builds up with exercises to the actual moves!)

How to draw character faces video (very funny, surprisingly instructive?)

Another drawing character faces video

Literally my favorite art pose hack

Tutorial of how to make a whole ass Stardew Valley esque farming game in Gamemaker Studios 2??

Introduction to flying small aircrafts

French/Dutch/Fishtail braiding

Playing the guitar for beginners (well paced and excellent instructor)

Playing the violin for beginners (really good practical tips mixed in)

Color theory in digital art (not of the children’s hospital variety)

Retake classes you hated but now there’s zero stakes:

Calculus 1 (full semester class)

Learn basic statistics (free textbook)

Introduction to college physics (free textbook)

Introduction to accounting (free textbook)

Learn a language:

Ancient Greek

Latin

Spanish

German

Japanese (grammar guide) (for dummies)

French

Russian (pretty good cyrillic guide!)

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I posted 12 times in 2022

4 posts created (33%)

8 posts reblogged (67%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@cyberfolktale

@thewildetyme

@silverystardustt

I tagged 6 of my posts in 2022

Only 50% of my posts had no tags

#dark academia - 3 posts

#dark acadamia aesthetic - 3 posts

#dark academia aesthetic - 2 posts

#music - 2 posts

#desi academia - 2 posts

#desi tumblr - 2 posts

#spotify - 2 posts

#my 2021 tumblr year in review - 1 post

#this is me - 1 post

#glasses - 1 post

Longest Tag: 29 characters

#my 2021 tumblr year in review

My Top Posts in 2022:

#4

put a finger down if you used to be obsessed with reading all kinds of books as a child but can't seem to get through half a chapter without being distracted by the mosquito flying in the other room, not even two seconds after reading the first line

0 notes - Posted September 28, 2022

#3

Take care

I was always called a stone cold bitch. I showed no feelings of empathy to the ones I loved.

My mom would always chide me, complaining about my lack of visible empathy and care.

It's not that I didn't care, it's just that I didn't really make efforts to show it out.

My heart aches a lot when my mother cries. Or when my friend's having a breakdown. Or when my father's unusually silent.

I'm just bad at expressing it all.

I feel like a fake, pretending to understand the awful pain another person's going through.

--

I fell sick the other day, it was one of those terrible colds.

I was stuck in class with a runny nose. It just felt horrible. I've been sick my whole life and every time one of these infections come back, my mental health also takes a turn for the worst.

As i try to control my dysfunctional body, I realize that in that momen, i craved for just one thing : reassurance.

I want someone to tell me that it's not my fault for falling ill all the time.

and that I'm doing just fine.

and that a simple "take care" would help me get through a lot.

--

Since that day of revelation, I've taken it upon myself to be more visibily empathetic.

Because the people that you care for need validation too. validation for their sufferings and pain and triumphs.

If your mental health allows you to, make sure you tell your loved ones that it's alright, that it's all fine. just a small pat on their back would do.

we're all struggling to get by.

let's make it easier for each other.

1 note - Posted December 27, 2022

#2

I posted 25 times in 2021

8 posts created (32%)

17 posts reblogged (68%)

For every post I created, I reblogged 2.1 posts.

I added 45 tags in 2021

#dark acadamia aesthetic - 8 posts

#dark academia - 8 posts

#spilled heart - 8 posts

#spotify - 5 posts

#music - 3 posts

#desi tumblr - 3 posts

#aesthetic - 3 posts

#desi academia - 3 posts

#scholarly academia - 2 posts

#important - 2 posts

Longest Tag: 31 characters

#take care of your mental health

My Top Posts in 2021

#5

Hello tumblr! (specifically the desi and dark academia side of tumblr)

I hope this reaches a couple of people so that I can make some new friends. I hope to be that friend that you share your favourite annotations with :)

here's a reimagined classical piece you can listen to while reading this :)

this page was inspired by my loneliness and yearning of a romanticised life, so feel free to follow me along this journey of finding myself through this half-decent life of mine.

I will mostly be posting about books, quotes and spilled thoughts. So, if you'd like that, don't hesitate to message me or follow me.

a bit about myself: she/her | infj | cancer | Indian (duh)

I'll unfurl myself as time passes, I guess.

That's it for now, thank you for reading this far.

Take care and enjoy your chai <3

-ry

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3 notes - Posted January 1, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

the more I listen to these songs, the more I disconnect

4 notes - Posted March 26, 2022

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[icedmasalachai]

Take care

I was always called a stone cold bitch. I showed no feelings of empathy to the ones I loved.

My mom would always chide me, complaining about my lack of visible empathy and care.

It's not that I didn't care, it's just that I didn't really make efforts to show it out.

My heart aches a lot when my mother cries. Or when my friend's having a breakdown. Or when my father's unusually silent.

I'm just bad at expressing it all.

I feel like a fake, pretending to understand the awful pain another person's going through.

--

I fell sick the other day, it was one of those terrible colds.

I was stuck in class with a runny nose. It just felt horrible. I've been sick my whole life and every time one of these infections come back, my mental health also takes a turn for the worst.

As i try to control my dysfunctional body, I realize that in that momen, i craved for just one thing : reassurance.

I want someone to tell me that it's not my fault for falling ill all the time.

and that I'm doing just fine.

and that a simple "take care" would help me get through a lot.

--

Since that day of revelation, I've taken it upon myself to be more visibily empathetic.

Because the people that you care for need validation too. validation for their sufferings and pain and triumphs.

If your mental health allows you to, make sure you tell your loved ones that it's alright, that it's all fine. just a small pat on their back would do.

we're all struggling to get by.

let's make it easier for each other.

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Shout out to all the students who aren't good at what they're passionate about, who can't concentrate on their study, who didn't win an award, who always thought they going to drop out but made it, who aren't passionate about what they're good at, who can't ask question or answer infront of whole class, who didn't have any friend throughout the whole session, who was going through difficult times because of their family issues, who have any kind of physical or mental illness, who love to study but hate giving exams. To all the students out there I'm so proud of you and you are so strong.

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look all i'm asking for is forehead kisses and academic validation and autumn and museum dates and cold bedsheets and misty mornings and baggy sweaters okay???????