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I love good things for other people. I want people to talk to each other and eat food that makes them happy and breathe fresh air and say, "hello!" to strangers but NOT TO ME.

I want to live in a shack with an indecernable way of staying alive and growl like an animal at strangers and eat garbage and stay inside on sunny days. I don't want to be human, I want to be a threat to the happiness of humans. I want to ominously look out of my little shack and watch the humans in their little town and snear at their happiness.

Please leave me out of it. Please.

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You know what? I do want more media with trans characters. I don't want it to be frilly dramas about pain and suffering, I don't even like those! I want comedies with trans people who aren't the joke. I want adventures with trans characters as the main cast. I want fantisies with trans characters randomly scattered in! I want their transness to be as random and arbitray as Shinichi Kudo being tone deaf, not the only thing their loves revolve around.

And thank god I'm a fucking writer because you better believe I'm gonna try and do it.

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Strange how people keep saying that "Shuro hates in Laios the same traits he supposedly loves in Falin", which is...

Seriously, look at him and his dialogue - does he hate Laios for being a monster freak? For being nerdy and weird and loving nature? For eating bugs? No, that's not it.

Shuro hates* Laios for being so profoundly socially inept (from his perspective).

The key difference between Touden siblings isn't that Falin is a pretty girl - the key difference is that Falin is caring and accommodating to other people, and Laios is awkward and unobservant, seemingly egotistic at the surface level.

(others have already written wonderful essays on why and how they grew up like that)

It has to be noted that Shuro is a sheltered noble from a land where proper etiquette is paramount - he is used to people being incredibly subtle AND incredibly observant around him. He comes from a high-context culture where everyone assumes things based on lots of social cues and shared understanding of context. That's not even a matter of being neurotypical, that's his culture (in addition to his personality and brain chemistry)

He is also rather introverted as person and doesn't have many friends. Even his attachments and emotions in childhood are expressed subtly, in a restrained and proper way. He is polite and refined, perfectly fitting into his house's expectations - even if that means repressing his childhood interests and little weird joys.

In that particular way, the opposite of Laios.

Shuro hates* Laios for being the opposite of the image HE was grown into. This strange man is so utterly insensitive and so open about it - he has no sense of shame (like Shuro), no tact and ability to shut up (like Shuro), no restraint (like Shuro). Look at him talking non-stop about things he wants to talk about and having fun (unlike Shuro) while completely overestepping Shuro's obvious boundaries!

The boundaries, I must say, that not only never before needed to be spelled out, but in Shuro's upbringing and culture would be as ridiculous to spell out as "I want to pee, so I'll go to the bathroom and remove my pants and sit on the toilet and release the sphincter holding my pee in my pee bladder"

Falin is not only awesome in his eyes for being weird and in touch with nature, but for being very delicate, observant and caring AT THE SAME TIME. She is a gem in Shuro's eyes, a miracle of his dreams.

In Falin, he not only sees a nerd-freak - he sees a hope for an introverted, polite, restrained person like himself to reconnect with that love for nature and nerdiness and freakiness.

Laios isn't like that. Laios is unobservant for subtle cues - and so a lot more loud, persistent, enthusiastic and unwittingly annoying. Yes, Falin has all that inside her too - but she restrains herself in order not to be a burden. And so does Shuro, in order to fit expectations. There's similarity between them in that regard, between two introverted and restrained weirdos. And a hope for a kindred, more open soul, from the more restrained Shuro's perspective.

* - I don't think Shuro's feelings to Laios are properly described as hate. Yeah, in his darkest moment he says that, but honestly it felt more like an accumulated stress from a continuous cultural and personal misunderstanding, rather than a profound personal hate.

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What was the post about?.. Oh, yeah, Shuro loving Falin and disliking Laios. That's not him being too horny to think, that's him loving in Falin the defining difference between the two - they aren't gender-swapped clones, after all. Give my boy some respect and nuance.

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Worst friend group to ever exist. Reblog to throw rocks at them

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Worst friend group to ever exist. Reblog to throw rocks at them

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Worst friend group to ever exist. Reblog to throw rocks at them

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Me shaking my boyfriend and crying trying to explain that me randomly saying "If monzart was born today what music do you think he would make? I think he would make breakcore." "I'm eating life cereal" and "My computer is updating it's at 44%" Does NOT mean I don't want to sext.

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I'm sort of worried about the people who draw Falin from Dungeon Meshi as chubby. Not in a "No!! She can't be fat! Fat bad!!" way, more in a

You look at this creature, this thing, and you percive this as chubby? This is what you think chubby looks like?

You have the idea that VERY middle of the road female bodies are overweight due to... something?

I worry about you. I worry that your concept of weight is so warped by ED level marketing that even when being possitive about it you catagorically are misunderstanding what words mean what. Sure sure, you're not actually hurting yourselves at this point (thank goodness) but by perpetuating the idea that THIS this is what "chubby" looks like you're not doing anything to correct the misunderstandings that help EDs form.

Idk, maybe drawing a woman with a body like this with characteristics like a fat belly or rolls or a double chin which she clearly does not have might slightly harm the body image of girls who do still have bad concepts of weight and look like Falin? Like hmm, idk, that seems like a really bad idea actually!

Maybe MAYBE it would be better to celebrate the actual plethura of fat characters in dungeon meshi? Maybe?

And yes, Laios too.

Warning:

People making Falin intentionally chubby because they want to are completely and utterly exempt. That's a statment, not a flaw.

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My most anti-transgender possition is being really annoyed with deer fursonas.

If the trans femme deer was going through HRT they would likely NOT have antlers. Definetly not after a year! Antlers fall off after under a year and grow due to male hormones.

Trans masc deer on T WOULD grow antlers pretty easily.

Heck, intersex deer in the WILD have or do not have antlers based on the hormones in their system! What makes you special?

If both deer have antlers then they are some sort of other deer like a reindeer, but they're always drawn like white tailed deer...

OR WORSE, LIKE DOGS. They just have dog muzzles. Just generic dog muzzles.

Just... just say they're part dog. Disrespectful to herbevores. Smh

Then, asside from that, trans femme deer always seem to have spots? That's strange, spots are on baby deer. The adult trans femme deer would not have spots.

That's like 400yo loli shit. No, ew, stop it.

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No, not at all.

Hours? No... no... Please do not assume people do not like you because they took an hour or two to respond. Even if they take a day to respond. Even if it's longer!

Humans are flawed little creatures who can forget things they care about or dislike certian modes of communication or not know how to respond or feel like a conversation died when it didn't or get distracted or get busy or lose things or just need some time by themselves!

if they wanted you, they wouldn’t go hours without communicating

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Very facinating (depressing), but in general trans people just get brutally whacked with bigotry.

Trans men get misandry from people who hate men, misogyny from people who think they're woman, and transmisandry from people who treat them like crap for transitioning.

Trans woman on the other hand get misogyny from people who hate woman, misandry from people who think they're men, and transmisogyny from people who treat them like crap for transitioning.

And everyone else? Oh boy...

It’s not “misgendering myself” to point out that people often see me as a woman, that I have experienced and do experience misogyny, and that growing up as a girl affects how I act today. That is just my life. That’s how it is being trans sometimes. People can have different experiences than that but I’m not going to sit here and pretend like I’ve always been treated like a guy to alleviate other people’s dysphoria. And saying transmascs can experience misogyny sure as hell doesn’t mean transfems don’t.

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You know

When I die they're gonna dress me up in clown make up. They're going to remove all the little peices I worked so hard to build up to prove I was human and mourn a joke instead of me. And because I am alone there will be no one to stand up on my behalf and yell, "This isn't what he would have wanted!" Because everyone who knows me is thousands of miles away.

There will be no one to fix my gravestone when they put some bastard rock over all that's left of me.

So all I can do is stand alone against the darkness, too stuborn to make the jounrey into the light and too afraid to fight it.

I'll die like this, with few people left to remember me.

I am mad, but I am weak.

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i think before tras can criticize terf beliefs they should be able to tell me what terf beliefs even are cause some of them don’t even know what the damn acronym means

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I have no god damn idea how to navigate this app. Did someone respond to me? Did they respond to someone I responded to? What the hell is happening???

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Weird thing is, the same thing happened to me when I came out as trans masc. In a way it doesn't make any sence. I want to be seen as a guy and be able to live life as a guy, but now I'm much more willing and comfortable wearing feminine (🙄) clothing because I understand it as me being ☆ a guy in feminine clothing ☆ rather than a woman. I now feel comfortable with the color pink or wearing short shorts. It's a diffrent catagory, a diffrent idea. It may be gendered, as socially constructed things are, but I'm subverting my gender by perticipating in these tropes. Femboys exist, and maybe I want to be one sometimes! Sometimes? Well, sometimes...

I really wonder how many people experianced this?

I know SEVERAL afab nonbinary people who, as soon as they came out as nonbinary - immediately began dressing in ridiculous hyper-femme outfits they never would have worn before.  A lot of people see this and say shit like “Theyfab” or say they are only nonbinary for attention.  After all, look how femme they are.

But to me, this makes perfect sense.  When you are forced into the category of “woman” against your will, femininity is a chore.  It’s a job that you have.  As soon as you say no, I’m not a woman, suddenly femininity isn’t your job anymore.  It’s not a requirement.  It’s just a fun hobby you can get into.  Or a little treat sometimes.

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This is actively detrimental to people and society and is completely unreasonable as a stopping point.

No, there are some limits to when it's okay to take away someone's autonomy. This is when they are a danger to themselves or others.

The debate is not that there is no limit, the debate is what should be considered self harm or dangerous.

Is obesity dangerous? To the person who has it, yes. Is it determemtal enough to life and happiness to be policed? No!

Is scizophrenia dangerous? To the person who has it, yes. Is it determental to be policed? Yes! Yes it is! Do you know anything about what a scizophrenic person deals with?!

Do you have any concept of a *better* like? More wellbeing? Higher happiness? These are obtainable, get someone to help you touch grass if you need support holy shit.

some of yall need to understand that "my body, my choice" also applies to:

addicts in active addiction with no intention of quitting

phys disabled people who deny medical treatment

neurodivergent people who deny psychiatric treatment (yes, including schizophrenic people and people with personality disorders)

trans people who want or don't want to medically transition (yes, including trans masc lesbians with top surgery and trans women without bottom surgery, yall are so weird to them wtf)

and if you can't understand that, then you don't get to use the phrase